Hi I am in a long term committed relationship, me and my bf, in our early-mid twenties, have every intention to marry. I am soon to be baptised into catholicism (his religion). we both want children very much. the thing is, recently, i jokingly said, "so you think I should come off the pill as soon as we are married?" and he answered in a serious way that i can even come off the pill now anyway , it would be ok. well err i would rather have a child sooner than later because I am finishing a degree in the coming months, soon to graduate, and want to have a child before continueing further in my career which was what I wanted even before I met my bf. money and work are not an issue due to a family business which allows flexibility, my bf has a stable and successful job as well. we both assumed we would have children in wedlock but that may be delayed due to my brother getting cancer treatment. Due to my brother's experience, I know the fear and pain of realising the possibility of not having children and I know how hard it is on him. i have been on the pill for about 4 years, and i know it takes some time for my hormones to get into normal fertile balance, so a part of me wants to say why not? I can stop the pill :) and get rid of the costs, hassles of it, not to mention, joyous possibility of conception! :D but can I take my bf up on his comment? I have no problem coming off the pill and letting life and nature take its course how it may, no one knows if we conceive next month or next year anyway, biology isnt always predictable. I dont know, i am a bit confused and I want to just stop the pill and let my body take its course, considering its good timing but on the other hand, would it be better to marry first? does it matter? having a child in a loving relationship means a lot to me, a marriage ceremony is only one part of a life together... would he really not have a problem with it? I wouldnt because I was not always consistent with the pill and didnt get pregnant, which does suggest it may take my body time to become fertile again. any thoughts on this? PLEASE tell me