Baby Number 3?

[kfiedler]

I currently have a daughter who will be 3 in June and my son 2 in Dec they are 18 months apart and both weren't planned. I have always said that I wanted three kids, and I still feel that way. I WANT 3. Lately I have been talking myself out of it, 3 is more chaos, $, don't know if family could handle 3 if we need them to babysit. My husband said that he is happy with 2. Anyone else feel like this? It's weird for me to think of planing to be pregnant. If I go off birthcontrol I know that I will have get pregnant. Not quite sure on how I feel. Any thoughts

[Casalinga]

Is there a reason that you can't wait a year or two? Why don't you give it a little time and see how you feel next year?

I'd want my husband to be completely on board, too. When you say, he's happy with 2 what do you mean? Does he want to stop at 2?

[myboysmom]

I am pregnant with #3. My husband was an only child until he was 14, and never really was around little kids much. He told me he was happy with our 1st. But, as you can tell, we haven't stopped. He's not against 2 and 3, it's just not what he would have chosen. He isn't resentful or anything like that, and if he would have said "I DON'T WANT MORE KIDS" then we definitely would have had to have a talk. Now the real dilemma for me is, we are going to have three boys, and I would love to have that little girl someday. But I think that will definitely take some talking about with my husband.

From what I've been told, the transition from 2-3 is easier than 1-2, if that helps at all. My boys are 4 and 2, and one is still in diapers. I'm trying to potty train him, hopefully be done next month. So, really, in my situation, the $ thing isn't an issue, yet. We have all the baby gear, clothes, etc. I'm planning on breastfeeding, but if not we're on WIC. So, I guess what I'm saying is, I think the step from 2-3 is really more of a personal decision between you're DH and you.

[kfiedler]

My husband said that he is happy with 2 but if I wanted another he is all for it. He is not sure if now is right time. I agree with him. But I am also afraid that If my kids are farther apart then I think i might want fourth Because 1 & 2 are best friends, I am fortunate that they get alone GREAT! I was not a very good pregnant person both times I was very, sick, emotional, it was just very difficult on me. I think maybe #3 I could actually enyjoy. Am I nuts?

[myboysmom]

not nuts, just hopeful. :) Every single pregnancy of mine is SO different, I wouldn't be able to try to predict what another would be like. But, the pregnancy is temporary. The age dif. between your kids is permanent.