I had all the stories during my first pregnancy seven years ago. My friend constantly told me about how she "died" and had to be brought back during her emergency c section and how the baby was born blue. I had 36 hours of labor ending in a c-section but I was smiling in every picture! (An extra special thanks to the epidural) My daughter at age seven puts herself to bed at 8 pm every night giving hubby and I plenty of alone time before we go to bed. We do lots of fun things as a family because my daughter knows discipline and how to behave. I was not exhausted in the early days because I was just so excited. We are looking forward to telling our daughter that we are expecting twins and I expect that the next round will be just as much fun as the first time. I think it is all about attitude and how much you are willing to be a parent. In the age of the BCP, there should'nt be anyone pregnant that doesn't want to be. Let's assume that the pregnant women on the street planned her condition and we should just congratulate her instead of trying to scare the hell out of her!