I have a 12 year old who I will leave alone with the 9 year old if I am just running to the store or nearby in town. Now.........I would NEVER leave my 9 year old alone because I know he doesn't make the best choices. The 12 year old has always been a really bright and conscientious kid. The 9 year old.........a little more on the "ditzy" side, heheheheh. But I do agree........I very much tend to baby them. I know it is much better for them to be able to fend for themselves at times and know what to do in any given situation. But sometimes.........I just can't risk the guilt I would feel vs. the learning experience. Baby steps.........