Is This Awful?

[H.Starr]

I just don't want to play with Roman today.
Every week day, we have the same routine. Get up, diaper change, milk, play, oatmeal, play, yogurt, play, fruit, nap, milk, play, vegetables, play, then Dad gets home and takes over all the playing parts for the evening.
And today...I just don't want to. I want to read a book, or stare into space, or whatever. I'm just not in the mood to play.
Roman is perfectly content to play alone, I just hate that, it makes me feel so guilty like I'm neglecting him.
I have some of those Baby Einstein DVDs for him, his favorite is the nursery rhymes one, and he would gladly sit for a half hour and watch that. (his favorite song is the alphabet song, which delights me to no end)

So anyway, the point is, is it entirely awful of me to just not feel like playing with my son today? And would it be the worst most neglectful thing I ever did if I just let him play by himself and watch nursery rhymes while I sat on the couch next to him and read a book?

[bvas81]

I can't speak for everyone but I have those days too! Sometimes, I just don't want to play. I just want to get lost in my thoughts or in a book.. not too lost though. lol.
But, I say, go ahead. Read a book, relax, stare into space. In a bit, I'm sure he'll give you a huge smile and you'll be so taken back that you'll start playing with him anyway. =)

[ra11en]

Nothing wrong with sitting down with a book while he entertains himself, and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to escape into a book for a little while either. Its good for him to learn to do his own thing. Not like you're putting him in a room alone while you go somewhere; you'll be sitting right there on the couch near him. Enjoy a little escapism, we all need it now and again.

And you aren't neglecting him, that's just pish posh.

[ra11en]

Just to point out - would you feel guilty if you put him in front of his favorite DVD so you could do housework or some other chore? Probably not. I hate it that I feel guilty when I want to do something for myself but not when I need to get laundry done or clean the kitchen. Just not fair.

Just an observation.

[NaomiK]

Oh please girl, lol. Read the book. You need some time to do adult things too. Its ok really. All the more reason to get that sitter :) You will feel refreshed when you get home and you'll be ready to play! Oh and I think its healthy for kids to play by themselves sometimes. It teaches independence and creative thinking. Dont feel guilty. We all have those days. I work all day and am usually soo excited to go home and play with my daughter but I do have those days when I get home and Im just blah. So ill put on a movie or something and ill sit with her and she is just as happy and it gives me a little break.

[freckles]

Changing diapers are the highlight of my day! lol

Don't feel bad if he is content, he's fine. My dd has always been great playing by herself. She still does. She could sit at the kitchen table drawing and writing for hours.

[H.Starr]

ra11en - Its true, if I'm doing something "productive," its completely different. But because I want to just do NOTHING at all, I feel like a bad mother.

I just hate those parents out there that never pay any attention to their kid. I know a girl whose daughter was walking by six months old because she put the kid on a blanket ALL day EVERY day and just left her there to fend for her herself with a bottle next to her. I don't want to be like that.

I'm probably being extreme and irrational, but I just feel like its what I'm supposed to do as a mother, play with him and spend time with him at every possible opportunity. Even though I know HE doesn't mind being on his own, *I* mind.

[H.Starr]

PS - I think its just the fact that every day is the same. I know exactly how our days are going to go before they happen. Want to know what we'll be doing at 11:03am next Tuesday? I can tell you. Its always the same.
I'm just a little bored with it, I want to do what *I* want to do for a change. Just for a little bit, just for one day.
Do you guys know what I mean, or am I crazy?

[Mommy2005]

What you are feeling is completely normal, I think all moms feel that way sometimes, I know I do. Don't feel bad or guilty for wanting some "me" time, you deserve it and are still a great mommy.

[RImommy]

I know what you mean - especially about the routine and the guilt. Like you, our days are all pretty much the same, even when we do errands they always get done at the same time. I find myself feeling guilty that I look forward to bedtime every day. It's not that I don't enjoy spending all my time with my son, but I can't help feel a little relieved when I put him in the crib and know I will be able to sit without someone crawling into my lap or have a drink without the cup being grabbed from my hands.

[j-love]

Maybe switch up the routine...not sure what you are doing now, but, go to the park, or on a walk or get some fun outdoor toys (chalk, sprinkler, etc.) to switch up playtime. Even so, those days will still come where you just don't feel like playing.

[may2mac]

Don't feel guilty. It is actually really healthy for him to play be himself for a while. From the time my oldest was an infant until she was nearly 3 years old I always played with her ALL the time. Now, she has a hard time playing by herself. She always needs my attention. It is definitely not a bad thing to let him play alone while you get a bit of a break. Hang in there.

[Bec caV]

Don't feel bad Heather! Sometimes changing up the routine is great for the baby too. They get bored... he's probably thinking "Geez... it's the same old same old every day around here.... I wish mom would just read a book or something!"

[jolee.marie]

well if you are a bad mommy for doing that then i am too. there are days that i just feel like being lazy and doing what i want and sophie is fine just playing. as long as we arn't leaving them on there own and we are still there to supervise. go ahead and do what you want like becca said Roman probably wants a little change too, and you deserve to have time to yourself, and maybe you will find yourself wanting to play later on. i think every mom needs a day to do what she wants and a baby is fine with independant play every once in a while.

[myangelhunter]

it is bad to sit your kids in front of the tv just becuase you dont wanna play with him, you should feel guilty about not wanting to spend time playing and connecting with him! read a book when he naps! shame on you!

[H.Starr]

it is bad to sit your kids in front of the tv just becuase you dont wanna play with him, you should feel guilty about not wanting to spend time playing and connecting with him! read a book when he naps! shame on you!

Are you seriously back? I thought you were gone for good this time. Wishful thinking, eh?
Get a life, useless troll.

[Bec caV]

It's really cruel to be at work all day and not see your kids for over 8 hours. Shame on you myangelhunter.

[H.Starr]

Hahahahaha. :)

[myangelhunter]

unlike sitting home all day and not wanting to play with my son! im actually helping to support my son! i do have a life, just giving my opinion! to bad you cant handel it!

[H.Starr]

No, its okay. I'm glad you're back, princess.
I was actually wondering about you lately. I really wanted to know if you're the kind of troll that has a jewel on your belly button, or if you're the kind that just has a plain fat belly?
I think I might like you more if you have the jewel on your belly button.
And what color is your hair?
Personally, I'm guessing green...

[Bec caV]

Too bad you can't use correct grammar.

Do you even know what an opinion is?
o·pin·ion (ə-pĭn'yən)
n.

1. A belief or conclusion held with confidence but not substantiated by positive knowledge or proof

Now, do you know what a criticism is?

crit⋅i⋅cism
  /ˈkrɪtəˌsɪzəm/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [krit-uh-siz-uhm] Show IPA
Use criticism in a Sentence
–noun
1. the act of passing judgment as to the merits of anything.
2. the act of passing severe judgment; censure; faultfinding.

Now look at your statements... "it is bad to sit your kids in front of the tv just becuase you dont wanna play with him, you should feel guilty about not wanting to spend time playing and connecting with him! read a book when he naps! shame on you!"

That is not an opinion, it is a criticism. An opinion is "I feel it is bad to sit your kids in front of the TV because you don't want to play with him."

The key differences between the two are 'I feel' and 'you should'. 'I feel' is an opinion, 'you should' is a criticism.

So until you can get your bloody sentences right, get off your cross you keep martyring yourself on, and learn the definitions of a word BEFORE you use it, stop saying we are picking on you for giving your opinions. Because until you actually give an opinion, you're using the word incorrectly and showing a general lack of any sort of knowledge. I'm not about to follow a person's parenting advice if they don't even know the correct definition of the words they are using.

[NaomiK]

Ha! I love it. You guys crack me up.

[myangelhunter]

excuse me for thinking differently! stop getting on me for thinking a different way, dont say anything about my son or how i raise him! i dont sit him in front of the tv, because i dont believe that he should be watching it!

[angel25705]

Deleting all my posts because of the sicko wanting pictures of our kids.

[*Babylon*]

oh, well, since now it's summer and kids are on vacations, we'll be seeing more of this troll, apparently.

[H.Starr]

Yet again, for the 900th time, NO ONE IS GETTING ON YOU ABOUT HAVING A DIFFERENT "OPINION."

We're all getting on you for BEING A TROLL!

And since you keep saying you're not a troll....stop trying so hard to look like one.

Personally, I'm still convinced you're a 12 year old boy. So get off your butt and go find a friend to play with. Don't waste your whole summer annoying women on the internet. School will be starting again before you know it.