I don't think the way in which you packed has anything to do with anything. It wouldn't matter if you were struggling with a small bag, if a person is in need we should be there for eachother. I just had a baby and throughout my pregnancy it was a very rare occurrence that anyone would offer assistance. I can handle myself just fine and don't mind standing on the subway or opening the door for myself, however, it would be nice if someone would have offered. Compassion, empathy and common decency is so hard to find these days.