TTC September/October/November

[imasillyone]

I figured since some of us are past the dates in august and are now aiming for September, maybe we should start a new thread to show support and tell stories. And also still send lots of luck and prayers to the people who are still waiting to see if their attempts for a positive test in August were met with a new joy!! Good luck to all ladies, lets make this journey as stress free as possible!

on a side note, how do i change from "New Parent" to TTC for the first time?? lol i WISH I was a new parent... but then again, dont we all?

[imasillyone]

I also wanted to know if anyones ever concieved with endometriosis naturally on here before, or knows someone who has?

[Crstal682]

Hi! My name is Crystal and VERY new to message boards. My husband and I are goign to TTC in October. I have been off the pill since April. I am very nervous about taking the next step in life. Does anyone know how long BC pill takes in your system? While I know I shouldn't get my hopes up on getting prego the first time, I wont lie I am hoping for the best. I have been on prenatals for a few months now and I am cutting out caffeine. Side note: I dont smoke or drink. Does anyone have any other suggestions? Thanks for the advice in advance!

[JulieBean767]

I'm joining this board. We've been trying for almost 6 months, but have had to put it on hold because the drs found a lemon sized cyst on my ovary that needs to be removed. Once they do that they will see if it solves my very irregular cycles (haven't had my period in almost 70 days now) and if not they will put me on Clomid.
Crystal, sounds like you're taking all the right steps to get your body ready. My doctor told me it usually takes your body 3 months to get adjusted to being off BC.
I make this suggestion to everyone who is trying. Check out early-pregnancy-tests.com if you are interested in trying OPKs. In the store they are super expensive, but online you can get a pack of like 30 and 10 pregnancy tests for really cheap. They are accurate too. Or you can just buy the pregnancy tests, which get so expensive to buy, especially if you're someone to tests way too early like me and end up testing a million times.

[imasillyone]

kihei04- thats awesome to hear!! gives me lots of hope that I wont have to worry too much. We jstu started trying, but we also never prevented for over 3.5 yrs, so we know its effected us in some way. Ive had a couple ultrasounds but they havent picked up anything, but the nurse told me that you cant pick up Endo on an ultra sound. I know the endo is what tilted the uterus but a tilted uterus doesnt cause infertility.

Im just glad to hear its possible, even if its hard, I like knowing its possible! thanls!

[Waiting n Atlanta]

Hello
I am SYoung I live in Atlanta. Me and my husband just started TTC last month. We did not have any luck last month (so I don't think bc aunt flow showed up five days early). I find it very encouraging knowing that there are women out there in my position. So here are my questions... should I chart and if so what do you do exactly? Do any of you use ovulation kits? We used one last month and the lines are so faint that they always appear to look the same. Thats it for now I won't type a book tonight but be on the look out my mind is overflowing....

[JulieBean767]

I definitely agree that it's confusing at first, but once you do see the positive you will know what it looks like. Also check out www.early-pregnancy-tests.com for OPKs. They get incredibly expensive to use month after month, but you can get them here online without the name brand and they're sooo much cheaper, but are just as accurate. I highly recommend them for OPKs and pregnancy tests. I would also try BBT though. I haven't done it and now that my husband and I both have confirmed fertility problems, the drs. want me to start to track my cycles with BBT. I wish I had done it before so I would have a better idea of what is normal for me.

[Waiting n Atlanta]

Thanks Julie and Kihei I will try the OPKs again this month. In addition I think I will go out in get the BBT I figure it can't hurt. Thanks again

[hardworkinmama]

Hello ladies! It's September now so here I am and hopefully more ladies will be joining us.

I am hardworkinmama and I have a 22 month old son. My husband and I have been TTC since December 08. Lately I have been getting really frustrated and am trying not to think or stress about TTC so much. I am around CD20 and should be starting AF around the 10th of September so we will see what happens in a little over a week. I look forward to getting to know the new ladies and continue to get to know those of us that have been around for a little longer.

Good luck to all and baby cement all around!:D

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hello ladies! I'm Tiffany from Kentucky. I have been married to DH since February 2009. We have a handsome little man who is four years old. We have actually been trying since November of 2008, but we really started trying in February after we were married. So we have been TTC for 10 months now. I am currently still in my August cycle. I should have started AF somewhere between August 27th and August 30th. I have took two HPT's and both have been negative. I took one yesterday and one this morning. I should have waited a few days I know, sometimes that is just hard when I have them available. I'm starting to break and go nuts so hopefully something breaks soon. Hope it's good news and not the dreaded news. I'm out of test and not going to buy anymore. If I haven't started by Monday I will test again. Hoping for the best, but expecting the worst you could say.


Good luck to all you ladies and I hope we all get BFP's very soon and this board is a ghost town until others decide to embark on this journey in the future!:)

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Well ladies I woke up at 5 AM this morning to find AF! I was aggrevated and angry more than anything. Probably because I didn't want to see her ugly face anyway and she not only showed it but she woke me up to show it! haha. Guess I will move on to TTC cycle # 11. So now I can expect to wait longer to test because cycles could be up to 36 days now and I'm used to ending around the first of the month...O toward the middle...and AF coming at the end. Now it's all turned around because of this long cycle AF will start showing up at the beginning of the month according to mymonthlycycles.com

Hope everyone has a good Wednesday!

[Mamadecuatro]

Hello! I'm Maria. I have four children (birthed, adopted, adopted, and birthed!). I'm 29 and I'm in my twelth year of marriage. I really didnt think I would be going down this road again, but here we are!! We havent really been 'trying' since my DH doesnt want to 'plan', but we've been going with the flow now since february 08. I wasnt in a rush, because I was enjoying our youngest still being in infancy and I am trying to get healthier in my body, just in case! But now, I feel much more prepared!


Hey Tiffany, sorry about AF. Do you think this means you were ovulating at the later time? Do you remember what day in your cycle that was? I am finding out for me, that no matter what day of my cycle I ovulate, that 14 days later I start my period. I am wondering if its the same for you...sometimes I o on CD 14, other times its CD 18 or 19, or even later! I guess that could explain the longer cycles sometimes...I have my fingers crossed for you!

Hey Hard-how are ya? Dont you love playing the waiting game? :) I didnt know time could pass so slowly! Its almost like the end of pregnancy when you're waiting for the due date!

I really hope this is our month! I am counting today as CD 2, since I am still bleeding and cramping...I am very tempted to get some OPKs, just to see if I'm o-ing when I think I am...this would be my perfect month to get preggo, since it would be the very end of the school year. We could have all summer to get to know the baby before we had to get back on a strict schedule!

[hardworkinmama]

Proud-- that totally sucks that the b*tch showed up at all, let alone that she had to wake you up at 5am! I completely understand that you are angry and I am all ears if you need to get it out. ;)

Mama-- I am doing good, been keeping busy. This weekend ought to fly by as my DH and I will be down working at the Kansas City Irish Fest this weekend. It will be a grand time. I understand the comparison between waiting to get PG and the end of a pregnancy, but I think this is worse. At least at the end of a pregnanacy you know that the baby will come in X amount of time. With TTC, that amount of time seems to be infinite and sometimes it feels like it will never come. I have to say that I am amazed that you are only 29, I thought for sure with four kids that you would be older. Just goes to show that most assumptions are incorrect. God, I feel old and behind the 8-ball as I am 30 and only have one kid! :p

So, my self-imposed deadline is quickly approaching. If I am not PG right now I will miss it. I am trying to come to grips with that reality and be okay with it. As DH puts it, why does it matter if they are 2 years and 7 months apart as opposed to 2y6m? I guess it doesn't but that just seemed like such a good distance apart. It's what my brother and I were, and it worked. Oh well, I guess we will see in about a week and a half.

Where is everyone else that is TTC? Nobody (until us yesterday) has posted on here since the 20th of August. Did everyone get PG and decide not to tell anyone? Oh well, between the 3 of us we can be and have been an awesome support system. Chat with you ladies later!

[aminor]

Hello ladies! Well, I will do a refresh for everyone that already knows me, and I will do an introduction for those that don't.

My name is Amber, I am 26 years old, I have been married to my wonderful hubby for a year and a half, and we have been ttc for our first baby since December of 2008. I am currently on my 8th cycle since TTC, and am on CD 20 of what has been for the past couple of months a 30 day cycle. And I have NO clue what to expect this month...we have never tried any ovulation kits or anything, just trying to get it right by God's blessing...so we will see!

Tiffany - I am so sorry about AF showing, I feel you completely with the thinking that you are probably preggo and then realizing that you are not...it's heartwrenching....

As for everyone else...good luck on this journey...it's a crazy one to say the least!

[new step mom]

Hi there,

I got married in April, had major unexpected female surgery in May, was told to get pregnant immediately in July. We are now in our second month of using the Clear Blue Easy digital ovulation predictor. I am very nervous because this needs to happen quickly due to my issues. Also, being that my husband has a child, it feels like any failure is all mine. He has been tested and his swimmers are still very good.

Any encouragement from you guys is appreciated. Having a step child makes this process easier in some ways and MUCH harder in a lot of ways.

Glad to have this type of support!

Amy
"New Step Mom"

[hardworkinmama]

I just tried to do a quick reply and it went away when I hit "post quick reply". Anyway....

Aminor and Ki-- glad to have you with us. I was beginning to wonder what happened to everyone.

new step mom-- welcome aboard the crazy train. I am sorry that you are having so many issues. What kind of a time frame did they give you in July? If you need to vent about anything this is the place to do it. We can all relate in one way or another. Good luck in your journey, may it be short.

Nothing new since this morning so I shall return to work. :)

[hardworkinmama]

Okay ladies, I know I said that I am trying not to think about TTC but I can't let this one go. About an hour after I got to work, I started having cramps. However, they aren't normal AF cramps. They are on the side towards the back, mainly focusing on the left side. At first I was thinking that it was just the way that I was sitting, but it doesn't matter how many different positions I try it still hurts. I am approxiamatly (sp?) 7-9 DPO and am wondering if these possible could be implantation cramps. I didn't have any symptoms with my first except for a missed period, so I have nothing to go off of. Did anybody else have anything like this with a previous pregnancy.

For the time being, I am going to go with just typical soreness and nothing PG related so I don't get my hopes up. Yeah, right, Heather, good luck with that!
Anyway, only 4 hours and 20 minutes left of work, yay!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- Thanks- I'm doing okay with it now. I know at this point I can't change anything. All I can do is suck it up and begin with a new cycle. I'm on CD 2 so I have awhile to go...especially since I can now count on up to a 36 day cycle! I hope those are implantation cramps! I was told though that implantation cramps are usually towards the middle like where your uterus would be not in one ovary or the other, but that could be wrong! Good luck!

Amber and Ki- Welcome back...haven't heard from Ki in awhile and Amber in even longer! Hope your little eggs are fertilized soon!

Step mom- Welcome aboard. I'm curious to know your window as well like hard ask.

Not a lot going on here with me...on CD 2 and wishing she would just be over so I could move on! Thanks for everyones condolences about me starting! I was heartbroken at first now I'm okay...just angry lol. TMI possibly coming up. Of course I didn't want AF to come because I was to be PG, but DH had been out of town for a week and came home yesterday! I wanted her to stay away...I had business to attend to for reasons other than TTC! haha!:)

[hardworkinmama]

Proud-- you are probably right about them not being implantation cramps. As my day went on I realized it probably had to do with the way I was sitting. When I would stand up the pain would lessen. I am glad that you have come to terms with not being PG this time around and am glad that you are keeping such an upbeat attitude about this. By the way, I think it's great that you and DH went ahead and got down to business! Throw a towel down has always been my take on it. Good for you!

[new step mom]

Thank you guys for the replies and kind words of encouragement. I have been on a roller coaster since I blacked out from endometriosis pain on May 11th. I kept waiting to go to the doc because of our wedding and honeymoon, knowing my endo was back. I did have 2 pain free weeks and thoroughly enjoyed our wedding an honeymoon! Adrenaline is an amzing thing!

I had a LUNA procedure because my endo has gone into the uterine wall and was extrordinarily painful. That is where they ablate the nerves causing the pain. I have only met one other person who has had the procedure done. He also did a D&C, flushed my tubes with die and burned the visible endo. It was a 7 week recovery and it was HARD. It seems to have been a success, but they want me pregnant before the end of the year to keep the endo from growing again. If I am not pregnant by the end of October, I go on Clomid. Our bathroom is a charting nightmare and always looks like a science project.

Having a step child is making this hard on me. I have a visible reminder that my husband can have a child. It is also hard because the ex-wife is not a nice person and it all seems very unfair. Although we have just started really trying in the past 2 months, I am already nervous. I want that bond with my husband that he has with this other woman who is certifiably awful.

We had my step child's baby bed that I said I would not use under any circumstances. We had it stored in the basement, but I could see it everytime I drove in the garage. I insisted that we move it and dear friends who had to go through IVF to conceive are graciously storing it at their home.

I am lucky in that I have a great friend who has been through hell and had her first in July. She is very supportive and will talk for hours. I am glad to have found this board. I know I am going to need extra support if two months turns into 20....

Thanks!

[nursetolove]

hi all. ive been reading the message boards for a while and finally decided to gulp, join in. im a 25 year old nurse who with my fiance is TTC. I had a miscarriage in the past at 21 weeks, so this is definately nerve-racking for me. Ive been off BC for 4 months now and nothing yet :( I just got AF last week so trying again for this month...im definately nervous. Its always frustrating to see women who dont try at all and get PG and then others like us try our hardest and nothing. Any support and encouragement will be greatly appreciated. I look forward to talking with you all.

[hardworkinmama]

wow this website is moving slower than molasses right now!

nurse-- welcome, good to have you aboard the crazy TTC train. I am sorry for your loss and I wish you luck in the future. All of us here understand the frustration that comes along with seeing others get PG, especially the ones where it seems like all they had to do was look at thier husbands. This is a great place to find the support needed to get through those times.

new step mom-- I am sorry for everything that you have gone through and I am glad that you have gotten the medical issues resolved. I am sure it is hard to see the child sharing bond between your husband and another woman. The main thing to remember is that there is a reason that he is not with her anymore. Also, there is a reason that he is with you, please remember those. Someday you will have the bond with your DH that you crave so much as well as the bond of husband and wife. While I hope that you are able to conceive naturally, I hope the Clomid works if you are not.

As for me, the only thing new is that my breasts have felt heavier than normal today and I am having trouble judging if they are sore. They usually feel a little heavy during PMS, but not like this. Maybe it's all in my head, I really hope not but in all reality it most likely is. Well, it is time for me to go home. Chat with you all later.

Baby Cement

[areardon]

Hi ladies. I have never posted on a community before or anything like that but I am desperate for support. We have been trying for a while and I am loosing my mind. I am about to throw in the towel! Every month I start to "feel" symptoms and get excited only to be disappointed...it is like I dream them up only for a negative test to stare at my face. I have started to sercretly hate people who are preggers or have kids and get emotional at the site of babies on television. People ask us when we are going to have kids and I want to slap them in the face....however with all these thoughts and emotions..I still remain composed. I have tried every natural thing you can thing of and my doctor says I am healthy....Am I going crazy???

[new step mom]

Thanks hardworkinmama. Yesterday was a hard today, today is much better. I am lucky because I have a fabulous husband. I just want to enroich our marriage with a child and the obstacles seem hard right now, but we face them together and that makes it better.

Areardon, keep your chin up. I know it is difficult, but you will parent. Saying that to myself each day helps me get out of bed some days....

[MadsMomma]

WoW! Where to start? First off thanks to hardworkinmama for giving me the headsup on this thread and telling me to join! Secondly, my husband and I are TTC and just started in Aug. Now I am just playing the waiting game....AF is due on a 28 day cycle Sept.3, yesterday, though Sept.9, on a 32 day cycle, so we shall see. This waiting is driving me nuts though! I want to take a PT now, tonight! But I think I will tie myself down, in order to not get my hopes up. E-bay has been my crutch to getting my mind off of things- lets pray it holds out! Ha! Anyways, I have had some weird sypmtoms since my last O. Here they are, tell me what you think: cramping almost every night and I am 13 DPO, headaches like crazy, lots of CM, very sensitive breasts, and a very bloated stomach. I, like harworkin, had cramps 3 DPO but it was like AF cramps, they were mild, then strong, then hit and miss- like crazy, but they weren't on just one side they were everywhere! My uterus, my back, etc. I thought either they were implantation or I was just Ovulating very late- like for a 40 day cycle! Which is crazy for me. But I had just gotten my Mirena IUC taken out begning of Aug. So who knows- bascially! I'm going crazy waiting and buying everything on E-Bay- ha! I feel like I am trying to hold it all together and not stress- but honestly my breaking point is coming up. Pray that AF does not show her face to me- Thanks for the support and I hope I can help other ladies on here too!

[samkat22]

Hi ladies! My husband and I have recently started TTC. We are not necessarily counting yet, just simply seeing what happens. I am glad to have found this site though...so much valuable information. I just wanted to introduce myself and I hope to get to know you all better. Good luck to everyone TTC ( :

[nursetolove]

nice to meet everyone and hardworkinmamma thanks for the words of encouragement. while i definately have sympathy for everyone in the same boat i am, it does make it slightly easier to know that others are going through somethng similar. i was nervous about joining and talking about personal things but its definately good to have a support system. this week coming up is supposed to be my ovulation time frame so im crossing my fingers that the man upstairs is lookin down on me. good luck to all of you and if anyone needs anything, i am here to talk.

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hey ladies! Welcome to all the new comers...I hope you all find this sight as helpful and supportive as I do. This is my 3rd board! Hope you ladies don't have to continue this journey as long. Don't have a lot of time right now just wanted to catch up on everything!

Hard- Where are you at in your cycle and when are you testing if AF doesn't show?!?

Hope everyone is having a good Labor Day Weekend!

[Mamadecuatro]

Welcome all newcomers! So glad to have you here. Hope everyone can feel free to vent or rant whenever they need :)

Stepmom-I didnt have the LUNA procedure, but I did have laproscopy to remove much endo and cysts. I conceived four months later. That was almost ten years ago. Right before my last pregnancy, I was about to go on the Lupron shot for three to six months and follow it up with Clomid to try and conceive at that time. But when I went in to start the shots, I was already pregnant. It was a miracle! I really hope you can relax and get preggo soon! Being pregnant and nursing really does help the endo subside for a while. Its great!

I think I missed my 'o' time, because it came a week early! So I am really thinkin I will have my cycle super early, if things go like in the past...with a 14 day luteal phase. I am on CD 14 with my fingers crossed :)

[samkat22]

I have been looking online at the calculators to determine when you are ovulating but the problem is that I am not always on time with my period. Is there anyway or anything else I can do to try and determine when I am ovulating. Also, is it different for each women as far as how long ovulation lasts? Just trying to make my odds of getting pregnant as high as possible. Thanks for any advice!

[djasinski]

samkat22- if you are not regular the best way to accurately calculate ovulation is with the ovulation test kit that you can buy next to the prenancy test. Ovulation lenght of time is pretty consistant for all.

Hubby and I are currently TTC with baby #3 and this is our 3rd month trying. We have 2 beautiful girls ages 2 1/2 yrs and 9 mths. We are coming off of the Depo-Provera shot, which any of you ladies that have had it know- it seems to take forever to get pregnant after words. We used it before and after both are girls. We lost our 1st baby after 9 mths of trying to conceive then got pregnant again ASAP and then it took 6 mths to conceive our 2nd girl. This time I only had two shots so we are really hoping Setember is our month. Also, hubby is only home Fri Sat and a few hours Sun! Not really good for baby making:)

[hardworkinmama]

Hey there ladies! Hope everyone had a great labor day weekend. I spent the entire weekend down at Crown Center for the Kansas City Irish Festival and it was awesome! The crowds were great and the music was amazing. My husband is the site foreman for the festival and he was working the whole weekend. Some years we don't get a hotel room but I am really glad that we did this year. I stayed up until 2am on Friday and slept till 830am on Sat, then I took a nap from 3p to 5p. Now with taking that nap I should have been able to stay up late that night too, but noooooo, I was in bed by 1030p. Then on Sun, I took another nap. I had 2 women ask if I was PG because of the amount of sleep I was getting. I am also convinced that my breasts look bigger than normal. So, I am going to cave and test early. I bought a 3 pack of WalMart brand HPT. I am testing first thing in the morning. I am trying not to get my hopes up, but I just have this feeling. If it is negative, then at least all I have to do is wait for AF to come and not stress about whether or not she will. :)

djasinski--welcome and hopefully all of your O times will be on the weekends! I hope your journey is short and fun.

samkat--congratulations on your decision to TTC. You should check out fertilityfriend.com and mymonthlycycles.com as they both can help you figure out a pattern to your cycles and hopefully help pinpoint ovulation.

mama-- I hope you didn't miss your O time! And if you did, I hope you had fun trying to catch it.:p

Proud-- today is CD26 and as I said earlier, I plan on testing first thing in the morning. DH is off tomorrow (a recouperating day) so I thought that would be a good time. What about you? Getting close to O time, right?

nurse-- have fun trying to get that eggo preggo! My doc says to BD every other day for the week of O and I have heard others recommend BDing every day. So, get to work, girlfriend!

Madsmomma-- no problem on the heads up. So, still no AF yet? That is a good sign. Are you still cramping every night? I think all the symptoms you listed are all positive signals! I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

areardon-- no you are not going crazy. I used to make up symptoms too, but the ladies on this thread are what brought me back to sanity. Welcome and please feel free to vent on here anytime you want.

So now that I have written a book, baby cement to all!

[hardworkinmama]

Mads-- OMG! I just read your last post in the planning thread that you started and yes, this is my second. That is super crazy that they are 10 days apart. I am sure that you have already figured this out, but I think your son's birthday should fall on Thanksgiving here in a few years, right? My DH's birthday is on the 26th of Nov and his will fall on the holiday this year. I also think it's a bit crazy that we our cycles are pretty close together as well. Are you my long lost twin??????? LOL.

[samkat22]

Thanks for the advice ladies, I will look into both the tests and the websites. I hope everyone enjoyed their holiday weekend and good luck to all TTC.

[hardworkinmama]

The dog woke me up so I went and peed on a stick. I took the dog out while the test did it's thing and came back in to find a negative. Oh well! Now I am just going to sit back and wait for AF. I suppose a June baby wouldn't be so bad.

[new step mom]

I have to give a shout out to the Clear Blue Easy Digital ovulation predictor kit. We are in our second month of using them and they are super easy to read (I smiley face if you are having a surge, a circle if not). A friend recommended them and I have gotten to where I am learning my symptoms well enough so that I do not use all of the sticks in one month. They are more expensive than other tests, but worth it.

We got our smiley face yesterday, so we have had some fun and hopefully will have something happen! Thanks for all of the good wishes.

[Waiting n Atlanta]

Hello Ladies,
I am Meka. I am 27 and my husband and I have been TTC for the last two months. We have been with each other for seven years and I went off birth control after year three. So for about four years we had nothing then back in Feb 09 I got pregnant and miscarried after a month. They say that once you get pregnant the first time it should be easy after that but I am not so sure. I have been using the OPK's but they are expensive and I am not sure I am using them correctly.. I know I must sound stupid but they aren't user friendly and last month I didn't O at all. Has this happen to anyone?
Tiffany I am sorry about AF.. I know how it feels to get your hopes up n nothing happen. Stepmom- don't but too much pressure on yourself I know that it will happen for all of us. My last thought to all the ladies on this board, thank you for being here, thank you for reading these blogs, thank you for not letting me be alone through such a hard journey. Thank you, Thank you...Thank you

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Mama- Hopefully your wrong about missing your cycle and you will be in for a big suprise!

Sam- As all the other ladies have suggested, OPK's (ovulation predictor kits) are the best way to predict ovulations. You can also try to go by cramps if you know exactly what they feel like and CM (cervical mucous). Good luck!

Dj- Welcome and good luck!

Hard- Sorry about the BFN! Maybe it was to early! If not on to the next cycle. (I believe we wouldn't know what to do with a positive.) Our whole routine is involved around a BFN. 1. We go through our cycle
2. We think we have symptoms
3. We finally test
4. We get the BFN
5. We get on here and rant but then we're usually okay
6. We move on
Don't you just love our monthly routine! With a positive we would probably think the test was lying to us! haha. Oh, and no I still have a little bit before O. I'm on CD 8 and who knows when I O?

Waiting- Welcome and good luck in this crazy journey of life! I've never used OPK's, but I have had a few people tell me on different occasions they never got a positive. This could be that you didn't O that month for some reason or that the test was wrong. Who knows?

As for me, I'm on CD 8 and just patiently waiting. Going to try not to get my hopes up this month!

[new step mom]

Waiting in Atlanta, I would definitely make sure to use the digital OPK. The others are very hard to read. I would also keep a calendar so that you know when you should ovulate. If you think you did not ovulate one month...go see your doc. They have ways to help with that.

Good luck and thanks for the words of encouragement.

[hardworkinmama]

Proud-- in the back of my mind I am keeping my fingers crossed that it was too early but in the front of my mind I know that I am probably just not PG. Your version of the cycle is dead on! And all those steps happen in a matter of days! HA HA! I think I will start in the next few days and am just trying not to think about Monday. TMI coming... on Monday I went to the bathroom and when I wiped the CM was very watery and dark brown. That is what convinced me to go ahead and test early. I never test early, I look at it as wasting money and I am a tight wad, but with the tiredness over the weekend it just seemed right to go ahead and do it. I also have never had the brown watery CM before either, but as I have discovered since I started TTC I have a lot of things that I never had before. Oh well, the next few days will tell.

Waiting-- welcome to the group. We are glad to have you here and will offer up any advice that we can. I know it can seem like it will never happen but it will, when you least expect it.:)

new step mom-- I am glad the OPK's are working for you. Hopefully they will make your journey short and super enjoyable.

samkat-- you could also check out pregnology.com

Well, breakfast is ready so I am out. Baby cement to all.

[taraken]

Good Morning Ladies! For all of you who don't know me, I am from the original-original thread back in Dec. I have been gone for a few weeks, trying to ignore this whole process. DH and I were on vacation for almost 2 weeks and I am changing jobs etc...so I have been too busy to sign on. Well AF showed up yesterday and I signed on here and realized that I have miss a lot...Welcome to all the newbies and good luck.
As for me I am on TTC #9, CD2....pretty depressed that we are up to cycle 9 already. I am scheduling my yearly now...as it is due in Dec...and it is hard to get into my doctor. I can't believe we are almost to the point of a year and the checking to see if something is wrong. I haven't been charting..so I am going to start this month so I have something to bring my doc!

[MadsMomma]

Well, unfortunately, all those symptoms meants nothing. AF came yesterday morning. I'm not shocked, but now somthing may be wrong because of all the symptoms I did have. So i have to go to the doctors. I hope I was just putting them in my own head-

Good luck for September ladies!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- My fingers are crossed for you that it's just to early! I guess we will see...hopefully that CM means something good. As far as seeing things since you started TTC that you never had before...I'm to the point where I believe we just didn't notice before haha. Good luck!

Tara- Welcome back! Sorry about AF. Onto next month...hope it's better! Also, hope your vacation and new job is/will be wonderful!

Mad- I'm sure it's just all in your head. We get that a lot around here haha!

[Twilightcraze]

My name is Sarah and I have an almost 3 year old son and am TTC again this month. :( I tried the last 3 months but no luck! Hopefully I will have good news soon! Good luck and God bless to everyone trying to conceive.

[hardworkinmama]

Twilight-- welcome to the group, it's good to have you here. I hope your journey is short and enjoyable.

Proud-- thanks for the crossed fingers but you can uncross them now. Started this evening (9/9) and it seems to be more like a "normal" AF than I have been having. Funny thing is that I am not upset at all. I think testing early may have actually helped! I think your right that I just didn't notice all the PMS before because I didn't care. That carefree attitude of "if it happens, great and if not, oh well" made life so much easier. Too bad I can't seem to go back to that! But since losing it on my DH a few weeks ago I don't feel so alone. I know I had all of you ladies here, but it's a different alone feeling with DH. I think things will go better from now on.

Mads-- sorry about AF. I am only a day behind you now. And yes, most likely the symptoms were all in your head. I have had quite a few months of that. The mind can play some really nasty tricks on you if you let it. I have just recently started to pull back from the symptom overload. This board has really helped me with that.

taraken-- welcome back! Each cycle gets harder doesn't it!? I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your vacation and time away. And I hope your new job is everything you want/need it to be. Changing careers is tough but generally for the better. I know it was for me!

As for me, I am on CD1. It stinks but oh well. On to the next month of trying. Maybe I can convince DH to BD every other day for the entire month and see what happens. Maybe trying to concentrate on one week in particular is making things harder. It's worth a shot, so I am going to give it our best:p!

[Mamadecuatro]

Good morning ladies! Welcome to all the newcomers! Feel free to vent, ask anything, and let us rejoice with you when you finally get your BFP!!!

Hey hard-I was really wanting it to just be too early, but I guess the test was right :( On to next month!

Proud-I dont know how you are holding out on OPK's! You are very disciplined. I was really tempted to get some this month, just to see if I am actually ovulating when I'm thinking I am! But I didnt... Good luck!

Hey Tara! Welcome back! I know how you feel. I realized a couple days ago, that I got on this thread with Keri, Mum, and Amanda...kind of depressing. That was over a year ago! It has to be coming for us, right?

As for me, I'm on CD18. According to mymonthlycycles.com, I am to 'o' today. But I am certain I already did; either 7 days ago or 3 days ago. I had CM and symptoms both days, so who knows! I am going to get OPKs next month, at least I can get an idea of when I'm actually ovulating...

I think I will test on Monday, Sept 21st, because that will be 14days DPO of the first time I think I o'd. It helps me to go ahead and get over it, testing early. Like Proud said, that cycle we go through each month is killer! I havent wanted it to happen so much as this month. It would make our youngest a little over three years old when the baby is born and that's really what I wanted. I've had babies closer than that and it's HARD and I've had them five years apart and that's like starting over. Although I wouldnt change any of it! I want Judah to have a close sibling like my older three have each other.

Ttyl! Have a great Thursday everyone!

[aminor]

Good morning ladies! Welcome to all of the newbies...I hope that this journey is quick and painless for you all! I hope it goes by a little quicker for you as well - this is my third message board...I too was on the original board, I just joined halfway through it...

Sorry that I haven't been on here in a few days...things have been REALLY hectic and busy for me, but I have been reading each day, just haven't had much time to post anything after I get finished reading.

Well, today is CD 28 for me, and I am positive that AF is on her way in the next couple of days. I am hoping for it to show up on Sunday, for the fact that would mean three 30 day cycles in a row, which means that I am at the least regulating on my cycles...then just on to trying to figure out exactly when I ovulate, which has been tricky...we have been bd'ing around the clock and calendar trying to hit the mark, but I have had no luck since the middle of December...when AF shows, I am going to make another appointment with the OB/GYN, and try to figure something out. I am due for my annual in January, but I cannot wait that long, and I want to start doing something that will help us.

On another note - my best friend is just a week away from being induced...I am VERY excited for her, we are more like sisters than friends, and I am just SO excited to see the little baby!!!! I am jealous though, and I hate that I am being that way...but I have been honest with her and told her that I am a little jealous. Her and her boyfriend, that doesn't even have a job, he just does a little of this and that to get by on, were not even planning to have a baby, and oops!!! here she is preggo...so it is a little disheartening when we have been trying since right around the time that she actually conceived, even though she didn't find out that she was preggo until a couple of months later...I just wonder sometimes why it is SO easy for some people and SO difficult for others?!?!?!

Oh well, that is my rant for the day...I hope everyone the best on their current cycles, and I hope we start seeing some BFPs in here soon!!!!

[Mamadecuatro]

Hey Aminor, how are you? Glad to see you back:)

Well, I'm totally confused now. After I posted this morning, I started having major CM and cramping on my side, like I'm ovulating! So I guess I didnt ovulate earlier this month! Grrrr...is it possible to ovulate more than once in a cycle? I dont even know anymore! Wish me luck ;)

[nursetolove]

soooo this is supposedly "my week". we are in the middle of trying for the 4th month so hopefully this will be it. wih being a nurse you think i would know this, i think im just over-thinking everything but if this is the week, what is the earliest i can test and not have it be way too early to get a potential positive?

thanks for welcoming me to the board and ill keep you all in my prayers

[hardworkinmama]

nurse-- I think the earliest is around 11 DPO. If the egg is fertilized then it takes between 7 and 10 days for implantation to occur and then I believe you may test. So I would wait for at least 11 days after you think you O.

Mama-- I don't know about Oing more than once in a cycle but then again I suppose it is possible. If you can release 2 eggs to get faternal twins... then maybe they aren't released at the same time? At any rate, I hope you and DH got down to business just in case!;)

aminor-- welcome back! I know that you are expecting AF but I am going to hold out hope for you that she doesn't show her ugly face! Congrats to your friend and I hope the birth goes well for her. I know exactly how you feel with the jealousy. I don't get it either, some woman can just look at thier SOs and get PG. Well, even though I am not one of those ladies, I know in my heart that it will happen at exactly the right time. Now, if I could just figure out when that was...

[taraken]

Thanks to all..I had a great vacation/vacations. We were in 4 states visiting/weddings etc over 2 weeks! What a great time! Very relaxing...As for my new job. Same company, but I am in an executive rotation program, so I change jobs every year. The new position would work perfectly for mat leave if I get preggo this month or next! So I am really hoping, more than ever that this will be our month.
Mama- I don't think you can O more than ones. There is a hormone that is released after you O withing 24 hours I think that is supposed to kill all the other eggs (ovarian cycsts). I got a new book and have been reading like crazy. So far, we aren't doing anything wrong...sooooo WHYYYY is this taking sooo long!
Nurse- I agree with Hard...although...remember it all depends on your cycle. My has ranged from 27-37 days over the past 9 months, so I wait until the 34 minimum to test...typically. Although, I will say the range is getting smaller with the last 4 months being between 27-32. YEAH....maybe things are starting to work.
So I made an appointment with my OB for Dec 8 for my yearly. If I am not preggo by then, that will be 1 year of trying...and yeah they might start doing something. I am old enough (28) that I don't think they will be pushing it off anymore...
Oh and Welcome to all the newbies! PS...Don't get to stressed the first 2-3 months. After being on this thread since Dec...I have realized that the majority of people seem to get preggo sometime before month 4. There are 4-5 of us that are sticking around...but there have been dozens who have left us. So keep your heads up....I know it is hard....

[LPKP]

Hello Everyone, Hardworkinmama suggested that I come and join all of you. My husband and I have decided to try for a second child. I look forward to reading all the wonderful advice you have to offer. This is the "week" that we can try and the nerves have started.

[MadsMomma]

Hard- thank you so much for the support. So if you are only a day behind me now, did u start AF too? I am so over it I think. I called in to my OB's office and spoke to a nurse. She told me that if "AF" only lasted a day or two then maybe I still was pregnant. However, I am going on day 4 of AF, and I am just ready to move on. And I deff believe that I put these symptoms in my head now, but OH my gosh, during those two weeks of not knowing- I was so convinved other wise. You are 100% correct when you said the mind can play nasty games! And I think it's even worse that I am an over-thinker in general anyways. AND looking back now I see how stressed and worried I was and all that crap- so needless to say I am going into September with a open, relaxed, calm, horny mind-ha! I am going to have an idea of the days I am ovulating, continue to take prenatals and just go with the flow. No pun intended- ha! However, one symptoms still persists on me and my mind- how could my stomach look larger and bloated? ANd did I just ovulate really late? DOes the O have to take place half way through every cycle? That's the one I can't get over and may have to go see Doc to get checked out. Im slightly worried about this. What could be in there?!?!

Well the best of luck to all the ladies on here and just like Hardworkin told me that made me feel so much better, even if none of us know one another.....
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.....

[Mamadecuatro]

Well, we had some major family drama last night. Not with my and DH or any of our kids, but with two of his brothers, their wives, and teenagers. Wow. Really not cool. So, while my husband was out with his brothers trying to figure out what was really going on, I completely fell asleep. I think I may have missed my 'time'. I am for SURE that this was my ovulation time. No doubts. SOOO, my question is; if we bed today, is there still a chance of conception?

Mads-How long are your cycles? I have an average 32 day cycle, so, you'd think ovualtion would occur on day 16...but it doesnt. It is usually day 18 or 19. Hope this helps...

Tara-Thanks for the info. I have never wondered before, but it was so weird having two separate bouts of CM...We need to be off this board already with babies in the bellies!!!!

Hope everyone has a great weekend! Is anyone close to testing? Sorry, I cant remember...

Maria

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Ki- Hope to see you back real soon with a BFP!

Mama- I believe it's right before O and right after that you still have a chance of conception. Worth a try and will be lots of fun I'm sure! :) Also, I agree I don' t believe you can O more than once in a cycle.

Mads- I am going through the same thing! My AF was very different than ever and I feel like my pants are tighter and my belly is bigger. I think to myself sometimes...could I be PG? It's crazy...not testing though I have enough let downs when I test before AF arrives! haha...good luck

LPKP- Welcome aboard! Good luck in your TTC journey!

Tara- I hope you are PG before your yearly! If not hopefully they do something to help.

As for me, nothing new. Going into my O week I believe and guess what...DH is leaving for the entire week. He's going back to his grandmothers to do some work for her...bluh. Guess this month will not be our month unless I O later than I should...which I'm starting to believe I do.

[hardworkinmama]

Proud-- BD anyway before he leaves and as soon as possible after he gets back and you might still be able to catch that egg!

Ki-- good to hear from you and I hope you get your BFP very soon!

Mama-- sorry about the family drama! To answer your question, yes if you BD today, you might still catch it. Your egg is viable for 12 to 24 hours after release. Sooooooo, I hope you had fun and swim spermy swim!

Mads-- no problem on the support, that's what we are here for! Yes, I started AF on Wednesday so I am on CD3. Is it possible that you are bloated due to your period? I know sometimes when AF is here my pants seem to fit a bit tighter. Also, when it comes to ovulation it's not that it happens in the middle of your cycle, it depends on your luteal phase. I have read that the LP can be anywhere from 10 to 16 days long and it consists of the time between O and AF. I have also read that it never changes, even after kids. Based on the one day that DH and I had sex and conceived DS I have a either a 14 or 15 day LP. So, for instance, if you have a 31 day cycle and a 15 day LP, then you will O on CD16. Does that make sense? If not, check out mymonthlycycles.com and hopefully they will explain it better. Or even whattoexpect.com

LPKP-- glad to have you here! Have fun this week.

taraken-- I hope you are PG before your Dec appointment. I have one that month too and I am really hoping that I don't have to keep it.

As for me, I am on CD3 and so far I think I am finally having a pre-baby AF. They have been so light for the last 5 months and have just been confusing me because it wasn't normal. I am so happy that it is back to normal and I am hoping that means that my time is coming. Other than that, nothing new. Back to work I go.

[MadsMomma]

Hello All!

Mamadecuatro-My cycles are irrlegular so 28 DC for June, 32 DC for July and 31 DC for Aug. So my average is about 30 days. However I always that that O came half way through your cycle no matter how many days it was. You are saying that you should O on day 16, but you don't until day 18 or 19? That would actaully make alot of sense for me too. I think I ovulated way later than anticipated. Thank you, that did help.

Proud-I hear ya! it sounds like we are going through the same thing. Read what happened in Aug. to me and see if we are more alike. Go under Trying to Conceive- then Planning- then read my post "Cramps Post Ovulation." See if you had those symptoms too! And yes, my "outer body" feels pregnant, but I had no symptoms anymore, and unfortunately for me AF already did arrive. She showed her ugly face last Tuesday. I hope she doesn't come to your house next though- Good Luck! But I still have a hard uterus and look bloated, not feel, just look like it. What about you- same?

Hard-Well darn, thats unfortunate for both of us then. Stupid mother nature. She needs to focus on giving us better weather, not periods! Ha! Anyways, yes, normally I feel bloated during my period, but this "bloating" and hard stomach showed up around 3 DPO. So it was here way before I started AF. Like 2 weeks, and normally I am not PMS'ing that early. However, this LP thing confuses me a little bit. I am so into researching but still can't figure this out. Like I said before, my AF's are irrlegular due to having the IUC removed and my average cycle is about 30 days long. So when I have a 28 DC or a 32 DC then my LP doesn't change? That's weird, I will have to read up on it a little more. And thank you for the sites, I will deff be checking them out. I love medhelp.com, that one has tons of very explainitory answers. SO- I don't O half through every cycle ? It just depends on my LP? Which I have to figure out. Ok, well I'll get back to you on that one- thank you so much for everything again. And I think that maybe I just O later than I expected, however, we didn't stop trying after I O, so I guess in the back of my mind and thanks to my nurse, I think there may still be a chance of having this "AF" and still be pregnant. I am not gettting my hopes up, even thought my mother-in-law is convinced I "look" pregnant already, I will just make an appt and see whats going on....

[MadsMomma]

P.s> sorry so long!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- That's my plan! If it doesn't work then I won't be expecting to be pregnant and will be super shocked if I turn up to be and won't be as disappointed as usual if I'm not.

Mads- Yes, we sound a lot alike. I have cramps at all different times in my cycle and I'm like what the crap is going on!?! AF arrived for me on the 2nd but was nothing like normal. I've never had an AF like this one. First off it was a 36 day cycle and in the past year of tracking I've never went over 33 and very rarely have that long of cycles. I'm usually very heavy on my first day and wasn't at all! I didn't cramp at all and I've never had an AF where I didn't cramp extremely bad on the first day! Also, day 2-5 was very light. I could of just wore a liner the entire time. It's crazy and has me confused. I still keep thinking maybe I am pregnant. I've read on a million sites where you can bleed and be pregnant, but it isn't actually AF. Who knows! This stuff drives me crazy. I'm just going to stay super healthy this month and watch my p's and q's. If I am in fact PG hopefully I won't bleed at all next month and will test to see a BFP! If not then it's on to the next cycle as always. I will be on cycle number 12 if I don't hit the jackpot this time.:(

[djasinski]

Just checkin in on all the TTC mommies/soon to be mommies. My O is not until next weekend/early next week so we are just practicing for now.Reminder- my hubby is only home on the weekends. So good luck this week ladies and I will be on hold until hubby returns next weekend.

[hardworkinmama]

So I was just browsing around on the web trying to find more info on the luteal phase of AF because I don't feel that I explained it super well the other day. I came across webwomb.com and I think it explained things very well. It also explained how the LP can last anywhere from 12 to 16 days long and generally never changes. I hope this helps anyone who was wanting more info on it.

dj-- I hope you and DH had a great time practising! I also hope that all of the practice will pay off next weekend for you.

Proud-- I hope your plan works out. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Mads-- yeah the LP can be a bit confusing when you first start learning about it. I was a bit thrown at first as well. I was able to figure out my LP due to the fact that when we conceived DS, we only had sex once that entire month and I had "on the money" 28 day cycles at that time. Since we BD'd on CD12, I was supposed to start 16 days later, and I had a boy is how I figured out that I had a LP of 14 or 15 days. Hopefully you will be able to figure out yours from when you conceived your LO.

As for me, I am on CD5 and my fertile period starts this Thurs or Fri. I am going to try to just live my life without thinking about when we need to BD and hopefully the urge will be there when it needs to be. AAAWWWW, who am I kidding? I will think about it every day and make time to BD like crazy up until my next AF! Chat with y'all later.

[jenfalco]

Hey everyone. I've been married for just over 3yrs. I went off birth control a few months before the wedding. We haven't been preventing but we really weren't trying. This is the first month we actually tried. I'll know in a about 2 weeka if I'm preggo. Good luck to everybody!

[MadsMomma]

Proud- Yup! Sounds like a good idea. I hear you about the cramping though! It was really weird for me too. I was so over it by day 3! And those AF symptoms sound crazy too. Maybe you are pregnant! Good luck! Mine, lasted 6 days though and I had it pretty heavy. No cramps or normal back aches, it was deff. different, but I have already convinced myself that I am not pregnant and I am prepared to try again this month. Let me know what you find out though.

Hard- I got it all figured out! I did the same thing you did. I based it off of when we conceived our first born. My LP is exactly 14 days long. I even went back and check the charting I've been doing this year so far and it fits. It's 14 days every month. So I think it does stay pretty acurate. So that means that since I have an average 30 DC that I will O on Day 16, right? The only thing is, is that if this is true that I O on the first day of LP, then last month we did try on that day and nothing. Well I think I am just going to pray, sit back and relax. I don't want to get myself all worked up again this month. I want to watch my own body and be aware of tracking my CP and CM and then let me, tell me, when I am O'ing. Plus I'll mix it in with a little LP scheduleing and see how it goes. I know for sure that I will not be trying too early this month and I will DEFF NOT BE TESTING TOO EARLY again this month- learned my lesson the first time. Anyways, good luck to ya, keep my updated and if this LP is all correct then I think I will be good to go Sept. 22-25th! IS that right? Talk to you soon!

Jenfalco- So this is your first? Good luck! let us know how things go in 2 weeks!

[jenfalco]

Yeah if I am preg it will be my first. I've babysat since I was 12 and I have a sister 10 yrs younger then me its just time lol my hubbys gone through a lot and this is something we've wanted for a while. There's just been a lot of set backs physically and emotionally

[hardworkinmama]

jen-- welcome to the group and I hope your stay is short and sweet. Try to keep busy during your TWW (two week wait).

Mads-- I think it goes O day and then you start counting for the LP. So if you have a 30 day cycle then yes you would O on CD15 or CD16. However, if you end up having a 32 day cycle this time around then you will O around CD18. So if you start BDing early and keep going late then maybe...;) I know what you mean about BDing on the day that you O and nothing. I was the same way the last two months. I also had O cramps last month for the first time ever! and we had sex that day before the cramps came on... so you got me as to why you can have sex on the day that you O and still not get PG. My fertile week is from the 17th to the 23rd so I am hoping to hit it this time around. I hope you do too!:D

[MadsMomma]

Hard- OK, thanks! I'll be wishin we both hit the jackpot this time around! I think my fertililty week is Sept.22-26th- so next week. But I am deff going to just listen to my body more this month. Hopefully I will be able to pin point the day exact and hit the nail on the nead, so to speak. Ok, good luck to you!
I'm on my way to the doctors today. She wants to see me because of my hard uterus and "bloated" stomach that hasn't gone away even after AF. They are going to do an ultrasound, blood work and urine test. So wish me luck and we will see what she has to say.

[LPKP]

Hello, My O was supposed to end yesterday but I didn't get the "egg white discharge" until today. What I've read says that the discharge means you are most likely ovulating. Can your O be later than what the calculation comes out to be?

Thanks

[hardworkinmama]

LPKP-- simply put, yes you can O later than what an ovulation calculator will tell you. I would just continue to BD, at least until the EWCM goes away. Are you only using the calculator on this site? Try the one on pregnology.com and mymonthlycycles.com as well. Also, mymonthlycycles.com is great for tracking your period so you can really see a pattern.

Mads-- good luck at your doctor's appointment today. I hope you figure something out and that it's only good news. My fingers are crossed for you.

As for me, I am on CD7 and done with AF. For the first time since DS was born I had a pre-baby period. It started out light, went to a medium flow, back to light and then stopped. It also only lasted 6 days, which lately the b*tch has been hanging around for a whole 8 days. I am so excited, not only that this means "something" but just that I might actually be back to normal! Yay Me! So now I am just going to gear up for a little over a week of BDing. Swim, spermies, swim! Catch that egg!:cool:

[LPKP]

Hardworkinmama

I have been using yourdays.com but I'll try the other websites and see what they say. Is there a place on here that I can go to see what all the acronyms mean? I can figure out some of them but not all.


Thanks

[hardworkinmama]

LPKP-- at the top of each page is a yellow icon that says FAQ next to it. Click on the word and go to "reading and posting messages". Under that, there is a heading called "what do all those abbreviations mean?". That will fill you in on most of them. EWCM = egg white cervical mucus (sp?). BD = baby dance/have sex. CD = cycle day. AF = aunt flow/period. I hope these help. If you have questions about anymore, just ask and someone will get you an answer.

I will check out yourdays.com also. Right now I am all about finding anything that will help me out. 10 cycles without conceiving is more than enough to drive anyone nuts. :p

[nursetolove]

so this last week was "my week" and 4/7 days is not too bad. now all i have to do is wait...and wait...and wait. this will drive me insane. good luck to all of the mommies to be bc it isnt a status of IF but WHEN it happens for all of us :)

[LPKP]

Hardworkinmama

Thanks, you have been very helpful! I used yourdays.com when I conceived my daughter. Good luck to you!

[MadsMomma]

Hard- you are halarious! ANd thank you for the hope. I went to the doctors yesterday and she checked me and did some blood work. I get the results today and she also scheduled an ultrasound for today at 3. So I should know something by then. Thanks!

Nurse- Good luck to ya and my advice is to do EVERYTHING in your power to stay busy! Take your mind off of it! Trust me in my experience, it is so much easier to wait when you are relaxed and not thinking about waiting! Ha! Try hard-

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hello ladies. Haven't had much time to get on here and actually post. I have been reading though quickly the past few days. My DH ended up not leaving this week it was going to rain all week where he was going so he wouldn't of been able to get anything done. Therefore, I'm hoping to hit O. It's supposed to be Saturday but we will see. TMI coming up possibly...I've been extremely tired all week so we hadn't BDed since Sunday afternoon. About midnight last night DH woke me up to romance lol. So, I got a quick one in, but enough to do the job possibly. Hope all you ladies had a good Wednesday! Hoping to see some BFP's soon...haven't had any on this board yet I don't believe. Could of missed one I guess. Who's close to testing?

[djasinski]

Well according to the 4 (yeah, 4) different ovulation calenders I use my O week is the 17th-23rd with the O day being the 21st (Mon) or 22nd (Tues). Only problem is my DH comes home tomorrow (17th) and leaves Sun (20th)! So on the chance that all the calenders are wrong (it could happen right?) we will be doing the BD the 17th 18th 19th and 20th. So wish us luck!

[hardworkinmama]

dj-- even it they are right you still have a really good chance! Since you are BDing the four days before the 21st and 22nd then you will have plenty of swimmers in there. All it takes is one! Good luck to you! P.S. My O time is the same as yours!:) When would you be expecting AF? I am around Oct 6th but hoping we will hit the mark this time around instead.

Proud-- It's great the DH got to stay home for the baby making! I think that's so funny that he woke you up to get a little lovin!

Mads-- have you found anything out yet? Still keeping my fingers crossed that everything is okay!

nurse-- as Mads said, keep busy! Otherwise it will drive you pretty close to the edge of insanity. Hopefully work will keep you busy, what kind of nurse are you?

So I am starting to wonder if my sleep schedule is making TTC so hard this time around. For those of you who don't know, I am a police dispatcher and I work midnights. My shift right now is Wed thru Sat so on Th, Fr, Sa I sleep from 7am to about 3pm. I flip my sleep schedule on my days off to a "normal" sleep pattern. Do you ladies think that could be part of my problem? Just curious. I guess I shouldn't let it upset me because my schedule won't change until middle of November.

[jenfalco]

good morning all! i still have just over another week before i can test...waiting is killing me lol. where i work if its slow thats alllll i can think about. It bad.

proud: ive been extremely tired too and its been since my O days. I also started taking prenatal vitamins a few weeks ago and i thought that might have added to it.

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Dj- The other ladies are right. You do still have a decent chance if you BD those 4 days. Honestly in my opinion the less you BD the higher his sperm count is. Therefore, if you would BD on the 17th and 18th skip 19th and again on 20th. That way there is one day for his count to build up and on the 20th there will be the army needed to last those few days possibly! :)

Hard- Thanks! It is a little funny. I don't think that schedule has anything to do with it. Simply because as long as your BDing it shouldn't matter when it is as long as the sperm are getting to that egg. Just my opinion though. Good luck and don't stress over it to much especially if it's over soon!

Jen- Hopefully you will be getting a BFP! My fingers are crossed for you!

[djasinski]

HARD- AF is expected on Oct 7th this month. So.... I am just waiting on my DH to get home tonight (Thurs) or early tomorrow (Fri). Sometimes he gets in at 1-2 AM on Friday. So I will be ready.
Ladies have a good weekend- I shall return- once my DH leaves.

[MadsMomma]

Hard- absolutely! I thin that our sleep paterns and over all health have alot to do with TTC. I am a naturalist and firm believing in Organics and Excerise, but do a little research on sleep patterns and/ or deprevation and see what it'll tell you. My answer is yes. I say on your days off, that you shouldn't try to sleep "normal." I say stay on one schedule and get used to it, to help your body out.

As for the doctors- all went well- praise the Lord. She said that my ovaries and my uterus are completely healthy and that the only thing she saw during the vaginal ultrasound scan was that my colon is enlarged. I have a Glycemic index, which is blown up like a balloon and is pressing on my uterus, giving me that "pregnant" look. Basically, I need to change/cut some things out of my diet and keep stress-free. So that is decent news. I also asked her about the TTC. She is the best doctor in our county, so I trust her and always have. She said that my best chances are to try every other day starting on CD 10 all the way through CD 20. That may help some of you out too! I think that we are all trying to pin point and stress and schedule all this and it is just becoming unheathly. So I'm going to take her advice and see what happens. I am not charting, checking or stressing at all this month. We are going to try to BD every other day, starting when my DH gets back from working in Vegas Tuesday night, all the way through CD 20, hopefully! Then I am going to forget about it, keep myself busy, power Yoga again probably, and if AF comes, she comes, if she doesn't then we'll know. And that's that. Typing it makes me believe more and more.

Good luck ladies! Let us know if anyone gets a BFP! Baby Dust* to everyone! ;-)

[hardworkinmama]

Ruth-- good to hear from you! I am glad things are going well with the pregnancy. I have been sort of stalking all of you ladies on the April2010 board and I saw your post about being freaked due to showing already. I showed very early with DS because I was underweight to begin with. Everything will be fine.

Mads-- if only I could stay on one schedule! Problem is that DH works Mon-Fri 5am to 2pm so I have to be up with DS on my days off. But this has been my sleep pattern for 4 months now so maybe it could still work. I am soooooooo glad and relieved for you that everything went okay at the doctors. At least it is a simple fix!:)

dj-- we can be cycle buddies! I am expecting AF on either the 6th or the 7th. Have fun this weekend with DH!

Proud-- we are certainly keeping up with the BDing, did today in fact for "practice". I am definitely trying not to stess over it and trying not to stress over TTC. I think I am actually doing pretty good this month, so far at least. I change schedules in the middle of Nov but that is only for 2 months. After that I have no idea what my schedule will be. I really like midnights though so if one is available I will probably take it.

Jen-- stay busy and hopefully you will see a BFP at the end of the week!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Ki- Sorry about the BFN. Glad your okay with it though. The short hair thing! Ha! I am almost finished with Cosmetology school, and when I started I had hair almost half way down my back. My hair is now at my chin! My DH hates it and I'm trying to grow it back out. So, if this is growing it out imagine how short it was. Haha. Have fun shopping today! I plan to do some myself this weekend!

Ruth- Glad to hear everything is going good. So when is your due date? DS was born in April. Thanks for hoping Hard and I are joining a birth club soon!

Hard- Hopefully, since you've been doing this for awhile it's not affecting you. That's why I said I didn't believe it was yesterday. I'm glad you got a little practice in. Keep up the good work.:)

Dj- Good luck! I hope your egg is fertilized. Haha:)

Mads- That sounds like a very good idea (CD 10 through 20.) I'm glad your ovaries and uterus was in good health. Hopefully, you can get your other situation taken care of soon and then only bump you will be having is a baby bump!

As for me, not much is going on I don't think. I was cramping severely last night, but no CM. I BDed anyway so hopefully I hit the nail on the head. Guess we will see. I'm leaving to go out of town today and back Sunday. DH is leaving Sunday for a few days, so hopefully we've hit the spot already! I'm going to meet my little brother from my father who I've never met. He is 17 yrs old and lives clear across the country. He's just 3 hours away now staying with some cousins. I haven't seen my dad since I was 3, and no he won't be there. I'm excited yet nervous. It's crazy to meet someone who's a part of you, but you've never seen in 17 yrs of life. I also have 3 little sisters, but I won't be getting to meet them...yet! Wish me luck!

[aminor]

Good morning ladies! Sorry that I haven't written again in a while, things have REALLY been VERY hectic...my best friend just delivered her baby yesterday at 2:14 p.m., she is beautiful!!! I am SO stoked about her being here, and that I am an "aunt" for the very first time...she is just the most adorable little thing, and I love her more than I ever thought I could already...haha. Can you tell I am proud??? My DH and I were holding her yesterday and it was such a happy moment, but also such a bittersweet moment at the same time, because we want one SO bad, and it just hasn't worked yet...we started ttc before my best friend even conceived, and they were not trying at all...and it doesn't help that my best friends mother kept saying, "Now you all have to get pregnant soon, so your babies can grow up together!" All I wanted to scream was, "WE'RE TRYING!!!" But I managed to keep my cool and be SO very happy for my best friend.

Jen - Don't let yourself go too crazy in the next week just waiting to test...I hate that, and my DH and I call it the waiting game...I am keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP for you!!!

Mads - I'm glad that you got great news at the doctor, and that was some helpful advice about bding on cd 10-20...we are already practicing this month...especially after holding that precious baby yesterday, we cannot wait for one of our own! Good luck on the bd front for you, I'm right there with you!

Ruth - I'm SO happy to hear that everything is going well with your pregnancy, and please know that you are greatly missed on these boards for the conversation aspect, not the ttc aspect! I just want to say Congrats once again to you!!!

Ki - I'm sorry to hear about the BFN, but like I have said many times before, I don't know what we would all do if we actually had a BFP, I may just have a heart attack right there on the spot, haha. You have such a great attitude and outlook on ttc, and I hope that I can share in that with you. I also wanted to say that I absolutely love the hairstyle that I am thinking of with the Victoria Beckham thing, and I'm sure that it is super cute...isn't it funny how a change in hair can completely change your attitude on things, and of course make you want more stylish clothes? Haha!

Proud - I just wanted to say good luck on meeting your brother!!! That would be extremely exciting to know that you have someone out there that is your blood relation that you are finally going to be able to meet. I hope that you are also able to meet your little sisters eventually. I am one of four kids, and I love the bond that I hold with my siblings...it's one of the best things!

As for me - I am on CD 7, I started AF last Saturday, and was bummed, but completely knew that it was coming due to the fact of all of the AF signs...so I wasn't shocked for it to show up. We are definitely practicing ttc right now, and we are going to try to bd every other day this month, hoping that it hits the mark somewhere...so best wishes to all of us on here, and I am hoping that it is a wonderful month for all of us!!!!

[hp108]

I am 29 yrs old (ok...30 in 3 months ) and my husband is 35...he has been wanting to have a baby for awhile and I've slowly started to come around to the idea. I stopped my BC July 1st...just to see what happens...if it happened, ok and if not...we still had splenty of time...Well over the past couple of months, I have found out that 2 of my best friends are pregnant and I feel completely overwhelmed trying to "catch" up to them. It's no fun having friends with kids if you don't. Now I feel the pressure to get pregnant right away...I actually think I am a bit jealous of them. I know stress can make things harder. Am I wrong in wanting to get pregnant now just because they are??

[MadsMomma]

Hey Ladies...

Ruth-Congrats! Good to hear some success stories! But O'ing twice in one month? Never heard of it. How likely is it? And what are the signs? Shed some light to us if you can. Thanks-

Hard-You are 100% correct it could deff still work. And thank you so much for the support! ANd it isn't a quick fix, but deff do-able! The fix naturally is cutting our carbs and chocolate to my diet. Seeing as how I am more healthy these last 3 years than I have ever been, ie. organics, protein, veggies, fruits, yoga, pilates, health food groups, water, work outs- you name it- I do it, anyways my docs suggestion is to cut out pasta to get my colon back to normal. Well not so easy for me- I'm Italian! We eat pasta three times a day! It will be hard to even cut down to 5 times a week! But I gotta do it! Bye bye pasta! :-( Anyways, hope your schedule works its self out, I'm sure as long as you are happy and satisfied with your BD'ing schedule then all will be well.

Ki- Congrats on the hair cut! It is a very popular stlye right now. Who doesn't want to look like David B's wife? ha! My mother, mother-in-law and grandmother all have that hair cut too! So chic!

Aminor- Thank you so much for your thoughts! So we will be O'ing at the same time this month? Are our Cycles and LP the same then? Or just coincidence? And I agree BD'ing CD 10-CD 20 is deff worth a shot! However, I am a bit more concerned about it now, considering Ruth's prior comment. O'ing twice in one month and as early as CD 8, what if we are all missing somthing? Cause she's not. ya know? Food for thought. Hard may have some insight to this too.

Proud-Thank you so much too! Just like I told Aminor, BD'ing on the range of CD 10-20 is deff more than we usually have been giving, but it may pay off in the end. Worth a shot- or ten! And thank you so much again, I am praying that the next bump I see is a baby bump, and for you as well, however I have to get rid of this current one asap. :-) ALSO- I have your same situation. I have a brother that I never met for like 14 years, that my dad hid from me, and then one day his mom decided to let us meet, I saw him twice and then she moved him away and I never saw him again. I have no idea where he is and he cant' find me because he was too little to remember me. Sad. And a very different situation. My suggestion is to Just embrace the truth and keep an open mind. Good luck!

[MadsMomma]

Ruth- huh. That's pretty interesting. I knew you could release more than one egg per month (ie. twins) but I didn't know about them being at two different times and only being able to conceive with the first one. I may have to look further into this, bc as soon as AF is over for me, which usually lasts 7-8 days for me as well, I always have a surge. I always just thought it was because we hadn't be able to BD the whole time with AF. So I figured it was just due! Ha! Well thanks for the info. I may be trying something new! :-)

[nursetolove]

hey all. hope your weekend is going well so far. i tried to post a message before work last night and i accidentally deleted it and didnt have time to retype it all before i left, grrrr. anyways, so i have 3 more days till i either test or till AF arrives. im going insane!!!! and of course really nervous. i really don't have any "could be pregnant" symptoms so that kinda scares me, although i guess one doesn't have to have any i suppose. this is month three of doing all the right things at the right time, so i its not successful its going to be hard wondering why things arent working out, sigh. i know a few of you other girls are also counting down the hours as well and i think about ya'll struggling at the same time. :(

hard- i work in critical care so i usually work nights, although i do pick up a few days as well so i definatly feel you on the whole strange hours, no sleep schedule nonsense. i hope that doesnt affect us too much.

anyways, thank you ladies for all your support. i am off to work to take care of a lot of very sick people so have a good evening, sleep well, and hopefully time will fly.

[djasinski]

Proud- I took ur advise and we did the BD on the 17th, 18th and today- the 20th (skipped the 19th). So maybe we got lucky.

I do have a question that might contain TMI so...
On one of these days we continued the BD even after the "swimmers were released" for a few minutes. Was this a bad idea? I mean, did it effect the chances (negatively or positively) of the swimmers getting to their destination?

Thanks ladies and happy BDing!!

[hardworkinmama]

dj-- Continueing to BD after DH releases shouldn't have any effect on them making it to thier destination. My DH and I do that quite frequently because he gets his cookie before I get mine, so to speak!;)

Ki-- it's still possible that you are PG. Maybe you watered down the urine and that's why you got a negative. Are you going to test again with first morning urine? When did you O? I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

nurse-- flippen the sleep kinda sucks but sometimes it is what needs to be done! 3 days will be gone before you know it and I have my fingers crossed for you as well. Maybe you and Ki will be our first BFPs on this board!:D

Mads-- no fun cutting out the pasta! I may be Irish but I love me some pasta:cool:! I hope you are able to stick to the new diet and correct the problem sooner than later. Also, if you have a surge at the end of AF, I say go for it. As DH always says "just throw a towel down, baby". Kinda gross I know but if that's what needs to be done then...

hp108-- welcome to the board! I don't think you are wrong for wanting to be PG because your friends are as long as that's not the only reason. Good luck in you journey and remember that it might take awhile. Try not to get discouraged but if you need to vent, we are here for you.

Not much going on with me. Just been working on O week. I haven't had hardly any CM yet so I think I might O later than originally thought. I guess we will just keep BDing on through next weekend. Still working hard on not stressing out and I am doing okay. We will see how long that lasts.

[mumof2grls]

Hey ladys! Just poppin in to say hello! Hope all are well and bding like crazy..crossing my fingers for more BFPS this month..god knows you all deserve it!

As for me Im a bit over 36 weeks and have 3 weeks left before my c-section and starting to get scared..but the other 2 went well, no reason this one wont! so I will pop back on in a week or so and hopefully see some postives <3

TTYS MUM

[ailanismami]

Hi Ladies! My husband and I are thinking of TTC next month. We have a beautiful 3yo daughter and I think she's ready to be a big sister! I have only been off of the pill for a month, still haven't gotten my AF yet. I was lucky enough to get pregnant the first time I tried back in August of 05'. I hope I have the same luck!

[nursetolove]

so no AF and 3 HPTs later (one positive and 2 negative) ive got a big fat 0. I'm not going to bother going to the OBGYN for a blood test bc the positive test is sketchy at best and my insurance will charge an unbelievable fee for it. So i am going to wait it out for a bit longer (I've bought 5 more tests, ha). Cross your fingers for me please. :(

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hey ladies...haven't been on and posted in a while just skimmed through post. Been pretty busy. For those of you who know the story the visit with my brother went great. He ended up coming home with me to spend the week! As for as TTC not much happening. Should start AF around Oct. 3rd so we'll see what happens!

Nurse-Good luck! My fingers are triple crossed for you!

[hardworkinmama]

Ki-- I am soooooo sorry that AF showed up! That totally sucks that she showed up late as well!

Proud-- I am so glad that everything went well with your brother. I hope that you were able to get to know him.

nurse-- I have my fingers crossed that the positive one was the correct one.;) I have also heard that a line is a line is a line. When are you going to test again?

ailanismami-- welcome and good luck in your journey.:)

[LPKP]

Ailanismami - Welcome and Good Luck!

[hardworkinmama]

Let the BDing begin! Finally started having CM tonight and it's the EWCM so I should O in the next few days. Hopefully DH will be up for it tomorrow and over the weekend. Here's to having some fun!;)

[djasinski]

Help- My O week was the 17th-23rd and AF is expected on Oct 7th but I woke up yesterday and I am bleeding. Not heavy like my reg AF but it is very dark. Any thoughts?

[LPKP]

Hardworkinmama -


I wish you the best of luck!

[jenfalco]

Hey all just wanted to pop in I've been trying to stay busy and not think about things too much. I took a test last night and it was negative. I think I tested to early and the wrong time of day. I'm going to give it another day or so and try again. Good luck

[nursetolove]

hard- i am testing again after i wake up fri afternoon from the night shift tonight. it will have been 4 days after the last test and 6 days late overall. if it isn't positive then, then i doubt it will be. i think it was an evaporation line that i saw on the sketchy positive. it'll be agony waiting till then and agony if its not, sigh.
dj-sounds like you have just some random spotting. there are so many things that irregular bleeding could be.

good luck everyone and ill keep in touch tom after i find out. im preparing for negative bc it probably will be, and if it isnt then ill be pleasantly surprised

[hardworkinmama]

nurse-- I have all fingers and toes crossed for you. I hope it wasn't an evap line and a real positive but I understand not wanting to get your hopes up. Good luck!

jen-- hopefully it was just too early. Fingers are crossed for you also.

LPKP-- thanks!

dj-- hopefully it was just non-menstrual spotting but if you are still bleeding I would call the doctor. I had a 17 day cycle back in January and my doc said that sometimes it just happens. I hope that's not your case but if it is, just chalk it up to random craziness.

[djasinski]

Today is 3 days of spotting post ovulation so.... It nothing like a period so I am still watchin out for AF around Oct 7th. Hopefully- she won't come- FOR ALL OF US.

[Lilypad]

Hi everyone!

My DH and I have decided that we want to try for second baby! We have a 3-year old girl and she REALLY wants a baby sister (my DH and I would like to have a boy for one of each -- but aren't picky!). I have been off BC for a couple of months and this is the month we want to start trying.

I am due for AF next week and then o-ing somewhere around Oct.10th! I love this formum and hope to see a lot of BFPs this month!

djasinski -- when I got pregnant with my first, I had something similar. Bleeding about a week and half BEFORE AF was due. I just chalked it up to an abnormal period. But when AF didn't come the next month, I realized something was up. My doctor said that implantation can cause the bleeding! My fingers are crossed that it is what you are experiencing!

[djasinski]

LILYPAD- thanks. That gives me alot of hope. This is cycle #4 for us and hopefully baby #3.

Good Luck. There is a lot of great support and love here so!!

[nursetolove]

well im 6 days late and i took the test again today and its negative. so not only is it a let-down again this month but also now im irregular which will make it even harder. its going to be really hard to tell my fiance when he comes home from work tonight. he was actually so excited this morning and now to have to tell him that its not going to happen again is just really depressing. sorry all to be so down, its just really disapointing...

[djasinski]

NURSETOLOVE- What cycle are you on? Regardless, TTC is always emotional draining and I am sorry that you had a negative test. But keep your hopes up. Being patient is hard but it will happen. Everyone on this thread is so great at listening so keep us updated. It will happen. Try not to think about it (yeah right) because you don't want to stress your body out about it.

Also, I see that you are a nurse- ME TOO. (LPN for 3 yrs and 6 mths into my RN now)

[hardworkinmama]

nurse-- yes it is very disappointing when you get those negatives, however, it ain't over until AF shows her ugly face. I don't want to get your hopes up but I wouldn't completely count you out just yet. I still have my fingers crossed for you.

dj-- how many DPO's are you? Implantation normally doesn't occur till between 7 and 10 DPO, but that doesn't mean that you aren't experience implantation bleeding. Fingers crossed for you as well.

Lilypad-- welcome to the group! I hope your journey is short and easy. Good luck on #2.

As for me, got some BDing in today and I am still having the EWCM so I should be Oing soon. Maybe even tonight as I am having slight cramps on the left side. Since I am Oing later than expected I will not be looking for AF until closer to the 10th of October. I plan on getting more BDing in just in case I haven't O'd yet. Chat with you ladies later.

[djasinski]

HARDWORKIN- I am less than 7 DPO. My O was the 21st or 22nd. Spotting started the 23rd and stopped the 26th. It was very light (1 pad/day) and I didnt have the usual "period" symptoms. I am just staying positive and will be looking out for my real AF on Oct 7th- but hopefully she wont come!

[nursetolove]

hey girls. sorry i was so downright whiny and depressing fri. it was a looong work week (6 days of 13 hours straight) so my nerves were a bit frazzled. i am in a better mood today. told him fri night and he was disapointed but basically said holy moly this is only cycle 3, we've got plenty of time, ha. im the impatient one of the two of us. odd thing is its now been 10 days since AF should have arrived. and i had some cramping fri-sun like i should have started but didnt. im sure this is wayyyy too much info but also other symptoms like i am ovulating so this is definately odd. we went ahead and did what we needed to do (real tough i know ;) ) bc who knows what is going on now. i guess if im too much later ill need to get a blood test to figure out what is going on. any thoughts?

hope everyone had a great weekend...

[MadsMomma]

Hey Ladies! Sorry it's been so long. Don't have much time, taking my P&C Licensing Course this week- 40 hrs in 4 days! Fun Fun! Anyways, just wanted to check up on everyone and see if there was any good news! Hopefully some BFP's! Anybody?

Ki-Sorry! Next month!

Hard- you are halarious! I can't do that- I just wait until the RB is gone and then I'm good to go-no towel down for me. So whats the news? Anything good?

As for me, I don't have a clue. I am trying as much as we can, but it's like I've been so busy this week- I couldnt even remember what day it was today?!?! So I guess this month, I am taking the "we didn't get pregnant until we forgot about it and stopped trying." Ha! Pray for the best!

Baby dust to all**

[aminor]

Good morning ladies! I hope everyone is doing well. We are starting to get some real Fall weather here, and I LOVE it!!! I am a big Fall and Spring person, summer and winter are great for short periods of time, haha.

Well, I am on the dreaded 2 Week Wait right now...but for some reason, I do think that we hit the mark this time. I don't want to jynx myself or anything, but something just feels different this time around. Now if AF ends up showing or I get a BFN, I will feel really stupid...but I hope not at least. Maybe my attitude has just changed or something...but I just feel so much more positive about ttc, and the fact that there is NO way that we missed O this time around, I felt myself O'ing, I know it, I've been very in tune with my body here lately and the different feelings that I get during each time each month...so everyone keep your fingers crossed that there is a little bean growing in there...I am currently on CD 19, and have probably 10-11 more days in this cycle...thinking that if AF does show, that it will be around October 11 or 12. I've had two 30 day and one 29 day cycle the past 3 months...It's strange how much you notice in 10 months of ttc, about your body and the different feelings and stuff...

Anyway, I hope everyone gets a BFP soon! I am missing that around this board right now!!!

[hardworkinmama]

Hey ladies, sorry I haven't been on all week. Been busy chasing a toddler and throwing a bridal shower. I am in the TWW and am expecting AF around the
10th as I am sure that I O'd either this past Friday or Saturday. Just gonna keep busy so that the TWW goes by quickly.

aminor-- I am with you in the TWW, totally sucks doesn't it. I also get you on the understanding your body after 10 months of TTC. Fingers crossed for both of us.

Mads-- glad I could bring laughter into your day. Hopefully being so busy and just BDing whenever is the way to go. Keep having fun.

nurse-- 10 late? Wow, that is weird, hopefully something will happen soon. If you think you are Oing it's definitely good that you BD'd. My fingers are still crossed for you.

dj-- did you start spotting again? I hope not and my fingers are crossed for you during the last half of your TWW.

[hardworkinmama]

Now before you all go crazy, yes I posted in the may2010 birth club thread, no I did not get a BFP. I was reading it and some of the ladies were looking for heartburn remedies so I offered one up. That is all. Didn't want you ladies to freak out.

[Lilypad]

Hey everyone!

So, I posted that Oct is the month we want to start trying...so I am waiting for AF to show so I can start planning...and she is late! And no, I am not pregnant, my DH was away during o-time and we have been very careful until we were ready to try...UGH.

I have 26-28 day cycles for the last 4 months that I have been off bc -- this is day 30. I just want to get started!

Our first was not planned and I am afraid that now that we WANT another one, it will take a long time...

aminor and hard -- Good luck in the TWW time -- that has to be torture!

nurse - have you started yet? decided to go to the doc to get checked out??

Have a good day, everyone!

[aminor]

Good morning ladies!!!

Hard - So have you been ttc for 10 months too? I know that we have been on the boards for a while together, but I can't remember everyone's stories off the top of my head...sorry! If so, do you think it has gotten any easier over the past 10 months? Do you almost expect to be let down every month? I sure do...I don't know what I would actually do if I were to get a positive...I might just faint!!

Lilypad - I went off of bc last December (2008), and I had a normal cycle for 3 months...28 days, nothing out of the ordinary...then my cycles started going crazy, I had a 30 day cycle, a 31, a 39 (crazy!), it just seemed to go longer and longer....I am finally evening out, I have had two 30 days and 29 day in the past 3 months, so I am hopeful that my cycle is completely back to normal, and that this is the month that we actually get a positive!!! How long were you on bc? Sometimes the longer you were on it, the longer it takes to even out after coming off of it. I was on bc for 6 years...

As for me - I am now on CD 20, and going crazier by the minute...these next 9 or 10 days are going to drag on forever! I am hoping for the best though, and hoping that AF doesn't decide to show up and that there is a little bean in there after all!!!

[Lilypad]

aminor - I went had the Mirena IUD put in when my dd was 6 months old. I had that for 2 years before I had it taken out last Dec because I was having side effects from it. I went back on regular bc pill. Then in May, I went off that because we decided that sometime this year we would try to have another. So, I was on bc after my daughter for 2.5 years.

I am hoping that things will even out as well and this process won't take long (to get pg!).

[djasinski]

Hard- No. I only spotted on the 23rd-26th.

I am on CD 27 and 10DPO. I am expecting AF in 6 days so I am just going to wait it out- very impatiently and see what happens.

Good Luck to everyone!!

[nursetolove]

hey all, thanks for asking about my current status. im now like almost 2 weeks late, so i am thinking that i didnt even O at all (sigh). im hoping that i did this last weekend when i had all those normal symptoms. i am going to call my ob today to get an appt this month just to see what to do. if im not ovulating, this is going to make this ummmm kinda challenging. anyways, i hope everyone else is doing better then i am and i am keeping you all in my prayers. off to work.

[lndsymattingly]

Hello Everyone! I'm new to the community and am so excited that I joined! My name is Lindsay Mattingly and am 26 years old. My husband and I have been together for 10 years but married for almost 3 years :). We decided last month that we'll TTC! I"m so excited! I've wanted little ones since I was 21 years old, but now since we are settled into our first new home and have wonderful jobs, we would like a little one around. I've been off the pill since late June and we've recently started trying this month(actually the beginning of this week!). We're doing it all natural. I haven't been using an ovulation thingy, just keeping track of when I do. I know that the first time isn't always a charm, but I'm hoping it will be!So wish me luck!!!

[hardworkinmama]

lndsy-- welcome to the group. I hope your stay here is short and enjoyable.

nurse-- sorry your cycle is so wacky this month. Maybe it's just stress related. I hope you get everything figured out soon.

dj-- glad the spotting only lasted a few days. I am with you on the wait, try to stay busy and hopefully the week with go by quickly.

Lily-- congratulations on beginning your journey. I would bet that you are lated because you are thinking about it so much. Happens to me once in a while too.

aminor-- yup, 10 months and counting. I think it has gotten easier in the last 2 months because I have tried stepping away from it, half successfully. I do expect the let down every month but I still try to stay upbeat. I don't know that I would faint but it would definitely take some time to sink in.

[cobalt]

Hello, I am new to all of this TTC as well as message boards. My significant other and I have decided to start trying for our first baby. We discussed it in May and decided we would try in Sept., so we gave it our first try last month. I am a little nervous just because I was on the depo shot for almost five years and have heard that it can be hard to conceive after being on it for that long. I am 27 and he is 36 and we really excited about adding a baby to our family. Just hope it goes well and is not a long struggle, however it would be worth it. Wanted to join the group for support and to maybe meet others who may have the same situation.

[LPKP]

Hi Everyone,

AF showed up Tuesday so no luck this time. I hope you all have better luck!

[hardworkinmama]

The poster to whom I was referring has been deleted. The comment that was left was rude and uncalled for and just really got under my skin. I apologize to anyone that I may have offended.

[excited4mommyhood]

Hey all -
I was on the boards for several months when DH and I started TTC, then took a break for awhile (both from the boards and from actively TTC). I really missed not only the comraderie but also hearing everyone's stories!!
By way of a quick introduction, my name is Victoria, Tori to my friends, 29 years old. DH and I have been together nearly 10 years and will be married for 3 next month. We started TTC in December but much to my dismay, we went back to barrier protection, etc., in April due to stresses outside of our relationship (family illnesses, financial stuff, etc). Just last month, we decided to ditch the condoms and just see what happens...and I'll just get right into it...
I travel somewhat regularly in the Fall for work, and so DH and I really only BD'ed 2X this month, but I think there's a possibility of hitting the jackpot!!! I don't want to get too excited (I absolutely PROMISED my husband I wouldn't) but I just have a feeling...plus I'm absolutely exhausted and have pretty sore boobs. AF is just 1 day late thus far, but my cycle tends to get a little wacky, so I'm going to wait a bit to test.
I'm glad to be back, and even if we've not yet conceived, I think that I'll be a mainstay on the threads again - I've missed you all!! Have a great evening :)

[nursetolove]

hey all. i had a busy weekend at work. full moon. ugh. so mon ill be 2 weeks late so i guess i didnt ovulate which is really disapointing. ugh. i made an appt with my OB but of course cant get in till oct 27 so we can shoot another month down as well. ha. this year ive only had 3 AFs so hopefully he wont screw around and get down to business so this can actually happen before im ancient. ha.

anyways, hope everyone has a good week and Tori hope you are positive, at least one of us can get lucky without a lot of stress.

[hardworkinmama]

Tori-- welcome back! I joined the boards right around the time you left, I think. I have my fingers crossed for you and I hope AF decides not to show this time around for you. I don't know if you read through all the posts to get caught up, but APemberton has left the boards and is taking a break from TTC. Her and Drew are just a few short days (11 I believe) away from thier wedding and have been focusing on that. ruth_petty got herself a sticky bean and is due in April, she's over on the April board with quite a few other ladies that were on here. Keep us updated on AFs status and maybe you can start the June board!:D

nurse-- you've only had 3 AFs all year??????:eek: Did you mention that before? Were you on BC and what kind if so? That would make if very tough to know when to BD if your cycles are just that crazy without BC. Sorry you have to wait so long to get into the doctors.

As for me, I am in the middle of the TWW. I have been very gassy the past day and a half, my nipples are tender when I lay on my stomach, and I am have slightly more than usual creamy discharge. I don't know if these are symptoms of PG or AF so I try to think that they are for AF so that I don't get excited. All of these also just started yesterday late afternoon, so I guess we will see next week.

[excited4mommyhood]

Hardworkinmama - yes, I remember you, I think you started posting around the same time that I stopped. I have been reading through and I am really glad that Amanda & Drew are getting married, maybe the relaxation will help with the babymaking! And good for Ruth!!! Thanks for the updates - I'm looking forward to chatting regularly with all of you!!!

Nurse - Thanks for the support - I'm happy to be back, I'd LOVE to start the June board ;)

Good night all!!!

[aminor]

Good morning ladies!!!

Tori - Welcome back! I think we used to post some together, it's been a while!! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that those feelings are a positive for you!!! I have been feeling the same way this month, and I'm hoping it means that there is a little bean growing in there, but we will see!!!

Hard - I have been having the same kind of symptoms as well, either of pg or af, I'm not sure! I've almost felt like I was going to start AF this past weekend, even though it's not due until this next weekend...but I'm really hoping that I don't this time around...we will see!

Well, I'm on CD 24 out of what has been a 29-30 day cycle...so not too much longer and I will know for sure, hopefully!!! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for all of you, so please do the same for me!!!

Have a great week!!!

[djasinski]

Well... I am expecting AF in 2 days but I took an EPT yesterday before my hubby headed off for the week and it was negative. I am just so confused since I did spot for 4 days after Oing. But I am trying to stay optimistic. I have been so tired lately and just worn out- more than usual. I am having HAs daily and I just dont feel like myself. But I really think I might just being going crazy- like making up symptoms in my head. TCC will drive any sane person crazy right?

[excited4mommyhood]

Good evening ladies! Just checking in before Monday Night Football!

I agree, DJASINSKI, my experience w/ TTC has made me go a little nuts...I'm trying to take it easy and not drive the hubby too crazy :D but it's uncanny how during TTC, every twinge and cramp leads to OMG IT'S HAPPENING!!! Additionally, what a tease that most early pregnancy symptoms are PMS symptoms - CRUEL joke, Mother Nature!!!

In my case, still no AF - good news! Random hot flashes (I posted a thread about them last night, but no one has responded :( lol) I'm lucky enough to work with my BFF and she sent me home at about noon -- I had gotten progressively lightheaded, nauseous and pale from 10 am on. I was so sick by 1 pm, DH wanted me to go to the emergency room (he's a little dramatic, and he was of course not home, so just worried I guess). However, I ate a tiny bit of rice (all I seemed to be interested in) and I felt fine almost immediately...

BBs still pretty sore, feel swollen to me, DH isn't sure (I'm pretty busty lol) And I am sooooo tired, no matter what I do!

I'm going to wait until AT LEAST Thursday or Friday to test...I don't want to be disappointed and by that point it would be into the 5th week, so little chance of a false negative.

I'm hopeful but not "sure"; if I'm not preggo, then I'm curious what made me so sick and then fine in a matter of 3 hours! Keep your fingers crossed...

Hopefully, there will be lots of babydust and sticky beans over the next few weeks - have a great night!!!

[hardworkinmama]

Tori-- since you are already late you shouldn't get any false readings. You have more will power than me if you can wait until Thursday! My fingers are crossed super tight for you.

aminor-- it's like we are twins or something! Yesterday I felt as though AF was going to start in the next few days but I am not due to start until Friday or Saturday. How weird that we are having the same symptoms? Fingers crossed for both of us!

dj-- we have all been there on the thinking we are crazy and making up symptoms in our head. The power of suggestion can be overwhelming, that's why sugar pills work. Since you aren't late yet it could have just been too early to get a positive on an HPT. Don't count yourself out until AF shows.

LPKP-- sorry AF showed up. Sorry I missed you last time. Keep your head up and enjoy trying next month.

cobalt-- welcome to the group. I hope your journey is short and enjoyable.

[jenfalco]

Hey all haven't been on in a while. I had hell week last week. Af showed up I wasn't surprised though and I'm not really sad. It was our first month really trying no biggie. Dh wound up in the hospital etc I'm glad this weed is better good luck everyone

[Lilypad]

Hi ladies!

AF showed on Saturday so I am on CD 5. So, next week will be busy during what will hopefully be O time! I am hoping that first time is the charm!

Tori - everything is crossed for you that this is the month!! Welcome back!

Looking forward to everyone who tests this week/weekend! Baby dust to all!

[hardworkinmama]

Jen-- sorry bout AF and I hope that this "weed" is better for you too! LOL

Lily--sorry bout AF!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hey ladies. Sorry I haven't been on in awhile, I've been super busy. My brother ended up staying for 2 weeks instead of 1 (for those of you who know about that). We made sure he had a good time, but I'm super wore out from it still! AF showed up in the middle of the night Sat/Sun. I wasn't to disappointed, I was almost positive we missed O. With my brother being here BDing was almost impossible. I got for my yearly in November so hopefully something will be figured out. I will be on Cycle # 11 almost 12 by then.

Hope to see some BFP's here soon...I see we have some good symptoms going on! Good luck ladies!

Sorry I didn't have time to respond to everyone's post...only had a few minutes before heading out!

[taraken]

Hey Ladies! Sorry I haven't been on in a long time. Since accepting the new position I have been doing two jobs. Today is the last day of that thankfully. Anyway I am not doing all that well. AF came on Sunday. I am so down about this TTC thing now. We are now on Cycle #10 trying for baby #1. It has gotten so hard and to know we are only 3 months away from falling into the infertile (by definition) category doesn't help. I look around and everyone I know is preggo...but me. So many of them just complain....I just want to smack them and tell them to count their blessings. I don't know why. This has hit me soo hard today. I think it is the first time I have had the chance to think about it over the past few weeks. I don't know how to get out of this funk. I need to lose some weight...and exercise more....because that will help.

Tori~ Welcome back. I am glad you are back on the wagon. I have my fingers crossed for you.

I am behind on everyones posts. So I will catch up. How are you all doing?

[excited4mommyhood]

Morning all -

AF just showed - BOO to that! Though as of this morning, I was pretty sure she was on her way; my BBs were nowhere as sore and I was feeling crampy. I'm only mildly disappointed (because I would not allow myself to get too excited LOL) Just more BDing in store, I suppose...

Tara - I'm so sorry that you're feeling down :( I know lots and lots of preggo ladies, and my boss' wife jsut had a beautiful little boy 2 weeks ago - babies are EVERYWHERE around me! And screw those "definitions" - it will happen for us all, I'm sure of it! XOXOXO

[djasinski]

Well AF has not shown up yet and was dur today so.... MAYBE MAYBE this was the month. PLease everyone keep me in your thoughts!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

You're DEFINITELY in my thoughts, DJ! :D Here's hoping you'll start off the June boards!

[LPKP]

Hardworkinmama - Thanks, I will keep my head up! Just a few more days and it'll be time to try again.

dj - Lots of luck to you!

[hardworkinmama]

Tori-- I am so super bummed for you and I am glad that you are so upbeat about it. Have fun with the trying this month.

LPKP-- have fun during O week!

dj-- fingers crossed! Hopefully you will be our first BFP for June!

Tara-- glad to have you back! I know how frustrating 10 months is (am there myself right now) but like Tori said, screw the definitions. They are just guidelines anyway. It will happen for you!

Proud-- glad to see you back. I am glad that you had such a good time getting to know your brother. It's wonderful that you got all that time with him. I hope that this next month is your month, my fingers are already crossed for you.

Nothing new to report here, just sitting around waiting for AF to show or not. I expect her this weekend so we will see!

[djasinski]

No AF yet but I took a test this morning and it was negative. Now I am starting to wonder if the 4 days I BARELY spotted was a period!! BUt that would mean my last cycle was only 19 days when it is usually 30-32 days!! ARRRRRRGGGGGG. I am so frustrated. I am going to buy ovulation tests today. Hubby is only home on the weekends and we do the BD every Thurs Fri Sat and some Sun. But atleast if I get the tests I can figure out if I am ovulating. I am just so frustrated right now.
EXCITED- HARD -AND LPKP- Thanks for your support, maybe there is a chance I am and just still dont know it.

[aminor]

Good morning ladies! I hope everyone is doing well this morning...it is chilly here!!! And I have been in a coffee mode here the past week...and that is SUPER strange for me, because I am not a coffee drinker, but I sure have been this week!! It's probably because it is chilly here and I want something to warm me up...

Hard - We are definitely twins, there is no doubt about it...haha. We are feeling the same way, on the same cycle, I think we are even set for AF to show around the same time aren't we???

Jen - I hope everything is okay with your DH after having to go to the hospital! I'm sorry about AF showing for you...but you have a great attitude about it, which helps to get through these cycles...

Lilypad & LPKP - Both of you have fun during O time and good luck!!! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Tiffany - Sounds like things went great with your brother, I'm hoping so at least...I am SO sorry about AF showing...I know it is frustrating when you want to BD but can't because of houseguests....my sister has been a "houseguest" of ours for the past year...but she just told me yesterday that she is moving out this next week!!!! Yay!!! It will make ttc so much easier once we have our house back to ourselves!!!

Taraken - Sorry about AF!!! Believe me, I know how hard hitting cycle 10 is...you hear all of these statistics - 75% of couples conceive within 9 months - I shot that one out of the water...90% of couples conceive within 18 months (that's a BIG jump there, 9 - 18 months, geez!!) But remember, these are just statistics...there are also statistics that state that you are more likely to conceive a child at a younger age, being unmarried, if your mother did that...well my mother was preggers at 16, ended up marrying my dad at 17, right before the baby was due...they ended up having 3 more kids...and none of us have had any kids, and we are ages 30, 26, 23, 21...so we beat that statistic as well...Just remember, just because there is a statistic doesn't mean that it will hold true for you!!! Keep your head up high, and I will be keeping you in my thoughts!!

Tori - I'm SO sorry about AF...have fun and good luck during O time...make it fun - my hubby said this past cycle...are we going to be like some of these couples and only have sex to try to make a baby? Or can we have it all the time still...I don't EVER want him to think that I am just trying to get a baby out of him, and that's the only reason that I want to BD...it has to be fun and exciting or it will become routine and you will end up hating sex...

DJ - I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for you for no AF and a little bean!! I hope that the test was wrong...out of date, or something...haha!

Now that I have written a novel....I am on CD 27 of what has been a 29-30 day cycle...so it's almost the moment of truth for me...I am thinking that AF is going to show though either on Sunday or Monday...I have been having some really bad lower back pain since last week...and I'm thinking it's a sign of AF...we will see!!! I am definitely hoping not, because I want there to be a little bean so bad that I can barely stand it - but I also know that it will come when the time is right too...I just have to try to stay sane in the meantime!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Tara- I'm on cycle # 11 now and I so feel the frustration you are feeling! So is 13 months considered infertile? Hopefully that is just a definition and not our true destiny!

Excited- Sry AF showed...I know how bad it sucks and disappointing it can be. On to next month...hope it's everyone's month for a BFP who didn't get lucky once again this month!

Hard- The time spent with my brother was wonderful. He's only 17 and having a hard time being away from all his friends and the family that was out in Utah. I'm hoping he can accept things here and stay. I miss him so much already and he hasn't even been gone a full week! As far as TTC my fingers are crossed for you! We need a BFP this is getting depressing...

Dj- Hope you figure things out...Maybe you are PG and don't have enough HCG...rare but normal. Can you get a blood test?

Aminor- Things went great with my brother! It was actually worth not being able to BD to much. Of course the day he left I started AF so just being able to BD for the pleasure was out of the question to. It's over now and time to get to it! Haha...hopefully not TMI!

[LPKP]

aminor - Thanks, I will keep my fingers crossed for you as well!

[excited4mommyhood]

I just have to say this -- I am SO ready to be pregnant!! I love my life, my husband, my job, my family, my friends, my dog...but I really, truly cannot WIAT to be a mommy!!!!!!

My 30th birthday is less than 6 months away, and I for some reason had that as a benchmark for my family: 1st child before 30. I don't know why...and I'm not down or depressed or obsessed...just excited and somewhat anxious (and a lil jealous when i see babies and mommies)

Just venting a little bit - I could write a novel - just having one of those OMG I WANT THAT STICKY BEAN SO BAD days. I hope all is well with everyone :D

Any new news?

[MadsMomma]

Hello Ladies! Sorry it's been a few pages. But honestly and I know you're all going to kill me for saying this because we are one anothers support group, but seriously, I steer myself away from here on purpose sometimes. I find myself trying to fill my head with everything else so that I am not thinking about TTC all the time. So for all of us that start our posts out with: "Sorry it's been so long"- I hear ya- I get it, if your like me. Some months it just helps to stay busy and BD for fun! EX. I know this couple that TTC for almost 5 years and then all the sudden they stopped trying and "gave up"- they had fun and didn't think about it...that same month- they got pregnant! The Lord works in mysterious ways. So there's my theory.

Lndsy-Welcome! There are some great ladies here to help and we all have opinions and knowledge!

Lpkp- Sorry to hear about AF. So trying in Oct. now?

Excited-welcome back! So how did it help you to stay away for awhile?

Nurse- Not O'ing at all? Whats going on in there? What did the doc say? And how do you know for sure you aren't O'ing?

Hard- how's it going? Any similarities we have this month? Did AF arrive for Oct. or no :-)!?

As for me I am on CD 34. And officially 2 days late. I am sure that AF will show up any time now, bc just like last month, diff symptoms so I don't know exactly when I O'ed. (And I'm normally so good as listening to my body)

By the way ladies, I'm not saying to stay away from the board and lose our support group- I'm just meerly saying, we should pace our selves on information/ conversation overload. Just an idea.

P.S. Dunno what you guys watch, but Kourtney Kardashian AND Kendra Wilkinson are both very pregnant right now! And I feel the girl who posted "Everyone is poppin out babies but me!" I hear ya, it makes ya think if the stars can do it on "accident" - why can't we do it on purpose???

[hardworkinmama]

Mads-- I understand wanting to get away. I think we all need it to stay sane throughout this process.

Tori-- I get you on the timeline thing. I wanted my kids to be 2 1/2 years apart but spermies missed the egg last month so that isn't happening.

dj-- sorry about AF. It is possible that the spotting was AF, I had a glitch back in January where I had a 19 day cycle. Hopefully if it was then you will be back on track this month.

aminor-- have you tested? Has AF shown up? Only 1 or 2 more days of waiting. My fingers are crossed super tight for you.

Proud-- are you coming up on O time again? I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Swim, spermies, swim!

I don't know if any of you have noticed my siggy but it has changed. I got my BFP today, Saturday Oct. 10th. I woke up this afternoon and my gut told me to take a test. The line was faint and I had DH come in to look and make sure I wasn't crazy, he saw it too! We are so excited but aren't telling anyone in real life yet. I plan on taking a digital test on Monday to be 100% sure and will then call the doctor. We will probably start telling people soon after that because I stink at keeping secrets. Good luck to all of you ladies and I will be checking in every so often. Thanks to everyone for all of your support over these last few months. :D

[cobalt]

Thanks all for the welcomes to the group. Had AF visit so our first round of TTC didn't work but am trying to stay positive and keep it fun and will try round two. Still worried that my time on depo may make TTC harder but like I said trying to stay positive.

Congrats hardworkinmama!

[djasinski]

CONGRATS HARD!!!!

Still no AF for me but I have had 3 neg tests so I am thinking maybe I am expecting AF around the 23rd (when I spotted last month) so we will just see what happens

[aminor]

Hard - OMG!!!! Congratulations...I'm REALLY hoping we are twins now!!! Haha!

I have not tested because I am down at my mom's house for a few days, and I haven't been thinking much about it. I got here on Saturday and plan on leaving tomorrow, even though I have been missing DH horribly, because he is still at home...

Right now I am on CD 31, but I am thinking that it will turn into CD 1, because I am SO feeling like AF is about to show up...I have been SO emotional here lately, and I've had really bad back pain for about a week and a half now, I'm also feeling some light crampiness in my abdomen...so we will see...if AF does not show, I will be testing when I get back home on Tuesday, so tomorrow!!

Good luck to everyone else!!

[LPKP]

Hardworkinmama - OMG I'm so happy for you! Please keep us posted.

Madsmomma - Yes, we have been trying the last couple of days so hopefully it will happen, if not we'll try again in November. I hope AF doesn't show up for you!

[hardworkinmama]

Aminor-- don't want to get your hopes up but I was having light cramping to where I couldn't tell if it was AF cramps or not. Also I was having a lot of lower back pain and just uncomfy boobies! My fingers are still crossed for you since she hasn't shown up yet.

Thanks for all the congrats everyone!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- OMG OMG OMG! I'm sooo excited for you! Congratulations! I'm thinking I'm O today...I know it seems super early, but I'm cramping so bad it's making me sick! Hope I'm soon to follow you. Keep us updated!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Excited- I know it's impossible to have a baby by your 30th bday, but it's very possible to be pregnant by then! I wish you the best of luck!

Mads- I totally agree with you about the stars. It isn't just them though it's like I hear everyone saying, "I'm pregnant" and when you ask if they were trying they are like no! It aggravates me soooo bad. Especially, when it's someone who I'm sorry to say, but doesn't really need a child at this point and time in their life. It will be our time sometime:(

Dj- Good luck. I know it's hard when your cycles are messed up.

Aminor-- My fingers are crossed that she don't show up! Can't wait to hear, keep us posted!

As for me, I didn't get to post much last night so I am taking the time this morning. Feel like I haven't responded to you ladies in forever. I've been super busy! Hoping that's kept my mind off enough to get it done this month!:) Yesterday I was out of town at a hair show and I started cramping super bad and then got sick to my stomach. This lasted until around 11 or 12 last night. I'm hoping it was O...and I'm sure as everyone knows I sucked up feeling like crap and BDed! Hope we hit the jackpot!

[aminor]

Well...AF showed this morning...giving me a 31 day cycle...I'm SO frustrated!!!! On to cycle # 11...and I don't know what else we can do...I'm going to try to take a break from coming on the boards for a while, and just really stop "trying"...that's all I know to do to keep my sanity...I need to schedule my yearly for December, but I may see if I can get in to see someone in November...

I just want to say good luck to all of you ladies!!! I will hopefully be back with good news the next time you hear from me!!! Thank you for all of your support for almost a year now, and I hope only the best for all of you!!!

[MadsMomma]

Hard- OMG'sh! Congratulations! We are all so happy for you! I love to see a happy ending! Well keep us updated, I'm sure ur on to a new board- lol! And just for everyone's piece of mind....how long did it take u before u conceived? So that we can all keep our hopes on and know that it will happen!

LPKP- Good luck! ANd I kept thinking that AF would show up any day now, but I am 5 days late and still no word. I called the doctor yesterday and she said to wait until I am a week late and then the HcG should deff show in an AHPT by then. So we shall see!

Proud-I hear you! You're 100% right! It's not just the stars, it's everyone. And AGAIN you're right! They aren't ever trying, they just "end up" pregnant! My aunt is on baby #4 and she just announced she is pregnant to the family and I asked when they started trying and she said "Oh, we weren't. I don't have to try to get pregnant, I just sneeze and I'm pregnant again." What is that? I asked whats in her water? Ha! Also, two of my friends just found out they are pregnant again. Not to metion the 800 people I know on Facebook are ALSO pregnant. With all their ultrasounds and baby bumps pictures up. Anyways, it's not that I'm unhappy for any of them, but I just wanna know....How do they do it? Lol!

Well take care ladies and I'll let you know what comes out for friday! And again

********CONGRATS TO HARDWORKIN !!!!!!*************************

[Lilypad]

Congrats, Hard!! That is so great!

Mads - here's hoping you are next!

Aminor -- whatever you need to do to for your sanity is best. The support will still be here if you need to return -- hopefully the rest will be what you need and you will come back with news of a bfp!!

Proud -- hopefully this is the month for you too!

As for me -- this should be o-week for our first month of trying. I am hoping this is it, but we will see!

[taraken]

Hard~ YEAH!!! You give me hope! Congrats on the little bean!
Aminor~ Sorry about AF. I totally know what you mean. I have been only allowing myself to come on here every few days because it is hard.
Lily~ Good luck! Any symptoms?
Mads~ Fingers crossed for you! I also agree...DH tells me to stay away from FB because I am always like so and so is preggo...and they just got married...or it was on accident. I am happy for them..but it always makes you think something is wrong.
Tori~ This month will be our month...I hope! I remember thinking how similar our stories were before..so I am glad you are back...and I get a chance to cheer you on! I am 28 and DH were hoping to have two by 30 and then be done with it. We started when I was 27.....10 months ago. So I doubt we will ever make that deadline unless we have twins! HEHE!
Proud~ Hope you were right about Oing!!! Now for the dreaded TWW! ;) So 12 months without conceiving under 35 is considered infertile. If you have had a baby before the definition is different. The good thing is that we only have 2 more months and the doc will start doing testing which would at least give me some hope.
Cobalt~ You are only one month one...don't be concerned! :) I know tons of people who did DEPO and got preggo!
So do any of you have the OV watch? I am thinking about getting one! Let me know!

[excited4mommyhood]

CONGRATULATIONS HARD!!! So excited for you!

Tara - Yep, we're pretty much twins LOL. It would be GREAT for this to be the month! * fingers crossed * And like you, we "started" 10 months ago, but stopped the charting and counting after just 3 months - DH just wasn't having fun (plus there were other family-ish issues). But for me, going back onto barrier protection super sucked, not simply because it prevented pregnancy, but mostly because it took the spontanity out of sex, and I found THAT was keeping ME from having fun. So now we're not preventing, I'm keeping track of days, but we're just making love and hoping that a baby will come outta that!

As for getting off the boards for awhile, I totally get that sometimes you need a break (clearly I did, as I was gone for 4-ish months) but I'm so glad to be back. I really enjoy this support group of women in a similar situation to mine! None of my friends are TTC, and there's really no one else to talk to, so I'm glad to be back!

I hope that everyone is having a good day. Congrats again, Hard! :D Keep us up to date when you can & celebrate!!!

[mumof2grls]

hey ladies just popping in to let yous know i had my daughter..2 weeks early at 38 weeks..very surprising for me! all is well and shes a sweetie..hope everyone is well..ttys

mum

Bella born 10/04/2009 7lbs 19.5 inches

[excited4mommyhood]

Awwwww Mum, Bella is GORGEOUS! And I love the name! What are your other 2 girls' names? (I'm sure that you've said them before, I just can't remember) I'm very very happy for you - God Bless :D xoxoxo

[Kimbo305]

Hello all! My name is Kim, I am 22. Recently married my Jr. high sweetheart in June. We have been best friends for 11 years and have been together 7. We finally tied the knot and are now settling down and living life. We recently agreed that we want to be young parents and want to start a family relatively soon (sooner than later!). We have a dog, 2 cats, and 4 fish. I recently went off bc at the end of August and we haven't been ttc but not preventing either. What happens is meant to be. We will actively begin ttc in January if we are not pg by then. I have been reading all of your posts since July and you all seem to be amazing women and I will pray for all you!!

[MadsMomma]

Lily- Good luck! ANd thanks, unfortunate to say AF showed up today 6 days late!!! ARe you kiddin me? I was so mad- anyways- nothing has worked. Moving on...

Tara-Yup! My DH tells me the same about FB too! But sometimes you just cant help it.

Kim- welcome! This is a very close knit and very supportive group here! Can I ask why u decided to wait to actively TTC until January? Just curious...

Hard-I wanna hear your answer to how long....

[Kimbo305]

Mads- That is a good question. I think it's because we are shooting to have a baby next Oct. We may never actually hit active ttc, just have fun with it. Thanks for asking me that, now I am going to sit down and think about it!

[cobalt]

mum and hard ~ Congrats to the both of you!
taraken ~ Thanks for the encouragement.

It is nice to keep up with these boards and read encouraging words :) Thanks to all for sharing.

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Thanks to all who have wished me well this month! I wish the same for all of you!

Mum- She is absolutely adorable! Hope I have one of those in the next year! Congratulations!

Good luck to those of you who are about to test! Also to those of you Oing or about to be Oing! I sure hope I hit the spot the other night! I've decided no matter how tired or whatever I am...We are BDing from CD 11 to CD 21 at least every other night possibly every night! Getting into the months where we would be big and prego in the summer...bluh! That's all I will say about it though...I would enjoy every minute of it! :)

[hardworkinmama]

Sorry Mads! We actively started TTC in Dec08 so from there it took 11 months. We have not been using any sort of BC since April 06, we had Tiarnan Nov 07, AF came back in Feb 08, so technically you could say it took 20 months. I am going with 11 though since before Dec08 we weren't paying attention to anything.
And sorry AF showed up, try to pay really close attention to when you O. That's what I did this last month. According to all the calendars I should have O'd around the 21st but I didn't until the 26th. Pay close attention to CM and if you're comfortable, try checking your cervical position. When it's high and soft, you are close to O time, when it goes back to low and hard, you've already O'd.

Good luck to everyone! I hope all of your journeys are almost complete.

[excited4mommyhood]

Still super stoked for you, Hard! Hope you're feeling well!

Cobalt - I so feel the same way about the boards. When we started TTC, I might have gone even MORE crazy then I actually did without this support network! And now that we're just kinda going with the flow, hopeful but not obsessive like before (well, at least for me, DH was never obsessed LOL), I'm finding the comments and stories even more enjoyable :D

Quick question --- have any of you ladies done Robitussin thing, to aid w/ CM? I never had an issue before, my CM was always there around O time, but these past few months, I've not noticed it as much...Just wondering if anyonehad tried it!

I too hope that everyone's TTC path will be met with sticky beans very soon! In the meantime, I am going to work very hard to remember that it's just as much about the journey as it is about the destination!!!

Happy thoughts all arounds :D

[nursetolove]

hey ladies! sorry it took me so long to get back on the boards. a lot has been going on recently and blah blah but im back. missed everyone though...

so still no AF. its been since august 25, ugh. constantly having cramping and whatnot but nothing. took two tests this last week, both positive, but quant level was non-existant so i guess im not ovulating? sigh. got my appt with the dr moved up to monday so we will see what he says. if im not ovulating then we'll need to figure out how to kick start this bad boy so at least i can get regular so this can actually happen. for a week it was nice to think that i couldhave been pregnant... anyways, hopefully everyone is doing well.

good luck to all you girls. its nice to read everyone's positive attitudes while we work at this. it makes me tough it up myelf :) ill be back on tom before i go to work.

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- We are on month 11 so I hope it's our lucky month as well! I'm soo excited for you...a bit jealous but that's how this board works...right? I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy you deserve every bit of it!

Excited- I love your positive attitude. I need some of that sometimes! I hope we are all about to end our TTC journey as well, but you are right...in the future we will tell stories about this journey and the wonderful destination!

Nurse- I'm confused. Don't know if I missed something along the way or what, but you had two positives and aren't pregnant? Sorry if I'm missing something and asking again. Either way I hope things work our for you and the rest of us! We all want our little beans soon!

As for me, I could of swore I O Monday. I was cramping so bad! Then yesterday I was so very sure again. I'm going to go with yesterday since it's in a more sensible day in my cycle. I had EWCM and my cervical position is right where it needed to be I believe! Possibly TMI...Needless to say we BDed and I made sure to just rest with my behind in the air for awhile so I could be sure it got where it needed to be. I've started doing that position around O time because I've heard that's the best to conceive when you have a tilted uterus. Hoping it worked! Guess it's off for the dreaded TTW!

Hope all you ladies have a great weekend!

[hardworkinmama]

Proud-- I certainly hope this is your month too. We need some more people on the June board (if that's when you would be due). I also did the elevated butt thing this last time around, and when I conceived Tiarnan, so I hope it was the piece of the puzzle that was missing for you too. Good Luck. I understand the jealousy, I had it every month as well.

nurse-- what kind of tests did you take last week that were positive? Were they OPKs or PG? Whatever the outcome I hope it's a good one.

Tori-- again thank you! Keep up the positive attitude, it will do wonders!

[excited4mommyhood]

Gotta stay positive, right? I mean, if we don't, then this whole journey is for nothing...sure, we might end up with a baby in the end, but it will just be (as my husband would say) like a science experiement. I'm excited and optimistic, and I know conception is not ever a guarantee, so I will no longer allow myself to obsess.

TMI (perhaps) ahead: since DH & I have decided to relax and enjoy babymaking, BDing is FAR more exciting and enjoyable. If anyone has been TTC for awhile, and the "magic" is fading, I highly recommend that you stop counting every day and charting, etc., for awhile :D I'm in heaven...and I cannot WAIT until the sticky bean comes, but he/she will join our family when he/she is ready!!!

Hard/Proud - Weird question, I think, but here goes...how high do you all elevate your butts after BDing? I've used 2 pillows, and I still don't feel like it's high enough. Maybe I should remove the pillow that is usually behind my head? Maybe that's my missing puzzle piece as well!

Have an enjoyable weekend all - hope that everyone is BDing their hearts out :P

[nursetolove]

hardworkinmamma-congrats!!!! i read your post wrong and didn't realize that you were definately positive. thats awsome. im so happy for you (of course i wouldnt be normal if i wasnt a bit jealous :)...) anyways

yeh i know im confused too. last fri and sunday i took two pregnancy tests that were positive (walmart equate brand which by the way has allllllways worked for me, never any problems) anyways so i bugged my OB to get a quant. it was like 0.7 so basically nonexistant. my heart just dropped when the nurse said that 2 days ago. of course the nurses at work were saying oh well you still might be i know so and so's godmother's cousins step sister who had a negative blood test but was pregnant keep after it, but i have a feeling the most simple answer is the most accurate one in that i just havent ovulated since august sigh. has anyone ever heard of this happening? so i made an appt with my OB on monday to figure out what is going on and to get me to start and regulate things or no chances obviously.

im working this weekend (the big 26 today, sigh) so ill be back on here on monday after my appt. good luck to you all. everyone here is so nice and supportive. im glad i found this group.

[hardworkinmama]

nurse-- I have heard that false positives are VERY rare. I bet your OB does another PG test on Monday. I have heard of people not ovulating for awhile, that is what causes irregular periods. I'm sure whatever the outcome on Monday it will help you to reach your end goal of a pregnancy.

Tori-- I just used one pillow ( a fluffy one) and I did have a pillow under my head as well. The main thing is to elevate the hips a bit, it's thought that it will help gravity pull the sperm down to the uterus. And your right, it definitely helps to keep the act of BDing fun and exciting. I found that lingerie helps.

[excited4mommyhood]

Hard - yeah I was thinking about getting some lingerie, I havent bought anything new in quite some time! I've been concerned about my CM, so I'm contemplating using the Robitussin method next month if we don't get a BFP...I will DEFINITELY elevate my hips, hopefully those swimmers find their way!

I am pretty sure that I will O at some point this week, probably Thursday, Friday or Saturday. I will not be home Sat night, so l will have to be sure we get busy Friday and Sunday :D

Enjoy what's left of the weekend XOXOXO

[excited4mommyhood]

Question for experts...

When EWCM "presents" itself, have I already ovulated? Or is ovulation soon to follow? I seem to have an abundance today (sorry if TMI...but I am just wondering) We did some BDing yesterday, but I assume that we should again today? And/or tomorrow? Any advise? HELP lol -- I know that we're "lazily" trying to conveive, no pressure, but I have a good feeling :D

XOXOXO

[Lilypad]

Tori - it is my understanding that you are about to ovulate when EWCM shows up. This is the CM that is the best consistency for sperm to travel through to get to the egg...so, I would make sure to bd tonight too!

I too had EWCM show up last Thurs and I felt what I hope is ovulation cramping too! We did bd and now this is the waiting period! UGH

As hard mentioned in another post, you can also check cervical position with EWCM it should be high and soft as opposed to low and hard.

Good luck!!

[excited4mommyhood]

Thanks lily! I will be certain to check the next time I visit the little girls' room! I have had some cramping today, maybe it's O!!!

[lndsymattingly]

Hey ladies! I was on here last month and am still new on the threads. Anyways, my husband and I were TTC for a month and guess what?? TWO POSITIVES! I'm about 4 1/2 weeks along. I was supposed to start this past Saturday, but I missed Saturday. And while I was grocery shopping at the store I was dizzy, and couldn't see out of my right eye, it was all stars! I was also really wanting apple juice. So I thought, ahhh what the hell, mind as well get a test. I tested at 3 in the afternoon and it came out positive! Never would have expected that! So I tested again this morning and sure enough, positive! I scheduled my appointment for November 11th, which would make me a little over 8 weeks! I'm a little nervous but yet so excited to bring a life into this world!

[aces]

New here - my first post. Just went off the Pill earlier this month. Hubby & I will officially be TTC in December but if we get lucky in the meantime we'll be thrilled. Hope to see you all on the birth month boards soon!

[excited4mommyhood]

Indsy - CONGRATULATIONS!!! That's such wonderful news :D I'm sorry that you got dizzy, of course, but what EXCITEMENT!! The absolute best of luck to you - 11/11 is your appointment date, huh? A special date for me - I'm sure it will become one for you as well!!

Aces - Welcome aboard! You know...they say that sometimes you're SUPER DUPER fertile right after you come off the Pill :D and if that's not the case, hey, just more fun, awesome loving and baby-making!! Enjoy it! And again, welcome to this crazy, amazing, SUPPORTIVE thread -- these women sometimes are the only things keeping me sane - sending babydust your way!

As for me...
Pretty sure I O'ed/am O'ing today. Didn't tell DH yet (his football team is on in 5 minutes LOL) but I will make sure that we BD tonight LOL. Even if his team loses, I'm sure he'll need some consoling love...and if they win, then it'll be celebratory! Either way, it'll be waylate tonight, but it'll be fun ;) Have a great night ladies!

[Lilypad]

lndsy - Congratulations!! Hope your pregnancy is an easy one!!

Aces -- I had heard the same thing as Tori -- first month after bc is very fertile! Good luck in your TTC adventure!

Tori -- hope you had a good night! ;) That football thing can get in the way sometimes!!

I am on day 20 of a usually 28-30 day cycle. This waiting part is killer!!

Have a great day, everyone!

[lndsymattingly]

Thank you!!! Thank you!!!

Crazy how much the hormones are changing at just 4 1/2 weeks. Mine are out of control so I'm not sure if this is going to be a smooth one ;) Have a great week ladies and I'll keep ya updated!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- Do you feel lingerie made the initiating part easier...because I know sometimes I'm tired and sometimes so is he, but when I'm Oing we need to get on the ball. Yet I hate just being like okay I'm Oing so lets do this! Haha

Excited- They are right. I just looked it up to make sure...when EWCM is present you are about to O. Although you can have EWCM again right before AF, but it doesn't mean you are going to O again. Hope that helps! Good luck! Hope you got some BDing in after late night football!

Indys- Congrats! Hope it's a happy & healthy 9 months!

Lily- I know the feeling of the wait! I'm on CD 19 of a 28-36 day cycle. I've only been longer than 32 once though so I am probably going to test on November 3rd if I haven't started since I'm supposed to start Nov. 2nd. Good luck!

[excited4mommyhood]

Of course I got my BDing in after football -- the Broncos won! LOL My husband nearly brought the house down!! But I never even got around to saying that I thought I had O'ed, I just started to initiate a little bit ;) I wasn't trying to be evasive, just never got around to it hahaha

It's just so weird. I was nearly swimming in CM for the past 2 days...and today, it's much, much less. And my cervix seems high and soft (I don't really know, haven't really checked before). I have no idea what that means, trying not to think about it too much...staying optimistic!

Babydust, babydust, babydust!!!

[Kimbo305]

Hi everyone! I have a question. AF showed on Friday, which means I had a 29 days cycle. She only lasted until Sunday night. Then yesterday(Tuesday) I was bleeding again but it was pink and a brownish color. Does anyone know what that means? Is it normal? Was it just AF finishing her business? It is accompanied by cramps, headaches and tenderness in my breasts. I have been off bc since August.

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Excited- Glad you got your BDing in and I'm not a Bronco's fan, but I'm glad that made him excited and was easier for you to initiate...haha! I'm not sure what high and soft means either. I believe low and soft is O and high and hard means not Oing. Guess it could mean you've already O. Not real sure on that one. I did find this helpful to thos of us who haven't done it much. (http://infertility.about.com/od/tryingtoconceive101/ht/cervixovulation.htm) I'm not the type to be grossed out easier or afraid of my own body so this wasn't a big deal for me. I just didn't know about it until Hard said something. I tried it this time and hope with the combination of EWCM and that I hit the nail on the head!

Kimbo- It could of been just a weird cycle. If I was you though I would test anyway. This saves you from missing out on any time of your pregnancy or doing something harmful that you wouldn't do had you known you were pregnant. Good luck!

As for me, there isn't much to say. Just in the dreaded TWW and trying to figure this whole cervical position thing out. Hope we did it this month! If not we are moving on to month 12 of somewhat trying and 9 months of actively trying. ( What I mean by somewhat is not charting or anything and actively I started to chart and check things out.) Still at this point I haven't tried OPK's or anything. Hoping I don't have to!

Hope you ladies are having a great Wednesday!

[aces]

Thanks for the welcome and the optimism! I checked out a couple of different websites for a good community and I liked this one the best. It’s like having your own expert cheering section.

Tori – I’m keeping my fingers crossed that the game was a thorough victory and you’ll have great news in a few weeks! It’ll be an awesome story to embarrass your kid with ;-)

Lily – hope the time goes fast for you!

Tiffany – thanks for posting the link, I had no idea how to go about that one. I just asked my husband if he thinks the idea is weird or hot and he votes for hot. That's a good way to add excitement to the TTC BD.

Is anyone tracking their temp? I started with that two weeks ago but it seems like I get a different result every time, even if I check it three times in a row (I splurged for the digital thermometer, thank goodness). Does the CM method seem to be more accurate?

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Aces- Not to ruin the whole hot thing for hubby, but this is something you should do on your own. You aren't supposed to do it when you are sexual arroused at all because wether you are O or not it can cause the cervix to move into a different position. As far as the CM goes, I think it works ok for me. With it and the cervical position I think I'm going to get it down if it happens that I didn't hit the jackpot this month. I ALWAYS look at my toilet paper except when AF is around. If it looks like it might be EWCM I will check...sometimes...most of the time it isn't. At least when it is I haven't missed it. Hope this helps...don't forget...DON'T check your cervical position when you are sexual arroused! It could move to where you think you are Oing and aren't then miss your actual O time. I now DH wants to be involved, but sometimes they need to let us explore ourselves! My DH doesn't even know I do it because he would want to watch and that would ruin what I'm trying to figure out. Also, you will learn a lot of us on here don't like to tell DH when we are Oing because he doens't perform as well when the pressure is on. Learn that somethings are better left unsaid. Haha. Good luck on your journey...sorry I've wrote you a book!

[hardworkinmama]

Hey ladies, just wanted to try to shed some light on the cervical position for you. When it's high and soft you will have a hard time reaching it with your fingertip. When it's low and hard you will be able to reach it no problem and it will feel hard, not squishy. I propped one foot up on the toilet and squatted down, then used my middle finger to feel for it. When it is hard to reach, it means that you are close to O time, when it is easy to reach, you have already O'd. I hope this clears up any confusion that I may have started.

And Proud, yes lingerie does make it easier to initiate and it makes it harder for him to say no.

baby dust to all!

[aces]

Thanks, ladies, I appreciate the advice! I tried it this morning post-shower. I'm guessing it was high, which makes sense because I think I'm mid-cycle, but it will be easier when AF comes so I can compare. What really makes this difficult is that I've been on the Pill for years and since I just went off I have no idea how long my cycle is. Best case scenario, of course, I won't have to find out ;-) but I'm not really expecting that.

[Kimbo305]

Proud- Thanks for the reply. I think it is just a wacky cycle. I tested this morning ad got a BFN. I need to let my cycles regulate (if they so choose to) then I will know a lot more about what is going on with myself. I was on bc pills for 7 and half years so it may take some time. My DH keeps asking me when we are going to actually start trying and I told him by January, that way hopefully I know when I am O'ing. Oh well we are having fun just doing what we are doing. Good luck all!

[excited4mommyhood]

Proud - LOL I'm actually not a Broncos fan either, I'm a NYC girl all the way -- Giants and Yankees for me! But my hubby is the biggest Bronco fan you'll find outside of Denver, and he was quite pleased with the results of the game ;)

Thanks everyone for the CM/cervical position tutorial LOL -- I never really got the difference in high/low, though I knew soft = O time. I appreciate the advice!

I don't know if we've ever discussed nutrition on this thread, but here goes. Now that I'm committed 100% to making my body a happy healthy home for a baby, I've made some dietary changes. First of all, I'm doing the very best that I can to limit my caffeine intake (I'm a VERY bad offender there!) and to drink OODLES of water. I'm also trying to eat less meat and more whole grains. I eat veggies by the pound anyway, so I am good there. I take the prenatal vitamin without fail every night. I am TRYING to include more dairy, which is a huge struggle for me. I'm not at all lactose intolerant, just don't like cheese (except Mozzerella lol), rarely drink milk, and HATE yogurt, cottage cheese, etc. I know, it's weird, but that's me :D And as far as excercise, I try to do work out 5 days a week (life does sometimes get in the way)

Does anyone have any other diet/nutrition ideas?

Babydust all around!!!

[APEMBERTON]

Hello All!!!
Some people on here know me already, but for the newbies...My name is Amanda,I am 23, DH is 24...just got married 6 days ago(WAHOO!)..we both work full-time, & have been TTC for 21 or 22 months now! I had to take a break from this thread because it was getting too painful to see all the BFP's! I am VERY excited for everyone who has gotten their BFP, but I was not in a good place, so I thought I would give it a break! DH & I have been just relaxing & not thinking about TTC! I haven't charted, checked my temp., or used OPK's in over 7 months now. I was hoping all the relaxing would help, but no such luck! So we decided we didn't want to ruin the holidays with possible bad news, so we are waiting until January & February to go back to the doctor! He will go in January, I will go in February! My yearly is in February so I thought I would kill 2 birds with 1 stone! Hopefully it is something small & easy to fix, but if it is something big(ie. IVF, etc.) we are officially going to make peace with everything & put our names on the adoption list! I am trying to stay postive & still hope we get a holiday surprise!!

I am trying to learn everybodys name & story..I have a bad memory so forgive me if I am slow!! :)
Tori..so glad to see you back!
Proud- glad to see you back too!
Tara- How are you doing?? Moved yet???
Hey to everyone else...if you are O-ing good luck......if you are in the TWW I hope the time flies by!
I don't really keep up with my cycle that much, but I think I am in the middle of mine..I will have to go back & check!! Oh & my cycles range from 26-40 days!!

BABYDUST!! :)

[MrsWagner]

Hello Everyone!

I am new to the boards and new to TTC! My husband and I just got married Oct 3rd. Originally we were going to wait a year or two before TTC but have decided now is a great time!! (I think we both got bit by the baby bug) I have been on BC Pills for 8-9 years now and just went off them. That time of the month just came and OMG was it horrible!!! I forgot how bad I got cramps back in the day... hopefully it will get better. I just got some prenatal vitamins at the store the other day and will start taking them tonight! I can not wait to start a family!

[excited4mommyhood]

Mrs. Wagner - Hi there! Welcome aboard! Married just a few weeks and in the TTC game - thats fabulous! Good luck with everything, I look forward to sharing this journey with you!

AMANDA!!!!!!!!!! I'm so glad you're back! I was thinking about you just the other day, thought about dropping you an email to ask about your wedding, etc. How was it?! Send me pics (you still have my email address, right?) or post them here if you can :D If you do, I will!

It's been a long week thus far for me -- and it's not over yet!!! I'm not sure if I've O'ed (DH not thrilled w/ OPKs, but we'll see) but I'm pretty sure that I did the other day. We're being super chill about TTC, so though I'm starting the 2WW, I'm going to do what I can to not think about it. I know this is absolutely an impossibility, if I O'ed 2 days ago, but I swear for the past day, things have been smelling weird to me! I had to throw away much lunch today (even though my co-worker said it smelled just fine) and my diet coke smelled like vanilla (again, my co-worker thought I was crazy...but I am, so whatever :P)

Babydust and stickybeans all around XOXOXO

[APEMBERTON]

Tori-I sent you a PM!! :) I am glad to see a familiar name, but I am not glad you are still here! Heck I am not happy either one of us are still here.lol. I hope those are early signs....you never know! I feel like with TTC we know our bodies SO well we could really pick up on symptoms early on!

Mrs.Wagner-Welcome! Looks like we have 2 things in common.. TTC & newlyweds Congrats on the marriage!! :) I was on BC for 6-7 years before I got off in February of 2008. I was told it doesn't matter how long you were on it is should only take 3-6 months to fully get out of your system, so hopefully it won't take too long for you! Oh & yes the cramps..I have cramps from HELL! I also forgot had bad they are without BC. It is still soooooo painful for me, but it will be worth it in the end! :)


Look at me..day 1 back on the boards & here I have already posted twice.lol. I am pathetic!
So TMI type question...before when I was doing OPK's & stuff the only I didn't try was watching my CM & checking my cervical position........
2 questions...
1-Do you check your cervical position everyday, or how often are you supposed to check it???
2- With CM...when you have it that means you are O-ing or you are about to O??
Again TMI I went from having none yesterday to having alot today..so could I possibly O-ing???

[excited4mommyhood]

Amanda - Cervical position should be checked daily - read hardworkinmama's post from earlier today, there's a lot of good info! Also, about the CM, if you have a lot today, O is soon to follow - maybe today or tomorrow. You and Drew need to get busy tonight & tomorrow ;)

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Hard- I might have to try that! Also, thanks for the information on the cervical position thing. I'm trying it and hope it helped this month! Hope everything is good with your family and the little bean!

Aces- It would be great for you not to have to find out, but I wouldn't get to excited. I've learned that only hurts in the long run!

Kimbo- Your Welcome! Hope the journey is short and enjoyable.

Excited- Glad to hear that! I've been having the same problem with the smell thing! It would of only been a little over a week for me, but who knows. I'm not getting to excited, but I'm ready for the wait to be over. I really shouldn't test until Nov. 3rd. We will see if I can hold out that long!

Amanda- So glad to see you back! I'd love to see some pics as well! I'm praying we can all end this journey soon! I believe it's Tori, you, and I left from either the first or second board! It's time for us to move onto the birth date board already!

I'm just in the TWW! Not much to report besides smells are crazy to me and I've been feeling queezy the past few days. Hoping it's related to pregnancy even though it's early for those symptoms, but we will see!

Babydust to all!

[nursetolove]

hey girls. glad to see everyone is doing well and we have some new girls to the thread. so i went to the OB monday and he said no i definately was not pregnant, which i kinda figured. anyways, he started me on Provera and then i start Clomid 3 days after i stop provera and stay on it from day 3-7 of my cycle. so i know this should be an easy question and i figure i am overthinking this but ill ask anyways, ovulation is around 14 days after the start of the first day of the AF correct? sooooo ok do we do the BDing the day before, day of and day after or just the day of? i know im overthinking this. i just dont want to mess it up. i see him again in 5 weeks for an US bc he seems confident i will be positive by then...wish i had that much hope, ha. i cant believe i asked those questions but i just want to get it right this month while im on all this stuff. thanks for you help.

[excitedsarah]

I am excited to have a baby someday, but am getting so discouraged.
My friend had predicted that it would take me awhile to conceive, and I am thinking she may be right. I has been 13 mos now, and not prego yet.
Everyone else around me is pregant, and I can't stop thinking about it.
I am on prenatals, off birth control, and have slightly irregular periods. A/f never comes on the same day, it is always delayed by a few days or so. 3 mos ago, A/F lasted for two weeks for about two months in a row, then last month a/f was normal cycle, so I was hoping that this was the pill just getting out of my system and that is why my period was regular.
I just went to the doctor, and she mentioned thatshe is going to test me for PCOS. I hope I don't have any issues, because my husband does no want to adopt, and we definitely do not have the funds for IV, or most infertility procedures.
Please somebody pray for me to get pregnant so I can stop worrying and getting upset when everyone around me is prego.

QUESTION:
DID ANYONE HAVE ACNE PROBLEMS AFTER THEY STOPPED TAKING THE PILL? MY SKIN WAS SO CLEAR, AND THEN BAM, IT'S ALL OVER MY FACE NECK, AND BACK.

[excited4mommyhood]

Nurse - You usually ovulate 14 or so days before your period arrives. It's not always 14 days post-AF. It depends on your cycle. For me, my crazy cycle comes just about whenever it damn well pleases! My GYN and other sources suggest BD every other day from day 10 - day 20 or 22. That way you have plenty of swimmers ready to meet the egg when it drops. If you have a longer cycle, you may want to even BD every other day until AF arrives (or that beautiful BFP shows :) * here's hoping *)

Sarah - I know how you feel. My hubby read an article recently about a woman experiencing very similar symptoms to those I suffer regularly (moderate acne, weight gain in the middle, lightheadedness, irregular periods, etc.); she has PCOS. I have been telling my GYN for over a year that I think that I might as well, and she brushed it off. Once my husband read the article, it just reaffirmed what I have been thinking, and I called for and made a December 1st appointment with a well-renowned OB/GYN group in my area. That way, I will have almost 12 months of TTC under my belt and almost the same amount of cycle-charting to show. I am praying for you, and everyone else on this board, to get that sticky bean! In the meantime, try to stay positive - it's made a world of difference for me ;)

I have nothing new to report, except for the fact that I am decidedly grumpier than usual for the past day or so and quite tired (I can easily chalk the tired and angry up to my Yankees blowing the game last night LOL) Otherwise, hello 2WW!

Hope everyone is well today - speak soon! xoxo

[APEMBERTON]

Tiffany- I know we NEED to move to a birth club thread.lol.Either our eggs or their sperm didn't get the memo.lol. Poor thing...the TWW is the worst. I hope your symptoms are a good sign!!! If you will PM your email address I will email some pictures to you! No offense to anyone here, but I don't want to post them on this website!!I just don't trust it!!

Tori-Thanks, I will have to read up on everything when I get a chance! We took your advice last night.haha..sorry for the TMI!

Sarah-Yes my acne came back when I got off BC! It has gotten a little better over the past year, but I really realized how much it was helping me once I got off of it! Oh & I totally understand how you feel about everyone else getting pregnant! On purpose, some on accident..it can be REALLY heartbreaking!

Nurse- Glad your doctor is being so proactive & helpful! Sadly that is kind of rare! Yes the average O date is 14 days from the start of your period, but that is just average some people O before that & some people do after!! It all just depends! Oh & yes BD as much as you can around that time, or at least every other day!! Good Luck!!!

Well as for me nothing new. I added it up & today is CD12...as I mentioned before I hd alot of CM some maybe by some ABSOLUTE MIRACLE it is lucky cycle number 21 or 22!! I also have noticed a little bloating, which usually happens around O time... Who knows!!! Well I hope everyone has a GREAT weekend!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

Amanda - No need to apologize for TMI to me - I'm not that kinda girl! I don't get offended or shy about my body, sex, etc., easily! And I'm glad you took my advice...makes everything LOADS better ;)

* fingers crossed for lotsa miracles *

BABYDUST!

[vixen6981]

Hey Amanda,

I was hoping to see you on the baby boards but glad you're doing okay. Congrats on the wedding!!
I wanted to offer my experience my experience on CM which I think is cervical mucus. I took a course from a nurse to learn what's called the Billing Method, the billing method tracks your CM each day to figure out when you're ovulating. I know you know most of it but I have to write it all out or I'll lose track of something :)
Each day you are supposed to record 2 things, the consistancy or feeling (ie damp, dry, moist, or slippery) and the color (bloody, white, cream, clear etc.) You never touch the mucus, you notice based on the feeling you have and what's left on your underwear. Or, you can use toilet paper before you pee and look to help you out at first. Basically your cycle starts when you begin your period. At that point you are wet and bloody (obviously), after your period one can either go to dry and nothing (no CM) or, you have damp & white, milky etc. If you are one of those people who has mucus all cycle long (I did) it takes a while to chart it properly, if you're dry and nothing for most of your cycle you have it easier. If you see ANY blood you are supposed to mark your day as wet & bloody. Around the time of ovulation you'll notice a change and your CM will gradually change to wet and slippery, it takes on sort of a clear color and is slippery or "stringy" (it was described to me as similar to egg whites, you know the stringy strands) there is often only 1 day where you'll be slippery tihs is supposed to be the day you ovulating. You know for SURE if that slippery day is ovulation if the following day there is a DISTINCT CHANGE in the mucus (ie, the following day is dry and nothing). If there is NOT a distinct change the following day, you did not actually ovulate. After ovulation you will either change to dry & nothing or to moist and white or milky. Then it'll be back to your period.
This method worked really well for me but it took almost 4 months to determine my cycle because I had CM all month long. The important part is the wet & slippery followed by the distinct change.
A lot of women thing everytime they have their period it's their menstral period but if you are not ovulating int he end of the month it is not actally a menstral bleed its' called something else that I cant' remember the name of :)
Hope that helps a little bit.

[excited4mommyhood]

Good morning, ladies! I hope everyone had a nice weekend :D

Looks like I'm on Day 20 of what could be a 29-40 day cycle. I have a headache today that just won't quit! I've had it on and off since Saturday night. Makes me sad; I dont think it's a migraine, doesn't feel like one, just a pesky headache that is hell bent on making me miserable. I don't have time for that lol!

I really don't have much else to report. Have a great Monday!

Tara, you ok? Haven't heard from you in a bit ;) hope you are well!

[APEMBERTON]

Natasha- Hey!!! Thanks for the congrats & THANK YOU soo much for all the info about CM. That is the 1 thing I have not tracked & the 1 thing I know nothing about so that was REALLY helpful! I will start doing that today & see how it goes! Whatever works.lol. I am so happy for you! :) I hope you are feeling okay. I might start stalking you on the other board when I get a chance.haha.Thanks again!

Tori-Sorry about the headache! I feel your pain....I have headaches for months at a time....SO ANNOYING! Man your cycles look as crazy as mine! I think I am on day 15 of a 26-40 day cycle! Again ANNOYING.lol.

Well we got bad news yesterday! My papa passed away yesterday morning! He had stopped & eating & drinking....he said he wanted to die, so he got his wish! The funeral is tomorrow,so that will be a hard day! :(
Besides that nothing new! I have to work tonight after I get off here, so it will be a LONG day & night! Hope everyone had a great weekend & has a great week! :)

[excited4mommyhood]

Amanda, I'm so sorry about your Papa :( I lost mine more than 15 years ago and it still hurts! I'm praying for you and your family - for more than just sticky beans this time ;) Be well, PM me if you need to vent! xoxoxo

Ruth, those were really beautiful words. It's soooooo frustrating after just a few months, I can't imagine 2 years! How strong you and your DH must be!! I'm really so very happy for you - do you have plans to learn gender? Or have you already? Or am I prying?

* Prayers and Hugs *

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Nurse-Sry to hear you aren't preggers, but I'm glad you are getting help to get that way! I'm wishing you the best of luck!

Sarah- Welcome! Getting upset at everyone around you isn't doing any good. We all get jealous, but you can still be happy for the people you love. Have you tried seeking any medical advice? Could be something simple. Good luck!

Excited- I feel you on the grumpy thing! I have been the same way. Trying to control myself with my little boy. The littlest things are aggrevating me! Hope the TWW flies by for you!

Amanda- The TWW is the worst! And you are right-either the eggs or sperm didn't get the memo! Praying it's coming soon for us! Also, I'm sooo sorry about your grandpa.:( Hope you get to feeling better although it's hard!

Vixen- Thanks for the CM info! Hoping I've hit the jackpot and I don't need to use it!

Ruth- Hope all is going well with you! Hope to see some US pics soon!:)

As for me! Where to begin! I've been sooooo tired here lately. I rarely ever oversleep and get up scrambling! I've done that a lot in the past week or so. I've been very moody, (TMI maybe) had lots of creamy CM! I read just before getting on here that creamy CM can mean pregnancy, but just like the other symptoms it doesn't always indicate it. I'm keeping my fingers crossed! I will probably test Saturday or Sunday. Hope everyone had a good Monday!

[excited4mommyhood]

Proud - Fingers are crossed for you!

Natasha - Great advice, thanks ;)

Sarah - The jealous thing is a killer, I know...you WANT to be happy for others that conceive, but you're so so angry that it's not you! I was that way when my boss told us he and his wife were expecting; that nearly drove me to tears!!! But now, because DH and I are far more chill with TTC, I'm able to be happy for everyone that I hear is having a baby...cuz I'm sure they've been through exactly what I have, no matter for what duration of time. And I'm sure I've said this before, but I know that my future BFP will be just that much more amazing :D

Sooooo as for me -- NOTHING lol. I have nothing to report (except for maybe that my monster headache has finally subsided -- WOOHOO!) Otherwise, I'm fairly status quo - it's pouring rain in NJ, so that stinks...2WW in full effect, should be due for AF toward the middle or end of next week...so we'll see! Hope everyone is feeling well, smiling and enjoying their day!

[aminor]

Hello ladies! So, I lasted two weeks without being on the boards, and I couldn't stand it any longer and got on here today to read and decided to go ahead and write too...

Amanda - I'm SO excited to see you back on here!!! Not for the fact of not being preggo on your end, but just to see you in high spirits!!! Congrats on the wedding! Enjoy married life, and remember, the first year is said to be the hardest...and from my experience, the second year is much easier!!!

Welcome to all of the newbies...and hello to all of those that are not newbies!!!

As for me...I am not counting my CD's anymore...and I am not tracking anything...just waiting for the right time...

I do have to vent for a moment though. So, my DH and I went out to eat last night, and there is a girl that we both know (used to work for my MIL) that is a hostess at the restaurant, and she tells me when we walk in, "Guess what?" and I answer, "What?" (already knowing what was coming, because this is how my life goes...), she answers with, "I'm pregnant!!!!!" Okay, get this...the last time I ate at this restaurant and ran into this girl (about two months ago), she tells me that she just broke up with her boyfriend, because he wouldn't leave his wife, and she got mad at him, so he beat her up, and she had just gotten out of being in the hospital for a week because of the beating...yes, she is the type that tells you WAY too much without you even asking! So I asked her last night how far along she is, and she tells me 8 weeks, so apparently she got preggo right around that time, or even after, and she told me last night that it was by this same guy and that they were back together, and he finally left his wife once he found out she was preggo...SO FRUSTRATING!!!!!!! Here I am, trying to live a normal life, with no kind of abuse going on, and I just want to have a baby, and here she is getting knocked up by her winner of a boyfriend that beats the **** out of her?!?!? REALLY???? I just don't understand sometimes, that is all that I am trying to say...

Anyway, it's nice to be back!

[vixen6981]

I hope the info is useful to some of you :)

Amanda-SOrry to hear about your Papa :( I'm feeling ok, no morning sickness but I'm having an issue with headaches and severe back pain. I started a pre-natal yoga class which I'm hoping will help.

Baby glue to all of you!!!!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

Vixen - Sorry about the headaches and back pain, but happy you're not feeling ill otherwise! I hope the yoga class will help ;) And thanks for the vote of baby glue all around - I'm hoping for some successes this time around for the ladies on this board!!!

Amanda - I know yesterday must have been rough - I hope you're ok xoxoxo

I am fine, DH is not. He is a former football star (in the Nat'l HS Football Hall of Fame), recruited by all the big name colleges/universities, sidelined in his senior year w/ a back injury...he played 2 years in our small college, but the back injury ended his career after that. He's still pretty active, but his back has been KILLING him these past few days. I'm used to him being sore and even in a little bit of pain, it's normal for him, but he's been in agony of late! I'm actually starting to get nervous for him. The year we were engaged, he had surgery, and things were good for awhile, but here we are again, and he is refusing to even contemplate another "minor" surgery. He thinks that he's going to need a "big one", a fusion-type deal, and he says he's still too young for that (it'll require about 6-8 months recovery time, and he thinks he shouldn't do that until he's about 40). I don't usually request prayers, but if you would, please keep him in your thoughts, I'm a little scared :( I really appreciate any positive energy you can provide!!!

On a lighter note, I don't know where you all are from or if you're baseball fans, but I'm a HUGE New York Yankee fan since birth, and tonight is Game 1 of the World Series (I know, most people HATE the Yankees, but I'm a die hard fan!) GO NY!!!

Babydust and happy days all around!

[APEMBERTON]

Natasha- Thanks! I am glad you have no morning sickness, but sorry about the other pains! Hopefully they will be gone soon!

Ruth-Thanks for the prayers! Glad to see all is well with you, especially with the ER scare & everything! A few months back I had made peace with everything too, but it didn't seem to help, so I thought I would give it a few more months before I go back to the doctor......! Hope everything continues smoothly for you!

Tori-Thanks! I am glad you are feeling better, but SOOO sorry for your DH! That sounds awful! I hope everything gets better soon!! Poor thing!! :( Keep us updated please! Ha..yeah I don't like the Yankees, but glad your team is doing good.lol. I am not that into baseball..it is okay, but I am more of a football girl, so that takes up alot of time.lol.

Proud-Thanks....I hope all those symptoms are a little bean & not AF!! I HATE that EVERY symptom can be AF or just something else!! Sooooooo unfair! Fingers Crossed! Oh I can TOTALLY relate to the vent!!! I soooo feel you!!!!


Well not alot new here. Yesterday was easier than I thought! Still VERY hard, but life goes on & we can't dwell!
I have been working a side job the past few nights & it is KILLING me. Waking up early..working here 8 hours, & then going straight to my second job for another 6 hours is KILLING me..... & my sex life.lol. Seriously though tonight is the last night for now, so hopefully I can get so freakin' sleep, sex, & exercise!lol. Okay enough with the TMI!
Okay quick vent...so as soon as DH & I got married(& before we even married) people in our family & friends CONSTANTLY ask when we are going to have kids...our response is always" Well I don't know..."..well my one of my cousins at the funeral is 6 weeks pregnant..& that is ALL I could think about & hear about! UGHHHH!! My sister had my nephew back in May so we also hear.. "Bradyn needs a cousin soon......they can't be too far apart!".....ETC!!!! Ahhhh PEOPLE.....we are TRYING..& FAILING......so PLEASE SHUT UP!! I know they don't know...we need to tell them eventually before I go off on someone, but still....REALLY PEOPLE???????
Okay I am good now! No one could possibily understand, but you guys, so I feel better now!
I hope everyone has a GREAT day!!! :)

Am-HEY! Thanks for the advice! I am glad you are here too, except I wish you were preggo & on here, not TTC & on here......I wish we all were on the due date boards.....

[APEMBERTON]

Hey Ki!
Well the only thing I can really tell you is my cycles went from being 28-33 days for about 8 months & then it jumped to a 40 day cycle & then the next cycle was 26 days! So now my cycles are 26-40 days...CRAZY!!! The last few cycles have been closer to my 28-33 day cycles, but you never know! Mine were pretty consistant for 28-33 days & then 2 or 3 months back BAM 40 days! That was REALLY hard! Anywho I hope for your sake that it is just low hcg levels!!! Can you go take a blood test at the clinic today ot tomorrow?

[excited4mommyhood]

Watchin the Yankee game, "day"dreaming about sticky beans...

Ki - I'm sorry there haven't been huge results yet; try not to get too frustrated (I know, a tall order). I can't offer any advice or thoughts here; I've not tried to monitor ovulation with OPKs or anything else, and I don't have a fertility appointment until December. Good luck and keep thinking happy thoughts -- I'm sending lots your way XOXOXO


So, to all of my CM/CP scholars, I have a question. AF should be due middle/end of next week. MY CM is back and forth, creamy, stretchy. My CP seems to be high (though I can't really tell if it's hard or soft...it's pretty high LOL)

As far as how I'm feeling...well, it's pretty much usual. I'm trying not to think about preggo symptoms, because they just turn out to be PMS ;) and that is a cruel joke, Mother Nature!! I have had some mild to moderate pelvic cramping yesterday and today; I don't think that could be implant cramping, as I'm on Day 23, and I think that's too early. Again, trying not to think about it!!!

Hahahaha - I bought my first lottery ticket in at LEAST a year, just got a yen to get one. Keep your fingers crossed for me LOL :D

Have a great evening all *** baby glue and dust all around!

[APEMBERTON]

Ki- You poor thing! I am so sorry! I can't imagine how frustrated you must be! Going through all that trouble & not even ovulating!! I am sooooo sorry! Maybe it was just a wonky cycle & it will get back on track fast! After my crazy cycle mine got back on track by 3 cycles later! Well so far it has been!lol. You NEVER know with me! I understand you not wanting to add more drugs in the mix, but maybe if your cycle does that again you could give it a try??? Either way I have my fingers crossed for you! I forgot to ask has AF shown yet???

Tori-Well I am a few days behind you...CD18 for me, so I am in the TWW wait too! Actually mine is a TWW to a FWW(four week wait)!lol! I have my fingers crossed for you for a bean & a ticket.lol.

I hope everyone has a great weekend & babydust to all!! :)

[MrsWagner]

Thanks for all the Welcome messages!!!

Ok so I am determined to not get it in my head that I could be expecting already but DH is dead set in saying I am (which isn't helping me lol) Right before my wedding I was scheduled to get AF on my HM so I decided that I would take two BC pill packs back to back to skip it, well not sure if it was due to all the stress or what but AF came early and came right before the wedding. DH and I decided that I should go ahead and take 2 back to back pill packs which would have put me at having my period this week or next, well AF came early again so we decided just to have me stop taking the pills since I was off and such and then decided to not take them again and to TTC!

So AF came last on the 15-19/20th this month and for the last few days I have been very moody, exhausted even after getting a full nights sleep and dizzy/upset stomach here and there, and sortof have "a feeling" that something is different... could I be expecting already? we weren't expecting it to happen so quickly (but would be very excited if it did) Is it to early to test? I was telling DH that I think it is but he wants me to anyway just to see ... ugh! any advice?

[excited4mommyhood]

Mrs. Wagner - I do think it's too early test. If the 1st day of AF was October 15th, then today would only be 16 days for you; in my opinion, you would be testing too early. I'm not sure what your cycle is like, especially since you manipulated your AF for your wedding...which, incidentally, I did as well - mine was supposed to come 2 days before!!! :D lol Anyways, if you have a "traditional" 28 day cycle, then you should have JUST ovulated within the past 2 or 3 days (I know, it's all guessing w/o the Ovulation Predictor Kits, but that's the "rule of thumb") That said, much of my reading has said that when women conceive, they often "just know it"; your womanly intuition may be telling you something! My fingers are crossed for you!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

Amanda - My 2ww is often a 3-4ww as well :( Stupid AF; she's such a *****!

[MrsWagner]

Thanks excited! ugh the wait is killer I want to know now!!! DH said he wants to go buy a few tests that way I can test now like he wants (very impatient) then test when I say its time lol

[APEMBERTON]

Mrs. Wagner- I agree with Tori! However if it would make you or DH feel better take one! I mean it could be BFN, but still positive, or by some off chance you could get a BFP! Not to be Debbie Downer, but unless it is a blood test it is HIGHLY unlikely that you can get a BFP! Again..not to be negative, but after so many months you learn to not get your hopes up! Go get a test if you want to though! If you knew how many test I have taken in the past 22 months you would think I was crazy!lol!

Tori- Yeah the 4WW is the WORST.lol. I swear something HAS to be wrong when your cycles are anywhere from 26-40 days!! That CANNOT be normal! We will see in February though! AF is a *****!

[Mamadecuatro]

Hey ladies! Welcome back, Ki and Amanda, Tori as well!

We are finally ready to give this a 'real' try...I'm excited and a bit nervous, as the realization of what we would be taking on, is setting in quickly:)

I am on CD8 and just started OPK's. I am not expecting to 'o' until CD 16-19, but last month I o'd early, so I trying to be on the safe side.

Two months ago I experienced a chemical pregnancy. It was pretty stressful, as we were not wanting to conceive then. I lost a lot more blood than I had expected, but I am feeling better this month.

Anyhow...Good luck to everyone! I have been trying to read up on all the posts. Hope to see some BFPs on here VERY soon:)

Maria

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Excited- Hope you don't have a 3-4WW! Praying to see a BFP from you and Amanda especially, but would love the rest of the ladies to recieve one as well! Good luck! Also, sorry your husband has been feeling so bad. Hope things get better for him.

Aminor- Glad to see you back! Don't you just hate when stuff like that happens? You know the saying,it hapeens to the best of us? Well when it comes to pregnancy it seems that it happens to the worst of us. Absolutely disgust me to see people like that bring an innocent child into the world. Hope AF doesn't show her face whenever she is supposed to come. Glad you aren't tracking anymore...seems like my brain just automatically does it now days!

Amanda- Thanks! I hope they are PG symptoms as well! I'm thinking about testing tomorrow. Just don't know if I want to go buy a test tonight. Probably will I need to get DS a shirt for his halloween costume so might as well just go. Glad your papas funeral wasn't to hard on you, although it's never easy. Change of subject...don't you just hate when people do that to you! It's like when I call and tell you I'm pregnant then you will know we are ready to have a baby until then just leave me alone! Haha...that's how it is for me as well!

Ki- Hope everything gets straightened out for you and we see a BFP from you very soon!

Wagner- I would have to agree that if you have a pretty regular cycle other than you changing it around for your wedding you shouldn't be having symptoms yet I wouldn't think. You should only be 2 or 3 dpo. Good luck though either way! Hope you get a BFP in a few weeks!

Mama- Welcome back and welcome to officially TTC! I wish you the best of luck...and hope you have lots more than I have had in the past 10 months...not sure about month 11 yet. Haha.

As for me! So, I've of course had a few symptoms that could be AF or PG. I'm not sure which yet! Last night I went into the bathroom and changed into my pjs and just happened to look down and my boobs were gigantic...I mean they are anyway lol...but they were extra big last night! I was like whats going on! This is one thing I've never had happen related to AF. Could it be? Also, I think now I'm putting AF symptoms in my head haha. A few times today I've thought I was cramping and then I was like ok...maybe I'm not! I feeel so crazy! Glad I have you ladies because I don't know if I could tell some people some of this stuff. I think I might test in the morning, but what if I was cramping a little and I just waste money to get a BFN and be disappointed? What to do!!! Hope you ladies have a really good weekend!

[excited4mommyhood]

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Tiffany - Thanks very much! I'm hoping that this is my month :) but I dont want to get too excited...we will see what happens next week! Our 3 year anniversary is in a few weeks, so that would be a cool way to ring it in!!

Mama - Good luck!!! I'm glad that you and DH are FINALLY on the same page!!! Baby glue to you!

I'm not feeling so great today - slight headache, slight dizziness, just BLAH. I'm not a big Halloween person anyway, but it's raining like crazy, so I'm glad we cancelled our plans. I'll just save my cute costume till next year...

Hope everyone has a good rest of the weekend!! XOXOXOXO

[MrsWagner]

I logged in real quick to give an update... DH had me take a test yesterday AM and of course it was negative, however I still have that feeling that I am expecting so if I dont get AF this week we will test again on saturday (DH bought a 3 pack just in case lol) Its sooo hard to wait not knowing. DH and I decided that we should act as if I was expecting as far as what I am drinking and eating just in case, oh how I miss coffee already :(

[excited4mommyhood]

Mrs. Wagner - Good luck!! Hope you and DH are right :D

I have a question - I know "all women are different" and yadda yadda yadda LOL...but when do implantation cramps happen? I've been having some minor pelvic cramping for a few days. My cervix seems high as well, so high I could barely find it hahaha, though I don't know if it's soft or not. I'm on CD 26, and other than that slight cramping I mentioned, I'm not feeling any PMS symptoms.

If AF is coming, though, I hope she shows within the next 3 or 4 days, bringing my stupid cycle back to the way it used to be before it went CUCKOO!!!

Since I don't know WHAT to expect from my cycle, I doubt that I would test much before a week from tomorrow or even Tuesday.

Fingers crossed across the board - lotsa baby glue, with extra dust, for us all!!

[nursetolove]

hey everyone. hope everyone's month is going well. fingers crossed.

quick update for those remotely sorta interested, ha. i finished my provera on thursday, began AF on that day so on clomid now. cycle day i #4. my question is i dont know how long my cycle will be this month so should i just do the BDing thing day 11-18 so i dont miss anything? i was shooting for day 11, 13, 14, 15, 16, and 18. fiance will be out of town on day 10 and day 12. sigh. my OB already scheduled me for an US on the 23rd. he seems fairly confident. ha. i want to be as confident as he is. i dont even know how sucessful it is in the first month of use anyways... any suggestions?

[Kimbo305]

Hi Everyone! I haven't posted in a while. I hope everyone is doing well. Quick question, I am on CD 17, and the past few days I have been having sharp shooting pain in my right upper abdomen. Any suggestions as to what it could be?

Hope everyone is staying out of the flu's way!


Baby dust to all!

[APEMBERTON]

Maria- WAHOOO---I am so glad DH is on board now! FINALLY..I was wondering if I was going to have to go beat him up.lol. I am so excited for you! Sorry about the chemical pregnancy!!! Well keep us updated!!

Proud-Have you tested yet?? You CANNOT leave us hanging like that!lol.
Oh yes that is exactly what I want to say.lol. Drives me nuts! People asked before we got married, but it seems like in the 2 weeks we have been married the amount of people asking has multiplied by 10!...So aggrevaiting! You better be back on here soon, so we know if you have tested yet!

Tori-You are killing me too!! Ahhh so when will you test for sure??

Kimbo-That could be ovulation pains.....I don't O until later in my cycle so you could be o-ing right now or fixing to o!

nurse- I am glad your OB is so confident! I am glad you have a good doctor on your side! I would O at least every other day just to be covered! Unless you are using OPKs you cannot know 100% when you will O so I would BD at least every other day!

MrsWagner- Hopefully it is just too early!!! Fingers crossed!

As for me not alot knew! The earliest I should start is Friday the latest the 20th....so I have a LONG wait!lol. I don't have any symptoms because I boycott them, so only time will tell with me!
I hope everyone has a great week & we get a slew of BFPs!!! :)

[excited4mommyhood]

Nurse - Sorry, I don't have any suggestions, I've not yet been in your situation. But, I must echo Amanda in saying that you are lucky to have a confident Dr and hopefully he/she will help you get good and pregnant ASAP!

Kimbo - Sounds like O pains to me! I don't get them, at least not that I've noticed thus far, but from what I've read, that's what they "feel" like: sharp, sometimes pinching pains that last a short while.

Amanda - I don't know about the testing. I have a good feeling this month, feel like we hit all the right days, but I hate those BFNs :(

Ironically, this is the FIRST time during TTC that I'm near AF's due date (today is CD 27) and I'm not feeling any sort of PMS/early preggo stuff - not much crampiness, no nausea, no breast soreness, no utter exhaustion. I've had something of a pesky headache on and off for a few weeks now, but I do tend to get headaches, so I'm not totally sold on that as a symptom of ANYTHING lol. So, if it gets to it, I will test a week from tomorrow - 11/10 - as that is my 3 year anniversary, and I think that would be both hopefully really good luck ;) as well as an AWESOME thing to celebrate. That would be CD 35, longer than I've gone in 2 months, and I think the best POSSIBLE time to test. That way, even if I get a BFN and I am disappointed, I will still have very good reason to be happy!

Happy Monday All!!!

[APEMBERTON]

Tori-Good thinking on the plan of when to test! I will not test until the day after my latest cycle, so I won't be testing until Nov. 21st, BUT I am sure, as usual, AF will show before then! Oh & ps I see your Yankees are about to take the World Series!!! WAHOO!lol!(I have been watching it w/ DH some!)

Quick question..... my CM showed like I was ovulating or fixing to ovulate early last week.....well Saturday & Sunday & a little today my breast have been SUPER tender & fuller! I know that too is a symptom of ovulation, but my question is why is my body sending me mixed signals??? I mean we BD regardless, but I am trying to focus more on signs of ovulation, & I don't understand??? Can anyone help?

[Kimbo305]

Thanks for the replys! The pain has moved from my right side to the middle and goes from my belly button down. Hopefully it's just O pain and nothing major!

[excited4mommyhood]

Amanda - I'm the worst at trying to figure out my O time! I've been trying to follow my cycle as carefully as possible, to watch for CM, pinching/pain on one side, etc. (I don't do BBTs, Ive tried, I just can't remember to do it!) I have no idea; I wish I could be more help :( I'm of the opinion that my body just does whatever the hell it wants to, whenever it wants to...And yes, my Yankees are about to take the Series -- I'm totally STOKED!!!!

Kimbo - I hope it's nothing serious as well...I don't mean to be a downer, but if the pain is on the right side and near the belly button, you need to make sure it's not appendicitis! I've had it, and had teeny warning signs, but I have a good measure my doc taught me (I was able to diagnose my college roommate LOL). Press your stomach in near the "center" of the pain, hold it for about 5 seconds, then release. If it hurts more or the same when you press in, it's probably not appendicitis. But if it hurts more when you release, you'd better go to the doctor for an exam. I hope this helps - I don't want to cause you any stress, but appendicitis is a real B*TCH but if you catch it early, it's a quick fix!

My "good feeling" about this month is waning, and I don't really know why. No symptoms, just intuition. If I make it to a week from tomorrow without AF, then I'll test. Otherwise, back to the drawing board :D

It just sux, DH hasn't been feeling well at ALL, hasn't really been in the mood with all the pain he's been in. Maybe I need to buy some lingerie ;)

Be well all! Smiles all around <3

[APEMBERTON]

Ok, so I did some research on breast tenderness around ovualtion.....turns out that your breast can be tender before, during, or after you ovulate, so that was absolutely NO help! Just thought I would put that out there for anyone wondering!
Also I learned, via this website, that you ovualte 14 days before the first day your period...so it isn't that you ovulate mid cycle(I knew if you had a 28 day cycle you ovulated on day 14, but I wasn't sure for people like me).. & if you are like me & have crazy cycles...26-40 days...you can count back & know you ovulated 14 days before you start! Obviously this is an after the fact thing, BUT if you are checking your CM or feeling your cervix, it will confirm that you ovulated when you think you did!

[Kimbo305]

Excited-It has now ventured over to the left side so who knows. Probably just o pain or stress. Who knows?

[Lilypad]

Hi everyone,

Haven't posted in a while - been a crazy couple of weeks --my dd had a fever and a cough last week, thankfully it was nothing else. Then I caught the same thing. DH and I missed date night on Friday because of it!

As for me - this was not our month. AF came last Tuesday. But is has been a weird one, usually I have 3-4 day periods. One light day, one medium, one heavy and then light again. Like clockwork. This cycle I had 3 light days, two heavy days and now two more light ones!!

Apem -- your luteal phase (O - period) apparently never changes. So, if you O late, you will start late...I have been able to track backwards the past couple of months to really determine what type of CM seems to accompany O. This was only our first month of actual TTC so I had hoped I had pinpointed it, but no such luck!

Tori - fingers crossed that this IS your month!

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Tori- Didn't really notice if someone else answered this, but I believe implantation occurs around 6 days after you O. So if it's about that time, I'd say that's what it is. A BFP would be a great year to ring in your 3 yr anniversary! Good luck! Can't wait until you test! Fingers are double crossed for you! I'm also having the intuition thing just like with DS. I don't know why...and definitly hope I'm not wrong. This is one of those months where I will be super bummed if AF shows or I get a BFN!

Mrs. Wagner- Hope its your month! Good luck, fingers are crossed for you!

Nurse- As with the other ladies, I'm glad your OB is so confident! Can't wait to find out!!!

Kimbo- It could def be O pains! I would BD away just in case!

Amanda- I haven't tested yet! Sorry to keep you and everyone else waiting. Every time I go to the store, I just tell myself to wait...don't buy the test and waste the money. Usually as soon as I walk in I'm getting one to take even if it's CD 28 and I could go all the way to 36. Although, I've only had longer than a 33 day cycle in 11 months and that was due to stress I believe. I'm def. going to buy a test tomorrow and test first thing Wednesday morning if AF hasn't arrived! I will be soooo bummed though it AF shows or I get a BFN.:( Good luck to you! Sucks you have to wait so long to test. As for the breast tenderness thing, I just read the same thing a few weeks ago. Why does AF, PG, and O symptoms so much alike! Drives me insane!!!!

Lily- Sorry AF arrived. Hope you hit it next month! I know how disappointing that is. How long have you been trying? Hope it isn't as long as I or a few of the others on here. Good luck and keep your head high...it will happen for all of us. I have the faith:).

As for me! So much to say, but don't want to keep everyone. My breast have been super sore for almost a week or more straight. Sometimes it hurts just to have a half way fitted shirt on. They have been getting HUGE (not that they already aren't...lol...seriously) and then going back down! I'm not having many if any AF symptoms...If I Oed on CD 18-21 I should start by Thursday, but I'm going to go ahead and test tomorrow. I can't wait any longer! I don't want to waste money, but that extra day will kill me! It's killing me to not be testing tomorrow. For some reason I've been able to keep myself from testing this time around as early as I normally would! If I did hit the spot I would be about 2 weeks PG. I was 2 weeks and 2 days when I found out with DS. Hope it's good news...I will faint over AF or BFN. I feel so confident this time and will be devesated over either one!

Hope you ladies had a good weekend and GREAT Monday!:)

Oh yeah, just re-read my post and if I test Wednesday and get a BFP I will probably be 2 weeks and 2 days...just like with DS. Didn't even realize that!

Sorry, I've wrote a book, but I have to add this because I messed up. I almost for a fact know I O between 11-14. Just went back over everything. I had all the symptoms of O...CP, CM, cramping, nauseated...I'm thinking more along CD 14 which means I should have started Thursday of last week because you should start exactly 14 days after O! A 28 day cycle is rare but not unheard of for me so it could have very well been correct! I have to test...I'm going crazy here! Sorry to write so much just had to add this after figuring out my mistake!

[MrsWagner]

I'm not sure if this is a duh question or not but I'm new to TTC so hopefully someone can answer it for me, even if its something duh!

So as you may know I have "that feeling", tested last Saturday as DH requested but it was too early and got a neg... I still have that feeling and have been planning to test again on this Saturday (as long as AF doesn't show)

Yesterday and this morning I have been feeling short sharp cramps and was wondering if they could be implantation cramps. They are only on the left side of my uterus, which makes me think they could be implantation cramps, when I have my period cramps they are all over and non-stop so a completely different feeling.

Once the egg is implanted can you test? or should I still wait?? (ugh I hate waiting)

[elenash]

Hi ladies I just wanted to say don't worry so much if your cycles are irregular. My cycles, after I got off of Nuvaring in February, were also irregular -- 36, 45, 37, 32, 36 days. So between 32-45 days. I found out I was pregnant a week ago (it was only our 2nd cycle of officially TTC) so it doesn't look like the irregularity made as much of a impact on my fertility as I thought it might have.

And I do want to confirm that you are supposed to count 14 days backwards from the first day of your cycle to calculate your O day. So for a 36 day cycle, your O would be on CD 23 (instead of CD 14 for a 28 day cycle).

Oh and talking about TWW symptoms, my boobs were usually fuller and sore before AF. But a week before I found out I was pregnant, my boobs were fuller but NOT as sore. But my boobs and my torso were burning like I was on fire. DH kept thinking I had a fever but I felt totally fine otherwise. It kind of makes sense now when I think about it, but I was pretty sure we had missed the mark that cycle until I didn't get AF on day 36 and took a pregnancy test.

Hope that helps!

[excited4mommyhood]

Hello ladies -

So AF is due tomorrow, joy of joys! Well, it may be due Thursday, it just depends on what it wants to do LOL. I still don't have any preggo OR pms symptoms, save for a little pelvic cramping here and there. I am very very tired today, but that normally happens around AF time and these damn World Series games are keeping me up at night! Boobs aren't too sore, just a touch, and though they might seem fuller, they're DD to begin with, so who can tell LMAO?! ;) just kidding, it's really NOT that funny!

My intuition tells me that it's happened, my common sense tells me not to get excited, and I still absolutely think that what will be will be (though the 2ww makes that hard - stupid emotions hahaha)

I did, however, consult my boss's Magic 8 Ball today while I was waiting for him to get off the phone in the middle of our daily meeting...I silently asked it "Am I Pregnant?" After I shook it, it replied with "It Is Certain". So there you are ;)

Have a great afternoon!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

Ki - I know exactly how you feel! You might have read about this from me before, but when my boss told me he and his wife were expecting, I nearly burst into tears. Granted, it was right SMACK during my initial TTC efforts, and I was real high stress, but he had been telling me over and OVER again that he and his wife were not going to be having any children. It wasn't necessarily that they didn't want kids, it just wasn't in their plans. And then, all of a sudden, they decided to try and WHAMO! (First try, apparently ---> way too much info for him to have revealed to me but whatever LOL) Regardless, I was immediately happy for them, but super confused and saddened.

[APEMBERTON]

Ki- I totally understand how you feel! I know soooo many "oops" pregnancies lately that I just want to pull my hair out! I get frustrated when people are trying much less the "oops"!

So any news from anyone??
The boards seem a little dead these days!
Not alot to report here! My breast tenderness is still here, but not as bad. I am thinking maybe I had ALOT of hormones this month! That is the only explanation for the extra soreness(at least that I know of)!
Friday through Friday the 20th are my possible AF dates so it is just a waiting game these days! ....
Where is everyone????????

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

Amanda- I'm here! Still haven't tested...something just keeps telling me not to. I'm getting to ready to go to walmart though and I'm getting a test. I think I'm going to take one tonight. I know it should be first morning urine, but I found out with DS at 11:30 or 12 at night. So that tells me it isn't nescessary although better. If I do test I will def be on here to tell the verdict either way. Hopefully, it's the first BFP in awhile!

Ki- I also totally understand how you feel!


Going to Wal-mart...def buying a test this time! Hopefully I get to up the spirits on here with a BFP! Wish me luck! I wish all of you luck for this month as well!

[Lilypad]

Proud - I can't wait to hear. Fingers and everything else crossed for you!

Ki - there seem to be pregnant women everywhere. I have a few friends who are pregnant after first tries! They are in good places though, so I am happy.

For me - O week is next week so we will try to hit the mark again this month. It is only our 2nd month of trying. I can't be too hard on the oops people as our first was an oops, but I almost think I prefer that to TTC and the waiting period!

Tori - did you test today? tomorrow?

Here's hoping to lots of BFP's!!!

[excited4mommyhood]

I'm here! Just watching the World Series :D VERY happy with the game thus far!

Lily - Nope, haven't tested, don't plan to until at least next Tuesday. Today is when AF "should" have started; of course, my cycles go cuckoo, so that could be incorrect, but if AF doesn't show by Monday night, I will take a test Tuesday morning with FMU. Tuesday is my 3-year wedding anniversary, so I figure that it would be the BEST time to get a BFP...but if it's a BFN, even though I might be a little disappointed, I still have a wonderful milestone to celebrate!!!

Proud - All my fingers and toes are crossed for you! I'm thinking all good thoughts and sending you happy vibrations and babydust!!!!

Amanda - My boobs were just a touch sore when I took my bra off this evening, but nothing since. Isn't that soreness the absolute WORST?! And I agree - the boards have been pretty dead - I didn't comment today because I had 2 posts in a row, and didn't have much new information to add LOL But I check a few times a day, miss you all when I'm bored at work HAHAHAHA

Ki - Just to add to what I posted last night, I feel like everywhere I go, I see pregnant women. It's so crazy! And DH is now noticing babies, which just about melts my heart!! But those "oops" and "whatever, another one" babies make me SOOOOOO mad :(

As for me...
Like I said, AF should have started today. I've been exhausted all day but I've been super busy at work and have been doing a few more minutes of cardio each week. I am feeling hopeful but not positive, which is good I think, because when I started, I was so SURE I was pregnant 3 months in a row. Those BFNs really hurt! But that Magic 8 Ball did say that IT IS CERTAIN, so..........

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

So, I ended up not testing last night, but I did first thing this morning. I took two test and both were BFPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!! I was in total shock! Almost didn't believe it! I'm going to make a DR's appointment today. I will keep everyone updated when I get it!!!! Of course I will still be on here routing for you guys!!!

[Lilypad]

CONGRATULATIONS, Proud!!! That is so awesome! Good luck with everything!

[taraken]

Hey ladies! Sorry I haven't been around in a long time. I was on a 10 day business trip and came back sooo sick. Two weeks of flu & pink eye....5perscriptions later and I am finally starting to feel ok.
First of all.....YEAH PROUD! I am soo happy for you. TTC #11 I think...it give me hope!
Amanda~ Yeah you are back! I am trying to get up to speed on everything, but I can't remember everything! I do see you are married..YEAH to having a DH! I totally know what you mean about people asking as soon as you get hitched. We were 22 when we got married and it started. Now at 28...it is even worse because they think we have been married long enough and should have kids. UGH!
Tori~ My fingers are crossed for you! I hope AF doesn't show up.
Ki~ So what is happening with you? Are you doing Clomid again?
Lily~ Sorry about AF.
I am really behind on reading through and don't have a ton of time. So everyone else...sticky sticky!
I hate when people have oops pregnancies. I wish they just said they were trying to make people like me feel better. At this point in TTC it just gets me soo upset!
As for me...AF showed it's ugly face today. I am a little happy about it though, with all the perscriptions and one of them I wasn't allowed to take my prenatals with. So I think I would have been concerned if we had been successful this month. I am sad though. We are onto TTC Cycle #12 now. God it hurts to say that. I had to move my obgyn appointment from Dec 8 to Jan 22nd. I was pretty upset about it, but I am changing insurances in case we do end up needing tests. Which will be happening with my age and 1 year of trying...once I go to this appointment if we are not successful this month. The new insurance is amazing though. It is a new option for my work and it covers all fertility tests, clomid, as much AI as needed and up to 2 IVF. So I figure it is worth waiting until Jan...in case we really do have a problem. I can't believe we have been trying for a year. I didn't think we would hit this point. :(
Well talk to you guys later.