View Full Version : Please help, I need some sleep.........
04-24-2008, 01:08 PM
My daughter who is 4 1/2 months old is keeping me up at nights. She was doing great only waking for a feeding around 2 or 3 am and then making it through to early morning in her own crib. Then she got sick! At the beginning of April she started out with a cold and couldn't breathe. She stopped nursing well so I would nurse around the clock every 1 -2 hours. She ended up with a double ear infection and was not eating well at all. She couldn't handle the antibiotics, they made her stomach even worse so I took her off of those. Now that she is feeling better, able to breathe, and has no stomach issues she has not gotten back into her old routine. She wakes me every hour (at least) at night and wants to do most of her nursing at night. She will nurse during the day but not like she used to. I try to give her the pacifier at night but that will only buy me 10 min. - 30 min. I need to do something but not sure what to do. I need sleep! I even think it could be her teeth??? She has been drooling alot for the past few weeks and loves biting on everything. What do you all think?
04-24-2008, 11:30 PM
Boy, every hour during the night?! Yikes! Probably not very popular, but you're going to have to re-train her. You just can't feed her that often at night, even if it means letting her cry. Eventually, it would seem she would shift to do more of her feedings during the day again. Good luck! You need your sleep, or you'll get sick, too!
You know, she MAY also still have that ear infection, especially if you didn't finish her course of antibiotics. That could actually make it come back stronger. Get her checked out by her pediatrician, and if she's healthy, re-train. :)
04-25-2008, 12:13 PM
Thanks, we have an appointment for Monday. Hopefully all will be well. I did give her Tylenol last night before bed and I only had to get up 6 times and nurse 3. I hope we are on the right track!
04-28-2008, 12:16 PM
I'm a new mom of a 1 month boy. He is breastfed (full), but he wants to be ALL DAY and NIGHT drinking. He even gets sleep on my breast. How and when I can train him? Is it OK to leave a 1 month old crying?
04-28-2008, 12:32 PM
That is SO debateable. Some yes, of course it's okay. Others say no way. I'm sure you can find long discussions on it.
Personally, I used a book called BabyWise, and my baby slept through the night, and had regular, scheduled feedings by 10 weeks old. The book guides you step by step. You can find the book at most stores.
Again, it's a hotly debated topic. Do what works best for you and your baby. :) There's no harm in trying a method, and changing your mind later. I really believe every baby is different, too.
Just be sure to take of yourself. A tired, stressed, grumpy, sick mommy is not what a baby needs. :)
04-28-2008, 12:38 PM
For the sleeping aspect, I LOVE "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child".
For the feeding aspect, I'd make sure he stays awake and finishes eating before letting him sleep. Easier said than done--I know!--but it's necessary to train him. I would consult the lactation consultant at the hospital where you delivered and explain the situation to her. When I did that (regarding some other feeding issues I was having), I got some very reliable advice and tips.
For the crying-it-out question...NO, don't let your baby cry. He's still a little too little. If you need a shower, that's one thing; but at this age he's still establishing attachment and security. Give him another month or two before you let him cry.
Best of luck to you!
04-28-2008, 01:43 PM
I'll speak with the lactation consultant... Thanks to all for the advice...
04-30-2008, 03:14 PM
For the 4.5 month old - I feel your pain. My daughter is a champion sleeper, in her own room/crib. However, anytime she gets ill enough to disrupt her nights we pay for it long after the illness is gone. We have to go back through 'training' her back into her normal sleeping habit. So stick with it!!
For a 1mo old it may be a bit too early to start trying to regulate his eating. My daughter was and still is quite small, but at 1mo she was still eating every hour on the hour for 30 minutes at a time. I was so sleep deprived that I had to write down when she ate, for how long, when she slept and for how long, and when we changed her diaper because I couldn't keep it straight or even remember. At 4 weeks I would still be catering to feeding on demand, but maybe start looking if there is a pattern. Around the 6 week mark is when I started really trying to schedule her eating pattern, but not very strictly.
I wouldn't be letting him cry it out at 4 weeks. That is just a little too young if you ask me. Breastmilk is easily digested (for most babies) and is tailor made for HIS body which is why he gets hungry more often, its is being used faster than formula. I know how hard it is and how it seems like it will never end, but I assure you it ends all too soon. In just a few short months you'll look back and wonder where your little newborn went and want it back again. :)
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