my baby boy

[tinymommy]

i had a three-d sonogram yesterday. my son looks so beautiful!! i know you guys didn't agree with my choices for being a teen mom, but you gys..you should have seen him. he looked like he was just chillin in my tummy, with his hand behind his head!!! i can't wait to meet him. how do you mommy's prepare to become a mom? i feel like....if i am this excited about a sono then...how wacko will i be when he is actually here?

if you guys want to know some of the names i have picked out, here they are:

Noah Elijah
Damien Lucas
Lucien Andrew
Isaeh Michael

which do you like?

[Saphira]

I really hope you take my advice to heart.

Talk to cay about some of those websites she proposed on your last thread here. The ones about teen diets when you're pregnant and such. She had a couple good ones, and she's usually a good source of websites... far as I've seen. [Hope you don't mind me throwing you out there cay...]

Yes, sonogram's and ultrasounds are very exciting. But a baby in the tummy is way different than a baby in your arms. Will you be 13 or 14 when you actually deliver? I still believe you are very young. But if you have family support and you're gonna make the dad pay child support to help you out... then I guess I'll at least be here for you for advice.

Feel free to email me at themechanicaldoll_disaster@yahoo.com if you need any help or advice about your soon to be baby. I really want to help you realize what you're getting into. Not just cuz you're young, but because it is a LOT of work. I'm overwhelmed, and I'm 20. And have you considered what to do if you get postpartum depression? I don't wanna scare you away like last time. Cuz I do think maybe you'll consider adoption, or maybe you'll realize how much work it is. And if not... then I wanna be able to give you as much advice as I possibly can.

So how many months is it now?

[Willbearsmom]

I agree with Saphira. We all felt that way when we got our ultra sounds. And trust me, I was 21 and I thought I was ready. It's hard, stressful and not all smiles. This isn't like having a baby brother where you can just hand him off to mom when he gets fussy, needs a change, or is sick. It's a 24/7 JOB! You are just a kid and I know that sounds bad but please make sure you are doing what is best for this little boy. He deserves to be in a stable home and you don't need to grow up yet! I would even suggest an open adoption. That way you are still able to have contact with your baby but someone else takes care of him, someone who will love him and give him a stable home.

[Melinda_Jane]

Tinymommy im not guna give u my opinion on wat u should do coz im sure ul do wat u feel is right in the end wateva that may be.
i would try to ignore the negative comments but also take on board all the information/ experinces anyone has to offer u coz u will need it having a baby is a huge shock no matter how prepared u think u are.
i was 18 when i fell preggas 19 when i had my son and am now 20 with a 7 month old
i wish u all the best of luck with what ever u decide ur lil boy desrves nothigng but the best.
out of ur names i like Noah Elijah best.
there is a youngmommies helpwebsite that i am part of with all other young mommies on it which are really supprotive and helpful, i suggest u check it out of ur intrested.

[cay8099]

http://forums.parenting.com/showthread.php?t=3353

You should check out this thread; just click on the link above.

I must say Tiny, I'm a little surprised to see you back here.

I still think you are too young to be a mother, but I like the name Isaeh Micheal. I hope your eating properly for 2 growing people.

[cay8099]

On emore thing; you should read missbootymeat's thread "hey i have a problem." This is what we are afraid is goig to happen to you. She started with baby #1 at 13-14 years old, and now she is 19 and has 3 kids. Don't let yourself become a statistic; so many mothers who are as young as you become locked in a cycle of pregnancy after pregnancy that they never seem to learn from. I say this out of concern for you, and this baby.

[luckymama2]

I think, if you are commited, you could be a good mom but what I really cannot wrap my head around is how are you going to provide for this child FINANCIALLY. Are your parents/baby's daddy parents willing to help out with that aspect? I am 24 with two children so am young also but am married. There are two people in our household and we are still tight on money a lot of the time even though we have our basic needs plus more met financially. But there are definitely no summer vacations this summer or new cars in our future anytime too soon! But how will you buy diapers or baby food/formula if you don't BF? Formula is so expensive but there is WIC out there so I would check that out. And who is paying for your check-ups or who will pay for the medical expenses from the delivery...even with insurance you have to pay a certain amount I assume. I don't know exactly because when I gave birth to both children my husband was in the Marines so they cover 100% of medical costs through our military insurance. Anyways, best of luck. I think with proper support you can possibly do this and give your child the love and care it needs even if you will be stressed out, but I just really don't understand unless some adult in your life is willing how you will pay for the everday expenses of a child.

[RLTMommy]

Isaeh Michael

[lismom2]

I like Lucien Andrew.
Also, since you know you are having a boy, please check out the link in my signature. I don't want to sound preachy/bossy, but Routine Infant Circumcision is something you should research :) Best of Luck!

[kateambers123]

Ok for some reason alot of you guys can't help but to keep pounding the girl! Yeah she's 13 and pregnant, TOO TOO YOUNG, but she's already made her decision to go through with the pregnancy so get OVER IT and move on! Everytime you give an answer to her question, is it really necessary to keep pointing oh she's young young young and how is she gonna do it, blah blah blah. Her parents are helping so she said so obviously that's how. Maybe you don't agree with her parents helping out with the child's expenses but that's their business. She simply asked a question on names and how to prepare for one so answer it like it is without any negativity at the end, or just don't answer at all. Goodness.

[kateambers123]

Tinymommy, when I had my 3d sonogram, I was so excited too seeing my child sitting in my tummy sleeping peacefully. Of course when she came out, she wasn't always that "peaceful" lol. I would just say to have everything ready for her, do all the research you can just to kind of have an idea of what's to come (even though it can never completely prepare you for the actual baby!) but with all my research, I had a good idea of what milestones my baby was supposed to meet, and what to do in certain situations. So it's just good to have a heads up.
And there's really no preparing to become a Mom, Once you see that child in your arms, it's an unexplainable feeling!
How many months are you???

ps. I like Isaeh Michael! :)

[lou]

I'm not going to give my opinion about your situation as I'm certain you've heard all the arguements.
however as far as the names go, My son's name is Lucien John Paul. I absolutely LOVE his name, but I just wanted to prepare you as EVERYONE will mispronounce it and mispell it. LUCIEN is actually the french version so the pronunciation is lu-SEE-IN. however we go with this pronuciation : Lu-shin.
the most common mispronunciation I get is Lucianna. I have no idea how they get that a on the end.
I really like the name damien lucas, that you've chosen.
no matter what you choose to do I wish luck. just know that no matter what you choose to do it will be the hardest decision you'll ever make. do what's best for your child.

[Kerisweetpea]

well tiny im actually glad to see you come back! that shows something.
as you know how we all think im not going to get into that. but i agree on you on how awesome the 3d ultra sounds are! im not sure how far along you are but i love to be able to feel the baby move and watch it at the same time! some how it makes it all so much more real. theres no real answer to how to prepare to become a mom, for some it just all come naturally and others it takes some time. but since you are so young try to do research on caring for a newborn and when it is time your your baby boy to come into the world listen to the nurses!!!!!! and dont be afraid to ask questions, if your not sure about something, or dont understand something ASK!!! dont be afraid to ask us either. most of us have been there or have seen it.
as for the names i like them all. if i had to choose i would choose Damien Lucas. i think boy names are so much harder then girls.

Good Luck with everything

[NaomiK]

I did alot of reading, talking to other moms, and I watched alot of baby shows on TV. But dont be fooled by the women who give birth on TLC. It much more painful than they let on. How do they stay so quiet anyway? Sorry, dont mean to scare you, but its true. I did alot of reasearch on different labor techniques, drugs for pain, the healing process, all of it. I would highly suggest taking some kind of birthing class. Pick a hospital if you havent already. Come up with a birth plan and go over it with your doctor, your parents, and the childs father. You need to decide what and how you want your labor to go before you go in there. But be prepared that it usually doesnt go exactly as planned. Buy as many supplies as you can. Make sure you have clothes that will fit after you give birth because you will still look 6 months pregnant. You probably wont fit into your pre prego clothes right away but your maternity clothes will be to big. At least thats how it worked for me. Decide if you want to breastfeed and do alot of research on that too. My hospital had a lactation consultant on staff who spoke with all the moms after delivery to help them out. Find out if your hospital has the same. When are you due? You are going to need to make arrangements with your school to be out for a little while while your heal. Especially if you need a c section. I actually like the name Lucien Elijah. I know that isnt a combination you had, but I like it. Good luck and keep us posted.

[Disco Lemonade]

I really like Isaeh Michael

[christinas1]

Love the name NOAH, Elijah Michael sounds nice too :)

[freckles]

Oh I love getting the sonograms! I did not get a 3D, just a regular. Its so exciting!

I remember the doctors aid, nurse (or whoever) did not tell me that she was monitoring the heartbeat. She walked over to me with an instrument and I heard "womp,womp,womp" and I knew INSTANTLY it was a heartbeat.

[freckles]

Oh I like Noah BTW.

[Mikey_BKK]

Welcome back tinymommy :)
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Why not Michael Idea or Noah Idea? I bet that you think he is the Best Idea in the world right now
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You really do deserve our respect, you’re going to be a good mommy, and probably the most tired one in the world
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Keep us posted
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Michael
Father of Idea, the good idea

[Mikey_BKK]

When he get a bit older and can see light, don’t forget to play the flash light game with him. Turn off the lights and find the head and shine some light at him, then move it and you will see that he follows it.
Play too much and he will get irritated and give you a kick – OK, ok, I will stop now :)
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Michael

[tinymommy]

I am due in September. Thank you guys for the nice replies. I am leaning towards the names Noah and Isaeh. I just really like them. My dad is going to actually get me an apartment, under his name. He makes pretty decent money. Anyways.. thanks again. i love him so much!!

[Disco Lemonade]

When he get a bit older and can see light, don’t forget to play the flash light game with him. Turn off the lights and find the head and shine some light at him, then move it and you will see that he follows it.
Play too much and he will get irritated and give you a kick – OK, ok, I will stop now :)
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Michael

Awwwwwwww :o

[Mikey_BKK]

tinymommy,
Give your daddy lot’s of hugs for helping you, he’ll like that. I am what Cay describes as a ‘softy’ so I love (ok, ok, melt...) when my daughter does it :)
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Hate to sound like your dad but as a dad… I can’t help pointing out that your education must go on somehow. What’s your thought about that? You and your parents friends and your neighbours don’t live in a part of the city where kids finish school at the age of 15. You will most likely feel the difference in education and knowledge in a couple of years time and it won’t be a good feeling
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Are you going to take a year off and then go back?
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Michael
Idea’s Dad

[H.Starr]

Back up. You're THIRTEEN and your PARENTS are getting you an APARTMENT to live ALONE and raise a baby ALONE????

Sorry, I think this is officially the WORST idea anyone has ever had.

[KayLady]

I agree with H. Starr - tinymommy, your dad needs to realize that his job is not over! You have not been fully raised just because you are having a baby. You are going to need a lot of help, live-in help. With your own life as well as the baby's.

[tinymommy]

My dad wanted me to live with him, but he lives about 1 1/2 hours away... so... he is getting me and my boyfriend an apartment, i think it is nice of him. it's only 10 minutes away from my moms and about 15 from the hospital i go to. and about 20 from my school. as faras school goes my dad spoke to my principle and they are letting me attend half of the day after i have my son. so i will go from 8-11:30. they have done this for other girls in my school who have had babies.

[H.Starr]

15 minutes from the hospital. So....how long of a walk is that? Since you can't drive, obviously. How will you get there when you go into labor?

Living alone with this baby is going to be the biggest wake up call of your life. I'm not positive, but I think you can still give him up for adoption at any age.

For his sake, its the ONLY good idea.

[kateambers123]

H.Starr stop being so bitter. Let the girl learn on her own.

[freckles]

You are not alone on this one HStarr. I really don't think it is a good idea for tinymommy to be on her own. I dont think apartment management would even approve this anyway.

[H.Starr]

kateamber, the life of a baby is NOT something to just let a little girl "learn on her own" with. Its not about HER. Its about that poor baby.
If she had ever made it to high school, she could have taken Home Ec and "learned on her own" with one of those life-like little dolls they send home with you for a weekend. NOT with an actual living baby.
Her parents are not going about any of this in the right way. Only that baby is going to pay. He will suffer endlessly because of this little girl's ignorance, and her parents even worse ignorance.

[cay8099]

I have to agree; having an apartment of your own at 13 is not a good idea. This may be the worst idea I have ever heard. What kind of parents get an apartment for their 13yo daughter and her boyfriend? It's like they are giving you permision to screw up your life. What's going to happen when you can't control your 13 year old hormones then end up with 2 babies in diapers. I cannot say this enough; BAD IDEA. So on top of school work, and taking care of the baby; you will be cleaning, doing laundry, and cooking meals all by yourself, or is daddy going to hire you a live in maid as well? I can see it now; 2 teens living off of hotpockets, spegettios, and little debbies.

No parent worth their salt would do that, and even if your father lacked the sense; no mother with half a lick of sense would allow it.

[H.Starr]

That's what I've been saying since "tinymommy" first popped up.
What on earth is wrong with her parents?!?!?!?!?!
Not saying this complete disaster is their fault, its her own fault obviously, but they are doing NOTHING to make anything any better, they are only making it all worse!
The way I see it, her parents are as good as signing that baby's death sentence.
ADOPTION is the way to go. Unless her parents are 13 as well, they should be able to see that. Shipping her off to live on her own with a skeezy boyfriend and a newborn baby is FLAT OUT negligence. Both to the baby and to her herself. She's a LITTLE GIRL.
Isn't that against the law for her to live alone anyway??? I think if a 13 year old was living alone, her parents would get arrested for negligence or child endangerment or something.
I hope that is the case. They can go to jail, her and her baby can go to separate foster homes. Its a sad situation when THAT is the best possible outcome!

[cay8099]

There are to possibilities here:

A. This is tinymommy's last ditch effort to try to convince her mom that this is a good idea because when her mother heard this one she said "No way in hell."

or

B. I was wrong and Tiny really is a troll.

Because as I said, no mother would approve of her 13 yo daughter moving into an apartment with the boybriend and a her newborn grandchild.

[H.Starr]

I really hope you're right cay, but sadly there are mothers out there that are just that awful.
I've been hoping all along its just a troll. But I am pretty convinced its not.
I hope this girl's mother comes to her senses before its too late.

[tinymommy]

Okay H. Starr and cay. I guess I cant win with you guys...here:

yes, i am a 'troll', i spend my time, no not in school or puking my face off, but here bothering you guys.....


okay, sure i will give my baby up for adoption....just because you all said so. because i am going to kill my baby.....

sure, i wont get an apartment with my boyfriend, oh and DUHHH i wont need one because my baby will be in foster care, ow wait...my baby doesn't exist because i am a 'troll'

i seriously cannot fucking win with you guys........what ever........i thought i'd try it one more time, wtv.

[Saphira]

tinymommy - I thought you were very mature the first time you posted. You came to this site looking for advice on what to expect as a first time mother. But your last post? That was pretty immature.

You need to step back and look at your situation. You are 13. And I'm gonna say it again, you are soooo young. You are a kid, and you're having a kid. It's biologically wrong. You're gonna miss out on a lot. My mom was 15 years old when she had my brother, that's TWO years your senior. And she has a lot of problems from it. She suffers from guilt everyday cuz she couldn't give her sons the best. And then me, I'm 15 years younger than my brothers, and I KNOW they resent me cuz I was a spoiled brat. Cuz my mother had me when she was mentally and financially prepared. I got a horse when I was 12, a cell phone when I was 15, a mustang when I was 17, and my mother just recently helped me purchase a duplex.

You have to see this situation from cay and starr's views. Here you are, some 13 year old child who's gonna have a kid with her 16 year old boyfriend and gonna move into an apartment by yourself? Do you realize what kind of 24 hour responsibility a newborn is? My baby demands my attention every two hours. I barely sleep at night cuz I'm constantly waking up and making sure my worst fear [SIDS] hasn't come true. And not to mention the stuff. Yeah, you get most of it at a baby shower, and you're REAL lucky if you get more than one baby shower. But what if you don't? Have you gone to WalMart/Target/BabysRUs and priced baby stuff? You need burp clothes, blankets, DIAPERS [which cost a hell of a lot of money], a crib, bottles and formula if you don't breastfeed, and then when they get older there's swings, high chairs, play pens. The list is endless. It's not a dog. You can't throw it a bone and call it good for a couple hours.

Adoption, to anyone is a GREAT way for you to go. You could still see your son, still be a mom, but you can do it when someone else pays for him. You know how much my first pediatrician appointment cost me? It was a good fricken fortune! Not to mention my labor and delivery bill. Which was a good chunk. It adds up sweetheart, and there's no way your 13 year old paycheck could ever cover it. You can't even legally get a job. You need a work permit when you turn 15 to get a job. I haven't heard of anyone younger than that getting a job. So how will you pay for this?

And your boyfriend? Let me tell you something about young men. There's two things your boyfriend might do. He MIGHT wake up and be a good dad. He might say, "Hey, I love this baby boy. I like this girl. I will be a good man, a better father, and provide for them." Whether that means he is with you or not. OR... he could very well decide he's in over his head and split. I'm not just saying that cuz it happened to me - cuz it happens to a lot of people.

You need to make a living situation with your parents work. Either one, pick! Cuz you're gonna need help. And I doubt your stupid boyfriend who got you knocked up in the first place is going to step up and play daddy.

[H.Starr]

Seriously tiny. You say you want to be an "adult" and you want to be "mature."
Well in order to be EITHER of those, you have to be "responsible."
You have already failed miserably at that one, but its not too late. You can still recover.
If you "love" your son so much, then do what's best for HIM. Let him have good parents who can AFFORD to take care of him the way he will need. "Love" isn't enough. "Love" won't feed him and put diapers on his butt. MONEY does that. At thirteen, you will NEVER have enough money to take care of him.
So be responsible, act like a mature adult, show the child some love, and let him go.
Stop being so selfish. Yes, little kids are supposed to be selfish. But you can't be a little kid and an adult at the same time. Stick with being a little kid while you can. Let someone else who is capable be the adult and raise the baby.
Plenty of capable adults are unable to have children of their own. Find one, and help them out. You'll be helping yourself and your son at the same time.

[Disco Lemonade]

Did you decide on a name already?

[jasmine89]

tinymom...i am a young mom as well but not as young as you I am 18 but i can say i don’t really think moving with your boyfriend is a smart move, IT IS HARD trying to keep your relationship with your boyfriend an raise your baby i know me an my boyfriend lived with each other but my mother let him move in with us an made her top floor an apartment for us we had to pay her rent in give her some money for cable put food in the house because i wanted to move out but she showed me exactly how hard it was an i was not working but my boyfriend was i was still going to school in stuff but it is really hard it is not as easy as you think, changing a diaper feeding the baby a bottle in that’s about it WRONG there is a lot that comes with motherhood you will see when the baby is first born getting up in the middle of the night 4 times a night your boyfriend sleeping because you are breastfeeding in there is nothing really he can do is not fun. i think you should really stay at home with your parents they can be a big help. as much as you want to grow up you are still a kid focus on graduating high school in things like that, see i played it smart i stayed at home with my parents my boyfriend moved out in im starting college in the fall. Me an my boyfriend are still together just because you don’t live with him don’t mean you cant be with him if that is what you are most worried about

[cay8099]

Okay H. Starr and cay. I guess I cant win with you guys...here:

yes, i am a 'troll', i spend my time, no not in school or puking my face off, but here bothering you guys.....


okay, sure i will give my baby up for adoption....just because you all said so. because i am going to kill my baby.....

sure, i wont get an apartment with my boyfriend, oh and DUHHH i wont need one because my baby will be in foster care, ow wait...my baby doesn't exist because i am a 'troll'

i seriously cannot fucking win with you guys........what ever........i thought i'd try it one more time, wtv.

I never believed you were a troll until you said your parents were gonna let you move into an apartment with your boyfriend. Until you said that I believed every word you wrote. Not one single mother I know or have met would let her 13 year old daughter move into an apartment with her boyfriend. Especially after proving without a doubt that they can't handle their hormones.

[CPST_Jim]

I too think you are way too young and don't have a clue as to what you are getting into, but if you are bound and determined to do this then no drinking, no smoking, NO DRUGS, get REALLY serious about your diet, and be religious on both prenatal vitamins and prenatal care. My DW is a NICU nurse and sees way too many babies of teen mothers because they just haven't learned to take care of themselves yet, let alone a baby growing inside them.

So if you are serious about this, then get serious. And don't even THINK about neglecting your school work! For that you need to be redoubling your efforts. Your education in high school, and then beyond is what's going to provide for you and your baby. Do not lose site of that. My DW's father taught her to always make sure that she had a profession that would always allow her to be independent if that was required. Nursing is something you might really want to look into as the hours usually make a good fit with child rearing, and she can find a job anywhere and at any time.

You've chosen to become an adult, and now you have to act like a responsible one. It's not easy, and it's not anywhere near always fun...

Good luck.

As for names... I like Noah. Cute name for a boy! :D

[Mikey_BKK]

...I guess I cant win with you guys...here
Never mind that you can’t win here. This battle is insignificant. I like your attitude, what you mean is that you are going to win where it really matters. I don’t think the battle at home is over yet so stay calm and focused. You need help, take all you can get and ask for more :)
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Keep your head high tinymommy
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Michael
Father of Idea, the good idea
and keep us posted

[charliesmommy]

I'm beginning to realize why I feel ignored when I first start posting on other forums. This forum is proof that you're better off letting people establish themselves in the community before replying to threads like this and feeding into the drama. This poster is a TROLL. There's a possiblity that she didn't originally post trolling for drama but I'm pretty convinced that she came back only to stir it up again.

[KayLady]

If tiny is real then I can't see how, even trying her hardest, she could raise this baby well with parents like that as roll models. Someone said this situation is not completely their fault, but it is since they are obviously encouraging some outrageous behavior. Hopefully her mom will step up and keep her from leaving (sounds like the parents aren't together, and maybe she doesn't know about this apartment thing yet). Anyway, it will only take one call to CPS to get her 13 year old toosh back home and the boyfriend in jail for statuatory rape. No way would whatever state she lives in let a baby live alone with a 13 year old! It's funny because my local newspaper just ran a poll on what age children should be able to stay at home alone, and the majority said 16! And that for only a few hours at a time . . .

[giraffes_buddy]

...Anyway, it will only take one call to CPS to get her 13 year old toosh back home and the boyfriend in jail for statuatory rape. No way would whatever state she lives in let a baby live alone with a 13 year old!
This is the first thing that came to mind when I saw the apartment-thing - right after the thought, "This troll came back?". IF she's real (and I'm guessing a big NO on that), then the question of custody of two children would be in question. And it's not a matter of maturity - it's a matter of legality.

There is zero way that CPS in any state will allow a 13-year-old minor child to live by herself in an apartment with no adult - let alone a 13-year-old minor AND a newborn. I don't care who's name is on the lease or how old they are. And if it was blessed and financed by the 13-year-old's parents, well, I'm fairly certain that the courts would have something to say about that - more than likely by removing any legal authority the parents have over either of those minor children. If there's no non-parental relative willing to take on a kid with a newborn in tow, then it's foster care city for both of them.

...but this whole thing just reeks of BS.

[tinymommy]

But your last post? That was pretty immature.


How do you expect me to act when you guys are as rude as you are. Have I ever said one mean thing to you all? No, I don't think so.........


Disco Lemonade: I can't decide between Noah and Isaeh.

--My mother is a nurse and more of a mom to her patients then to me and my sisters.....I don't really talk to her much, all she knows is that I want to live with my dad. i am researching getting emancipated and as far as doctor bills go......i am on Medicaid. Yes, I do "LOVE" (yes, real true love...nothing that needs to be in quotations......) my baby. I am going to raise him, not alone, with my boyfriend.......and that's that..........why you all have to push adoption is beyond me...... not going to happen.

[H.Starr]

Please God, Please please please please let this girl be a troll.
This whole thing disgusts me to no end. I can't stop hoping its all fake.

[ra11en]

Legally this child can't live in an apartment to raise her own child by herself. No judge would allow emancipation either, and that is legally the only way she would be allowed to live alone and raise a child. Her parents will face charges, either by the apartment complex when it comes to light that her father committed fraud when getting the apartment under his name for a minor child, or by CPS when a neighbor reports this child being neglected or this child's child being neglected. She can't even get a driver's license, how does she expect to rush her baby to the ER when (no if, when) needed? Forget all the other instance you need to have a vehicle. I also hope this is just a fake troll again.

I purposely did not address this to the OP - no 13 yr CHILD will listen to responsible advice considering she has been so irresponsible to get herself knocked up, so not worth my effort to type directly to her. Unbelievably sad.

[jasmine89]

i don’t think she is a troll anyone in the world can have this same situation in come on here for advice, i know a girl by the name of Karla who was 14 at the time had a little boy in got an apartment so its not impossible for someone’s parents to react the way her parents did, in actually she would be emancipated automatically after the baby is born in i know that for a fact because when i went in had my daughter i was only 17 in when my mother tried to sign the papers to get me admitted in the hosp. the people at the hosp told my mother that they did not need her permission for anything because i was emancipated by the state law because i was having a baby in when you are having a baby they consider the child to be an adult because they now have a dependant. my mom was pissed she refused to believe what the hosp told her. that’s why Karla got an apartment in she also went threw welfare

[Saphira]

I'm also to the point where I hope this is fake. But I have a nagging feeling that it's not.

tinymommy - No one can take you seriously and consider you mature when you're sitting there throwing insults like a child. Just because we don't agree with your circumstances or your decisions does not make us assholes. We are mothers, and our first motherly instinct is to protect. You don't know what being a mother means, you're still learning how to grow up and handle rumors and girl drama at school.

And don't count on your boyfriend being there. Let's just say you're real. You have a wonderful daddy who's gonna buy you an apartment. Let's even say your boyfriend drives AND owns his own car and he has a job. Ok. What are you going to do if he backs out? You lose a car, and as ra11en said - you lose a ride to the hospital when your baby is in trouble. You also lose a right to the pediatrician when your baby is sick. You have to count on somebody. This somebody would be your dad, I'd assume cuz from what I've heard your not on good terms with your mother. If your boy toy backs out, you also lose income. You lose the means to pay for the pediatrician and ER visit. You lose money to buy the formula and diapers with. You can't just walk around with your head in the clouds and expect everything to work out 100% in your favor.

Crap happens hun. A boyfriend isn't tied to you. It takes money [not LOVE] to clothe, feed, and shelter your baby. People are gonna look down on you and consider you a slut. Mothers on this website are gonna wish, hope, and pray that you grow up and consider adoption. And you're gonna need to learn how to handle it. That's life.

This is my last response to this thread. It's pointless to try and force opinions on a child [even if you know what's best]. They're stubborn and hard headed.

[jenn_0629]

I can understand why tinymommy would get upset. She asked for advice, or rather was sharing her excitement over her baby (and you all know that it is exciting, I cried at mine...) and if you can't give it without all of the troll talk, then you don't need to respond. You feed the trolls by telling others not to feed the trolls.

[maryjane_097]

Isaeh Michael

[Mikey_BKK]

Noah Idea

[KayLady]

Noah Michael

[Melinda_Jane]

this is getting ridiculous!
-if you think she may be a troll, then dont respond.
- if you dont like choices and cant offer kind advice, then dont respond.
im beginning to think you all enjoy the drama these kind of posts accumilate.

Tinymommy, like i said earlier you will only do what you feel is right for your baby
and if you truelly believe that your son should be with you, his mother, then you will make it work and it sounds like your trying.
here is a site that wont tell you to adopt your baby out but offer you advice and friendship: www.youngmommies.com
i suggest you join it if you are for real

[Disco Lemonade]

Awww pick Isaeh, that is such a beautiful name :D