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06-01-2009, 02:17 PM
I figured since it's June now we needed to start a new thread for moms TTC in June/July/August. We can shares the joys, disappointments, and general stuff of TTC!
06-01-2009, 02:20 PM
Since there's now a good mix of new and old posters, maybe we should reintroduce ourselves.
I'm Cass, 27 yrs old in OK. I'm active duty Air Force. I have two fur babies, Cadance and Grace, my puppies. My SO and I are currently not preventing but not really trying because we are currently living 6 hours apart due to jobs.
06-01-2009, 02:33 PM
Good idea Cass! We needed a new thread for those of us who weren't successful!
Well, I am Amanda, 22, engaged, have been TTC for 15 months now I believe. I live in AL! I work full-time, as does my fiance who works out of town Mon-Fri!
My cycles are so crazy..it is time for AF , but it could be today through next Monday. I will test next Tuesday if no AF by then, so here is to wishful thinking!! I do not think I am pregnant..aka no signs, but I started boycotting signs back in February so..... just hoping! Babydust to all!!!:)
06-01-2009, 02:41 PM
Great idea Cass! I must admit...I am disappointed to be a member of the original thread still TTC(no offense, I like chatting with you ladies)....6 months ago! Anyway, DH and I have been TTC since January. I had been on BC for a very long time and went off in Dec....so I figured it would take a while. We have been married for just under 5 years and hope this will be our month!
BABY DUST TO ALL!!! ***********
06-01-2009, 08:11 PM
Hey everyone, I'm Rachel, 22, live in Ohio and married. I've been TTC since January '09, got off BC Dec '08. I have a very regular 28 day cycle except last cycle I was 6 days late which really threw me off because I tested and still ended up with several BFN's! I'm expecting AF Friday, not really feeling too much of anything right now so we'll see what happens. I have to admit I have read posts of TTC groups before but never joined because I told myself it would happen fast and I wouldn't need to join a group! I guess I'm naive! : (
06-02-2009, 09:16 AM
Hey ladies! I'm Nikki, 23 and married to a soldier. We both work full-time and he is trying to finish up his master's degree. We have a beautiful 2 yo son named Jacob. I have been wanting to try for another for almost 18 months, but my SO just got on board. I have my IUD taken out at the end of April and I finally have a cycle to track now. AF is here now and scheduled to last through the 6th. I'm schedule to O on the 15th, but we want to try for a girl so BD'ing on the 12th and 13th only! We'll try that method this month and if it doesn't take, then we'll just go with the BD every other day. Baby dust to all!
06-02-2009, 01:32 PM
Hey ladies! My name is Amber, I am 25 and I am from Kentucky. I have been married to my DH for a year this past May 24. I was on BC for 3 years and went off of it in December 08, and we stopped preventing in January 09, we actually started ttc in March 09, where I was actually tracking my cycle and all of that. The past month has been crazy busy for us and I have pretty much not counted any days or anything, and we have not been thinking about ttc nearly as much. We are back to the fact that it will happen when it happens, and we will see. I just can't stay away from the thread though, it's my one addiction to the whole ttc mess, haha. I am expecting AF to show any time now because I am feeling like I am about to start, but the past two months when I started feeling that way, it was still 6 days until I actually did start, so we will see.
Good luck to everyone in their venture to become preggo, I hope we all do asap!!
06-03-2009, 10:20 AM
Good Morning Ladies! Now that we have all introduced ourselves again...I wanted to hear where everyone is in their cycle....so we can be each others cheering section. HAHA! So I am currently on CD24 out of a 31-33 day cycle. I won't test until CD31 at the earliest! I typically boycott any symptoms.....but it is hard sometimes. With all the people I have found out are preggo lately...my DH keeps asking...are you preggo yet??? I think it is finally getting ot him as well!
06-03-2009, 04:59 PM
I'm Angela. I live in Louisiana about an hour from New Orleans. Anyway, me and my DH are officially TTC baby #2! Iím so excited that we are finally trying. I was only off b.c. for 2 weeks before I got pregnant w my DS so Iím hoping this time will be that easy! I started my period last Friday and ended it Monday. I have only been off my b.c. since Saturday now. We have been busy bee's the past couple days though!! :) My cycles are normally 28 days apart but since Iím just getting off b.c. it might throw them off but I hope now.
06-03-2009, 10:15 PM
Hey ladies! My name is Maria, I just turned 29. I've been married 11 years and have four children; 11, 8.5, 7.5, and 27 months. I live in OK, but grew up in KY.
My DH and I are not officially ttc, because he 'just wants it to happen'. So I guess he doesnt like the thought of planning. So, we will see what happens!
I am on CD 12, I think, of a 30 cycle...
06-04-2009, 09:36 AM
How is everyone today? I'm on CD 18 of a 36 cycle. Time for some BDing this weekend.
Am - any news?
06-04-2009, 10:12 AM
Well I am on CD29 & still no AF! I will not test until next Tuesday so I have a little while to go! My cycles are just so crazy you never know! I have been having a few cramps here & there so I feel like she will be here pretty soon!
When SO & I were BDing Tuesday(He came home for an interview that he should hear back about today....WAHOO) I started getting some cramps which has never happened, so I have NO clue what that was about, but it kind of hurt a little...stupid AF..I can officially say I HATE her!!
Only 5 more days, but I feel like she will show up by then!!!! I hope we get another BFP soon!! :)
Babydust to all!!!
06-04-2009, 11:22 AM
Hi all, Im Lisa 25 from Ontario, Canada DH and I have been married just over a year and TTC for 6 months and its day 6 of a 29 day cycle.
06-04-2009, 12:48 PM
Well my name is Holly and I have been married for a year and half but been with him for 9 years. We bought a house in February and decided that starting a family is the next logical step. We currently do not have any children, unless you count out cat Eddie.
I was on Depo for a year and stopped getting my shot in February 09. We have been trying but I don't even know if its worth trying until I get my period back. I have not had one in over a year so its very hard to tell.
I hate it when I don't even know my own body.
06-04-2009, 01:54 PM
Hello to all the newbies!
Amanda~ That is a good sign...I know your cycles have been very strange...but day 29 is promising. So on Tuesday you will be day 34......I have my fingers crossed for you. I am on CD 25 and will test on CD31...more because we are going out of town....and I would rather test at home! I have a super bad cramp on my lower back....as the advocate of boycotting symptoms...I am trying hard right now..but it isn't working well for some reason.. BBs are not sore at all though...so it isn't promising!
06-04-2009, 02:28 PM
I'm on CD 4 of a 30 day cycle. At least I used to be 30 days so we'll see if the Mirena affected that too. I am currently on my first AF in almost 2 years and wow I forgot how much I hated her. I'm hoping I can get pregnant right away and I won't have to deal with it for another 9 months!
06-04-2009, 09:34 PM
Hi girls! I am Amber. I am 23 and have bee TTC for #1 since February. My DH and I are both school teachers, so we officially started our SUMMER BREAK today! Now we have plenty of extra time to try ;)
I am on CD 25 of 28, so I will be taking a test next Tuesday if AF does not arrive! We are praying for a BFP!!! I have had a couple of symptoms, but I am not sure if they are just associated with AF....(Possible TMI): My areolas are darker than normal (I don't think I have ever noticed them being darker) and you can see the veins a little more. Also, they are much bigger!!! Do you know if they become wider during AF? I had some mild cramping about CD 20, but that could have been a fluke. I have also had a little bit of nausea that comes in waves. No vomiting, just pops up and then goes away. My appetite has increased tremendously to where my husband says "STOP EATING!" I could be bringing this on myself and just hoping that I am pregnant, but these are things that I am noticing.
Quick Question: Do you know if you can test early with a Dollar Tree brand HPT? I have heard from many of my friends who say these tests work just as good as the name brand tests. I am just tired of spending loads of money on the expensive tests, so if we do get a positive I will buy a name-brand before calling the doctor. The reason why I ask this is because I took a pregnancy test this evening and I got a BFN. I am not sure if I tested too early because I am not due until June 8, or if I really am not pregnant. Just so confusing!
Sending baby dust!
06-05-2009, 09:09 AM
Good morning ladies! Things have been so crazy for me here lately that it's hard to get on here, but I am taking a few minutes to do this, because I miss getting on here all of the time.
Currently I am on CD 30 of a 26-33 day cycle...my cycles have been jumping around like crazy here lately, so I'm not really sure when to expect this one, I've not really been thinking about it much, so that has helped tremendously. The past two cycles that I have had I have really felt like I was about to start AF, but didn't for another 6 days after that feeling started. So, I was trying to pay attention to see if I felt like I would start and I did start feeling that way a little on Tuesday and a little more on Wednesday, but yesterday and today I have not felt that way at all. So I am thinking that AF will show on Monday, which will end up being CD 33 again, so maybe I am becoming normal again, just on a longer cycle.
For those that don't know my cycle pattern, here it is: December = 19 days, January = 26 days, February = 26 days, March = 30 days, April = 33 days, and so far my "May" (really May - June) is at CD 30. I just came off of birth control in December and we have stopped preventing then, and became actively ttc in February or March, can't really remember now.
One thing that is hard is that my best friend is preggo, she is almost 25 weeks, so I am very much looking forward to her baby, but it's almost bittersweet...and I just found out yesterday that one of my college roomies is expecting her first baby, and her and her husband were married 3 weeks after me and my husband...and it doesn't help at all that my MIL wants grandbabies SO bad that she can barely stand it, and she made the comment on Tuesday that her best friend already has 2 grandchildren...I just want to say, "Hey, back off, we are trying our hardest." But I don't want her to know that we are ttc b/c it would put WAY too much pressure on everything. The only people that know that we are ttc are my best friend and her fiance who is my DH's best friend.
Anyway...that's all about me for now. Good luck to everyone, and I am sending lots of babydust to everyone!!! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.
06-05-2009, 09:41 AM
I made the mistake of telling my mom that I had my IUD removed. She has told absolutely everyone. It's so embarrassing getting all of these personal questions from people that I barely know! She is a teacher at the school I graduated from, so all the teachers there know, and all of my family knows now too. What if I don't get pregnant right away? She never stopped to think about that. I confronted her about it and she said I didn't say it was a secret. It's not a secret, but it's personal information that I didn't want shared with the whole world! I have decided that she gets cut off from anymore baby information. With my son, she talked me out of the name I picked out. So I'm definitely not telling her any baby names this time.
06-05-2009, 10:05 AM
Well I broke down last night & took a test! A BFN, so oh well! At least I know now! I haven't tested in like 3 months & last night was a big reminder of why! It is so devastating!!! I was home alone & I was folding laundry & thinking about how if I tested & got a BFP I could surprise SO when he got home today, so thats all I could think of so I lost me strength to not test! Then I had to think about the fact it was negative the whole time I was doing dishes throwing me into an emotional downward spiral so I am trying to not think about it anymore! I just wanted to update everyone, so now I am just waiting for AF to arrive! I am going to go before I start a rant..( I am still heart broken about the BFN.. on to cycle # 16!!!!)
Oh & Welcome to all the new people..I will be more fun when I get over seeing a BFN!!!
Tara-Thanks...I still have a little hope in my heart, but my head knows it is CD30 so it couldn't be too early!!!! Thanks though!! :):):)
06-05-2009, 11:45 AM
Amanda! Oh no...I am sorry...maybe it is too early! :( I am sad! I understand why you tested though.
Book...that stinks.....I am very open about it...because I knew that would happen...
Or like aminor....I knew I would be asked constantly.
So my comment is...we are not "trying" but we are not "not trying". It closes the conversation ASAP! Which is great!
What do you ladies thinking about when to tell family/friends....when you do get preggo? Do you think as soon as you know is too early? If you know you would tell people if something went wrong anyway.
06-05-2009, 02:18 PM
Taraken- Last time I found out I was preg I told everybody and their momma... even posted it on my myspace. I ended up having a miscarriage and felt competely horrible when months later people still kept asking me how was the baby doing and all. Me & DH are trying again and even though I went through all of that I will probably still tell my friends and family as soon as we find out. Its too exciting to keep to yourself! This time I probably wont post it on my myspace right away though... at least not until I get my first ultrasound to make sure everything is ok. I cant wait! I know I wont be able to keep it a secret!
06-08-2009, 08:34 AM
Good morning ladies! I hope everyone had a great weekend, I know that I did. I didn't do a whole lot on Saturday except go shopping for a wedding shower that I am throwing for my brother and soon to be sister in law, it will be held on June 20th, a day after my mom gets remarried, so right now is just a crazy time for my family, but I am loving it. My brother will be getting married on July 11, so the craziness will be continuing for a little while, and then I am throwing a baby shower for my best friend August 1, which is the day after my birthday, and the day before hers...I have a BUSY few months, and then with work being crazy due to the closing of the school year, and now preparing for the beginning of next school year, things are just nuts!!! On Sunday I went swimming over at my DH grandparents, and I had a blast, a great day of relaxation and fun...we ended up cooking out and everything, and ended up getting home around 10:30 last night, but it was worth it!!!
Well, on to the ttc info...Still no AF, and I am on CD 33 today, even though it is still early in the day. Last night I could of sworn that I was going to start, so I was expecting to have started in my sleep last night, but I'm sure that it will either come sometime today or tomorrow. Along with my calculations of when I first started feeling like I was going to start, adding 6 days after that (which has been my normal for 2 months now), I should either start today or tomorrow. I was thinking about testing this weekend, but I don't even have anymore tests right now, and I would hate to take it and then it be a BFN just to start AF either today or tomorrow. So, my conclusion is that if I don't start AF by tomorrow evening, I am going to take a test then...we will see.
I am sending lots of babydust to everyone. And Happy Monday!!!!
06-08-2009, 12:56 PM
Hey guys! I'm 3 DPO and I think we actually got it right this time. I mean...we'll see if I get pregnant, but we managed to conquer some of the pitfalls we were having when we BD. It was looking like my husband might be having some problems. not only did we conquer it, but we actually enjoyed ourselves!
That's a huge win right there. I think the pressure of TTC nearly ruined our sex life so i'm feeling so happy its back on track.
We'll see what happens in a few weeks.
Good luck everyone!
06-08-2009, 01:22 PM
Welcome to all the new ladies!! and good luck on your journey of TTC!! **BABY DUST**
Amanda-so sorry about that stupid BFN hun, but you dont worry its in your stars girl, I can feel it!!!! Keep trying *hugs*
As for me Im 21 weeks today and started to get incision pain from my last 2 c-sections, which sucks, cause its soo sore :( but oh well pregnancy can be painful no matter what you do. But as for that everything is well. I will post my 20 week belly photo.
***THINKING OF ALL YOU GREAT LADIES, AND HAVE MY FINGERS AND TOES CROSSED ALL THE TIME***
06-08-2009, 04:25 PM
Well AF showed up Friday during lunch!! Oh well!! I am going to back off some more! Get away from this thread more I guess!!! It is just so heart-breaking I can't get back into the sad mode I had gotten into before!!! I just pray that it is in God's will that we will have a baby after we get married! Baby Dust to all!!!!!
Mum-Thanks for the support! I sure hope its in our stars!!!! Also thanks for the hugs~~even though virtual they help!!!! :)
Ps/ the pictures are so sweet(they definetly need to go in the baby book)!!!! You are so little!!!!:):)
06-08-2009, 04:32 PM
awww mum that is so awesome!!! you have such a cute little belly!!!!
I am praying that you all get BFP soon!! and i am sending tons of baby dust your way!!!
as for me i am almost 25 weeks!!! i just had my hour glucose test done, i hate getting blood drawn!! its the worst! i am already very uncomfortable cant walk, sit or stand for long periods at a time, so that makes it hard but it will be worth it. oh and i have been having braxton hicks contractions for a couple weeks now and they hurt!!! hopefully they wont get worse... so far i have been pretty lucky with the heat, since i live in michigan we havent had any! its in the 50's still which sucks in a way. but im hoping it wont last long!
well since mum posted some pic of her belly i will post my 21 week belly pics....
So i hope you all have good luck on TTC and hope we get a TON of BFP this month!!!
06-09-2009, 08:49 AM
Ladies you bellies are soo cute! I love the pics! Yeah more than half way there for both of you!
Amanda~ I am sorry about AF...but again...maybe it is just waiting for your wedding....so you can have skinny wedding pics :) I agree about needing to stay away! When we started the original posts I used to post mutliple times a day...now it is only a few days a week to keep my sanity!
Babesy....glad things are going better now! DH and I haven't had any problems with that. We have always BD at least 4-5 times a week...so now it is just trying to adjust to make sure we are giving sometime for the guys to build back up.
Aminor- sounds like you had a great weekend! Did you test yet? I have my fingers crossed for you.
As for me. I am currently on CD31 out of an average of a 31-32 day cycle. Since I have been off BC I have been anywhere from 28-37...with the past two months being 31-32 days. I am trying to decide whether or not to test tomorrow. So DH and I are traveling this week starting Wed afternoon....I would rather test at home...so I am thinking tomorrow morning. But I have No symptoms of preggo or AF...so I don't want to waste a test if my cycle is just long this month! UGH! Plus if it is BFP I want to be able to get a blood test with my doc on Wed before we leave....ugh...I don't want to get my hopes up...but for some reason they are.... :(
06-09-2009, 11:40 AM
Warning: TMI (sorry I don't know all the lingo, so it is a bit much). I was on bc for over 3 years, and then 7 weeks ago, I stopped the bc because it was messing with my horomones. My DH and I are not actually ttc, but I started on 5/15 and it lasted 13 days. Then on the 6th, I discovered a strong ovulation sign. My DH "forgot" to pull out on the 4th. I am now wondering what are the possibilities of getting pregnant. I have 3 other boys, 8, 7, and 3. The first 2 pregnancies came easy, but the 3rd took a few cycles. I know that for a girl, you should ttc a couple of days before ovulation and wanted to get everyone's input on this. I can't say for sure what my reaction will be if I do become preggers, but it won't be disappointment!
06-09-2009, 02:09 PM
mumof2grls- I'm sorry that your having pains. I was wondering though, why are you having incision pains? I had a c-section for my son & we are trying again... just wondering if thats going to happen to me. I've never heard of that.
APEMBERTON- I'm sorry about AF! I know thats so depressing when she comes pops up!
As far as I go I have only been off birth control for less than 2 weeks and I really think it isnt going to happen for us this month bc of that but that isnt stopping from trying hard! lol Any way, I feel so bad for my friend bc her and her bf want a baby. Well, she kept thinking she was pregnant throughout the month and tested about 4 days before her period was supposed to come and it was BFN. I told her it was probably too early to tell. Well AF was about 4 days late she took another test and it was BFN again so I told her ok maybe its still too early to tell. So she finally made a dr apt when she was about 1 1/2- 2 weeks late and the test said no. AF appeared the next day... she was so upset. I didnt even know what to tell her, I thought for sure she was pregnant since AF was so late. She actually has decided to get back on birth control now. Stupid AF!
06-10-2009, 08:14 AM
Good morning ladies!! Well, I am currently on CD 35 of what has been a 26-33 day cycle, so who the heck knows what's going on...I told myself I would wait to test until the evening of CD 34, so I did, and I got a BFN...so I took the other test that I bought this morning, and still a BFN...they are from Dollar Tree, and I have never used them before until this time (because I was sick of investing so much in pregnancy tests), I've heard that they are just as good as any other tests, but who the heck knows. I am SO sick of my body being stupid and going longer and longer in these cycles...I'm ready to be normal, haha. I'm just hoping that AF would show up already because my mom gets married next weekend (19th) and I don't want to be grumpy then...
06-10-2009, 08:48 AM
Good morning ladies! Thanks for the belly photos Keri's I cant believe those are your 21 weeks, I feel like a monster now!!! My stomache is HUGE!! LOL probably cause its my 3rd..I dunno, but I went to my doc's about the incision pain, and they are going to start doing u/s to watch it to make sure there are no tears in it, and she measured my belly and it was measuring 25 WEEKS!!! WOW!! I have never had that happen, with either of my girls!! I was shocked and so was my hubby. he said he knew that was going to happen, I looked about 28-29 weeks he said, thank god for a C-SECTION!!! Oh well, I love my bump so it can grow as big as it wants as long as NO stretch marks *crossing fingers*
As for the question about incision pain, that is very common, but it could be alarming, the scar has to stretch and scar tissue stretching is not the best feeling in the world, you will experience, slight burning sensations instead of cramping when its growing, but somtimes it can get intense and it always somthing you keep an eye on, in my case the burning pain was lasting more then 24 hours in one spot, and the doc will have you right in for that, and do a u/s to check the incision, there are times they go in and the incision has torn at the sides slightly and can be extremely dangerous, the more sections you have the more risk you are at having a rupture, and the risk can start around 19 weeks right until labor, but very uncommom, and because my last c-section she said the scar was paper thin, they suggest either no more, or waiting 36 months, and thats what we did, waited the 36 months. Now the only time I will be able to see what damage the stretching uterus is doing to my scar is when they open me up, either it will be fine, or even thinner or full of scar tissue that was causing all the pain, only time will tell. hope that helps on my situation :) good luck
06-10-2009, 09:17 AM
My name is Alice, I am new to the boards, never posted before, although I have been following this website for quite a while. I am 27, currently living in London, UK (but haven't found any UK parenting websites that I like more than this one!). We are currently TTC with my SO. He had a vasectomy reversal in Aug. 2008, which was a success and I thought that it would happen straight away! Well, we have been trying for 9 cycles, no luck yet! We started trying in September 08, but clueless me had no idea that regular silicone lubricants are bad for sperm so I was using that suff quite liberally, until I found out around March 09 & switched to pre-seed.
My cycle is usually 30 days, I am expecting AF on Sunday and I couldn't resist and had an early test yesterday. BFN. *sigh*.
Well, that's all for a first post, I just wanted to introduce myself.
Wishing all of you who are TTC loads of luck soon!
06-10-2009, 09:38 AM
Alice and Aminor- I am right there with you. I am on CD32 on a cycle with an average of 31-32 days (range 28-37). I am going out of town, so I decided to test today...and I also go a BFN! I am soo bummed. I have a family event and a baby shower this weekend and I know EVERYONE is going to be asking when we are going to start a family....VERY bad timing. I think this is the most bummed I have been in this whole process. I actually feel like crying, which I have not done yet and I am on cycle 6 now.
I need to stop thinking about this.....and just get on with my life. I never thought it would be this hard.
06-10-2009, 10:23 AM
Welcome Alice!!!! Glad to have you on board with us for this crazy journey called ttc...
Taraken - I completely know how you feel...I will be heading to my hometown which is about 4 hours away from here next week for my mom's wedding, and the wedding shower that I am throwing for my brother...and I know that everyone will be asking me about babies, because they always do when I go home like that...and I am also starting to plan a babyshower for my best friend for August 1 and that does not help one little bit...it just makes me want it all even more...I never would have thought that it would have been this hard either...I'm about to go crazy with everything. I am also going to be moving on to Cycle # 6...as soon as AF decides to show...
06-10-2009, 05:33 PM
Am & Tara- I sooo know how you feel!!! I am so sorry for both of the BFN's!!! I know how heartbreaking they are!! Sometimes I want to give up, but how can I give up a dream I have had since childhood???? I can't & I don't even know what to do! I really appreciate all the support from this thread....before I thought I was going crazy, but now I know I am not alone. I am torn though b/c as happy as I am for those who are successful on here I am still very heartbroken & jealous & "WHY THEM & NOT ME" ..."I HAVE BEEN TRYING 3X AS LONG!!!".."THEY HAVE KID(S) ALREADY"!! So it is bittersweet for me!
Well babydust to all!!!
Oh & Welcome Alice!!!! :)
06-11-2009, 10:38 AM
Ruth- Thanks so much!!! **HUGS** to you!! Yes I will be 23 in October & we have been TTC since Feb. of '08!! That is so odd that we are so similiar!!! Happy early Birthday..sorry your DH won't be around! That sucks!!! I will be bald & fat if it takes us 6 years.lol. I quit the OPK's a few months ago because after 3 months of doing them & pin pointing my ovulation & BD-ing, nothing happened. Plus we were BD-ing everyday or every other day so it really didn't matter when I was, only if I was!(If that makes any sense)lol! If my SO had kids before me it would definetly sting me too!! We both think we are the reason we haven't conceived so thankfully no finger pointing, except at ourselves.LOL! Have you gone to the doctor yet??? I went in Feb of this year for my yearly appt & I told her(a new doctor in with my doctors practice) that it had officially been a year & I had been charting EVERYTHING...etc, etc, & I got told to try OPK's & to keep trying...YEAH THANKS....Oh & she also said "Just Relax"...EXCUSE ME... RELAX..RELAX.. Are you kidding me???....Umm NO, I was relaxed the first 8 months...Clearly this lady has kids easily or hasn't tried & failed yet!!! After my appt. I went back to work(this is when my fiance & I worked together) & literally cried while telling him how un-helpful she was.( I am so NOT an emotional person & my friends & family all tell me I am cold-hearted...so for me to cry really scared him.lol.) I mean no tests..no blood tests..urine test...nothing!! I guess I expected too much, but I was VERY emotionally unstable at the time (hitting the 1 year mark of TTC). So right now we don't have great insurance, especially for infertility stuff, so I am looking around for some good insurance that will help cover alot of the costs & as soon as me & SO get married..hopefully in the next few months.. I am making an appt. to go get some intial tests done!!! Oh & to top it all off my sister announced back in September that she was preggo on the first try & that was 2 weeks after I had a miscarriage!! Talk about timing!
So what is your story?? Are you going to the doctor soon or have you been? Oh & I also kept up with the percentages & realized we are at a 10% too.Could that be more depressing???
06-11-2009, 10:53 AM
Amanda/Ruth~ I am soo sorry. I know we haven't been trying as long as you guys....but I am 5 years older....so if I went over a year....I would demand that my doc did test...and if she didn't, I would go to someone else! I have GREAT insurance though that helps with that stuff. So I am lucky. Plus we have been saving money every month for my mat leave. We have enough for me to stay home for 4 months now(max I can really stay home and not impact my job--we started saving when we started TTC), so any extra could go to fert costs if I need to now! So that is good at least. I really want two kids and I prefer to have them before I turn 30! So I am feeling nervous right now.
Anyway....as you know...I took a test and it was BFN yesterday.....so I decided to let my hair down for the first time in a while and I had 3 glasses of wine! AF still isn't here and I am on CD33 out of an average 31-32 day cycle. I don't think I am preggo, per the test. But now I am regretting the wine...just in case. :( I know there was a few people a while ago who kept getting neg on her tests even at the doc until they did a blood test.... I think it would be ok though...the lady on the doc said that alcohol would impact any time after 17 after conception...so if I was that far now...I think I would have gotten a positive!
06-11-2009, 11:38 AM
Tara- I am so sorry for you too!! I know every month is to long even if it has only been a few months! I don't think the wine is a big deal at all! I know a few people who got pregnant during college(living the college life style) so they had a few crazy weekends before realizing they were pregnant & their babies are A-okay!! Plus my doctor actually recommended a "fun" weekend to help us conceive!! I don't want to dash your dreams, but I don't want to give you false hope either about the BFN & AF! I know they say you should get a BFP by CD 30, but you just never know!! Saff is a perfect example of that! I hope you get a BFP or AF soon so at least you know!(I am definetly praying you get the BFP & not AF though!)
Yes, the reason I am waiting on getting another appt. is so I can get some good maternity insurance first & we are probably going to wait & get married first too! Maybe sooner than October, because it is so far away & I want to be married to him so bad! I too want at least 2 kids, & I wanted them early rather than later, so even though I am younger it is still getting past the time I wanted to have my first by!
06-11-2009, 05:07 PM
Well I thought I'd go ahead and post. I joined the first thread late and posted
every so often on the second ( Mar/Apr/May) one. I needed space...
and I did read to see how everyone was doing. For those interested in my story..
married 17 yrs, ttc 15yrs, 7 m/c's. I think today is CD19 of usually 24-27 days.
I read one of Taras post on the other thread where you poured your heart out,
even though you called it a rant.. I totally agree with you, and feel for you....HUGS.... And I know how Amanda feels too!!! HUGS to you too!!!!!!!
I plan on only posting every so often, but I thought I'd say hi to all those I know, and to all the new ones too!!!!!
Tori, I hope you are doing well and your family too....
Mama, hi, glad to see hubby is ok with moving forward on ttc!!!
06-12-2009, 09:38 AM
Ohhh I thought I posted back yesterday...but it must not have saved! Bummer!
Amanda~ What my post said, was basically it is hard any time you want a baby...the only reason I brought up my age, is that after 30 the chances of different defects start to rise...why I really want to have both of my kids in the next 3-4 years....at the latest. So when it comes to the disappointment it is no different, but I can put a lot of pressure on my doc...where I remember your doc was a jerk and not supportive..because he said you were young. (UGH...like it matters!) Hey have you done any wedding planning...I want to hear!
2B- You have been missed! It is good hearing from you again! Thanks for the support! Any news on you? How is everything going?
Talking about Tori....WHERE ARE YOU? I know you were going to take a break! But I hope everything is going well and that DH got that promo!!!! :)
Ruth~ That is horrible...why is it that people who don't want babys and are not responsible enough to prepare for it....get preggo so easily...when people who have gotten their ducks in a row struggle with this! UGH! Ruth..do you have plans to get insurance....or is it out of the pic...because any fert stuff is going to be astronomical if you don't have any. There must be something you can find...even if it is a expensive it will be cheaper than going to a fert clinic with nothing. Good luck! My fingers are crossed for you.
As for me....I am trying to decide what to do....my cycles have ranged from 28-37 days since I went off BC. The high and low were only once. (the first two months off)..and the normal is 31-32 days. Well today I am on day 34 with no AF. I have sore bb, but no other symptoms of AF. I am thinking about testing again tomorrow morning if AF doesn't come today. I know if you O later than you thought you would it could take longer to get a postive on a HPT. I don't think I am preggo...trust me my hopes were dashed on Wed...but I want to know as we have two big family events this weekend and I want to know whether or not I can have a glass of wine. UGH!!!!
06-12-2009, 10:35 AM
Good morning ladies!! I am VERY excited that it is friday, this week has been such a long week...
Taraken - I understand about the age thing, I am going to be 26 this year, and every year that passes me by seems like I may never have children...
The funny thing that just happened is I just got a text from one of my best friends from back in high school and she goes today to find out what she is having...this is her third child, and I just texted her and told her I was happy for her, but was still waiting on my turn. She keeps pushing me to try pre~seed, and if AF ever shows up, I will definitely try it this next cycle...
So, for now, I am on CD 37 of what has been anywhere from a 19 day cycle to a 33 day cycle previously...I took a test Tuesday night and Wednesday morning, and both were BFN...I am going to go get another test today and take it, because I still have not started, and it's driving me nuts! If I still haven't started on Monday I am calling to get a blood test done...
I hope everyone has a good weekend, wish me luck!!!
06-12-2009, 02:49 PM
2B- Glad to see ya!! :)
Ruth- That sucks!! Stupid people with babies they don't deserve! Keep us updated on the doctor situation! I want to know what they say & how much it costs!
Ki- That is such a good idea!! We LOVE the Biggest Loser! Oh & when is your big, I-am-still-so-jealous, vacation planned for!???!
Am- Can we sy TGIF????? I am so glad it is Friday...long sad week & plus SO gets hoem today..YAY!!! Oh & about the pre-seed stuff, I was thinking about trying it next cycle too! I am CD 8 though, so it will be a few weeks! Maybe we could be those success stories on the web-site!Keep me posted if you do get it! Oh & tons of Babydust your way!!! Go take a test & let us know ASAP!!!
Tara- Oh no, I totally understood your post! If I were older I would demand more too, I was really just still ill about the fact my doctor said that to me!! I am sorry she chose medical school over having babies(which is fine), but it would be nice if she was more sympathetic to the fact that some people don't care about a career per say ...they would like children first & foremost so if they have their ducks in a row, then why begrudge them that???? Again that is totally intended for her not you or anyone else! I realize I am only going to be 23 in October, but I started this journey a few months after turning 21 & it seems like it is getting farther & farther away!
No further wedding plans yet, I pretty much have everything picked out, but we are wanting to move the date of our wedding up before October, so we decided we HAVE TO make a decision by July.~~Yeah right,you've seen how wishy-washy we are~~~ So any plans on the big move yet??? I want details too!!!
Okay well I don't want to bore you with details, but the end of my week has been quite sad!! I found out Wednesday that my cousin tried to commit suicide! Then Thursday I found out my fiances grandparents are going to have to put down their dog they have had for at least 15 years! Just 2 months ago they had to put down their other dog they had had for over 10 years, so they are not doing good! They are BIG animal people, so it is REALLY hard for them!
Back to positive!!! :) BABYDUST all around!!!
06-14-2009, 10:44 PM
HELLO LADIES! You're all right, I said I was taking a break but I would keep in touch, and I've sucked at that and I'm BACK and I promise to post as often as possible!! Just so you know, I have been stopping by and reading every once in awhile...and I'm glad to say hiya once again!
I don't have all that much to update you on...promo still looks promising for DH but still no ultimate move. We are still in aptmt living, which doesnt bother me as much as DH but I'm getting more and more anxious to get outta here as he does (I didn't realize that shared anxiety and annoyance are portions of marital partnership LOL ;)) I really think he will be a much happier person once we are in a little house with a yard, that's all OURS...he really can't wait and I am quietly looking forward to it myself...just a few more months of saving!!!!!!!!!! That 20% is a KILLER, particularly where WE live!
I have a touch of a cold and AF is on her way (*****!) and I'm pretty tired, so I'm headed to bed...but I will touch base tomorrow at some point! I've missed you ALL, talk to you soon!
<3 XOXOXO <3
06-15-2009, 06:33 AM
Tara, Thank you for missing me!!! I sure hope you got a BFP on Friday!! You probably don't have to worry about the wine!!! I have been struggling a lot. Not with just ttc, but marital stuff too.. I have dealt with depression all my life, and when huge emotional issues arise it compounds it. So I have been taking care of that. A couple months ago I had an u/s and it came back fine. I also had my Thyroid checked and it's great too. I did have a clotting factor issue, then I went to a hematologist 2 months after they did all the immune blood tests, and she retested the clotting factor one that was abnormal and it came back normal...that is weird that happened!!! So I am I just working on getting on with life!!
Amanda, Howdy!!!! I hear you about the Dr. thing!!! I hope that when you do go back she will be more helpful. Also, hope you and Drew will get married soon!!
Tori, Glad to see you back!!! I sure hope you and your DH will be getting a house soon!!!! I hope he gets that promotion too!!!!
aminor, hope you have a BFP!!!!!
everyone, have a great week!!!!
06-15-2009, 10:14 AM
Good Morning everyone! Glad to see everyone in good spirits! Im crossing my fingers that June/July is the months for all you great ladies!!
Update on me: Im 22 weeks today, took a little peak at my baby girl last night and I didnt have tons of water so the pics werent that clear..heres some of them.
06-15-2009, 11:26 AM
Okay ladies...I'm getting pretty worried here and need some advice...AF has still not shown up, and today is day 40 (OMG!), the longest cycle that I have had thus far is 33 days...I took a pregnancy test last Monday evening (day 33) and it was BFN, I took another test Tuesday morning (day 34) and it was a BFN, I took another test on Friday evening (day 37) and it was a BFN, I took another test on Saturday morning (day 38) and it was a BFN, and I finally took one more test last night (day 39) which was also a BFN...too many BFN's for one brain to handle, haha...I'm not as upset as I thought I would be though, I'm just worried that there is something wrong with me since I still have not started...I did feel like I was about to start at any moment last night...but AF has still not shown up...I was going to call my doctor today to request a bloodtest, but I would hate to if I am about to start. What should I do??? And if I do call my doctor to request a bloodtest, do I call my general physician or do I call my Gyn?? Geez...I'm SO frustrated with my body being so unpredictable...
06-15-2009, 11:47 AM
i would call both and see who can get you in faster!!! :) hopefully its good news!!
06-15-2009, 12:02 PM
Mum-The pictures are too sweet!!!
Am- I am with Keri make an appt with both & take the fastest one! My general physician would probably be faster & cheaper, but that is just me! Good luck & hope it is good news!!! Oh & yes that many BFN's are HORRIBLY PAINFUL!!! I know my cycles have been crazy since going off BC...they range from 26-33 days!!! So frustrating & annoying & ridiculous!! Good luck though..I have heard of people who didn't get a BFP until they were 2 weeks late, so that could be you!!!
06-15-2009, 01:20 PM
Hey ladies! So bummer news. AF showed up on Saturday night after the party. Well at least it came....but it was CD36. I finally felt like things were evening out and they throw that in there. WTF! UGH! The baby shower I went to was very nice and I have had a ton of time with my 14 month old niece....so I have been really enjoying being an aunt right now. (I haven't seen her in 6 months because she lives on the other side of the country.) I am babysitting today and loving it.
Amanda~ So awesome news about the move...they are letting me do my next rotation out of my home again, so we won't have to move for at least 2 years! Plus I am still in the exec training program! Best of both worlds. It makes me feel very lucky...I just wish I would get lucky with TTC soon.. :(
One thing though....I have been having there horrible pains in my right lower back. They have been horrible....well my sister is a PA and her husband a PT. So I was telling them about it...and he checked my back...said it doesn't look to be muscular...and that her had a few patients that had the same thing and they had cysts on their ovaries. So he suggested I go to my doc...so will do ...got to run!
06-16-2009, 08:28 AM
Good morning ladies...so I called my general physician yesterday afternoon, and as soon as I got home they called me back and told me that I could come on in to get the bloodtest...I only live like 5 minutes from my doctors office, so I jump back in the car and head over there, as soon as I get there I have to pee SO bad that I can barely stand it, so I asked them if we were just going to be doing the bloodtest and no urine test and they told me that was correct, so I excused myself to the restroom for a moment, and low and behold...AF SHOWED UP....of course that would happen to me...I guess I scared myself enough that I was going to actually get blood drawn, and my body reacted by AF showing up....geez!!!! So when I was finished I walked out to the reception desk and said, "Well, I no longer need the bloodtest, thank you." And I walked out of the door almost laughing because it was pretty funny...saddening, but funny. So, on to cycle number 6, and not knowing when in the heck I ovulate or how long this cycle will be...hopefully not over 40 days...geez!!!!!!!!!
06-16-2009, 10:28 AM
Am- I am sorry!!! I have to admit I laughed at the iony myself, because that is totally my luck! Actually, my luck would be getting the blood drawn & then me starting a few minutes before they called me with the results! Again I am really sorry she waited so late to show up!! You crack me up with the whole...you scared AF out of you...LOL!! You seem to have a pretty good attitude about it, so props!!!! :)
06-16-2009, 07:42 PM
Well, here we go......I took a test on CD 25 (June 4) cause I was expecting my period June 8. Well, I got a BFN. I thought, "Oh great!" Moving onto another cycle of trying. I had my normal PMS symptons all weekend long and just new that my period was coming that Monday. I waited and waited, Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. But, AF never came. I said that there was no way that I was pregnant because I had just taken a pregnancy test on Thursday and it was negative. So, I decided to take another test that evening since I was late. I took the test and there was the faintest BFP! I thought, Okay I need to take the other in the morning and see if it is BFP also. I ended up testing again the next morning and again I had a faint BFP! I was freaking out because I was having to wait again!!! It was killing me. I sent my DH to the store to buy the ClearBlue Digital Test. I took both tests and I saw a BFP!!!! So, that would be a total of 4 pregnancy tests to come back positive! I go to the doctor on July 1st to get the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat! We ware so excited! Morning sickness has not started for me (just a couple of days of morning sickness before I found out). I have been tired, but it is perfect that I am off from teaching school for the summer!
For all of you that are TTC: Please do not become discouraged if you receive a BFN before your period. The test that I took before AF was negative, even though I could take it before AF arrived! I will be praying for all of you that you get your miracle babies! Thank you for allowing me to join your groups and to rant about my TTC problems! Sending baby dust to you all!
06-17-2009, 09:11 AM
Acomer- Oh my...congratulations!!!!! That is very exciting!! Good luck with everything, and thanks so much for the encouragement...
Amanda- I know, such irony, it stinks, but is REALLY funny at the same time...I'm not too awfully worried about it, like I have said before, we are back at the stage that when it happens it happens...it's all when God thinks is the perfect timing for us, not when we do...but it's still hard not to get anxious and wonder if I am preggo every cycle, haha...and it's even harder when I keep finding out that friends are preggo and all of that...but we'll make it through it, we always do. (something the hubs and I say to each other when something isn't going like we want it to)...
I'm sending lots of babydust to everyone, even though I'm thinking my babydust is full of duds, hahaha...
06-17-2009, 09:38 AM
Hey Ladies! It's been a while since I've posted, but there wasn't much to report on. I am on CD 16 and I think I O'ed on Sunday, the 14th. This is my first cycle since going off BC, so I'm not sure how everything will play out. We are TTC #2 and with my DS, it was a complete surprise, so I am new at this charting and scheduling BD'ing. I am not a fan at all! It takes the fun out of it. It's only my first cycle TTC and I'm already stressed about it. My DH is being so difficult. Normally he is the one who initiates the iBD'ing and now it's me saying, "OK honey we need to BD because I think I'm ovulating." He doesn't understand the significance of that 24 hour window. We BD'ed around the time that I was O'ing but not the day of. Hopefully it'll take this month, but I'm not optimistic. I expect AF on July 1 so I'll try not to test until the 8th because I'm so unsure of my cycle length.
06-18-2009, 11:15 AM
Congrats acomer! That's awesome news!! :D Best of luck
I just got my "it's been a year = time to come visit" card from my GYN, which prob works out well timing-wise. My last 3 AFs have been very light and short and my adult-onset acne, which had been kept at bay for nearly a year, is creeping back...I wonder, does anyone know if you can "develop" PCOS after a time? I only wish I knew if that's why I'm not conceiving...I had 2 ovarian cyst surgeries in my teens, both on the right side, and I also wonder if that side doesn't work...AF is late (2 days) but since we've started TTC (lazily or otherwise), that's ironically how AF has been - I'd bet a month's salary that I'm NOT in fact pregnant. So I guess I'll wait till she shows before I make the apptmt. I'm not even thinking about taking a HPT lol - I've seen too many BFNs since Christmas to do that again!
Hope everyone is well - it's raining like CRAZY here :( So much for summer!
06-18-2009, 03:02 PM
Am- We say the same thing! ~It will happen in God's time(although it is hard to wait on his time sometimes)!~ PS/ Your comment about your baby dust being a dud...I feel ya!lol! I am pretty sure mine are ALL duds too!!
Nikki- Good to see you again!! I hope your cycle return to normal & you get preggo ASAP!!:)
Ruth- I am glad your DH will be home on your birthday! I still love celebrating my Birthdays too! Oh & congrats on getting another niece or nephew!!
Tori-Glad to see you are still doing good! I understand not wanting to see another BFN! When I got one a few weeks ago I was reminded of why I had sworn off HPT's!! It is WAY too painful! I don't want to get your hopes us, but I really hope we get good news from you REALLY soon!!! :)
As for me.. I have had a REALLY bad day! My fiance & I are not even speaking at this point(only texting)! Tomorrow is his birthday so I have been excited all week buying gifts & cake & such & then last night it ALL went down hill! I don't know how we can have such issues considering we only see each other on weekends, but I guess everything(including TTC) has taken a toll on us more than we know! As of now he is staying out of town this weekend & I am staying at home! Maybe this break will do us good, but I am not sure! Sometimes I have moments when I think this is why God has not blessed us with children! Who knows!! I just really wish this was Friday because I really don't feel like working feeling like this!
06-18-2009, 06:25 PM
I posted on 6/9 about the possibility of me being pg. I'm pretty sure that I ovulated on the 6th and we BD on the 4th. Yesterday, I started cramping and bleeding very light (I never have light periods). Today, the bleeding has stopped and I have a light yellow discharge. I am wondering, is it too early to test? With all 3 of my other pg's, I was able to test a week early. Based on my ovulation date, I expect to start on the 20th. Has anyone else experience this and wound up with a + result?
06-18-2009, 08:18 PM
jv - I'm sorrry, I actually don't know. I guess that could have been implantation bleeding...did u have any of that type of bleeding with your other pregnancies? Are you usually very regular?
Amanda - Aw jeez, sorry that you and Drew are having a tiff. You're in a tough position right now, both of you, and there's sooooo much stress involved! I'm sure that once you're settled and seeing each other more regularly, you'll both be a little calmer. Have you spoken since this afternoon??
06-19-2009, 12:12 AM
Excited- I did not have any spotting with any of my other pregnancies, but as you know the saying goes that every pg is different. Because my period was off last month, I did not start when I should have. But going from the date of ovulation, I should start by the 20th. BTW, the discharge has completely stopped and I am no longer cramping. I am just hoping that when I take a test this weekend that it comes up positive.
06-19-2009, 10:12 AM
06-19-2009, 11:10 AM
Thanks to everyone for the hugs & support!! It really makes me feel so much better!!
Mum- Thanks for the hugs!!! I really aprreciate them(even with your pregnant belly!)lol!
Ruth- Thank you too for the hugs!! I am from AL so I use ya'll alot myself!!! lol!! I am Southern & I can't help it!!! That's funny you say dessert, because I made him a cookie cake for his birthday this morning! It is my first time making one, so we will see how it turns out! Yes we do need a mini-vaca! We probably aren't going to the beach this year(I have only been at this job for 2 & 1/2 months so I don't want to ask!), so maybe next weekend we can take one!! Good idea though! Congrats on the new niece!!
Tori-Thanks for your support too! We finally talked after multiple bad calls!!! I just don't know what our problem is! We couldn't have one conversation without us arguing!! I am just frustrated & confused & sad! I love him so much & he is my best friend & I only want him forever, but sometimes it is just REALLY hard for us to get along & I don't know why!
So he is coming down here this weekend to celebrate his birthday! We are on better talking terms as of this morning, but it is still very touchy!! Hopefully this weekend will be better & we can get back to where we were!!
Thanks again everybody!!! Happy Friday & I hope everyone has a GREAT weekend!! BABYDUST to EVERYONE!!!!!
06-20-2009, 02:11 PM
Congratulations Acomer!!! How exciting!!?? Hope you're feeling great!
Jvfierro-any news? hope you have a little one growing in there!
Amanda-hope you're having a sweet, peaceful weekend with your SO...relationship stress is the WORST
How is everyone else? Having a great weekend, I hope! Anyone going on vacation soon? Its getting pretty warm here, around 99 or 100! My kids can only go outside if they're playing in the water hose:)
As for me, I am on CD 29 of a 29-31 day cycle. I am pretty sure it will be a 31 day cycle this month because of when I ovulated and my 13-14 day luteal phase. I tested yesterday and today with BFN..which I didnt even think about being pregnant since I used contraceptives during my o time this month (I was having a REALLY tough time and didnt feel ready)...but my boobs are sooo sore, more than normal. And the past couple days I have waves of nausea come and go. Its probably just a hormone thing, I really dont think I would have a test be negative 2 days early if I was preg. What do you think?
06-20-2009, 03:12 PM
Hi, I'm Heather in CA. I have a 5 year old son from previous marriage, but fiancť and I want 2 more. I have a lot of anxiety about ttc again--I was 26 the first time and got pregnant 3 mo off bcp. Now I'm almost 33 and very concerned that it might be too late for me to have 2 more.Ttc 2 months-- just ovulated yesterday, but didn't get to BD until 4 am! Afraid I missed the window. Here's hoping!
06-21-2009, 11:52 AM
Hope everyone is enjoying their weekend! It's beautiful here in Northern VA. Quick question: how many DPO is it normal to feel implantation cramping? I'm on CD 21 of a 30 day cycle and the waiting is killing me! I hate this part. I'm going on vacation on July 5th and I'm hoping to find out for sure if I'm pregnant or not before then. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but that's easier said than done.
06-21-2009, 04:29 PM
Welcome Heather! Good luck this month! How long is your cycle normally? The next two weeks are going to be fun:)
Hey Nikki, I think it's usually about a week before your expected cycle...I'm sure some of the other girls are more informed than I!
AF showed up this morning for me!!! I am actually relieved, because I was feeling so awful I thought "If this is how a pregnancy is starting out...what's the rest of it going to be like?!" I go through an emotional cycle every month; Could I be? (excitement), Am I? (disbelief), Negative Test (frustrated), and finally AF (relief)..So I guess I'll start again this month! I have a dr appt at the end of July and I am going to pick my dr's brain!!! She's a specialist and totally awesome. I dont know what else I should have taken care of health wise, other than I need to be more active and physically fit. So it's probably best that it didnt happen this month, hopefully I can be better prepared!
Hope you are all having great weekends!
06-22-2009, 02:22 AM
Hi everyone! I am new to the boards after having read them for a few months. My DH and I have a DS who is 19 months old and have been TTC#2 for 7 months now. I am super glad to have found this site as I have been more frustrated this time around. With DS it was a "if it happens, it happens" type attitude and this time we want it so badly that everytime after we BD my DH asks if I am preggo yet! Silly man! I am now on CD7 of a 27 day cycle and hoping that this month will be our month! I can't wait to chat with all of you soon and baby dust to all!
06-22-2009, 03:15 PM
Mama-Thanks!! We actually had a VERY good weekend compared to the week!! Yes relationship stress is the WORST!!! Sorry AF showed up, but I am glad it is a relief more than anything! No we aren't going on vacation anytime soon, are you????? OMG I totally feel you about the heat!!! It has been in the high 90's (feels like the 100's) the last week <Thursday was literally in the 100's> so I completely understand the heat!!!I also feel your range of emotions! Normally I go from preparing myself for the worst..telling myself over & over it is going to be negative..then peeing on the stick & before I know it my hopes are up..then anxious....then sad it is a negative...then okay with it....then mad...then sad again wondering what the problem is with us & why we cannot conceive..then hopeful again that maybe it was too early to test...then sad again because I know deep in my heart I am not pregnant & I may NEVER be...(this is all in a matter of like 10 minutes)!!! So ridiculous that I do that to myself, but I can't help it!!!
hardworkinmama- Welcome!! :)
Nicki- I honestly have no idea about the implantation cramping! I have read about it, but don't remember what it said! I have never really had any(well obviously I am not pregnant yet!lol!)!!! I hope it is what you are having!!
Well I think I should have O'd last week or this past weekend sometime! I should start anywhere from June 30th to July 7th! My luck is that it will be July 3rd , 4th, or 5th, since we are going camping that weekend~ so only time will tell! I only have 1 pregnancy test left, so I don't have any extra to waste, so I won't test until the 8th of July!
~~~~~~~~~~~BABYDUST to ALL~~~~~~~~~~~ :)
06-23-2009, 02:04 PM
Good afternoon ladies :D
Heather & Hardworkinmama - WELCOME!!
Mama - Glad that Af's arrival was met with relief and not disappointment! How are the hubby and the 4 lil munchkins doing?
Amanda - Soooo glad you and Drew are cool! Had me a lil worried there! DH and I got a bit relationship-stressed right around the same time that we collectively decided to slow down our TTC efforts. We've put a lot more emphasis on loving and communicating versus throw down BDing all the time, making sure we stuck to the calendar and BBTs. It got to be FAR too much for us to deal with, in addition to regular life stuff. But I'm sure you guys are feeling the burn of being apart...but absence SO does make the heart grow fonder ;) I know that y'all will be JUST FINE!
As for me......well, I'm 6 days late for AF. I wasnt paying a BIT of attention until I actually got sick at work yesterday, coupled with UTTER exhaustion yesterday and today. My BFF asked me if I thought i could possibly be pregnant, and I was like "nah...no way". BUT that of course got methinking, and so I went out at lunchtime and got a HPT. I havent taken it yet (dont really hafta go potty LOL) but I'll let you all know the results. I'm about 99.9% positive that it will be a BFN, but I guess it won't hurt be to check it out.
And now for some ALMOST DEFINITE good news?? DH interviewed for the promotion on Friday, has a 2nd interview this afternoon...and the rumor around his office is that the job is HIS!!! WOO HOO! That will make our lives so so so so so SO much easier! He'll be happier (which will of course make me happier), there will be some more money, and we'll get to call ourselves home owners quicker than before! PLEASE KEEP YOUR FINGERS CROSSED FOR MY HUBBY!!! :D
I'll be back later - much babydust and happy thoughts all around!!
06-23-2009, 02:36 PM
I don't have alot of time right now, but
TORI- GO TAKE THAT TEST!!!! PLEASE!!! Go drink some water lady!!!! GO GO GO!!! I am sending all the baby dust & BFP dust your way!!!!!!!!!
Oh & early congrats on the job!! Let us know any news ASAP!!!! :):)
06-23-2009, 03:26 PM
Oh, Tori!!!! I cannot wait to hear you results!!! I really hope you have a little baby growing in there:)
How is everyone else? I cant remember, who will be testing soon? Anyone?
Me and the babies are trying to stay inside because itsso wonderfully hot outside (110 heat index, only 100 on the thermometer!) Boy I love Oklahoma weather!
It's hard to keep the babies entertained inside without COMPLETELY destroying the house! And we're needing to pack up all our knick-knacks, books, and anything in our downstairs because when we go on vacation next week, my BIL is redoing our hard wood floors. Have you ever done clean up after a sanding/refinishing? Dust is EVERWHERE!!! So the less stuff down there to get dusty, the less I have to wipe off when I get home:) Sorry, I'm rambling....
Talk to yall soon! Maria
06-23-2009, 04:29 PM
Hey everyone! I havent been on in a while bc I have been so busy lately. Ive been sick plus my DS had a stomach virus.... diarrhea for almost 2 weeks, NO FUN! Any way, AF should be here Friday. Im hoping she doesnt show but I think she will. Last week I went to the dr for a sinus infection and before they gave me a shot they gave me a preg test and it said BFN... the nurse came in and said good news you can get your shot now. I was like thats not good news I was hoping it would say yes! You never know but I still dont think I am. Guess I will find out soon. Good luck to everyone else!
06-23-2009, 04:58 PM
Hey all --
OK, gotta run, don't have much time...
First of all, HPT was a BFN. But that's ok, I expected that, I wasn't even SUPER disappointed. I'm sure AF will be here soon, and we'll go from there. It'll happen when it happens...and we will just be that much more blessed when it does!!
Better news...DH just texted me. Apparently the 2nd interview went really GREAT! He'll find out for sure tomorrow, but like I said earlier, the rumor is "around the water cooler" that the job is his! Please, keep every finger and toe you have crossed! This would mean WONDERS for me and DH - more than just $$, or a house or anything material, but rather a real, solid step toward family and future :D
Thanks for all of your support - you ladies ROCK!!
<3 XOXOXO <3
06-24-2009, 03:02 AM
My fingers are crossed for you and the "official" good word!
So this may seem a bit on the silly side but I was wondering if anybody had any suggestions for how to convince my DH to switch to boxers? He keeps saying that we need to get another bun in the oven but he refuses to get rid of the tighty whiteys! I know that he wants more children but most of the time I feel as though I am the only one trying. How do I convince him that he needs to do more than just "show up"? I am not asking him to change his entire life, just his underwear! Maybe I should replace all of his briefs with boxers........ just a thought. : )
06-24-2009, 08:10 PM
Hello ladies, how is everyone today? It's been awhile since I've been on so I just wanted to say hello to all the new posters. So excited to see more women joining this crazy ride.
Hardworkinmama - I would try replacing his briefs with boxer briefs. They'll give him more room but still feel like his briefs. Best of both worlds and should help some. Then later on you can convince him to go totally boxers.
excited - so sorry for the BFN
Mama - I'm so with you on the OK weather. This stuff is horrible! I can't even leave the dogs outside during the day! At least Texas wasn't so humid, I so want to be back by my lake...
As for me I'm officially late today but I'm trying not to get too excited. I've had one cycle that went longer then this and it's been a really stressful cycle. I promised myself I wouldn't test until Friday, hopefully I can make it.
Sticky baby dust to everyone!
06-25-2009, 03:53 PM
Ki- I am sorry you are so sick!!! Bless your heart....8 pounds..that's not good!! Are you okay..are you getting better??? I hgope you do start feeling better soon!!!
Cass-Yay tomorrow is Friday..you have to let us know ASAP what it says!! I am sending all the babydust I can find your way!:) Good Luck!!!
Tori- Sorry about the BFN, but I am glad your spirits are okay!!! Has your DH heard about the promotion??? My fingers have been crossed for a while now!!!! I hope it is good news..ya'll deserve it!
Hardwokinmama- My SO used to wear boxer-briefs & now he officially wears boxers most of the time! He used to say he didn't like boxers, but then one day he decided he wanted to change & try boxers & he has been wearing them ever since! Like someone else said go buy him some boxer-briefs & wean him down that way.lol.
Amb-Sorry your DS has been sick..umm yeah diarrhea doesn't sound fun for 1 day much less 2 weeks!! You poor thing!!! I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings..will you test if AF doesn't show up??? I am sending all my babydust to you too!!!:)
Well as for me not alot new! SO & I are still on the outs alot. The weekends are great, but the week not so much! It is starting to take a toll on me & really stressing me out! I am going to make tonight a ME night! Just watch TV & hang out alone so maybe I can relax. I stay with my parents sometimes since SO is gone so much, but maybe some alone time will help me! Well I can't wait tomorrow is Friday.....wahoo!!!! TGIF & hopefully we will see 2 more BFP on here!!! :)
06-26-2009, 12:34 PM
Hello Ladies! Iím sure that everyone is just as excited for the weekend as I am. TGIF never rang so true! I was hoping to come one here today and see some BFPís, but itís not too late for that. Iím sending baby dust to everyone including myself! Ok, you can tell Iím new to this because I have another question. I wrote earlier in the week asking about implantation cramping and now I have a question about implantation bleeding. I am currently on CD 25 and I started spotting this morning. My cycles are usually 30-33 days. I was wonder if maybe itís not AF coming early, but implantation bleeding? I think Iím just being too optimistic, but I canít help it. I would appreciate any words of wisdom that you guys could lend.
06-26-2009, 01:39 PM
Good afternoon ladies! Well, Aunt Flow is supposed to be here today but she hasnt come yet. I'm so anxious but even if she doesnt come today that doesnt mean anything.... it could just be late bc of getting off of b.c. last month. I will wait and see what happens, hopefully she stays away. I probably wont test until some time next week though.
Amanda- "me" time will be great for you! (I need some myself actually) Relax in a bubble bath. Watch a movie on the sofa and relax. If you like to read Im reading a series right now and its really good. The author is Stephanie Bond- Body Movers. Its a sexy mystery! Really good but not mysterious enough to freak you out being home alone!
GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE TTC! HOPE WE ALL GET SOME GOOD NEWS SOON!
06-26-2009, 08:44 PM
TGIF to everyone who gets one!
So here it is, that time when the baby-dancin should be in full swing. According to the calendar and the CM I got goin on, this weekend is prime for makin a baby. The problem? I am workin! Now I don't work "normal" hours so we may still get some BDing in, but that's only if DH is home and DS is napping. I work midnights so I get up about 3pm. I only hope that they will be home when I get up so DH and I can get busy...
Thanks for all the suggestions on the underwear switch. The craziest part about him not wanting to wear boxers is that he was wearing them when we conceived DS. Now he says "but I want to be comfortable". I am goin to go buy him some boxer-briefs, put them in his drawer, and see what happens.
Am- did she come? I hope not! Sending lots of luck you're way! The waiting sucks.
APEMBERTON- Sorry things are not good between you and your fiance. This is just a thought, but maybe not calling him every night would help. I know sometimes when John (DH) and I talk on the phone too much we end up with nothing to talk about at home and we fight. I know you say the weekends are good but maybe you talk too often during the week and thats why you are arguing.
06-26-2009, 10:07 PM
My name is Natasha I am 28 years old and we live in Canada. My husband and I got married at the beginning of June and this is our 1st month TTC. I can test in 6 days.
06-26-2009, 10:13 PM
Sorry 'bout this question but I'm new
What is BFN?
06-27-2009, 12:39 AM
Ok, so I didn't get to test today. I'll test in the morning. So yesterday only got worse as it went on. The reason I didn't get to test this morning is that I broke my wrist last night and the PA recommended that I wait since the trama can make my body do strange things. Co-ed softball can be a dangerous sport.
Am - I hope things get better with SO for you. I have to second workinmama's suggestion at talking less on the phone. With my SO and I being long-distance, we had to make a deal not to talk about the major items inless we were face to face. Next time he's home, have a nonconfrontational (it's best if you talk while doing some chores so that there's limited eye contact, men don't get as defensive that way) conversation about what bothers you/starts the arguements. Feel free to ask if you have issues/questions. Having been long distance for two+ years, I've dealt with a lot of the issues that come with being apart.
Vixen6981 - BFN mean big fat negative on a pregnancy test; BFP means positive. Welcome to the group. Feel free to ask any questions you have. We all had to do the same thing when we started out too.
06-27-2009, 01:17 AM
Holy crap Cass! That totally sux bout your wrist! I wonder how that could mess with a HPT though? I am sending all my good wishes and baby dust your way! Oh yeah and thanks for the advice on the undie switch, I am hoping it works. I am thinking that if it doesn't I will ask my doc for a prescription for him to wear boxers. Ha Ha Ha!
vixen6981-welcome aboard the crazy TTC train! I am new to the boards also, we can learn together!
06-27-2009, 07:38 AM
I'm really not sure why or how it could mess up an HPT, which is why I did't wait the full week. The broken wrist is actually turning into a blessing in disguise as it's forcing me to relax. The doc can't see me until Thursday (bad swelling), so I'm just in a soft cast and have to take it really easy. So I'll be spending my week sitting/sleeping and icing my arm.
I came up with a BFN this morning which is ok since I really didn't think we got it right this time. I'll test again next week if AF still hasn't shown but I'm pretty sure she's late due to stress.
Sticky babydust to all. Enjoy your weekend!
06-29-2009, 04:56 AM
So it's 340 in the morning and I only have 2 hours and 20 minutes left before I get to head home and hit the sack! I was ready for a nap around midnight! Anyway, I hope everyone had a good weekend. Was there anybody testing this weekend? If so, what were the results? Thankfully DH and I were able to get some BDing in yesterday and I think we might be able to squeeze some in today after he gets home from work and before we go pick up my car(its in the shop and I am in a rental). I am gonna try not to think about it while secretly keeping my fingers crossed that we hit the jackpot this month.
We added a new family member last night. His name is Brutus and he is a 9 week old German Shepard/Boxer mix. Tiarnan is in hog heaven bcuz he loves puppies! This little guy is just the cutest thing ever and I can't wait to see how big he gets. Some of the people at work say that he might get to about 90 pounds so I guess we will see.
Well, lots of baby dust to everyone and chat with you all soon!
06-29-2009, 10:01 AM
Good morning ladies! How is everyone doing?
So AF was supposed to come Friday, well she didnt show. I didn't want to test until I was a week late but yesterday (Sunday) I broke down and tested BFN!!! ugh! Now that means either its still too early to tell or that my period is just messed up this month bc of birth control last month. I hope its still too early. I was so hoping it would be BFY and for some reason I was thinking it would bc I have been so mean and cranky lately. Who knows though, I guess I will wait and see what happens. Maybe by Friday or Saturday if I dont start I will test again.
06-29-2009, 10:15 AM
AF was supposed to arrive 7/1 but she decided to show on 6/26! I have never had a 25 day cycle before. We are heading to the beach this weekend so at least I know for sure that I'm not pregnant and I can enjoy a few margaritas! On to cycle #2. I haven't been charting my BBT or using OPK's so I'm not sure when I O (obviously not since I didn't expect AF 5 days early). Should I expect my next cycle to be 25 days again and try to predict O'ing based on that or base it off of my usual 30 day cycle? I had no idea that TTC could be so confusing and stressful.
06-29-2009, 10:19 AM
Hello all - Happy Monday!
So, I have very little GOOD news to report. Dh did NOT get the promotion...BIG bummer. Got the BFN as I reported last week; still no AF (my last AF was 5/19 - wtf?!?) I have an apptmt with the doc (my yearly, ironically) on Wed to try to figure out wtf is going on w/ me. In addition to this VERY late cycle, my last 3 AFs have been very light and almost cramp free (which is so great LOL but SOOOOO not like me). And even if AF shows between now and then, I'm still going to the GYN, at least we can chat and try to figure out whats up...
Hope everyone is feeling well and BDing like crazy :D Much love and magic your way!
06-29-2009, 10:21 AM
Bookworm - you might wanna try mymonhlycycles.com. It's a pretty good way to chart your AFs, even if you're not counting BBTs. I've heard that it's been very helpful in getting some ladies the BFPs they've wanted :) I'd love to use it myself, but my AF seems to be elusive this cycle. BOOOOOOO to my AF!
06-29-2009, 10:21 AM
I don't have alot of time right now....I will come by later...
But I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for the suggestions about SO & me & for understanding!!! :) I really appreciate it!!!
Welcome to the newbie!! :)
I just had to drop by & let y'all know SO got a job closer to town! It is about 30 minutes from our house, but MUCH better than 2 hours!!!! YAY..plus he will be home EVERY night!!!!!!! I am soooooooo excited!!!!!! We found out yesterday!!!! :)
I also wanted to say sorry for all the BFN & AF showing up!!!! AF should show up anywhere from this Tuesday till next Tuesday, so we will see!I am feeling like it is going to be another BFN month, so no hopes up ,but I am so happy about SO getting a job I am not even upset...ok well a little, but not too much!!! We also found out last week we are going to have to pay $1,000.00 to get my engagement ring fixed...1 diamond fell out & 2 are scratched!!! UGGGHHH its always something...but oh well!!!
YAY only a 4 day work week, plus we are going camping Thur-Sunday!!!! :)
BABYDUST TO ALL!!
06-29-2009, 10:24 AM
Tori-Sorry about DHs job!!!! That sucks!!!! I would keep the appt. too so you can figure out what is up with your cycles!! Mine fluctuate 7 days in length...I have had AF show up anywhere from CD 26 to CD 34 so I know how you feel!!! Sorry again!!!! ** HUGS **
06-29-2009, 10:38 AM
Hey all! I haven't been on here in a while! I was pretty depressed about TTC for a few days and decided to avoid this website and thread for a few days there. Turns out it didn't help at all! So I am back! Looks like we have some more newbies! Welcome! Looks like I missed a lot!
Tori~ I am sooo sorry about the BFN. I had my fingers crossed for you. Any news on DH job! I really hope he got it! If I remember corrrectly, that might help you with the good old TTC thing. Did you get an appointment with your gyn. I wonder a lot about the PCOS thing too. Also...I am still having those awful pains in my right side. I don't know if I should go to the doc. It isn't constant..but when it is there it hurts pretty bad. I wish I knew the docs would look into it if I went in...maybe I will anyway.
Aminor~ That is horrible....I am sorry AF had to arrive at way. We are right with you on TTC cycle #6. I keep thinking one of us will have to have BFP soon since 75% of couples conceive within 9 months. Three more until you, Tori, and I are there....so it has to happen...right??? I totally agree about the finding out about friend etc. I will say more on that later....:)
Acomer~ YEAH ....congrats! How long did it take...I always as this question...sorry if someone else asked. Sometimes it gives me hope...
Ruth~ Yeah on the new niece! Congrats! I love spoiling my nieces..it is fun! :) Hope you had a good birthday! Sorry about AF!
Phoniex~ Welcome and good luck!
Am~ Bummer about the test. Did the nurse know you were TTC. If so...some tact would have been nice.. Maybe it is just too early!
Workingmama~ I forgot about that. I will make DH wear real boxers instead of boxwer briefs this week...thanks for the reminder. Hopefully this weekends BDing worked for you! Babydust your way *****
Ki~ Send me your sickness..I would love to lose 8lbs...even if I have to feel crappy. That would get me back to a healthy weight. I have been going to the gym for 2 months now and only lost 2 lbs. UGH!
Vixen~ Congrats on the wedding and good luck! Welcome!
Cass~ You poor thin and a BFN! What a week! I hope things get better soon!
Book~ Could be implantation....i have my fingers crossed for you.
Now to you Amanda! Honey, I am sooo sorry about the stress you and SO are under. I have another suggestion for you. Rather than talking less...take this time to get to know each other better. Like have a random topic picked out in advance. A fun one...and just talk to him about it. I remember when DH and I first got together it was long distances too. We would talk for hours on end...we usually avoided the every day conversation and took those times to learn about each other. Then when we were together I would do something cool with the info a gathered. Like...what was your favorite meal as a kid and why. Then on the weekend I would make it up and do something fun with it. I know it is corny....but it make the time more special and make syou look forward to it more. If you are talking about TTC or Jobs or the wedding a lot it might just be making it harder to be away from each other.
As for me....like I said I was pretty upset this month. I am now on TTC #6....and came to a revalation this week. My sister told me she was preggo with #2 with BFP the first month without an IUD. I am thrilled for her. But enough is enough...I NEED to know if I am Oing or not. Those of you who have been around a while know I did temps for 2 months and Ov tests for 1 a while back. The temps were all over the place and the Ov kit said I did not O. I don't have the cycle CM...which makes me more concerned. DH didn't like the science experiment thing. But I have decided I hate the BFN even more. Sooooo.....I told DH....to deal with it because this was too hard to hear about others all the time and not be successful or even know if things were working right. (A lot of people told me not to tell him, but I don't do things behind his back ever...so I don't want this to be one of those things..I would rather be direct.) I am currently on CD16 of a 31-37 day cycle. I bought a BIG pack of the ov test strips this weekend and I am going to do them twice a day for the rest of my cycle. If I don't get a positive on Oing this month, I am going to do that and temps next mont and the month after...and then go to my doc and tell them I want tests...whether they want to give them or not. That will be cycle #9...and if she won't do it I will find someone who does. DH and I paid an extra $100 a month for better insurance that covers EVERYthing...this year since we were going to TTC....so I am going to get my money's worth. As you can see I am frustrated....what do you think...am I nuts ladies?
06-29-2009, 10:40 AM
Tori- After I posted I saw the note on DH job....I am sooo sorry! That is a bummer...good luck at the docs!
Amanda- Congrats on SO new job close to town. I hope he likes it!
06-29-2009, 11:52 AM
Welcome Newbies! Please feel free to ask ANYTHING your little hearts desire! We are all learning here!
Hey Tara, I have pain on my right side every month. It is almost ALWAYS before and during when I ovulate. That's one way I can tell its coming. A few months ago I went to the dr. because it was off and on real strong for about seven weeks straight...she said it may be a cyst that had ruptured and ordered me an u/s. I ended up cancelling the u/s because the pain subsided within that week (as she said it would if it was indeed a cyst). Good luck with the OPKs. Hopefully you get encouraging news this month that you are O'ing!
Amanda- congrats on your SO job! I bet that is a huge relief! My DH does NOT do well when he's away for any amount of time!
As for me, I am on CD 9 of a 29 or 31 day cycle. We are preparing to leave for Florida on vacation. I am so excited to sit and relax for a bit. When I get back, I hope to see LOTS of BFPS!!!!!
06-29-2009, 08:15 PM
Well, I know I haven't said much but I'm reading everyone's post. I had no idea there was so much to learn!
Thank you to everyone for being helpful!!
Cassagc-Ouch, a broken wrist must hurt! But if it's helping you get some much needed rest then it may be a blessing in disguise.
I'm trying to figure out whether to do a HPT or just sit tight and wait for AF to come (or not hopefully!). AF is expected on July 5. My SO is very excited to find out but I'm not looking forward to the disappointment if we're not...
Lots of baby dust to everyone!!
06-30-2009, 03:10 AM
So I am a bit bummed today. I found out that 2 ppl I know are expecting. In my heart I am sincerely happy for them but my head just wants to SCREAM out of frustration! I know that it will happen for us when it is supposed to but I have never been a very patient person. I also tried to get DH to BD today and he shot me down! Gosh darn it, I am supposedly O'ing today and I wanted some! Oh well, maybe tomorrow when he gets home from work (that is of course if DS is napping). I also spoke with him again about switchin out his underwears and I got the old "if they made boxers that didn't ride up my butt then I would" excuse, so I explained to him once again that if he kept the boys a little cooler then maybe we wouldn't be having such a hard time getting preggo this time around. He agreed with the reasoning but dismissed the idea of switching. Oh well, I guess I will just have to learn some patience in the TTC department.
vixen-- I personally would wait till Sunday to see if she shows her ugly head. I don't like to feel as though I wasted money on a test when they come back BFN (and by the way my F does not stand for fat) and then throw disappointment on top of that. No thank you. Sunday will be here before you know it and I will keep my fingers crossed for a BFP for you!
APEMBERTON--Congratulations on your SO getting a job closer to home! That is so exciting for you and I bet will lift a load of stress off of both your shoulders!
taraken--I know exactly how you feel! It is depressing to hear about others who it seems get preggo just by looking at their husbands and then we have to actually work at it. I just keep telling myself that it will happen and I hope that you are able to tell yourself that too. Keep your chin up!
excited-- I am sorry about the promotion. Maybe there is a better one in his future! Also, I hope that your GYN can figure out what's going on. Definitely keep us posted.
Well, I should probably get back to work now. It's my friday and I can't wait to get started on my 4 day weekend!
06-30-2009, 07:36 AM
Vixen, I would wait, because even if you are preggo it could still say BFN now..and do you want to put yourself through it. Unless you have an event or something that you want to know before.
So I just came back to the thread and saw how much I wrote yesterday! Sorry ladies, that is a book....feel free to skip over it. Opps! Anyway, after my vent I have some good news I think. While OPKs were negative yesterday, I believe it was positive today. I have never used them before(the ones you pee in a cup and then put the strip in for 10 seconds). The one time in month 2 that I did try OPKs, they were digitial and I never got a positive (I had been on BC for 10 years..so wasn't surprised). But unlike the day before, where there was a barely a test line, today's line was the exact same color as the control line. According to the directions that means I will O in the next 24-36 hours. Last night we BDed...but for the fun of it. So I am hoping DH little swimmers will still be plentiful tonight! HAHA! I am going to take another one this afternoon..just to check. But if it is positive...I feel much better ...knowing that I will O. YEAH!!!!
06-30-2009, 10:35 AM
Hi, I am Tiffany and live in Louisiana about 30 mins from Baton Rouge. We have been TTC for about 19 months and no luck. We have a handsome 2 1/2 year old little boy and he is the light on my life (when we got preggo with my son we were not trying and I was BC). Me and my husband have been together for 10 years and married for 5 years. This really starting to wear both of us down and i really could use the love from other women who are going thru the something. I told myself that I was okay with it taking so long but, that isn't true. I remember tell my self that this time next for sure we would have a baby. I will not be saying that anymore. I am right now on a 30-32 day cycle.
06-30-2009, 11:46 AM
Tiffany- Welcome!!! We totally understand how you feel!! I thought I was going crazy before we started this thread! lol!! I am sorry it is taking so long! Feel free to vent & ask any questions!!!
Ki- I love the new idea!! So I am officially embracing a summer pregnancy!!!Are you feeling better?? I hope so!!!
Mama- Have fun on vacation!!! Maybe it is just what you need ;)
Amb-Sorry about the BFN!! Have you tested again???
Tori- Sorry again about the job promotion!! That sucks!!! **HUGS** I hope you are doing okay!
Cass- Sorry about your wrist!! That blows, but if you get a little bit of a break though!! Have you tested again yet??
Bookworm-Yay a vacation. Booo AF!!! I would BD around both times of ovualtion..that way you are covered! My cycles are so crazy we have like a 2 week window we have to BD around, so my advice is to BD at least every other day if possible!
Vixen- Welcome! I would wait on the HTP too! BFN's suck way too bad ...believe me!!! My fingers are crossed for you though!!!!
ruth- Sorry AF showed up! It looks like we are identical cycle wise!!! Weird!!! I should start soon too & it will be on to month #17!!!
hardworkinmama- Sorry DH is being difficult about the boxers!!! Maybe he will come around soon! Congrats on the new puppy!!! Oh & I totally agree with the F in BFN needing to be changed to F***!!!
Tara- YAY on a positive on your OPK's!!!! :) WAHOO!!! I always type a book, so don't feel bad about the post! Thanks for the idea on how to mix things up with me & SO!! Even though he is going to be home again, it never hurts to do different things!!!
Aminor- Where are you???
Only 2 more days of this week to go!! YAY!! Both SO & I are off on Friday,so we get a 3 day weekend together!! I am so excited.. & we are going camping, which I love -minus the heat- so I cannot wait until Thursday!!! He starts training on his new job on Monday, so he will officially be home ALL the time!!! I am sooooooooo happy!!! AF should be here soon! I just wish she would get here already so I don't have to deal with her while camping!(Even though her NOT showing up would be better)!! Well I hope everyone has a great day & babydust around!!! :)
06-30-2009, 12:12 PM
I stumbled onto this thread the other day and have anxiously been reading each and every comment. Going through your ups and downs has given me great comfort, as now I don't feel so alone. Or crazy. Or obsessed! Thank you all.
We have been ttc for 2 months, though my husband says the first month didn't really count. Regardless, I am on day 27 of what could be a 34 day cycle. Or 32 days. Even as few as 29 days, although that has been rare. So I went and bought the expensive digital clearblue easy ovulation predictor kit. My dr said it was more reliable than the strips and because women tend to use the strips for multiple months, they end up spending the same amount of money as they woul've had they bought the expensive one. Can you tell I feel guilty? According to said fancy monitor, I O'ed on day 20. And we BD (what does that stand for, anyway?) 2-3 times during my high and peak fertility window. I am dying for it to be Friday (day 30) so i can test. Even though I suspect that I'll get a negative. I was nauseous for a couple of hours yesterday! So maybe. Sometimes I think it is better to have the possibility of a positive than to have the knowledge of a negative. But - but - but some women get a negative even though they are positive. Anybody know of the most sensitive pg tests?
06-30-2009, 01:09 PM
Hello ladies!!! Sorry that I haven't been writing here lately, just taking everything in...I have been keeping up on all of the posts lately, and I know that we have some newbies...so welcome to all of the newbies, and I hope that by joining the rest of us in the craziness called ttc, that we can somehow make it through it a little easier!!!
Amanda - I am here, sorry...ttc has kind of hit a rut this month, I am now back to the fact that it will happen when it happens, I am just hoping that my cycle will eventually even out...I am just SO sick at the fact that it is all over the place...I have absolutely NO clue when I actually ovulate, and I am sick of putting pressure on myself, so I am taking a relaxed approach to ttc for the time being...
Ki - I love the term "embracing a pregnancy" and I think if we all changed our thought process to that, it may just help a little. I am also embracing a summer pregnancy and hope in time that I can nurture one as well.
Mama & Bookworm - Vacation...what's that? Hahahaha...I SO wish that I were going on vacation soon too. Hopefully the relaxation will help with ttc...
Cass - I am SO sorry to hear about your wrist, that really stinks! I don't know what I would do if I broke my wrist...it is really hard for me to take it easy too, but hopefully taking it easy and not being able to stress over little things will help in the ttc area for you.
eskeech - Welcome!! And BD stands for Baby Dancing (aka sex)...I'm hoping for you that your nausea means a BFP (big fat positive)!!!!
As for me, I am on CD 16 of probably another messed up cycle, haha....I am not even sure how long to say my cycle should be...anywhere from 26-39 days now...which is a far stretch, so I really don't know when to expect AF to actually show up, we will just see.
I am sending lots of babydust to everyone, even though I have said before, I'm not sure how much good it will do anyone, I'm begining to think my babydust is full of duds...
06-30-2009, 02:25 PM
Good afternoon! I hope everyone is having a good day... hopefully better than mine! Im really feeling down today so excuse me if I vent alittle!
Amanda- Im so glad that yall are getting to go camping this wknd. I love camping I hope yall have a great time!
Tiffany- welcome to the group. I live in Louisiana too!
hardworkinmama- sorry your having a rough day, I competely understand. I know it sucks to find out others are pregnant when you have been trying.
As far as me..... this morning I woke up, went pee & guess who decided to make a visit?!? ugh stupid aunt flow! So I started crying a little bit. I really thought I was pregnant this time bc I was late and I have been more moody than normal lately (I guess thats just me being mean though now...) So any way, DH said "its ok we'll just keep trying..." MEN! lol Any way, I'm just really disappointed. And on top of that we are having problems with the a/c. Just 2 months ago we had problems with our washing machine which needed to be replaced and we didnt have the money for it so DH had to cash in a weeks vacation to pay for it. Now this! Hopefully it wont be too expensive to fix. Its just been miseralbe in my house 82 degrees!! And of course right now DH hours at work got cut by ALOT so we are losing out on about $300 A CHECK! Its such a stressful time right now. I have been trying to get some kids to babysit but everyone that calls needs someone in the next town so I am just praying that DH work picks up and that maybe I can get a couple more kids to babysit. I really dont want to have to get a job but I may have to. It just seems like its always something, always one thing after the other. I wish the economy would just pick up, we never had problems with money before. I am the type of person that just gets very stressed when it comes to money. Any way, I will quit complaining now... believe me, I have so much going on right now I could go on for hours.
Good luck to everyone TTC and hopefully we hear some BFP soon. Maybe this month will be a better month! I hope so!
06-30-2009, 05:03 PM
Hi to everyone! My name is Sarah and we and we just decided to start TTC a few days ago! I am very excited and a little nervous! We have a 2 and a half year old son named Evan and we are hoping for a brother or sister for him! Hopefully we will have good luck and I also wish good luck to everyone else trying! It seems like there are alot of us, so best of luck!
06-30-2009, 08:38 PM
Good afternoon ladies,
Welcome to all the newbies. It's a fun ride...
Apem - So glad SO is able to work closer to home.
Amboq - Sorry to hear about AF. Hopefully this month goes better for you.
Ki - That advice is great! So embracing the summer pregnancy now. Hope you feel better soon and no ER visit for you.
Eskeech - some women can be preggo and still get a negative. I don't think that there's really any test that's better that the other. A blood test is the most accurate test but a lot of people use clear blue easy.
As for me, I finally have a hard cast on. It's bright pink! I still haven't started AF so I'm testing Friday morning again. Also I just found out today that one of my coworkers is pregnant. It's such a blessing! They've been trying for 6 yrs with several miscarriages but the docs are confidant about this pregnancy. Just thought we could all do with a little good news.
Sticky babydust to all!
07-01-2009, 10:35 AM
I wrote a whole post and it deleted! UGH...I hate that.
Ruth~ HAHA! MEN! It is his nice why does that fall into the "we don't talk about that" haha!
Cass~ Yeah for your friend....I hope everything goes well!
Ki- I hope you feel better soon!
Sarah~ Welcome and good luck!
Amb~ I am soo sorry about AF and your financial situation. Is there anything you can do part time from home and still be a SAHM?
aminor~ I agree about the messed up cycles. I am TTC cycle #6. My cycles have been 36,31,35,31,36...so I never know which leads to excitement followed by disappointment! UGH!
es~ That is interesting. I had bought the clear blue dig test and it said I never oed on my cycle 2. I just got strips this month...and I am confused by them. My doc said don't do anything for 6-9 months...so maybe I will get the expensive one too...I really want an OV-watch though.
As for me. As I said yesterday I got a positive O test in the am. In the evening it was a negative...This morning...it was just slightly lighter than the control line. What the heck..did I O or not! I BD though...so fingers crossed!
07-01-2009, 11:45 AM
First of all, thanks so much for your sweet remarks about DH's misfortune on the job lol - we're doing ok, he seems to have taken it more in stride than I would have thought. Everything in due time right??
I've read through all of the posts, but I don't have a huge amount of time to repson. Suffice it to say - congrats to the positive Os, BD your hearts out, don't get too discouraged by early BFNs, have fabulous vacations, congrats on beginning TTC, love and support to those TTCing for awhile now...LOTS OF HUGS! :D
As for me...I'm on day 44 of a 29-31 day cycle. There are just no words for how I'm feeling. I just took the 1 HPT and it was CLEARLY a BFN. I've had quite a bit of nausea and some minor bb tenderness. I've had a headache almost every day for the past 2 weeks. I'm actually starting to think (and fear) that there are greater medical issues going on then just menstrual irregularity. DH thinks I'm worrying too much, but I just have not felt well for several days now :(
I have my yearly GYN appointment this afternoon at 3. I was almost hoping that AF did not show so that I could have a good appointment. I just don't know what to say...I'm going to have to write down a bunch of questions and concerns before I head out, just so I dont forget anything. I'm almost scared to go, but I know that I have to...no, not ALMOST scared, DEFINITELY scared...
Wish me luck - I'll come back on later if I can for updates - XOXOXO
07-01-2009, 12:34 PM
Ruth- I know it is super weird!!!;)
Tori- Good luck at the Gyno!!! I have felt the same way the last 2 weeks too!!! I hope you feel better & I hope the appt goes well!!!! :)**HUGS**
Tara- I know how you feel about the OPK's! I don't trust them at all! There are too many factors affecting the test! I thought mine were good until I used 2 different brands...with the same pee & got 2 different results!!!WTH??? Ya know?? So I figured we would just BD every other day for the whole month & see what happened! That was about 4 cycles ago so IDK! I am hoping I can go back to the doctor soon & get some actual tests done!!!!!
As for me just waiting on AF to show up!!! Waiting, waiting, waiting! Well this is like a Thursday for me, so only 1 more day of work!! YAY!!!!!
Also PLEASE be praying for my grandfather! He has been really sick & been through ALOT in his life! One of his hips are not even in right now due to a bad infection..he had to be rushed to the ER the day he got out of being in rehab (for about 6 months) because he has pnemonia(sp?)! Now I found out they did an MRI on him yesterday & they said his brain is deterrating(sp?)!
:( PLEASE pray that he gets better!! I don't want to lose another grandparent!!! I love him SO much!!!! Also my cousin is in the hospital because they think she had a tubal pregnancy! She didn't even know she was pregnant(her & her DH have never really wanted kids per say..they have been married 4 or 5 years now), & when they rushed her to the ER they did a test & found out she was & so now they are assuming that is why she is in so much pain! Bless her heart!! I feel so bad for her! They will know tomorrow if that is what it is!! Any & all prayers would be appreciated!!! :)
07-02-2009, 07:17 AM
Tori! We need an update! How did it go? Fingers crossed for you!
07-02-2009, 04:03 PM
Well, Tara, you can uncross your fingers - not my eggo is NOT preggo LOL. Doc says I'm fine, nothing to worry about, gave me meds to bring on my period. We had a loooooong discussion about whats going on in my life, and she blamed the crazy cycles, etc., on stress, anxiety, exhaustion, etc. (Sounds a lot like my husband LOL) Anyway, I'm not too discouraged -- it's as much about the journey as the destination right?
Hope all is well with you all - I have 59 minutes until I'm a FREE WOMAN for the holiday weekend :D WOOHOO!
DH's grandmother is visiting, and while she's awesome and loves him so much, she requires a LOT of attention (she never ever ever EVER stops talking lol), so I doubt I'll be on for awhile, at least most of the weekend. I'll try to get on, but no guarantees -- in the meanwhile, HAPPY 4th!!!
07-05-2009, 06:25 AM
Hey there everyone! I hope the Fourth of July weekend was happy and safe for all celebrating! I am now on CD20 and have been having some "possible" symptoms. I have been more tired than usual lately, my BBs have been tender as opposed to a dull ache, was a bit nauseas yesterday evening into early morning, and have been a bit more flatulant this morning, and ooohhh the restroom breaks. I have been peeing so much you'd think I was drinking gallons of water. AF isn't due until the 13th so I guess now is a great time to work on that patience thing.
Amanda-- sorry to hear about your grandfather. I watched my mom deal with both of her parents going through that. It's tough and my thoughts are with you.
Tori-- glad to hear that you got something figured out at your OB appointment. Your doc and hubby are probably right (SSSSHHHH, don't tell him that! LOL) I hope you had a good weekend with DH's grandmother, the elderly have so much to teach don't they?
Well, I suppose I oughta get back to work, (which right now consists of watching Gone With The Wind), only one hour left. Maybe someone will get a good traffic stop in before I go!
07-05-2009, 04:39 PM
I started ttc in June, so I guess it's time to post it up, huh. Well I'm in my first 'wait' to test and it's kinda driving me nuts. I'm having the psychosimatic symptoms of early pregnancy. LoL.. I pray they're real, but I've been here before. Made an idiot out of myself to a skeptical hubby.. Only to find out the test was negative.. So this time I'm keeping it to myself (and my support groups.) I'm pretty sure I'm not Pg, but it is wonderful to think about sometimes. Just wishful thinking. But I'm not getting my hopes up, because that is a heart break I've had too many times and I don't want to feel like that this early in my TTC endeavor. :p
BabyDust to you all.
07-06-2009, 08:56 AM
Morning Ladies!! I hope you have all had a great relaxing weekend! Ive been thinking about you all and was hopeing for some BFPS but im sure they are around the corner or coming in the July, August months! Got my fingers crossed!!! *HUGS*
As for me Im 25 weeks today and have a doctors appointment, they did an ultrasound for growth last week so I will get the results today, always makes me nervous. I will be doing a 3D ultrasound in the next 2 weeks to see what she looks like and I will post the pics up as soon as I get them.
Welcome all newcomers, happy to have you!!!
Amanda-I have been thinking bout you tons, Im really hopeing your time is coming, we had friends who got preggers on there 18th month and we were talking about that last night and you popped in my head being on your 16th-17th so I thought, maybe amandas turn!! YAHHH! and they did everything naturally and then BOOM!
07-06-2009, 11:30 AM
I hope everyone had a great weekend & a great July 4th!!!
Thanks for the prayers from everyone! I don't have alot of time again, but I will come back on later! AF still hasn't shown up yet! I took the only HPT I have left last night CD31 & it was a BFN!!! BOOO!!! My longest cycle(which only happened once) was 33 days, so if I don't start tomorrow I don't know what the hell is up!! I HATE long cycles!! My cycles range from 26-33 days, so IDK!! I figure the BFN had to be right since it was past the 30 days they say it takes some people so if I don't start by Friday I will go buy & take another test! Oh well!! Oh & SO starts his new job today!!! YAY..he is home for good!!!!
07-06-2009, 07:37 PM
It's been a while since my last post.
Thank you all for your advice, I did not take the HPT I waited patiently and unfortunatly AF came yesterday :( I didn't realize how hopeful I was until she showed... Better luck this month :) More BDing :p
taraken-what is OPKs?
Hardworkinmama-Congrats on the new puppy!! Fingers crossed for this month!!
Apemberton - Hope you had fun camping! Wish the heat was a problem here... it's windy and cold here. I'm praying for your Grandfather! Hope he gets better soon! Is your cousin okay? Hope your SO enjoyed his first day!!
Aminor - Having your cycle all over the place must be very frustrating for you!!
Cassagc - Did you test last Friday? *fingers crossed*
Babydust to all!
07-06-2009, 07:56 PM
Apem - I'm sorry about your grandfather. I'll be praying that this transition goes easier for you and your family.
Vixen - Sorry about AF...it'll happen. OPKs stands for ovulation predictor kits.
As for me, I tested Friday morning and it was BFN. AF still hasn't shown and I'm getting kinda worried. I'm officially 2 weeks late with nothing...
To top it all off, SO's ex-fiancee just keeps popping up and making life miserable. He left her 4 yrs ago when he found out she had been cheating on him for 6 months. She keeps "getting messages" to us through friends and random posts/emails. Today she made sure to let me know that she's pregnant! She's a total *****! I really don't know what else to do, to get rid of her or to get rid of my hatred of her...sorry for the rant, just so not feeling nice today.
07-06-2009, 10:13 PM
Hey ladies! Glad to hear that things are going well for eveyone. Nothing special around here. A little bit more nauseasness (is that how you spell it?) today and about 3 hours after I got up I was ready for a nap. Too bad I had to come into work because I totally would have gone back to bed!
Vixen-- sorry about AF but I really like your positive attitude.
Apem-- I hope this weekend camping was relaxing for you before SO starts his new job. I am very excited for both of you.
BlackAngel--Welcome to the group! I understand the waiting...drives me nuts too. What CD are you on? I am on CD21 so I still have another week to wait. Maybe we can go nuts together?!
Cass-- I have an idea for the "ex". You should send her an email congratulating her on the impending motherhood. She is trying to get a rise out of you both and I bet that would just really get up in her craw! And just something simple like "congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope it is a happy and healthy one" or along those lines. After that just put her out of your mind and ignore all other emails or messages. And who are these "friends" that are passing along her messages anyway? That doesn't seem very friendly to me.
Well, I hope everyone has a great day and baby cement to all! (Maybe the sticky baby dust will turn into cement)
07-06-2009, 11:52 PM
Cass - Sorry about the BFN. I'm willing to bet you're late because of stress if you're SURE you're not pregnant. I agree with hardworkinmamma, send her a message and say congrats on the pregnancy and be done with it. What is her hang up on harrasing you anyways?? My philosophy would be to "kill her with kindness".
Hardworkinmamma-Sounds promising for you this month! Fingers crossed for you!!!
07-07-2009, 06:15 AM
Thanks for the crossed fingers Vixen! I have just about everything that you can cross crossed! Just under an hour left at work and I am dealing with a bit of nausea right now. It could just be the Whoppers I have been snacking on so I am trying not to get excited. I have also been passing gas like there's no tomorrow and thankfully my co-workers haven't noticed( I would post the yellow smily face icon but I haven't figured out how to do that yet). Another "symptom" that I am trying to keep in check is the slightly more frequent bathroom breaks. Normally during my 10 hour shift I will only use the restroom once, the past few nights I have been going at least 4 times if not more. Maybe I should cut back on the root beer and see what happens.
Anyway.... baby cement to all! I hope everyone has a wonderful day!
07-07-2009, 04:56 PM
mum-Thanks for thinking about me!!:) I hope we can be another friend that gets a lucky month #18!!! How did your appt. go??? I hope good!! I can't wait to see the 3D pictures!!! It is going so fast!!!!
vixen-Sorry AF showed!! I am glad you waited to test though, because the BFN are sooooo painful!!! BD your heart out!lol!!
cass-Sorry for your BFN & still no AF!! I HATE long cycles & I HATE not knowing what is going on so I feel for you!!! I am also sorry about your SO's ex!! Why can't people move on??? My ex had an ex like that, except she was WAY worse & she was so ballsy(new word)!! UGGHH I am so glad I don't have to deal with that anymore!!! Do they not understand how pathetic they look??... I guess not.lol.
hardworkinmama-hah!! I LOVE the cement!! I definetly need alot of it...clearly that babydust is flying right by me & landing on unsuspecting people!!! I have everything crossed for you!!! ...ps/ smiley face is made with a colon and right paranthesis!! : )
ruth-Aww what a sweet dream!! I hope everything is going well for you!!!
Well AF showed up this morning!! Another 33 day cycle!! UGGHHH!! Anywho, now we just have to move onto cycle #17!! SO had a good first day & hopefully his second is going well too!! Well nothing else to report, so I am going to get back to work!!!
Cement all around!!!!
07-07-2009, 10:58 PM
Apem--- totally sucks about AF showing up! Maybe this will be the month with SO being home every night. You two can BD to your hearts content! And thanks for the advice on the smiley face but I was talking about the yellow one, like the one you have after "mum-Thanks for thinking about me!!" (Apparantly I haven't figured out how to quote others in my reply either!) I am not the most computer savvy but I try.
Anyway, about an hour or so after I woke up today I started having some sharp pains toward the lower right side of my abdomen and then a few hours after that I started getting sharp pains in my left side. I don't know what these mean! I haven't had bad cramping since before I was on BC 11 years ago, but I have been having more PMS symptoms since Tiarnan was born. AAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH! I also noticed the outsides of my breasts were a bit tender but not the rest of them. I guess I will know in a week what is going on bcuz I will either start AF or take a test.... hoping for the latter!
Cass-- did AF come yet? Did you reply to the ex's email? I am dying to know if you killed her with kindness?
Talk to you all soon!
07-08-2009, 05:19 AM
Hubby and I have been "trying" for about 4 months or so. Today got AF. We're going to be trying again this month and getting more serious about it. Requested that book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" from the library. How's everyone else doing?
07-08-2009, 08:21 AM
Good Morning Ladies!
Waffle welcome. A friend of mine told me that book was great. If we are not successful this month I am going to order it.
Amanda~ I am soo sorry about AF. But this was a strange month for you with SO gone and all...so hopefully now that he is home. Is everything going better for the two of you now?
Hardwork~ HMMMM....symptoms...I have my fingers crossed for you. Hopefully you get a BFP next week!
Cass~ Sorry about the BFN. I am sorry this girl is giving you a hard time. I will admit my ex and I had stayed friends (We had dated 6 years) even after I got married. I was always completely honest with my DH and always told the ex...if he didn't tell his GF he was talking to me...to stop calling because I didn't want to be that girl. (So we hadn't talked in a year or two) Anyway...I saw them at a friends wedding recently and I tried to stay away. Well ex kept talking to my parents and came over and talked to DH once or twice..which I did not think anything of. Anyway....I was in line behind his gf and said hi, nice to meet you...and she ran out of the room crying. To make a long story short...I didn't mean anything by it and really felt bad. I don't know what this girls intentions are...but you should be secure enough in your relationship to know she can't harm it. If you don't want to hear about her..to SO and your friends that....hopefully they will respect you!
Ruth~ HAHA! Three kids! I would LOVE twins..but three...now that would be an event!!!
Vixen~ Bummer about AF
As for me I am on CD25 out of a 31-37 day cycle. No bb tenderness. But I have been having those darn side cramps I have been getting the past few months. Last night I kept having mini muscle spasims in my tummy on the right hand side and DH...was like I think that is my baby in there. He is all excited this month and wants me to test on Friday. I keep telling him that is too early as a 31 day cycle won't be here until next Tuesday. It is really odd. I think because we had the OPK postive that day and BDed our little hearts out that he thinks it worked. Hopeffuly he right. I am afraid to take a test on Friday..it is so hard to get negatives....should I do it for him.
07-08-2009, 11:14 AM
hardworkinmama- LOL!! I am sorry I was just showing you which keys to use!! : )....just put them together :) !!
waffle- Welcome!! Let us know how the book goes... I have heard really good things about it!!
tara-I don't know if I would take the test...only b/c I took one last month or the month before that b/c SO requested it & it was a BFN!! I had the will power to be strong, but SO wanted me to! I HATE to see a BFN, worse than seeing AF so I wouldn't suggest doing it, but we totally understand if you do! :) I have everything crossed for you!!!
Oh & him being home is not helping so far!! We got in a fight last night that resulted in us not talking for the rest of the night, so I don't know what the problem is!
~CEMENT all around!!~
07-08-2009, 02:38 PM
OMG! Apem, I figured it out :) thank you sooooo much!
Marti-- welcome! Remeber to take things one day at a time and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
waffle-- welcome! I hope the book is helpful and you get a BFP real soon.
tara-- I would tell DH that if he wants the test taken so badly on Friday then he can be the one to take it!LOL Explain to him that it is too early to test and since it will surely be a BFN then why waste the money?
Apem-- I am sorry you and SO got in a fight last night. It may take a short while to figure out how to live together again but soon enough I am sure that you two will be right where you want to be.
As for me, I am on days off now :) so I will be trying to relax in between cleaning, and doing laundry, and cooking, and playing with Tiarnan, and playing with the puppy, and ..... oh hell the list goes on! Have a great weekend everybody! To those of you testing I am sending baby cement your way!
07-09-2009, 07:17 AM
Thank you everyone for the warm welcome and the support :)
Baby dust to all!
07-09-2009, 12:43 PM
Ok so I have a question! My period normally lasts about 3-4 days..sometimes longer...& is pretty heavy! Well this one only lasted 1 day & 1/2 ?? Plus it was VERY light...like it is normally on the last day of AF. It is just super weird. I have been religiously noting every detail of AF for the last 17 months & it has NEVER been like this. I just don't understand..I took a HPT test on CD31 & got a BFN, so I don't think I am pregnant, but I am just freaked out! Plus I have been going to bed early the past few nights because I am so tired(granted I have been doing some mega-mid-summer cleaning)! What do ya'll think??
Oh & your welcome hardworkinmama.... I was not very clear, so my bad! :)
07-09-2009, 01:08 PM
Amanda, Mine have been back and forth for the past 6 months. One month would be light and short the next heavy and long. So I am not a good person to give you an answer. I think the color is important. Don't want to sound gross, but from what I read if it is normal color, you probably aren't preggo....but if it is light and brown or pink....then maybe. So I decided not to take the test tomorrow. Since we don't have any in the house. I am just going to "forget to by one" and wait until next week to test. Good luck!
Ki- I liked OPK this month since it said I O'd...I think....so I think that is why DH is sooo excited this month. He probably brings up "his baby" 2 times every day. I told him to stop..because if we are not preggo I am going to be more disappointed. But he says he can't help it because he feels like this is the first month out of the past 6 it could be possible. I just wish he would stop because it makes me hopeful.
07-09-2009, 02:22 PM
Tara- Yeah it is ..TMI coming... just brown & a little pink! My AF days are VERY consistant(unlike me cycles), so I don't know what is going on. I do NOT want to go buy a test as I am 99% sure it will be another BFN..which I REALLY REALLY don't want to see,but it is just confusing me as to why else it would change like that. I guess if my curiosity doesn't get the best of me I will just write it down & move on! I don't blame you on "forgetting to get a test".....however I find it sooooo freakin' cute that your DH is so excited. My SO gets like that some months & even though it thrills me that he is so excited & cares so much I get frustrated because I have a hard enough time trying to keep my hopes low & when he acts excited I absolutely lose my mind.lol. I can't do that to myself so we basically don't even discuss it anymore. It is just so hard for me & I still after 17 months can't shake that disapointment(sp?) feeling! I still take it SUPER hard, especially with friends & family getting pregnant & people asking us if we want kids...when do we want kids...etc..WE ARE TRYING PEOPLE!!!! lol!! :)
On a better note during lunch I ran to my sisters house to play with my new little nephew while her & my mom packed. He is such a CUTIE..he is smiling now & it is so sweet!!! Definetly the best nephew ever!! :)
07-09-2009, 05:04 PM
Rou- Thanks! That makes me feel better! I guess I should just chalk it up to another weird AF thing!! It has just been so consistant the past 17 months that I am really confused! Well I am going to try to let it go & then if next month I don't start I will know I am.lol.
Oh & don't you love the "don't think about it too much"..or "just relax"..yeah OKAY, let's see if you can do that after 17 months of NOTHING????
07-10-2009, 07:51 AM
Amanda~ Based on what Rou said...I would test again in 10 days just to be safe.
Warning Rant~ So I am having a really bad morning and don't want to whine to DH...so I figured I would post it. So as those of you that have been around a while know...I am on TTC Cycle #6. Anyway, my cycles have been 36,31,35,31,36...since this has all begun. Mid month I took OPKS which said I Oed June 10th. DH has been all excited and wanted me to take a test today..because it would be 10 days..so if I had a 31 day cycle it would be 4 days before AF (on the shortest cycle). Well I didn't have any so I was just going to say lets wait. Anyway...he picked some up yesterday..which was really sweet so I thought ok...I know it will be BFN (since it is too early), but lets humor him it is cute he is so excited. No big deal, I got up with him and took it and it was BFN. Of course it sucks to see, but it is sooo early for me it didn't really bother me. Well he comes in with a Birthday card for me (turned 28 today) and asked the results. (I think he was hoping I would get a positive for my b'day.) He was sweet and said it is early and tonight we are going out and I have a great present for you. So I am feeling happy and fine no big deal. I go back to bed for an hour and wake up and I have horrible cramps. I go in the bathroom and light pink AF is here. WTF day 27...out of all days...and I have a baby shower to go to tomorrow. Every month AF arrives just in time for a babyshower. Three FREAKING months in a row! I am soo sick of this.
I know 6 months isn't that bad...but why is the timing always so awful. Once a month max I have a babyshower to go to. Why does this keep happening this way!
07-10-2009, 11:12 AM
Tara-First off HAPPY BIRTHDAY..Second I am really sorry! That was really sweet of your DH to buy the test!! -What a cutie- It was also sweet of you to humor him, even though you knew it was too early! Sorry about the BFN!! AF always tends to show up at the worst time for me too...any holiday, event, vacation..AF is sure to show up right at the same time. It sucks so bad & I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy! I hope you can have a GREAT birthday anyways & you have to let us know what your big surprise is!!! :):)
07-10-2009, 04:59 PM
Ruth-Aww..how sweet! My nephew is 6 or 7 weeks old & he is so cute!! Again odd that we have niece & nephew so close in age. Seriously are you my long lost twin????
I forgot to mention that this morning AF started up again. It is still pretty light & mainly brown so I am even more confused now!! I was going to get SO to get me some HPT's so I could take another one, but since it started up again I am just going to wait to see what happens!
Happy Friday & have a Great Weekend!!!
07-12-2009, 11:32 PM
Hey ladies! I hope everyone has had a wonderful weekend!
tara--sorry bout AF coming and happy belated birthday! I hope the present from your hubby was the best you have ever received.
Apem--sorry that AF is being such a confusing b*tch right now! Hopefully it is a good sign though!
Ruth--glad you had a good time in OK and congratulations on your niece.
Well, nothing exciting going on in my house. I had the house to myself this weekend as DH took DS down to Arkansas to see his grandpa. It was weird, I haven't gotten to just sit on the couch and do nothing in over 20 months! AF is supposed to show her ugly head tomorrow and I am secretely hoping that she doesn't show at all! Of course, I am telling myself that she will so I hopefully won't be so disappointed when (if) she does. I am going to wait until Thursday to test if she doesn't show up. I almost broke down and tested on Saturday because last Thursday I was going to the restroom almost every hour. I told myself "if I go to the bathroom this much tomorrow then I will test on Sat." and of course Friday there was no excessive bathroom trips... so I refrained.
Did anyone test this weekend? Keeping fingers crossed for anyone who did/does and baby cement all around!
07-13-2009, 11:41 AM
Good morning ladies! I hope everyone had a great weekend...it was a busy one for me. My baby brother got married on Saturday, and I cried like a baby...I didn't even cry at my own wedding, I don't know what came over me. I'm just glad that his wedding is finished, and now I only have the baby shower that I am planning for my best friend on August 1, and I cannot wait for it to be over, so I don't have to plan anything for a while...I need some down time, haha.
Well, I am currently on CD 29 of a cycle that has been anywhere from 26-39 days...ugh!!! I cannot believe that my last cycle was actually 39 days long, that is just plain ridiculous...but whatever, nothing that I can do about it...I'm just hoping that this one is not nearly as long, or just doesn't show at all, haha. I have had some VERY sore bb's here lately, and they have been SO itchy I can barely stand it...it's crazy...not sure if it's a sign of AF or hopefully a little bean in there...we will see....I have NO clue when I will test if AF doesn't show, because there is no telling how long this cycle will be...haha. I hope everyone is doing well!!!
07-14-2009, 01:50 AM
so far so good, no AF :)
ruth-- you're welcome and thanks for the good "no AF" wishes. I am with you on someone needing a BFP. Somebody...anybody...
aminor--congrats to your baby brother and maybe the crying combined with the sore, itchy BB's means more than just AF? I am sending a ton of baby cement your way along with a multitude of good thoughts.
I had a horrible sleep today. went to sleep at about 630 and woke up at noon to go to the bathroom. As soon as I get back to bed my pager goes off asking me to call into work. So I call in, change my schedule to come in at 11pm instead of 8pm and work until 10am. Then I try to go back to sleep and can't. I get up, play with my son and then go back to bed about 430. I slept until about 9 but I hate having interrupted sleep like that, it screws me up! Anyway, hopefully tomorrow I will get uninterrupted sleep and AF will stay away again. :)
I hope everyone has a wonderful day!
07-14-2009, 10:12 AM
Hey Ladies! I'm back from vacation and boy is it hard to go back to work. I'm just trying to stick with this job because I'm afraid I won't be able to find another one in this economy. Anyway, according to myfertility.com I was supposed to O on the 7th but it felt more like an O on the 9th. We BD'ed on the 5th, 6th and 8th but we missed both possible O days. So I'm not feeling so good about this month. Please keep my father in your thoughts and prayers: he went to the ER for what he thought were kidney stones but it turns out he has an orange sized malignant tumor on his left kidney. I'll keep praying for all of the other sick relatives mentioned on this board. It's so nice that we can come here for support for more than just our TTC struggles.
07-14-2009, 11:07 AM
ruth- haha! Yea what do you look like??? lol
hardworkinmama-ohh you could be our first BFP in a while!! When hould AF arrive?? When will you test??? I have my fingers crossed hard for you!! Oh & that is really weird about your sleep comment, because I was just complaining yesterday about how I didn't good consistant sleep Sunday night & it made for a bad day. I don't need alot of sleep to function, but I do need a consistant 3-4 hours of sleep! I hope you get some better sleep tonight.... I got a better amount of consistant sleep last night so I am much happier & alert today at work! :)
bookworm-I will definetly be praying for your dad! I am very sorry I know it is very scary!! I hope everything goes well & keep us updated!! :)
Nothing new for me! AF was so weird last week I don't know what the deal is! I decided not to test, because I do not feel pregnant, so we will see what happens in a few weeks!!
Baby Cement all around & I hope everyone has a GREAT Tuesday!!!
07-14-2009, 12:03 PM
Good Morning Ladies!
Bookworm~ You poor thing. I am so sorry to hear about your dad! I will keep him in my prayers.
Amanda~ Weird AF, but I do agree..I would just wait if I were you. By the way how is your grandpa doing?
Hardworkin~ I have you in my thought... BFP....when do you test?
Ruth~ Yeah on the new niece to be.
Aminor~ That is the worst thing of strange cycles. I now I have a range from 27-37 days with this months AF. UGH!!!! I swear it is frustrating.
Ki~ I hear you on the losing weight. I just want to lose 20lbs and I would be happy. That would put me at the perfect weight. I have been going to the gym for 1.5 months now and have not lost a lb. But I am feeling better...so who knows what is happening.
Thanks for the b'day wishes. So my present was AWESOME! DH got me a new set of golf clubs, really nices ones, that are PINK and gray! I LOVE them. For those of you who don't golf, clubs are realtively expensive, so this is the first new set I have had in 5+ years. Plus my old ones were one of those cheap...everything comes with it sets. I just wish it would stop raining here so I can try them out. HAHA! Despite the AF, the weekend went great. I had so much fun, even at the baby shower. This is one of those showers that the couple is very secure financial, relationship wise and truly ready to have a baby. So it wasn't hard at all, like some of the others I have been too lately. I am so excited for them. It was a college friend, so a bunch of my sorority sisters were there and one had their baby with them. She told me she is going to send me the "lucky book". Out of the girls in the house it has been passed to three of them all which got preggo with one month of reading and following it. So it is on it's way to me now...Cross your fingers ladies...hopefully I can keep the tradition rolling! ;)
07-14-2009, 06:48 PM
Crap.. I just wrote a whole post and it deleted it...
Aminor-Congrats to your brother! 39 days seems really long!
Kihei-I understand the frustration about losing weight.
Hardworkinmama-I'm hoping the best for you :) I'm really excited to hear someone finally get a BFP...
Bookworm-From what I've heard, sperm can live for up to 2 days in the womans uterus so even though you didn't do it on the exact day, there is still a chance :)
As for me, I'm stuck at home with strep throat :( Not fun! Luckily the worst of it seems to be over... I'm supposed to O this week so hopefully I'll have lots of BDing to do! :)
My friend just told me that him and his girlfriend are expecting a baby, I'm SUPER excited for him. BUT, I'm wondering how people who are not trying to conceive wind up having accidents and people who are trying have a hard time... don't get me wrong, I'm happy for him! Just confused about the way life works sometimes..
Lots of Baby Cement to you all!!!!!!
07-14-2009, 06:49 PM
I know what I left out the second time...
Bookworm-My prayers are with your Dad!!
07-14-2009, 09:45 PM
SSSSHHHHHH! Don't tell mother nature but AF still isn't here :) She was supposed to arrive on Monday or today. Right now it is 827pm in KC so we will see. I am going to test on Thursday if she still hasn't shown up. I have been a consistent 27-28 day cycle for the past few months which is were I was before Tiarnan. And we BD'd on the CD13 sssoooooo..... we'll see.
bookworm--my thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. I am also sending baby cement your way as it sounds like you BD'd on the right days.
tara-- I am so glad that your weekend went so well! I hope the book is as lucky for you as it was for your sorority sisters.
Apem-- I did get better sleep today! I slept from 11am till about 5pm so it's not the 8 I like to get but it's better than interrupted sleep.
thanks to everyone for the "stay away AF (fingers in the shape of a cross)" wishes. I am sending out baby cement to everyone and some of it is bound to solidify somewhere! :)
07-14-2009, 09:59 PM
vixen-- I know how you feel. It is so hard to hear that other people are expecting when you have been trying. And it is perfectly okay to feel jealous or a little sad when you hear someone else's good news. The best thing to do is acknowledge your feelings as being okay, realize that it will happen for you one day soon, and then remember that positive thoughts beget positive happenings.
There is a guy that I work with whose wife is expecting and I still get a twinge of jealousy everytime the subject is brought up, but I just keep telling myself that it will happen for us when it is supposed to. It's easier said than done, but I try.
07-15-2009, 02:05 AM
Ok, so I know I am posting a bunch tonight but I have to tell you all about the crazy a$$ dream I had last night.
So I am standing on the back deck of my parent's house hanging out with Harry Potter, the little girl from the Missy Elliot video(the white girl that could really dance), and some other random kid. Anyway, we are trying to escape from somebody and we decide to use 2 logs to float down the river. I am not sure where the river came from but it was there so we used it. As we are floating we decide that we need to stop and get some food. Next thing I know we are in my parents kitchen at the table and we hear someone coming down the hallway. Everyone scrambles for a place to hide and I peak my head up to see who it is and it's my grandma! The strange part about that is it's my dad's mom who died in 1993. She has been gone for 16 years! So after she goes back down the hallway, we scramble to get out of the house and back to the river but the only way out is through the wall. I am pushing on the wall and it won't budge so I look at Harry and say "hey, I could use some help here". He shakes his wand and says "go on through" so I pass through the wall like a ghost. We go back to floating down the river and stop off at another house. WE ARE IN MY PARENTS KITCHEN AGAIN! We get some sandwiches and go back to the river and at that time I woke up.
How f*d up is that??????? First of all, why is a 30 year old woman dreaming about Harry f*in Potter? And why was my grandma in my dream? I mean seriously here! Well, that was my dream and I hope it is not a recurring one.
P.S. still no AF at 102am on Wednesday the 15th of July :)
07-15-2009, 10:42 AM
Good morning ladies! I havent been around a lot lately bc I've been so busy plus I havent been feeling well. I hope everyone is having a good week so far. I hope we get some BFP soon! I had a period like 2 weeks ago. This week I have been feeling pretty yucky though! I feel bloated, nauseated, and I feel some kind of pressure down there. Its really uncomfortable. Im wondering whats causing this. Im thinking maybe its bc I'm "O"ing this week... this has never happened so I dont know!
Amanda, I was wondering how everything is going with you and your hunnie? I hope things are going well!
07-15-2009, 10:43 AM
Hardworkinmama- GOOD LUCK! Im rooting for ya! I hope AF doesnt show!
07-15-2009, 12:54 PM
Tara-What an awesome gift!! Yes golf clubs are RIDICULOUS...escpecially good ones.. I hope you get to use them soon!Glad the shower went well too!As far as I know he is doing okay.. I am not sure if they are going to do any more tests for now or if the results have come back yet!!
Ruth-HAHA, Nope we look nothing alike.lol. Well maybe we just aren't identical twins.lol.
hardworkin- I am so glad AF still isn't here...I have everything crossed for you still! Maybe you will be the BFP spirit we need! Glad you got some better sleep..I know it helps me.Wierd dream though...doesn't it freak you out when you have an off-the wall dream like that.
Amb-Hopefully since you are feeling such strong "o" pains it is a good sign! As for the hunnie & I ....we are doing much better ...especially compared to the last month or so! It was hard being away all week, but I think he was taking it MUCH worse than I was. He is still snappy sometimes & loses his cool out of nowhere, but he usually apologizes & I try to let things go easy. I am also working on not snapping back..(normally I am really good & mature until you start name calling & being immature & then it takes all my will power to NOT go to your childish level)..so lately I have been working extra hard to not go to his level & just be silent until he apologizes!!! It has worked pretty well so far..& those snappy moments have been pretty sparse, so it is all good..THANK GOD!!! :)
Ok so I have a question & want to see what you think. We didn't get to go to the beach this year due to us both getting new jobs. So now my mom, grandmother, sister & nephew are going (kind of like an all girls week...just don't tell Bradyn(my nephew)(lol)..my grandfather died a few years ago, my dad can't go, my BIL can't go , & my SO definetly can't go seeing as how this is only his 2nd or 3rd week)..now here is the question...money has been tight lately..unexpected bills...etc..so we really don't have the money for me to go, plus I was just talking to my SO about how stressed I feel about money..don't get me wrong all of our bills are paid..but SO was getting paid every week , but this new job is how I get paid ,every 2 weeks, so we went a week without his paycheck & we had to pay for his workshirts & name tages equalling over $200(I know.. WTF!!) & his last paycheck was half what it normally was because it had rained alot up there & concrete & rain don't mix.lol. So I talked to my mom today & she said not to worry about money..they want me to come so bad it is an all-expense paid trip for me! I haven't asked off yet..it would be Friday-Monday(I know they will let me off)..but I kind of feel bad going or even asking my SO. He works so hard & he didn't get a vacation to the beach this year so I feel REALLY bad for him. Plus a few months ago his dad offered for him to go to Vegas with him..I think it was all-payed by him too minus food.. & he didn't go...I can't really remember why though, but he didn't go!! Should I go??? I just feel so guilty!!! What should I do?? I seriously feel guilty just asking!
07-15-2009, 02:59 PM
Hey ladies! Just wanted to pop in and say "I'm back!" Ft. Lauderdale was awesome! We had such a great time and I def "O'd" while we were there. Dont feel any different, but we'll see...AF should show by monday.
hope to see BFP's real soon!
07-16-2009, 09:53 AM
ki-Thanks! No the beach, well the REAL beach.lol. is about 6 hours away. We got to PC(Panama City), FL, Destin, FL, or Gulf Shores, AL .. I am not exactly sure where we are even going, but they are all about 6 hours from home! We have taken a couple of vacations early this year, & a few weekend trips too, so it is not like we haven't gone anywhere, but we LOVE the beach & had such a blast last year!:(
ruth- No it is not preachy at all, but believe me WE TALK. Sometimes more than he wants too I think.lol. We talked about the Vegas trip... I just can't remember why he didn't go ...(I have a bad memory, so I can't remember if it was $$, or work, or what)! We communicate ALOT ALOT. That is what I think led to my last relationship ending....we didn't communicate enough, so now I make sure that will never happen again. I used to pretend things were fine or just ignore problems, but now it is totally different! I let him know exactly how I feel at all times... no sugar coating anything!
So I asked him last night, & of course he totally wants me to go! I knew he would, but I just feel guilty. I don't know why,like I said I guess it is because he works so hard(as do I.lol) & so I am sad that he doesn't get to go!!! I am really excited to go though! I love my family(we are both big family people), so I am really excited!! Now all I have to do is ask off!
Thanks for the input..it makes me feel better, & of course he made me feel really okay about it!!! :)
07-16-2009, 11:11 AM
Well yeah he was doing the concrete thing with his dad until he got this new banking job about 2 weeks ago! If he still had that job he could actually go, but now this new job his off days are not together, nor are they weekends(BOO!), but at least he is home every night! I am off on the weekend so I will only have to ask off for 2 days where he would have to ask for 4 (which he is not that dumb to do seeing as how has only had this job for 2 weeks!)lol.
He works so hard..buy choice....but I do too & he has had more off days since the first of the year than I have, so I guess I do deserve a break.:)
Oh & yes it is nice to have beaches so close!
07-16-2009, 04:46 PM
I feel ya!! I see people (even teenagers) out with 3 or more kids & it kills me! All I am asking for is 1 people........just 1...is that too much to ask???
Ok I will stop before a rant starts.lol.
Oh & thanks...if I get to go it will be next weekend!!!! :)
Oh & when is your trip going to be???
07-17-2009, 11:57 AM
Ruth, I take prenatals daily and have since we went of BC. Spinabifida can be very serious...so if you are TTC you should really make sure you take them every day. Better to be safe than sorry. My doctor (OBY) actually told me to buy this brand from walmart. He said it was cheaper than the prescription he could give me and it was the exact same thing. Just make sure you are taking prenatal, as multi-vitamins do not have the extra folic acid.
So I know I have posted this before...but for all of you that are trying to hide TTC, I think that is harder. We were doing that originally and it was torture. People kept asking when we were going to start a family and HARPING ON IT! you don't want to wait to long, you don't know how long it will take, why wait, you have been married forever etc. Every time I would walk away feeling more upset and discourage than I originally was. So I have changed my song. I now say "we having be trying since Jan, no luck yet, but that we were ok with it, because when god wants it to happen it will and we are having an amazing summer golfing and riding the motorcycle." The convo gets dropped soooo quickly now. Ones who were pressuring feel bad asking because it is taking a while, some people have good advise, others feel uncomfortable because of the god thing and just drop it, and other just react like "that is a great way to look at it and start asking about where we golf." HAHA! Plus people who I have already said this to NO LONGER ASK!! HAHA! So if you DH and yourself are ok with it...I advise...it will save you a lot of heart ache.
Ki- Can you finish you basement yourself. It is SOOO much cheaper. My husband is an engineer and amazing with tools etc. So we are finishing ours now on our own. our quote to have it finished (we weren't doing a bar) but adding about 1000 sq ft was $25,000. We figured it out and we can do the whole thing with carpet etc for $6,000 and that is with adding a bathroom, subpump, heating zone, office, family room, and then closing off part of the basement for storage. DH will do everything but taping himself. It may be worth looking into if you husband is handy with tools!
07-17-2009, 12:19 PM
ruth- lol. I have those kinds of days too! I actually had a REALLY dumb blonde moment yesterday(& yes I actually do have blonde hair) & I know Drew's mother thinks I am on crack now.lol. Too long of a story, but VERY funny nonetheless! I got some prentals a long time ago, but they made me super sick. It took me a few months to realize what was causing it, & so I keep forgetting to pick up a different brand when I go to the store!! I know...bad Amanda ..bad Amanda. I try to take folic acid when I remember though! As far as I know they don't help you with conceiving except to make you healthier.lol.
Oh & like Ki said I always feel like I am on here, so don't feel bad at all!
Ki- You & your DH sound like us! We try to do 10 projects at once. We need to re-landscape the front of our current house, but DANG it is so expensive..we re-did our old house like 2 months before we moved, so we really didn't get to enjoy it....although it looks a million times better! WOW that is ALOT of money to finish the basement!!!! OUCH.lol. We are trying to slowly re-do this house(we bought it to fix & resale) so we can sell it as soon as the market goes up. We have at least another year so we don't have to pay taxes on it again, but after that we are just waiting for the market to go up! We want to build our next house, so we will see how that goes!
I am not sure if I have already asked you this, but how did your first appt. go when you went for the initial fertility tests??? As soon as we get married I am going to call & set up an appt. & would like to know what to expect. Like what are they looking for?? Is is just blood & urine tests or will they do an exam too??? Any info would be great!:)
Tara-After we get married we might start telling. I doubt that Drew will even want to then though. He is the one who wants to wait for a while when we do get pregnant, so IDK.
07-17-2009, 05:24 PM
Ruth- OMG.. I am so sorry about what happened to you as a toddler!! That is...well words CANNOT describe how sick!!
On a positive note I am glad your body has healed so amazingly!!! That is SOOO awesome!!!
Yes if I layed off the crack alot of things are would probably go different.lol.;)
ps/ I had no idea prenatals really might help with fertility. I need to write those down on my list for when I got to the store again..hopefully a different kind won't make me sick!
Ki-That story about the fertility experience totally made my day! I can picture that scenario with Drew & myself! That would be kind of sketchy...hoping they inserted the right sperm.lol.
07-19-2009, 02:29 AM
Ok, just got back from days off and unfortunately I do not have good news. Not only did the B*tch show up on Wednesday at 10pm but I wasted two tests because curiosity got the better of me. I took the 1st test around 130pm and got the error message because I did something wrong and then had to wait around till I needed to pee again. Took the 2nd test around 6pm and it was a BFN, so I settled in to wait on AF. Oh well, on to the next month!
Sounds like everyone has had a busy week!
Ruth-- the waiting absolutely f*in sucks! When is science going to come up with a test to tell you the day it happens???? (that commercial keeps taunting us that they are getting close) Here's hoping the good feeling is correct!:)
Getting kind of busy at work so I should get back to it. Will try to get back here in the morning.
07-19-2009, 10:43 AM
Yay me, I get to go home and go to bed very soon. So, I was thinking about maybe doing the temping thing but my question is-- do you have to temp at the same time every day or just before you get out of bed? My reasoning for not temping before is because I thought you had to temp at the same time and seeing as how I do not get up at the same time every day I didn't think it would be accurate. Also, do I need to start on the first day of AF or can you start anytime during the cycle? I want to make sure that I am doing it right so I can try to pinpoint ovulation better than I am now(which obviously isn't working)! Thanks for any help.
On a side note, I have decided that I am going to try and drop about 10lbs just to make myself feel healthier but I have decided how I am going to do it. You would think that chasing after a 20 month old would keep you in better shape but after water skiing yesterday and the soreness that I am feeling today tells me that I am out of shape!
07-19-2009, 08:10 PM
Hey ladies! So I haven't been on here in months! I had to get away from all things that had to do with TTC because it was really consuming my life. I've done really well with it up until the last month or so and I've started thinking about it a lot again!
I'm glad to see we have a lot of new comers since I've been on here, and just as glad to see lots of the same people!
So, I will tell a little about myself in case anyone has forgot and for the new ladies.
I'm 21 years old with a 4 year old son. His father and I have been happily married since February 14, 2009! We started trying to conceive again right before we got married. We are now on cycle 9 and it's exhausting! I am currently on CD 25 of a 28-30 day cycle! Praying for no AF! I will be testing on the 26th if I haven't started even though I still would have a few days in my normal starting range.
I'm glad to be back and hope to see some BFP's really soon!!!
Also I found a new website called conceiveonline.com that is really helpful. The ones that's been trying to conceive probably know most of the information on there, but still may need to refresh and it will be a great help to those of you just starting your TTC journey!
07-19-2009, 10:46 PM
Ruth-Sorry to hear about your experience! You're right though, if you stay quiet they'll just get away with it. I understand the anticipation, I was just supposed to O over the last couple days and I'm already hoping... :) I think the anticipation may kinda be like Christmas??
Hardworkinmama-You are supposed to temp just before you get out of bed. I've never done it though because I don't stay in bed after I wake up. The dogs always want out ;)
Baby dust to everyone!!
07-20-2009, 12:21 AM
vixen--thanks for the tip on temping! I read up a bit more on and nowhere did I see that it had to be at the same time each day so I think I will try it. I have a friend who did the temping for about 2 months and realized that she was an early ovulator so they had to get busy right after AF was done to conceive and they used it with both of thier kids so maybe it will work for me :)
07-20-2009, 12:43 AM
Okay so I am a tard and posted sooner than I wanted.
Ruth-- a fertile beeper would be awsome! "BEEP, BEEP, BEEP. come on honey it's time to get busy!" Ha ha ha!
Ki-- sorry AF showed up. I am with you on the needing to get into shape. I wish you all the luck on going to the gym before hubby leaves for work, it's tough to drag your a$$ out of bed that early! I am going to try and go on walks more often and hopefully that will help me get started on dropping some weight. Sorry your sis is being a pain.
07-20-2009, 05:26 AM
So I was wrong on the temping thing. I just read an article on temping (found it on conceiveonline.com thanks ProudMama :) )that said you needed to temp at the same time every morning give or take 30 minutes. I guess I won't be temping then :(
I just got a call from DH and he told me that Tiarnan has had him up since 330 and I am secretly happy because for once it's not me!
07-20-2009, 02:28 PM
ki- Sorry AF showed! I am glad you are taking it well though!!
hardworkinmama- Yeah I did the OPK's for a few months & the tempting for more than a few months.(lol). Yes you do have to check your temp. at the same time everyday! It was hard for me the first few months just remembering to do it & do it at the same time, especially on weekends, but to have a baby I did it! Unfourtunately my temp. doesn't really spike like it is supposed to(if you read up on it alot of womens temp don't spike) & I used 2 different OPK's 1 month & got 2 different ovulation dates, so it is basically anyones guess if I ovulate or not. I decided if we BD at least every other day of the month..TMI coming...& I mean every other day, AF or not, if I was ovulating & nothing was wrong we should get preggo...I tried that a few months....then I tried not thinking about it for a few months & still nothing, so I have basically given up on any hope until I go back to the doctor! I hope I am not discouraging you too much or beign a negative nellie.lol. That was just my experience....at least I have all that info written down so I can show it to the doctor though!
I hope everyone had a great weekend!! Me & SO are doing a million times better, so I am much less stressed! Now if we can just get some bills paid off & make some wedding plans & doctors appt.!!! :)
07-20-2009, 06:05 PM
Good evening ladies! I'm trying to get caught up on everyones stories but it's hard since I'm gone from 8-5:30 everyday with no computer.
Vixen- Thanks for the welcome and good luck on your journey!
Ruth- I'm here hoping for the same thing everyone else on here is hoping for lol.
Ki- Sorry about AF, but at least you were expecting her! I know what you mean about getting into shape. I'm always saying I'm going to do it, but always find a reason or should I say an excuse for why I don't. Good luck! If you find helpful tips let me know!
Hardworkin'- Well I read the first post and was getting ready to tell you that it did have to be the same time every day to check it out on conceiveonline.com but seen you've done that. LoL...
Amanda- Glad to hear you and SO are doing better! I've read some of your post about things that was going on...My DH and I weren't doing so good either a few months ago. It's stressful but you have to remember the good or the bad will quickly take over!
As for me, I was cramping a little earlier so I except AF will be showing her ugly face in the next few days. I'm supposed to start sometimes this week more than likely around the 25th. I'm keeping my fingers crossed though!
Well hope you ladies had and continue to have a nice day!
07-20-2009, 11:03 PM
So here is what I know about temping-- do it every day at the same time and you temp spikes after you ovulate. So the main thing it is good for is to tell you wether or not you are ovulating. By tracking this for a few months you should get a good idea of when you should ovulate and can go from there.
Here is what I know about OPKs-- they tell you when you are about to ovulate. They are good for telling you when to get busy in the bedroom (or kitchen, living room, parking lot, whereever! :)) I haven't tried OPKs due to being a tightwad.
Apem-- no you didn't discourage me and I think it sucks that you have had to go through all this crap with no results! I don't know where you find the strength to make it through and I am in complete awe of you. When do you go to the doctor? I just went for my annual and she had me make a follow up appt in Dec if I haven't conceived by then. I really hope I don't have to go to that appt!
Ki-- I am glad things are back to normal for you and your sis!
So on a different note -- does anyone watch the show Operation Repo on TruTV? That is some funny, funny sh*t! Some of the people they deal with do the craziest things to try and save their car. My fav are the ones who have to ask why their veh is getting repo'd. UUUHHH DUH! You didn't make your payments! Funny stuff. Well, have a good night everyone. I am sure I will be back on later when I get bored at work!
07-21-2009, 08:19 AM
Morning Ladies! just popping in to see how you all are doing! Hopefully we get some BFPS on here this month or even next !!! All I know is I have my fingers and toes crossed for all you lovely ladies, who all deserve a bun in the oven ASAP!!!! *hugs*
As for me Im 27 weeks and getting uncomfortable, the absolute worst part of being preggers, both my daughters killed me from around 27 weeks right to the end,tossing and turning all night and a bad nerve in my hip..sorry about the complaining, but I always feel really alone cause obvisously my husband has never been pregnant, but he is supportive, probably because he hears me thrashing all night..lol I just think 12 weeks and its over..I can do this!! On a good note, I did an 3D ultrasound at 26.4 weeks and got a quick pick of her face and then she turned away, she was still very small and was able to move very well in there. Thats about it ladies, Im thinking of you all AWAYS!!
~**~**~*~*BABYDUST TO EVERYONE**~~**~*~*~*
07-21-2009, 08:32 AM
Good morning ladies! AF is due either today or Thursday. My cycle is still getting back on track after BC so I won't test until next Tuesday if I can control myself. I did have some PMS symptoms last week so I do expect her to show at some point. My dad has surgery to have his kidney and the tumor removed on Thursday a.m., so please keep him in your thoughts and prayers!
07-21-2009, 09:09 AM
Morning Ladies! Wow a lot of posts since last Friday. I read through them all, but I can't remember everything.
Ruth- That is horrible...my god. As for temp like the other ladies are saying it has to be within a 30 min time frame every day. You also have to note different sleeping conditions (camping/cold), if you had any alcohol the previous day, and if you have a cold as that all impact them to.) I did OPKs last month...I am trying to decide if I want to do them this month or not.
Ki~ Sorry about AF
Amanda~ That is good about you and SO....
Mum~ Hey- 27 weeks already..I remember when you got preggo! YEAH! Love the pics.
I am missing a ton of you guys, but i don't have a lot of time...need to get back to work. But I wanted to tell you my news.
So anyway...I don't know if you remember that every month on and off I have been saying I have been having pains in my lower right back.
We I went to the doc finally yesterday and they are doing an ultrasound of my ovaries, uterus, uriter (don't know how to spell that), and kidneys. They are calling today to make the appointment...but my doc is concerned I either have a cyst or an infection. I will keep you up to date. Although it is a little concerning..I am actually happy..I am getting my ovaries and uterus checked out at TTC 6 versus waiting the full year. Granted it will not help me know about my oing or DH guys...but if there is something else wrong we will know.
07-21-2009, 04:51 PM
Proud- Good to see you again! I think I forgot to write you on my last post!! I am glad you are back! I totally understand taking a break though-(they don't help me much though)! I need the support of you ladies!! :)
Ki- I don't blame you! If you have the opporitunity to be a SAHM take advantage! She will only be little for a short while!! I would re-think everything once she is in school! :)
Tara- I am glad you get to go for an u/s! I hope everything is okay, but maybe you will get ahead of the game in the meantime! I was supposed to go get one a few months back (for my stomach issues), but I never got a chance to make another appt!Good luck!!!
Nikki- I will keep your dad in my prayers!!!
mum-How sweet! Those pictures give me hope!!! Man time flies!! I hope you get more comfortable!
Hardworkin- I am glad I didn't discourage you!!! I too hope that follow up appt never happens! Or maybe that appt. can be changed to an ultra sound appt!!! :) I went for my yearly back in Feb. & I can basically go back anytime. I plan on making one eventually. I guess I just don't want to have to go, but if something doesn't change fast then I am going to!
Actually it is really sweet..my SO reminded me the other day that I needed to make an appt. for me & him! He thinks its him.. I think its me..so he wants to go get his swimmers tested too, so I am not testing for all this stuff & it end up being him!
Well not alot new here! I have been really busy the past few days so I don't have alot of news! We are trying to make plans for an October wedding! We keep changing our minds, so IDK! It isn' the "getting married" part we can't decide..it is where & when & since we are paying the $$$!!! We both want it to happen sooner rather than later, so hopefully soon!! :)
07-21-2009, 05:21 PM
Ruth- LoL...sorry. Yeah I'm on CD 27 of a 28-30 day cycle. (Although it has been a few days longer than 30 twice since I've started tracking. That's my average!) I'm going to test on Sunday if I haven't started which will be CD 32. (If I can hold out that long it is!) Hopefully AF doesn't show her ugly face to either one of us!
Hardworkin'- The tempting thing wasn't easy for me. I tried it one cycle and just couldn't seem to do it correctly so I just quit doing it period! Hope if you try it that it works better for you than it did me!
Mum- The other ladies are right! Time sure does fly! It seems like you just found out...of course that's how it is for other people...I'm sure you don't feel that way! Good luck and the pics are precious!
Book- Your father is in my prayers. I hope everything goes well!
Tara- Hope everything goes well at the doctor and it can give you some help in your TTC journey!
Ki- I totally understand where you are coming from! I hadn't been a SAHM, but my MIL had always watch my DS. This past winter she took a pt job to help out a friend and I had no option but to take my son to daycare a few days a week. I went to several and found the one I liked and the first day I took him he threw a fit. It broke my heart but listening to everyone else telling me he would be okay I left him screaming! I called every 10 minutes! It was the worst day of my life. I had quit smoking and immediately went to the gas station and bought cigs that 's how bad it was! Needless to say I never took him back and will do whatever is in my power to never do that again! I don't like day cares at all because to me there's a secret in every one of them. I'm sure in the long run you'll be glad you made that decision! At least when you send them to school it's a law that you have to abide by!
Amanda- Thanks for the welcoming back. It helped me a little, but of course I still always had it in the back of my mind. I was finding myself getting on this website all the time and had to break myself away. It was becoming an addiction lol!
As for me not much is going on. I feel either really bloated or just getting fat! I hope it's the getting fat part because I have a little seed growing! I was gaining weight before I even found out with my DS so it is possible! I haven't been eating any more...if anything it's less so I don't know how I'd be gaining weight! The good thing is so far I have no breast tenderness which is very uncommon for me! I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but keeping my fingers crossed!
Baby dust to all!
07-21-2009, 10:22 PM
Good evening ladies!
Ki-- the daycare thing is tough! I actually couldn't even find one that I liked well enough to send DS to, so I thank god that my mom is retired and loves having him. Also, I gotta tell you, I admire that you handle being a SAHM. I have 3 days off and I am ready to go back to work when my monday comes around. I personally would go nuts if I stayed home. I have so much respect for you and other SAHMs!
Proud-- sorry temping didn't work out for you. I will not be doing it because 3 days out of the week I get up between 6 and 8am, 3 days a week I get up between 3 and 4pm, and the other day of the week I get up around noon. ( I work 4 - 10 hour shifts from 8pm to 6am) I will switch to a 10am to 8pm shift in mid-November so if we are still TTC at that point then I will try the temping, but until then...
Apem-- you really should go make that appt! Especially since SO is so willing to get tested as well. That's great that he is in this with you. :)
Tara-- good luck at your U/S. Hopefully it is nothing or something easily fixed!
Bookworm-- I am sure your dad will be fine and both he and your family are in my thoughts.
Mum-- thanks for the babydust! As you know those last 12 weeks are the hardest but she will be here before you know it! :)
As for me, nothing new to report. Day 7 of an average 28 day cycle so next week I am supposed to be fertile mertyle! I am hoping that DH doesn't shoot me down so close to O time like he did last month. :( I am supposed to O around the 29th(a wednesday) and I work sat thru tues nights so we will see what happens. My mom told me that her and my dad are going to the Bahamas next year at the end of May. I am super jealous and happy for them but I jokingly told her that she had better hope I don't get preggo at the end of August because I would be due at the end of May if I did! The look on her face was priceless! I could just see the wheels turning in her head..."Bahamas...Baby...Bahamas...Baby..." Well, I hope everyone has a good nights sleep and a good day tomorrow!
07-22-2009, 04:55 AM
So Apem, I have been doing some thinking about your wedding. Now this is just a suggestion and by no means do you have to pay any attention to it.
Since you want an October wedding have you thought about Halloween? For money saving you could have a small intimate ceremony and then throw a costume party that evening. The perfect part is that you and SO already have costumes...you get to be the bride and groom! One of my close friends was going to do that then they decided to just have the intimate ceremony with no reception because money is really tight for them. I have a co-worker who is going to a wedding on Halloween where the guests have been asked to attend in costume (I wonder if anyone will have the balls to show up as a bride?) which I personally think would be a lot of fun!
Also, depending on where you live it might still be nice enough to have an October wedding outside. I got married in my parents backyard and I know it saved them a ton of money ( I also got married in June and it was hot, hot, hot that day).
Like I said before these are just suggestions, so please do with them what you will! :)
07-22-2009, 10:42 AM
hardworkin- Okay that is WAYYY too freaky!! I was just looking on the internet yesterday for Halloween themed wedding receptions!!! It had the idea of everyone dressing in Halloween costumes to the wedding too!!! That is sooooo weird! Are you telepathic or something???lol. I was thinking about it, but I was afraid of what people might think about it! First of all I LOVE the fall.. I LOVE Halloween(or any holiday for that matter).... & my birthday is October 18th, so again I LOVE October!
Anywho, we are either having the ceremony outside at his grandparents house or at a new chapel up at a place about 10 minutes from our house called Noccalula Falls! It has a huge waterfall & the pictures would be BEAUTIFUL! The only negative to that place is another $200 mininium! SO likes NF better & so do I, but I think it will depend on if they have any openings! If you cancel less than month in advance you get no money back...if you cancel 2 months in advance you get half back! Basically I am not making an appt. until I know for a fact that that is where we are going to be, as I refuse to lose $200! His friend will be doing the ceremony, so that isn't a problem! Everything is going to be super simple & laid back! I have never been a big wedding person (I would rather spend the $$ on a honey moon or our mortgage.lol)! It will be really nice outside too: it won't be too hot or too cold.(We live in the South)! I already know what flowers I want...what kind of dress I want...he probably isn't even going to wear a tux(nice khakis & a white shirt)..just super laid back! Throwing it together last minute will be pretty easy..plus I can make our invitations (I have thrown alot of parties, anniversaries, birthdays & showers in the plast few years), so that will be easy too! My family & his family have alot of good cooks, who don't mind pitching in for free, so hopefully..fingers crossed..we can make this happen!
Okay so I have really rambled on now...soooo sorry!!! Thanks for the idea though! :)
07-22-2009, 11:07 AM
AP- I always wanted a fall wedding too! It's perfect weather for an outdoor wedding. Unfortunately, I ended up getting married in July, but I'm helping my sister plan her wedding for next Oct. I hope you can get everything that you want. I never thought of myself as a big wedding person either, but looking back I really regret not having the wedding that I wanted.
AF was supposed to show Monday, but she still hasn’t come. I am trying to be relaxed about TTC so I haven't been very good about keeping track of what CD I'm on. I am really trying hard not to get my hopes up for this month though. I did have sore bb’s and a headache so I do still expect her to come. I just had my IUD removed in April and actively started TTC in June so my cycles could still be erratic. Before the IUD my cycles were 30 days like clockwork. Since April however, my cycles are now 25 days. I’m on CD 27. I will probably wait until CD 30 to test just in case I am back on my old schedule. It’s so hard not to get excited.
Possible TMI- do any of your husband's have um, performance anxiety around O time? My husband and I don't normally have any issues, but on both cycles that we have been TTC, when I let him know that it's O time he has issues. He would kill me if he knew I was telling anyone this. If I'm not P this month, then I'm not even telling him next month when I O. I'm wondering if it's just the pressure or if he isn't completely on board with TTC, but of course he won't talk about it. Any thoughts?
07-22-2009, 02:06 PM
Apem-- the more people you know that are willing to help out the better! My dad's friend catered for us as his gift and my uncle preformed the ceremony. My parents got the reception hall for free as we had it at the Elk's Lodge of which my father was Exalted Ruler (or as we like to call him "the Grand Poombah") at the time. We also got a discount on the photographer by way of him being a friend of the family and had a 4 piece bagpipe band for the price of one bagpiper due to connections with the Kansas City Irish Festival (my husband is a committee head). So the point of all this rambling is the more connections you have the cheaper you can go and still have a beautiful wedding! As far as the Halloween theme is concerned...if it's something that you and SO want and is not far stretched for you then your guests will enjoy it. I know when my friend was considering it, her thoughts were along the lines of "people can still take their kids out trick-or-treating without the pressure of rushing to look nice for a wedding".
Bookworm-- as far as I know my DH does not have problems in that area but I have heard of it. It has something to do with the male mentality of "I am man, I must procreate" Grunt grunt grunt! I think your idea of not telling him that you are Oing is a great one. Also, if you haven't already, you could try spicing things up. I know my DH loves it when I put on a teddy and stillettos then attack him on the couch (DS is either sleeping or at gma's of course).
As for me, I am on days off now. Only one more week on this schedule and then I switch days. I still will be working the midnight shift, just with different days off. I am taking a vacation for a week here real soon and I can't wait. We are going to take DS to the zoo and go to the lake for a day. It's going to be soooo much fun. Anyway, off to my weekend so I will catch up with everyone on Saturday. Have a good rest of the week and enjoy your weekends!
07-22-2009, 03:52 PM
hardworkin- We were thinking about getting married a few weekends before Halloween. I looked online to see how to incorporate it into the wedding tactfully, but I didn't see anything I really liked! I really like fall colors too, so I can still make it pretty, but not so much Halloween themed! I just don't know! Just thinking about it gives me a headache.lol. I am a big do it yourself person & try to be creative, especially since we are paying for it & $$ is tight, so I am trying to think of ideas....
Speaking of which a little help is needed! I have a few ideas, but I was wondering if any of you could help me or offer any other suggestions...
My flower is Calla Lilys
Everything is super laid back
October/Fall wedding...it will probably be in the 70's here during the day low 70's at night
The Wedding Chapel is all wood..benches..floor..ceiling, etc , so it will be minimal decorations, plus it is brand new....
I like orange/brown/purple-ish colors, but nothing is set in stone
Probably a simple long dress..I found one at Victoria Secret that I like..
No maid or honor or groomsmen
Simple bouquet of calla lilys
My main thing is the reception..
His grandparents have a really nice yard with a patio type thing with planty of pretty plants, trees, etc...basically alot of potential.
Maybe white lights in the trees & plants..a little toule(SP??) a few candles..tables with table clothes, but I am trying to make it cheap, but not look cheap!
I can also borrow tables & chairs from my parents church....
Like I said the food will be whatever we want cooked by various family members(they cook REALLY good though)!
What kind of table decorations would you do??????
07-22-2009, 06:13 PM
Ki- No I am currently not a SAHM. DH is laid off and he keeps my son during th day. His grandmother (DH mom) keeps him if he does side jobs and isn't able to. I have stayed at home with him off and on and yes it does have its ups and downs, but I wouldn't take any amount of $ for the time with DS neither. And I've had many days were he was a complete brat as well. Your def not alone! lol
Hard- Hope you don't get the chance to do the tempting! Hopefully you've had a BFP by then!!! My MIL would have done the same thing if I would have mentioned that to her!
Amanda- I love the idea of a Halloween wedding! And the perfect thing is Halloween is on a Saturday! (No I didn't know that I just looked at it lol) It may not be the laid back intimate setting you are looking for though! I love calla lilies! I also love a deep purple with maybe a bright orange! That way it has the deep fall colors, but something to brighten everything up! I looked it up and found the prettiest purple color of calla lilies. Hope it's everything you want it to be! My wedding wasn't huge but still a lot of work and stress but was worth every minute of it! My best advice to you is do everything last minute the day before the wedding. Do nothing the day of the wedding except get pampered! I did and loved it! It wasn't as stressful that way! I had a winter themed wedding! I hate winter but love the looks of it! I had snowflakes and ice blue, white, and silver as my colors! It was beautiful! And yes of course I'm biased lol! As far as the table decorations you could do simple but pretty vases with free falling calla lilies of which ever colors you chose (unless one of them is brown). For example if you used the orange and purple you could put 2 purple and 1 orange in one and 2 orange and a purple in the other. Then they would just be leaning against the vase and it would be elegant but not to much! I love this stuff sorry if I've rambled to much lol!!!
Book- Have you tried discussing it with him? If he says he's on board for TTC then he may just get nervous! It would probably be best to not tell him that way you guys can still have fun with it!
As for me I'm going to test tomorrow or Friday! I can't wait til Sunday it's driving me crazy! So unless I start before tomorrow or Friday you guys can expect to see some test results! Hope they are BFP!!!
07-23-2009, 07:42 AM
Amanda~ I was not a huge fan of the Halloween theme, only because some people hate to dress up...AKA...DH! HAHA! But I love your ideas. One thing I would consider is...that if you are trying to keep it cheap...Calla Lillies are SUPER expensive. I had a relatively expensive wedding and was shocked when I saw the prices. I actually got married in the northeast in the falls, so I was all about the same colors. I had roses that were deep almost black red rose, a burnt orange rose, yellow rose, etc..and it was very pretty and almost half the cost of calla lillies..plus calla lillies are seasonal, so you might want to check that out. If you are just doing your own bouqet..probably won't be a problem though. I also like the idea of candles..and you can get that stuff at a dollar store. If the gardens are pretty etc..I agree that less is more. Also, I love the idea of a cocktail hour/hourderves. You can buy them at costco, BJs or Sams club...and just heat them up and pay some people...extended friends etc to dress up and serve. Have them all just wear the same color so you don't have to do tuxes or anything.
As for me....I had my ultrasounds today at 6am. It was what I expected. But what I didn't expect it to cause my right side to be super painful. I don't know why...but it hurts so bad now. Of course they wouldn't tell me anything. I now have to wait for my doc to call and let me know what the heck is wrong. I am hoping it is just a UTI or Kidney stones and not anything wrong that would make TTC harder.
07-23-2009, 08:59 AM
Hi all, I've been lurking a bit on this board for the past couple of weeks. I sort of need advice and a place to vent. I'm 28, married for a year, but my husband and I have been together for 10+ years. I went off BCP this February, and I had been on them for 10 years. Because of that, we didn't even start trying until our anniversary (June 28). I did everything you're supposed to: vitamins, lost 25 pounds to be a healthy weight, stopped drinking alcohol, caffeine, tracked food I ate to make sure I'm eating healthy, exercised, tracked my cycle, etc. I Oed on the 9th, and trust me when I say we were thorough in TTC, and a week later started getting cramps, having to pee once an hour, started getting insomnia, constantly starving, but no nausea or anything. Three days ago I spotted just a tiny bit. I have NEVER had any spotting, and even after I stopped BC, I went back to being super regular (fourth Thursday of every month without fail). I saw the spotting as a DEFINITE sign that I was preggers and told me husband that I KNEW it was going to happen! We even bought pregnancy tests yesterday and were going to test this weekend. This morning I woke up around 6 with cramps, and my heart sank. I went to the bathroom, and sure enough, it appeared that AF had arrived. It seemed lighter and less clotty than usual, but maybe that's me deluding myself. I woke up my husband and cried on him for about half an hour, and have been pretty much sobbing off and on since.
So, I have to ask, is there any hope at all? I thought the spotting was a sure sign. The spotting was early, but today's the day I'm scheduled to get AF, so am I doomed? I know it's only my first real month trying, but I was SO convinced, and now I'm heartbroken if it's not going to happen.
I know this was a long post, but even after talking this out with my husband, I needed someone to talk to, and we're not telling anyone we're TTC, so this seemed like the best place to turn.
07-23-2009, 10:16 AM
Bee~ Welcome! Unfortunately I am guess that there is no chance, if your AF is normal red blood. I could be wrong, but from my reading..the only way there would be is if you have very light pink or brown spotting. I could be wrong. But that is what I have read. Don't get down though. You are only on your first month of TTC. Don't get me wrong whether you are on month 1 or month 7 like me it sucks every single month, but at this point there is nothing to be concerned about. 75% of couples get preggo withing the first 9 months...so hopefully we are both in that group. I am starting to get less hopeful now that I am TTC #7...but who knows.
07-23-2009, 04:26 PM
~~Thanks to everyone for the input & suggestions!!~~
Proud- Well I actually am not a big fan of a Halloween wedding, but I was hoping to incorporate it into the wedding reception maybe! When I looked I couldn’t find anything classy to me! I do LOVE the orange & deep purple colors though! Oh & you are not rambling…. I ramble.lol. I usually love doing stuff like this, but I am having a hard time with this for some reason!
Ohhh I can’t wait until you test!! I hope it is a BFP!!!! I am throwing a bunch of cement your way!!!! J
Ki- Yeah we need cheap, so we probably aren’t going to cater!lol! The yard isn’t COVERD in flowers, but it is REALLY nice & has plenty! They take a lot of pride in their yard & it shows..(which I appreciate)!
Tara- Well we are doing fake flowers….so they will always be in season.lol. It is definitely a good thing to think about if you are doing real though! We have a local craft store that carries the exact flowers I want, so that is taken care of! Let us know ASAP about the results of the ultrasound!!
Bee-Welcome! Well I don’t like to get hopes up, so I would have to agree with Tara! I got off BC in Feb. of 2008 & my first few cycles were normal & then all of the sudden they went array! Now they are anywhere from 26-33 days! TMI WARNING~ I also had a SUPER light, non-clotty period last month, but I decided to wait until this cycle before I test! I suggest the same! I have had 1 to many BFNs, so I am gun shy on taking HPTs, however if it will really take a load off go buy a test for piece of mind! I hope you are pregnant though!!
Well not a lot new here! I decided against the vacation only because I am going to ask for a raise soon & see what kind of insurance I can get through work….so I hate to ask for a raise, insurance, & a vacation all in the same week.lol. Plus I would really miss SO & I hate people paying my way for stuff, so I don’t feel like I would really enjoy it!
Also you know how I had a weird AF this past month….light pink & brown..no clots…not even here a day…. I resisted the urge to test, even though I have never had such a crazy AF EVER in my life, I got my hopes up though (but never tested)…well my hopes have still been up lately that it is a possibility(being pregnant), but today at lunch I had a talk with myself & I have come to terms that it is VERY likely that I am NOT & I need to save myself the disappointment by accepting it. So I did. I am NOT pregnant & it is most likely I will not be until I go to the doctor & find out what the problem is! My goal is to make an appt August or September to start the infertility process! Anywho, so that is my revelation for the day!!!
~~Cement all around!!~~
07-23-2009, 05:05 PM
Thanks for the feedback...I'm resigned to my fate at this point. While the timing would have been spectacular and I'm not thrilled about going through the whole waiting process again (I admire those of you who have been patient through multiple months!), my husband and I have decided to just keep optimistic and enjoy the "trying" part of it. :)
07-23-2009, 05:15 PM
I've been reading all the wedding posts and thought I'd put my 2 cents in. We just got married June 6 and luckily had LOTS of help with everything. It's amazing who you know if you just listen. I work in a restaurant with a catering division so that was a nice break. Plus, when talking to people I found out that some of our co-workers wives made wedding cakes on the side, I wound up getting a steal of a deal on our cake and it was delicious! Anyways, I went with rose bowls with clear rocks in the bottom, simple and cheap the we scattered some of the rocks around the bowl to make it look pretty. The wedding I was at last weekend had clear candle holders and tea lights with the same clear rocks around it.
We also did fake flowers for the front of the church which we moved with us to the reception etc. Only cost about $100 for 4 HUGE bouquets and now we have 2 in our living room and they are being used by my cousin who is getting married in August.
Book-Sometimes my SO has the same problem, I just quit telling him when it was time. Also, I picked up a book at the library a week ago (I'll post the name of the book later since it's at home) and it goes through everything a woman should know about Men's sexuality, it was very eye opening and a great read.
ProudMama-Hoping for a BFP!!
Taraken-I hope the test results do not affect TTC!
Bee-Welcome! I have to agree with Taraken, if it's normal color I don't think it's spotting. I was watching a show the other day though that says you only have a 25-30% chance of getting pregnant every cycle. The show went through all the hurdles a sperm has to go through to fertilize the egg... it was VERY interesting!
As for me, AF is expected on Aug 1, did lots of BDing last week/weekend so hopefully I won't see her this month! Postive thinking :)
Baby Dust to all!!!
07-23-2009, 05:19 PM
Hmm.. for some reason my last post didn't post... here it is again...
I've been reading all the wedding posts and thought I'd put my 2 cents in. We just got married June 6 and luckily had LOTS of help with everything. It's amazing who you know if you just listen. I work in a restaurant with a catering division so that was a nice break. Plus, when talking to people I found out that some of our co-workers wives made wedding cakes on the side, I wound up getting a steal of a deal on our cake and it was delicious! Anyways, I went with rose bowls with clear rocks in the bottom, simple and cheap the we scattered some of the rocks around the bowl to make it look pretty. The wedding I was at last weekend had clear candle holders and tea lights with the same clear rocks around it.
We also did fake flowers for the front of the church which we moved with us to the reception etc. Only cost about $100 for 4 HUGE bouquets and now we have 2 in our living room and they are being used by my cousin who is getting married in August.
Book-Sometimes my SO has the same problem, I just quit telling him when it was time. Also, I picked up a book at the library a week ago (I'll post the name of the book later since it's at home) and it goes through everything a woman should know about Men's sexuality, it was very eye opening and a great read.
ProudMama-Hoping for a BFP!!
Taraken-I hope the test results do not affect TTC!
Bee-Welcome! I have to agree with Taraken, if it's normal color I don't think it's spotting. I was watching a show the other day though that says you only have a 25-30% chance of getting pregnant every cycle. The show went through all the hurdles a sperm has to go through to fertilize the egg... it was VERY interesting!
As for me, AF is expected on Aug 1, did lots of BDing last week/weekend so hopefully I won't see her this month! Postive thinking :)
Baby Dust to all!!!
07-23-2009, 05:20 PM
Sorry about that... guess it did show up :( SORRY!!
07-23-2009, 11:44 PM
I wanna talk! Hi, I'm Sarah, 25 and I'm new to the board but after being home alone for the last few days I need a place to vent.
Ok, like everyone else on this board, my hubs and I are ttc. We've been married 2yrs and are not telling very many ppl and we're only in ttc#2, so I know that it's very unlikely that I got sperminated.
Got off BC middle of May (didn't finish pack...just threw it out) and had a normal AF (like you do at the end of the pack). Then had light pink spotting (my hubs saw it first and freaked) and then another normal AF around 25 days. I've been on BC for about 6 years, but I can't remember if I was regular or not. Before I lost my vcard I don't think I was, but after having sex, it kind of kicked my body into behaving.
Anywho, today is day 45 and I have not had AF. Day 1 of last AF was June 9. My husband and I tracked my LH surge (well I did, he just wanted to get to the sex part). I missed my period. Took a hpt test (July 8th) and it was -. So didn't think anything about it. Then began to feel bloated. Ugh. Not too bad, figured it was period related. Never had any bleeding, but did have a sticky discharge. Went to the free clinic and got a blood test (July 11th). Results were 2% (Nurse stated I needed 2,000%).
Then came two other symptoms. Sore breasts (comes and goes, some days really bad and very sensitive...even through my clothes and a blanket) and slight cramping in the lower abdomen, sometimes just one side, sometimes in the middle (the cramping is usually very mild and just feels like I've done too many situps...but I don't do situps bc my nurse told me if you're trying to get pregnant and in your first trimester, you should not do any exercises on your back bc it can increase chances of miscarriage).
Then a few days ago, something really odd for me happened. Hadn't eaten since breakfast and ended up waiting for my husband to hurry his slow butt in the shower so we could go out to eat. Alluvasudden I got the worse heartburn I'd ever had! Tried to find where the hubs had hid the antacids and when my husband walked by, I just about blew chunks because his cologne was so strong! (Usually I can't smell his cologne bc its a fairly weak scent). Felt better after about an hour and went to the restaurant. Had crab ragoon (one of my favorite dishes) and it tasted sour! My husband said it tasted fine and he ate several of them. (He did throw up later, so that might have been why)...
So I took another hpt and it was still -. Today, really in a pissy mood because my boobs really hurt. I did some reading on another forum (one that's no longer active, from babycenter.com) and learned that there are several women who didn't test + until around 12 and 14 wks. If I am preg (and I try to stay busy so I won't think about it and have a psuedo-preg) I would be around 6.5 wks.
Any advice from anyone? I hate waiting and I don't wanna be disappointed. But omg my boobs really hurt. And the only positive advice I've gotten from a medical professional was to talk mild amts of tylenol to control the pain (already on prenatals).
07-24-2009, 09:22 AM
My dad's surgery went well and we are hoping that he can come home on Sunday. We won't know until Tuesday if the cancer had started to spread into any of the surrounding tissue. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!
Quick question about HPT's: I took one this a.m. because I'm 4 days late. I haven't had any other symptoms, but I just couldn't help myself. It was one of the cheap store brand tests that has the control line and the P line in separate boxes. The control line showed up pink right away and the P box looked like the whole thing was pink and then I thought I could see a very faint line, but then again I could be deluding myself. So I assumed it was a BFN. I left the test on the counter and got into the shower. When I got out about 10 min. later there was a very clear P line and control line. I read on the box and it said that a BFP will show up for 48 hrs and a BFN should go away after 10 min. So I'm really confused as to what my result is. Should I go and buy a different kind of test? I just hate the ones that read "Pregnant" or "Not Pregnant". That just seems so harsh. Any insight would be appreciated!
07-24-2009, 10:45 AM
Nikki- Go get another test NOW!!! If you got any sort of a positive line you are pregnant!!!! RUN to the store now, take a test & let us know!!! :)
How exciting.. I can't wait to see the BFP!!!
Cosmo- Welcome! I would say go get another test to make sure you aren't pregnant & then relax. I had a few normal periods after getting off BC after 8 years of taking it & now they are CRAZY! If you don't start by Monday I would make an appt. with your doctor so you can get checked out & if you aren't pergnant they can give you something to jump start your cycle!
07-24-2009, 10:49 AM
I went ahead and bought a different brand of HPT and I got a clear BFP! I cannot believe it. You guys are officially the first to know. My husband won't be surprised because he said "well since whenever you think you are pregnant it turns out that you're not and this time you think you're not pregant that means you probably are". What insight my husband has! I will tell my DH as soon as he wakes up, but I'm not sure when to tell everyone else. I am going on vacation with my parents and my sisters and I'm sure if I decline alcohol then they will get suspicious. It's just so early and so much can happen that I would really like to wait. Probably not the entire first trimester, but at least 6 weeks. Any thoughts?
07-24-2009, 11:14 AM
I KNEW it!!!
WAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO a BFP!!!!! :):)
I am so happy for you!!!
07-24-2009, 11:16 AM
Oh & yes if/when we get pregnant SO is making us wait 6-8 weeks. If it were up to me though we would tell ASAP. ;)
Oh & I am glad your dad is doing well!!
This will be the perfect news for him & your family!!!
Let us know what you decide!
07-24-2009, 11:43 AM
Book~ yeah congrats! DH will wait until we have some event to tell a lot of people at once...we are not worried about time...as I know we would tell people if something is wrong! TTC #2 that is impressive on this thread. HAHA!
Amanda~ You make me laugh..don't get mad..she said TTC the 4th Thursday of every month...that isn't a date...it is exactly 4 weeks....hehe LOL! If she said the 20th of every month I would agree. ;)
So NO news on the ultrasound. UGH...I am getting annoyed. I have slept 12 hours a day every day since Sunday..and have still been exasted. They didn't call back on cultures..and now I am waiting on this. I don't get it....I feel awful. WTF!!!!
07-24-2009, 11:55 AM
Tara- Thanks!! I am not sure where the heck I got that from!! I swear I am so special sometimes. Seriously..if only I were pregnant I could blame it on pregnancy brain.HAHA! Thanks for helping your dufus friend out!
I am sorry they still haven't called you back! Did they say what news the cultures would bring??
07-24-2009, 12:13 PM
When I went to the doc they said I had white blood cells in my urine which is a sign of infection. I am just so tired and the pain in my side is pretty bad and got worse after the internal ultrasound. I just want to know what is wrong...because if they tell me it is nothing...I will disagree with them. I have never felt like this...I keep getting dizzy...like my head is hazy. It just is no fun...and I am soo frustrated. At least I work at home and can stay in my PJs.
07-24-2009, 12:31 PM
Ok, so I just wrote something & then completely erased it myself like an idiot!!!
OMG I swear I need to go home already!!!
Tara- I am sorry! If they haven't called you by lunch time I would call them!(Even if you are being the impatient patient in their eyes...they need to let you know!) Ouch..an internal exam..I have had one of those..not fun! Did they tell you what they think it might be???? With the pain in your side it kind of sounds like a cyst, but with the being tired it sounds like it could be a thyroid problem!!! I hope they call soon!!!
07-24-2009, 12:40 PM
Hello ladies! Sorry that it has been a while...I have been reading, just haven't had much time to type, that's all...but I knew that I had to when I finally saw a BFP on here...CONGRATS NIKKI!!!!!!! That is VERY exciting!!!
I hope everyone else is doing okay, and I have read on here where some have had family members have been under the weather, and I hope everyone is feeling much better and everything will be okay with them.
As for me...AF came last Tuesday. You would think I would be super disappointed, but I was actually pretty happy, because it made my cycle a 30 day cycle instead of something crazy like 39 days (the one before)...so I'm hoping to even out after this point...I'm pretty sure I will. So now I am on CD 10 and haven't had much time to think about ttc, even though we are still working on it. I did get some good news from the Superintendent yesterday about a possible promotion for me, and I am VERY excited about that...so please keep me in your prayers on that one...which all of that talk got me to thinking that God might know something I don't, maybe I am going to get this promotion, and it might not be the best time for a baby...even though I would REALLY like both, it might be smarter for me to get the promotion, work for a couple of months on that, and then think more about ttc. I DON'T KNOW, I'M SO CONFUSED RIGHT NOW!!! Maybe we will just keep at what we have been doing, which has pretty much just been not preventing pregnancy, and God will work it out the way He sees fit...
07-24-2009, 01:00 PM
I finally got to hear a BFP!! ;)
I'd like to think I could wait until 6-8 weeks but I don't think I could... I'd probably tell my immediate family and wait to tell anyone else.
07-24-2009, 01:04 PM
CONGRATS NIKKI!!!! So happy for you and your family! How exciting!!!!!
Tara, hope you get better real soon. Its no fun to feel that awful! Glad to hear a good report on your father.
I've been reading posts here n there, but hadnt sat down long enough to type! Even now, I'm typing one handed, holding the baby! But I am thinking about each one of you every day!
Amp-I had my wedding sept 18th and had calla lillies. It was super simple. My MIL and I threw it together in less than 5 weeks! But we had a blast! Enjoy all that you can and take lots of snapshots. I enjoy the informal pics of us all getting ready almost more than the professional ones because you really see everyones personalities come out! Have fun!
I am on CD34 of a 29-32 day cycle...with more BFN tests than I care to share! What the crap is going on!!!!??? If there was ever a month with the possibility of me getting preg, it was this month...at this point I just want to start and feel somewhat normal again. I've beeb bloated, cramping, n sore bb's for DAYS!!! Booooo!
07-24-2009, 01:06 PM
Sorry to hear Tara! Hope you feel better soon!!!!!!!
07-24-2009, 08:19 PM
and thank you to those who replied to my post. i do have an update. i went to the dr today bc i was still in pain and felt bloated and just blah. not good news.
not pregnant, but rather my cycles have been thrown off because i developed an ovarian cyst. not only that, but it ruptured. so i'm on hormone meds for that...
even though i'm not preg, i did get some positive news...the meds will help regulate my cycles again and there was a follicle that looked like it might mature even though i'd had a cyst and an abnormally long cycle.
07-25-2009, 11:33 PM
Nikki- CONGRATULATOINS! That's so exciting. So you will be due sometime around the last of March...first of April? I'm glad to hear your dad is doing good as well. Good luck with the next 9 months!
Tara- I'm sorry your in so much pain and hope that by now you've heard something from your US. I hope you figure(d) out the problem and get better soon. Well wishes!
Bee- The trying part is fun...the waiting isn't. I'm on Cycle 9 and I'm getting crazy! I have a lot of respect and admiration for these ladies who are on cycles 17 and things. I will have lost my mind by then!!!
Vixen- Still no AF, but some how I'm holding strong and haven't tested. Mainly because we are visiting DH grandmother and most of his family is here. So it's hard to get in the bathroom and be there for long without wanting anyone in the house to know what I'm doing! Hope all the BDing last week done you lots of good!
Amanda- I'm glad you liked my color ideas. You can go to www.davidsbridal.com and match up the deep purple and orange colors to see if you really like it together. I know you aren't having attendants so the dresses won't matter, but it will give you a chance to see the colors working together! Good luck!
Aminor- I agree with you. You should not actually try, but not prevent. That's what we have been doing for the past few months and it takes a lot of stress out of the process because you aren't actually TTC.
Ruth- Hate to hear about your internet problems, but glad your back!
Cosmo- Welcome! I hope you get your medical problems taken care of as quickly as possible and join us again on the TTC journey!
As for me, I'm on CD 31 and still no AF! I'm going to try my best to test in the morning since it will be officially 1 day late. I have occasionally went past 30 day cycles so I'm hoping, but not getting my hopes up to high. I've had major tenderness in my breast the past two days, but just in the evening and night. They hurt so bad I can't hardly lay on my side or stomach when I go to bed! I'm hoping it's related to P and not AF! I will let everyone know as soon as I do!
07-26-2009, 04:03 AM
First off... Congratulations Nikki! I am so happy for you and your family!
ProudMa-- here's hoping the sore BBs are due to a bun in the oven (toasting with a glass of Ice 101) and drink it down if they are due to AF. That wait is so hard but I am sure you have the self control seeing as how it's 240 in the morning and you haven't posted anything yet. 2 BFP's in the same weekend would be just super awesome!
Cosmo-- welcome and I am sorry to hear about the cyst. I think your attitude is great! :)
Ruth-- sorry times are rough right now but I am sure things will get back on track soon. Good luck on your non-TTC endeavor.
Mama-- uuggggg! Hopefully you will have something happen one way or the other soon!
Aminor-- good luck on the promotion! I will keep my fingers crossed for you, and maybe you're right. Maybe the timing is just off and after things even out at work babymaking will be on in full swing!
Apem-- the David's Bridal suggestion is a great one that you definitely need to look into! I found them very helpful when I was getting ready.
Well, not much from my end. I just got back to work from days off and boy what a Monday!? Super busy tonight, which is why I am posting so late at night. So I am thinking that we won't get a bun in the oven this go round ( I know, I know, it's early) but I am supposed to O on Wednesday and after tomorrow evening I won't see DH till Wednesday night...so... you know what I mean. When I switch to my new shift after this week we should have an easier go at it because I will be home during my O time. DH made me laugh this afternoon. I put Tiarnan down for his nap and then went in to take my own nap and DH is laying on the bed. So, okay, he wants some, no problem... well (TMI coming) about 5 minutes in he says he wants his pillow. I grab it and what to my surprise do I find laying underneath it but lube and a dildo! Silly boy! We skipped on the lube but we did have a good time. So now that you all know I have toys I am going to go now. Hope everyone has a great Sunday and will chat later!
07-26-2009, 10:43 AM
Hey Ladies! My dad was able to come home from the hospital this am so we are all very thankful! I called my OB on Friday and they gave me a due date of April 2nd, 2010, which is also DH's birthday! That puts me at 4 weeks and 2 days. I go see the OB coordinator on Wednesday to have bloodwork and who knows what else done. Then I go see an actual dr. Aug. 13th.
ProudMa- I hope you have a BFP!
I just want to say thank you to everyone on this thread. I know I haven't been on here for as long as some others, but you guys really made me feel like I had a place here. I always had someone to ask questios and get advice. So thanks again and good luck to everyone! I'll keep checking in to see how everyone is doing!
07-27-2009, 12:17 PM
Hey ladies! Hope everyone had a great weekend! AF FINALLY showed up yesterday morning! Right as I was peeing on my second pregnancy test, wipe, and what do you know? But I am relieved, cause I kept thinking, if I am preggo and its not showing up by now, something surely is wrong!!! I know thats not always true, but for me, whenever its taken a while to show on a test, I've ended up losing the baby...So I am currently on CD 2...the next three months are when I would prefer to conceive, but we'll see. I looked back on my past two healthy full term pregnancies and figured each one took me 23 months and 16 months of not preventing before I conceived...
Proud? Have any news?
07-27-2009, 01:53 PM
Ki~ Don't worry you can handle it. If you had a good relationship before, you will be able to again. When DH and I first moved clost to the MIL..(we live 20 minutes away, but she drives through our town to get home) she would randomly stop by, move things around in my kitchen, tell me how to cook etc. It really got to me. About 2 months in I looked at DH and said.."this is not happening. Talk to your mother NOW...or I will. If I do it could make our relationship strained, if you do it is your mother and she will forgive you." To make a long story short it made things better for 3 years. Then somethings started up again...this time I sat her down and said I respect you and care about you...but this is how things will be. We don't even have kids yet and I already laid down the law. That being said...my SIL...is way overprotective and completely unreasonable...so I will look like a saint! HAHA! But I have total confidence that you can work it out and have it work in your advantage.
Book~ yeah on the due date and your dad doing better.
So I don't have a lot of time to write right now..so I just wanted to give you a quick status.
U/S came back good...no problems with ovaries or uterus. They said I had 5-8 follicles of which one was 9mm...which means I probably O'd over the weekend. cm makes me think so too...so we BDed like rabbits! HAHA! This makes me happy because I had been getting nervous something was wrong since we were on ttc cycle 7. They messed up my urine test..UGH..so I have to go back. But I am feeling so much better. I think I might have just had some virus or something...on Sunday all of a sudden I felt normal again! YEAH!
07-27-2009, 07:33 PM
Well ladies still no AF, but instead of wanting to test I don't want to test! I'm so afraid of seeing a BFN...I just don't know if I can handle it at this point. I'm going to wait until tomorrow morning to test because it will be CD 33 and that's the longest cycle I've had since tracking my cycles. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
Book- Thanks! Congrats to you!
Ki- I had the same exact problem with MIL and finally told my husband to have a talk with her or I was going to myself. We had a little argument around my son's 3rd birthday and after that I was done! I told her exactly what I thought...not very nicely...and later on had a more adult conversation. I would try to do the same before something like that happens. I hated that it happened, but I couldn't take it any longer and lost it one day when she said something. Hopefully, if you have a talk with her and explain your feelings she will understand.
07-27-2009, 07:36 PM
Aminor-Good luck/congrats on the promotion! How exciting!
Cosmo-Sorry about the ruptured cyst! Sounds painful!!
Ruth-Sorry to hear about the current stresses in your life! Everything happens for a reason though, right? Hope it all works out for you!
ProudMama-What is CD?? Still no AF?!
Hardworkin-lol! Your post made me laugh! Loved it!!
Bookworm-Glad to hear about your Dad! The prayers worked :) Keep in touch!
Ki-I would go CRAZY if my inlaws moved closer!! I have to agree with ruth in that you should talk to them about it... IF they decide to move closer. You don't want to have the "I don't want you close" talk if it all falls through, it'll just cause waves. :)
Taraken-Glad to hear they didn't find anything major during your u/s! Hopefully the BDing worked for you ;) If not, it was lots of fun wasn't it!!
As for me AF is expected on Friday. Not getting my hopes up, not sure why I just don't think this was the month... Also, I have strep throat AGAIN! Twice in 2 weeks! Ugh.
I'm getting very excited for my cousin, after MANY issues getting pregnant they are pregnant with twins after getting invitro (sp?) twice. She is 6 weeks away from her due date :) SO excited for them!!
Does anyone know if there is a way to change my name??
Baby Cement to all!! ~
07-27-2009, 09:57 PM
vixen-- CD is cycle day. For instance I started AF on the 15th of July so today is CD13 for me. Glad I could bring laughter to you, it made me laugh too! Strep throat totally sucks and I hope you are able to get rid of it quickly. I understand the not thinking this is the month and maybe it's better that way. I hate the devestation(sp?) of hoping you are and then AF shows up. I think the only way to change your name is to re-register and then you could add a signature to your posts that says "formerly known as vixen6981" so that people will know who you are.
ProudMa-- Good job staying strong! My fingers are crossed for you as well!
tara-- I am so glad that the u/s results were positive! What a load off your minds. I hope the BDing worked for you and I hope you had a lot of fun doing it.
Ki-- have a GREAT vacation and try not to think about MIL till you get back! Then have DH talk to her and let her know that the way she has been acting since DD was born is not okay. Don't theaten to cut her out, just let her know that her attitude needs to change so that DD can grow up with a loving extended family.
Mama-- sorry AF showed up but it's good to see the positive attitude. I am just curious, but are you a teacher? I was wondering since you prefer to have the baby in May, June, or July.
As for me, nothing new here. Just plugging along at work not thinking about the fact that I am prolly going to O in the next day or two and I have no chance at BDing during that time... Oh well! :)
07-28-2009, 02:18 PM
Rou and Proud-Cant wait to hear from yall! Hope we have two huge BFPs oh here! Super excited!
Hardworkinmama-Nope, not a teacher. Two reasons; kinda nerdy, but my kids birthdays right now are every other month starting in September, November, January, and March. So I didnt want to have to cram another birthday into the fall, winter, or spring. Second and main reason; my older three children are in school, but my daughter has special needs and this requires a lot of my attention to help her in the academics department. We homeschooled her this past year because she really needed one-on-one attention, but when she is in school somewhere, I go in several times a week to help her with the seat work...I just thought it would be more convenient to have a baby when everyone is out of school! :)
Ki-I hope you can work things out with your MIL. How is your husband? Is he understanding where your coming from? I have always been VERY close with my MIL, but we've certainly had our ups and downs. She has no filter...what she thinks comes out of her mouth. Which is good in some ways, because she's definitely not a liar or manipulative, she couldnt be if she wanted! My MIL and FIL live directly behind our back fence. My DH's oldest brother lives on the other side of them and the second oldest brother lives staight across the street. (My DH is the fourth of five children). My biggest advice is to learn boundaries and stick to them sweetly. We have had to set boundaries with one of the brothers because he could tend to take advantage (his wife doesnt want to cook or watch her own kid, so they would "show up" around dinner time or just drop their baby off...) So far, we're all adults, and everyone understands where we're coming from. Even though we all live super close, we try to be sensitive to each others privacy. But we have a blast! Our kids love living in a cousin community! And we certainly have to apologize and accept apologies quite often! ;) It's all good! And if that ever changes, well then, I guess we'll move!
07-28-2009, 02:56 PM
Ok so I can't remember what everyone wrote & don't have alot of time, so I am going to cover what I remember....
mama- I too want to get pregnant now, so I will deliver around March, April, May... I want to for one reason & one reason alone..the HEAT!! I live down south & it is SUPER HOT coupled with the fact that I am already hot natured = 1 unhappy, miserable pregnant lady!! ;) So hopefully we will get our wish that we will be due May-ish!!!
ki- I agree....have DH talk to her the next time he gets a chance! My soon-to-be MIL & I get along great, but we don't have kids yet, so we will see. That is my worse fear though, so I hope it doesn't happen. However I feel really bad for you & I hope the talk between DH & her will work!
tara- I am glad the u/s came back good & you BD at the right time!! I am also glad you are feeling better!
rou- I have my fingers crossed for you!!!
proud- Have you tested yet??? I am dying to know!!
vixen- I hope you get to feeling better!!
Well as for me not alot new. Still trying to figure out the wedding plans, but getting excited, because it looks like we may ACTUALLY get married soon.lol.We have been engaged since Feb. of 2008, so it has taken a while(& alot of back-&-forth) decisions to get here.lol. It is looking pretty promising for October though. SO & I talked about it this weekend & we talked about TTC. We both admitted to each other that we haven't been talking to each other about TTC because we both feel it is hopeless until we talk to the doctor & we get checked out. I have felt this way for a few months now, but I had no idea he felt this way. Kind of sad, but the truth hurts. Normally I am an optimist, but we really need to face reality. I was also thinking back & the first 8 months we were TTC we didn't even hardly talk about it....I wasn't even traking my cycles, ...I was even a bit apprehensive about the whole throwing my BC away, which was SO's idea(how sweet!!)! Then for for about 6 months I did the obsessive-track my cycle, temperature, OPK's,paying attention to symptoms..the whole works-..then we did the in between thing,-I track my cycles still, but nothing more- & now I heading back down the not even tracking my cycle path. It has been one roller-coaster of emotions & something in a million years I NEVER expected. I was so nieve I would have bet you a million $$ that we would have a baby within 6 months!!! How wrong was I??? However I decided I would put a positive spin on things & see the silver lining-which is- free birth control for life..a $65 value(actually probably more than that $65 was almost 2 years ago!)!! :) So I should start next weekend through that next weekend! My mission this week is to remmeber to make an appt with my doctor & see what our fate is!!!
Cement to all!!! :)
07-28-2009, 08:45 PM
Vixen- I see someone has already answered your question to me.
Thanks to everyone for being so anxious to know! I tested this morning and got a BFN....I wasn't completely distraught because I was thinking maybe it just wasn't showing because according to when I was to ovulate I'd only been a little less than 2 weeks. Then a few hours after testing AF showed her ugly face. I lost it! For the first time since we have been trying to conceive I literally broke down into tears...I know I have to just keep my head up and pray it happens next month...But I'm still a little heartbroken...Good luck to the rest of you!
07-29-2009, 02:37 AM
Hey there everyone. Just wanted to say that I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and to throw some baby cement around. In a few hours I will be off on a 7 day vacation and I can't wait. I might try to go home early :) Anyway, chat with you all next week!
♥R.I.P My Babies♥
07-29-2009, 04:58 AM
I had a miscarriage && findin it hard to ttc.any help=0
07-29-2009, 09:30 AM
Great Idea! Hey i have a question and i was wondering if someone could help me out. My husband and i have been ttc for about 9 mos. and i have been taking prometrium for like 4 mos. Took P this month 2 days later than i should have. Finished it monday, my cycles are usually 33 days long. My husband and i had sex 11 days ago around my ovulation time. Well yesterday i woke up and thought i was having my period. turns out i was only spotting a little bit yesterday and a drop this morning. I should have put two and two together being yesterday was day 29 of my cycle and my face isnt broke out, but do you guuys think this is implantation bleeding? do you think i could be pregnant? thanks, jen
07-29-2009, 11:14 AM
Rou- CONGRATS!!!! YAYYYYYYYY!! Another BFP!!! :):)
07-29-2009, 11:33 AM
Rou~ Congratulations!!! Baby cement to you!
RIP~ Let us know more about yourself. What you are trying with TTC etc.
JT~ Definitely possible. A few more days and you can test. Good luck. Two BFP this week...you should make it three! :)
Hard~ Have a great vaca
As for me I am on CD19 out of a 27-36 day cycle. I had been excited after knowing I o'ed etc. But now I am getting down. I don't know how many more months of disappointment I can bear. I know some of you have been trying longer than me. But on TTC #7 I am starting to get really concerned. :(
07-29-2009, 11:54 AM
Tara- I feel your pain!! I know I am 10 months ahead of you,but I also know every month SUCKS & is REALLY scary! I hope this is your month!! I wish NO ONE would ever have to feel the way I do or go this long! I honestly advise that if you have the insurance(which I know you do) to make an appointment after this cycle! Going this long I really wish I would have gone back sooner! My maternity just kicked in though, so I am going to make appt. as soon as I can remember(plus it will be over 1 year & 1/2 by the time I get in!) I think after this cycle-which should end this weekend or next- would be the perfect time, so I am going to call whenever AF shows up!! Plus we are getting married in October(which I would ideally like to be before I start showing)!
I know 90% of couples conceive after 9 months, so I would say you are close enough!
jt-Welcome!! I would take a test today or tomorrow!Good Luck!!
07-29-2009, 01:05 PM
CONGRATS ROU!!!! I am praying for a healthy full term pregnancy! Keep in touch when you are able!
Tara-I was thinkin of you and amanda the other day when on another thread, someone posed the question of how long it took to conceive...I had never really gave it much thought, but I got figuring...I was married fairly young (just turned 18) with no thought of b.c. It took 19 months before I was preggo and it was a eptopic pregnancy. When I had the surgery to have it removed, my dr. cleaned up a LOT of endometriosis and removed some cysts. Four months later I was pregnant again with a healthy pregnancy! The second time around, from the time we decided to ttc it was 12 months...Okay this next thing maybe way tmi, but, I have to tell ya, everytime I've gotten pregnant it has been from d.s. position. My doctor had told me with a tilted uterus, this can actually put the 'boys' where they need to be...for me, it has certainly worked...I just kinda hate it! Anyhow, hope your day (week, month) gets better and dont give up!
Proud-Really, really sorry! It sucks the most when you think you're late for a good reason and then BAM! AF plays a trick on you! No fun, no fun at ALL!!!
I'm on CD4 and really wanting to be done with AF already...we are going to take our kids camping about three hours from here this weekend. I dont know if I should be excited or not, I've never taken our two year old camping. This could be interesting! My older kids are totally pumped, they love to fish and explore and cookout at the fire. We wanted to get them out before they go back into school!
On a side note; this has nothing to do with ttc...I have a meeting Monday with the principle of the private school my boys go to, to see if she will agree to allow my daughter to attend. The catch is this; they currently do not have a special ed program (its in the works), and my daughter normally would need that. BUT, my SIL is a third grade teacher there with her special ed degree (my neice has D.S.) and she has a gift for teaching special kids. My SIL said she would love to have my DD in her class, and I would be coming to help out daily so as not to put too much on my SIL..we just have to get this approved by the principle. Its really important to me because its important to my DD. SHe homeschooled last year and loved it, but she's getting older and really wants to have some friends (she's almost 12). Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. Thanks!
07-29-2009, 03:42 PM
Thanks Mama and Amanda~ I don't get it, I will be fine and it won't bother me for 3 weeks and all of a sudden I get really down about all this. My doc probably won't do anything for me until Dec. But I think I might schedule my appointment now, to make sure I can get on my docs calendar. I just don't get why it seems so easy for so many people and not for others. I know I am a broken record, but I look around and people who go pregnant right before we started trying are already having their babies...and others who got preggo later are already finding out the sex. It just makes me realize how long this is taking..and makes me really sad. I just wish DH and I didn't wait so long to start trying.
07-29-2009, 11:35 PM
Hello everyone!! Hope you're all having a great week so far!
Ruth-Yea, stress can definitely do some strange things to your body. I think it can almost be as effective as b/c... I'm glad you're relaxing!! You deserve it!
Hardworkin-Enjoy your vacation! I'm so jealous!
RIP-Sorry to hear about your experience. How long have you been trying?
Jen-It could have been implantation bleeding, give it a couple of days and take a hpt.
Rou-CONGRATS!! Nice to have a second BFP!!
Tara & Apem-Yes, I can see how it's frustrating! I wouldn't wish it upon anyone! Sometimes it seems like the people who want a baby the most and would be a wonderful parent get stiffed... I'm always kinda dissappointed when someone says they "accidentally" got pregnant, not that they won't make good parents, I just know how many people are out here trying SO hard and having no luck :( My prayers are with you and I hope God sees it as being your turn soon!!
Mama-Camping should be fun ;) I bet your 2 year old will love getting dirty!! Best of luck with the principle!!
As for me, I'm headed out to the lake on Friday for the long weekend. AF is also supposed to start on Friday, I'm hoping she doesn't show and if she does it'll be fun times in the outhouse *blech* If she doesn't show I'll be so busy with my parents and sister around that I won't have time to stress about it :)
So my work isn't paying me for the 2 days I took off with strep throat, they said I was "abusing my sick days"... I've been there for 2 1/2 years and used MAYBE 15 sick days, all of which I've had a doctors note for! I'm very frustrated and would LOVE to leave there but now isn't the time to go job hunting :(
07-30-2009, 10:26 AM
Tara- Yep I have those days too! Some days I am okay, others not so good! Some days I am more angry than others! Everyday is a different feeling for me!:)
Mama- Thanks! I think we have tried that position a few times, but it didn't help..never hurts to try again though! I was also wondering how do they know you have endometriosis?? I have always had super bad painful periods from HE** , so do they do a blood test or what?? I was just wondering..or rather hoping that was my problem & if I had that little surgery I might be like you!:) Oh & have fun camping!!!
Vixen- Well I would tell them next time I will come in with strep throat & everyone catches it we will see who is "abusing" their sick days! That is such BS..if they give you the days then you get to take them whenever you want..even if you aren't sick...they are your days to use however you want! Oh that would tick me off! However I do understand the job market right now! I appreciate my job, but man I wish I could work from home sooooo bad! Have fun at the lake!!!
Proud- Weren't you supposed to test yesterday!????
07-30-2009, 02:28 PM
Hey Amanda, I'm not sure how they determine exactly that you have endometriosis, other than going in with that laproscopy procedure and actually looking. I mean, my Dr. concluded that I had it before that, based on several factors, like heavy painful periods, pain during sex, a general tenderness or pain in between cycles, etc. But when he went in he took pictures to show me. It looked kind of like black tar. He said he scraped it off of my ovaries, fallopian tubes, outside of my uterus, and removed some cysts. At the time, he told me the best treatment would be to have a healthy nine months of pregnancy because you dont have cycles when you're pregnant. It really did help, and to top it off, no periods for several months after because of nursing. Endometriosis is the tissue that builds up nice and fluffy each month along your uterine wall to accomodate a fertile egg (if there is one), but when you have endo, its growing on the OUTSIDE of your uterus on other organs, which can turn to scar tissue. So every month, having periods, its on this never ending cycle of growing and spreading and being really painful.
I'm thinking to have laproscopy since my cycles are becoming more and more painful how they used to be...I have an appt with my dr. in aug. There's also a shot called Lupron, that tricks your body into going in to a menopause like state for several months to give it a break from your cycles. Then your dr. gives you meds to begin ovulating again and tells you thats the best time to get preggo. I was signed up to do this after my last miscarriage, but the week I was to go in I found out I was already pregnant with Judah!
Hope you can get some answers from your doctor very soon! A good doc makes all the difference in the world!
07-30-2009, 06:36 PM
Ruth- It does suck ever so badly! Sorry if I'm revealing TMI...Every time I go to the bathroom and get that little reminder right now I just want to burst into tears. It's been 11 cycles with no protection and 9 cycles of fully TTC! I don't know how much more I can take! I have major respect for these ladies who have been doing it for over a year.
Hard- Hope you have fun!
RIP- I've never had a MS, but know exactly how it feels on TTC and nothing coming of it as well as all the other ladies on this forum! I wish you the best of luck and we are here any time you may need us. This forum has been my best friend and my worst enemy all at the same time!
Jt- You could possibly be pregnant and that could possibly be implantation bleeding. I would wait until CD 33 and test! Good luck...would love to see another BFP!
ROU- CONGRATULATIONS! Hope everything goes just swell during you 9 months of pregnancy!
Tara- I know exactly how you feel. I've just started cycle 10 and don't know how much more I can take. I just have to keep telling myself things will work themselves out. I wish you the best of luck...and like the other ladies said. You aren't past the percentages most couples conceive so keep your head up. I know that doesn't make it any easier, but at least you can feel better scientifically.
Mama- You've got that right! I tell myself all the time...if I'm pregnant I just wish a test would show and if I'm not I just wish I'd start! I hate waiting for disappointment...:(. I'm on CD 3 and I'm ready for AF to go as well. Good luck with the meeting with the principle. Your daughter deserves to be treated like any other child no matter what her disabilities. ---My son has been camping since he was a little over a year old and has always loved it...I hope yours does as well!
Vixen- I would want to tell them where to stick it as well...but you are right it isn't the time to be looking for a job...not just you but anybody living anywhere. Good luck with AF not showing...keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Amanda- I did test...tested early and did it Tuesday. BFN---I was very distraught. More this time than ever...I broke down and lost it. They believe I have endometriosis. At the time I was told that I didn't have insurance and couldn't pay for the test to actually be diagnosed, but now that I do I believe I'm going to make the appointment because that could be the reason I'm not conceiving...Good luck
As for me I'm on CD 3 and ready for it to be over so I can move onto trying again. This makes Cycle number 10! Hope this is it for me. I'm not sure who on this site is religious and who isn't but I'm just going to say this. I'm not a die hard religious person, but I do have a lot of faith and sometimes have to put situations in God's hands. This is what I'm doing now. He will give me another child when he thinks the time is right. And if there is something wrong keeping me from conceiving he will lead in the path to fixing what is wrong...It's so hard to not get down about this and believe reminding myself he does everything for a reason will make it just a little easier. Everyone keeps telling me I'm young and to quit worrying so much. That's true I am young but my son isn't getting any younger and I want him to have a sibling to grow up with not one he can take care of because he's 10 years old by the time it happens. I know I'm rambling so I will quit...I'm just so down right now. I really thought it was it this month...I thought my time had finally came and really I just set myself up for a bigger disappointment...
07-31-2009, 10:51 AM
mama-Thanks for the info!I don't want to have that, but it would makes since with my periods & it would be an answer for the TTC part too! :)
ruth-Thanks for the confidence in our conceiving ability!:) I think you have more than we do!!
proud- I am REALLY sorry you are having such a hard time!! I know it sucks!!! **HUGS** I know the bathroom trips are sucky reminder! I truly I am so sorry & completely understand! I hope you start feeling better soon! Oh & yes the "well your still young" comment gets old REALLY fast! After I went for my yearly in Feb. & the doctor had the balls to say that to me, along with "just relax"(don't even get me started with that phrase!), I was telling Keri..well yeah I am young isn't that even worse than if I was in my 30's??? My eggs should be SUPER receptive now...they are only going to decrease in number & viability as I get older..& lets face that is what is happening--- I am getting older..HELLOOO!! **HUGS** :)
07-31-2009, 02:47 PM
Hey ladies! Good afternoon. It feels like I havent been on here in forever! Ive been so busy lately. First of all I got a horrible stomach virus last week that lasted 3 days!!! It was miserable, especially having a curious little boy to take care of.... Im puking in the toliet and hes trying to stick his head in to see what mommas doing! lol Any way, on top of getting over being sick school is about to start so Ive been so busy with that. Any way, my period was always 28 days apart but last month it was 32... today is day 32 and no period yet so I guess we will see. I am soooo anxious! I really hope everyone else is doing well. Good luck & hope we have some BFP soon!!
07-31-2009, 10:11 PM
Hey ladies, just checking in from my stay-cation. Having a good time hanging out with the kid. We are going to the zoo tomorrow and then to the lake on Sunday.
Rou--CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I am sooo excited for you and I am sure that the next 9 months are going to go just fine. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy.
To everyone else-- sorry to those of you having a hard time with all the emotions that go along with TTC, I have my days too. I just have to believe that my time will come and that God only gives us what we are strong enough to handle.
Well, I am going to get back to my stay-cation and will chat with y'all next week.
08-02-2009, 08:16 PM
Good afternoon ladies! I hope everyone has had a wonderful weekend... I sure did! Well, as I posted the other day my period was a little late but I kept having cramping so I just knew it would start. Well, saturday I broke down and bought 2 test from the dollar store. I went home and took them... BFP!!!! Well, I ended up going to the store and buying another test just to be sure... all 3 tests said yes! I am sooo excited! Tomorrow I have to go to the dr to get a physical for work so Im going to have them doing another one! lol I have only told a couple people in the family. Im so scared to tell people this time because of all the stuff that happened last time I got pregnant and had a miscarriage. I guess once I go to my first gyno apt I will feel a little better about telling people. Im so excited though!!!
08-02-2009, 08:24 PM
Am- Congratulations! You should be due sometime around my DS birthday! Good luck with the next 9 months!
Hope the rest of you ladies had a good weekend. I did...The DH was on a fishing trip and I went to VA to a drive thru Safari and Natural Bridge with DS and the in-laws! It was great just wish DH would have been with us. It was a last minute thing so he had no idea we were going until he was already gone on his trip:(. Hopefully we get to go back sometime soon with him.
08-02-2009, 09:55 PM
Am--CONGRATULATIONS! That is such wonderful news. Good luck with the next 9 months :)
Well, still a few days left of my stay-cation and man have things been interesting. We went to the zoo yesterday and had a ton of fun. Today we went with my parents to the lake and were having a great time until things got cut short. I was going to ski and my mom was putting out the rope. The loop that ties onto the boat got wrap up around her pointer finger and almost ripped the tip completely off. We spent the next few hours in the ER and they temporarily sewed the tip back on. She goes to a specialist tomorrow to see if it will re-attach or if they need to take it off. She is going to be fine but is was scary there for a little while.
So, I don't think we hit the mark this month and that is okay. We had fun trying and that is a good thing. Talk to you all later.
08-03-2009, 10:15 AM
Am-CONGRATS!!!! :) YAY!!!! :)
Ruth- For real, could someone tell my ovaries that??? lol
hardworkin- Glad your stay-cation is going well! I hope your mom is okay though! That would really suck, bless her heart!!!
Well I am just waiting for AF to show! She should be here anywhere from last Saturday to this Saturday! This waiting is quite annoying! I don't have my hopes up though! Actually I have made a game with myself...guess when AF will show!! I am guessing Wed,(CD 30).......anyone else want to particicpate???lol. Besides that nothing much going on here!!!
Baby Cement to all!!! :)
08-03-2009, 10:25 AM
Am~ Congrats! That is wonderful! I must admit...I am a little jealous! ;)
Amanda~ I know how you feel AF for me is sometime between Thursday and Monday. That is 28-32 days and since the last 3 were in that range...I am hoping to either not get AF or have it happen then. Friday though I am going on a trip and we are supposed to go to a beer fest on Sat. So I may test Friday....or Sat..just to see! I have my fingers crossed for you!
08-03-2009, 04:40 PM
APem-- I guess Thursday! :)
08-03-2009, 05:15 PM
Tara- I will admit I am always jealous.lol.:) I have my fingers crossed for you too!! I would test if I were you too!! I think Friday you should test & get a BFP!!lol. That is my vision for you!!
hardworkin-LOL. Ok I will make a mental note...You win if I start Thursday..although I am not sure what we are getting, except I am hoping to trick myself into being excited I can guess something right, even though I can't seem to get pregnant.lol. I feel like it is worth a shot though!!!
Still over here waiting. I usually start in the mornings, although it has happened at other times! Again I have NO hopes up, so we will see! I did have some major side pains yesterday, but it turned out to be kidney stones moving around! Thank the Lord they finally seemed to settle down now!! :)
08-03-2009, 06:04 PM
Amanda-I guess Friday.. hopefully not at all though :)
Ki-Good call on the MIL, she should definitely be told not to address you rudely in front of your daughter.
Am-Congrats on the BFP!
As for me... AF didn't show up on Friday so when I got back to the city I took my test... BFP!! I'm a little shocked! But SUPER excited and nervous!!
08-03-2009, 08:04 PM
We have had so many BFP's here lately! I'm super excited for all of you but yes a little jealous...sry! Just the way it is...lol.
Ki- Glad you had a good time! Sucks you missed O, but the time spent with your DD was well worth it I'm sure.
Tara- My fingers are crossed for you!
Amanda- I'm praying you don't start at all, but since we are supposed to guess I'm going to guess...Friday. Since you've guessed Wed...Hard guessed Thursday...So I will go with Friday! Hoping it's not at all!!!
Not much new with me. AF ended Saturday night sometime. I'm just awaiting O now. I believe I'm going to try OPK's for the first time. Any suggestions?
08-03-2009, 09:34 PM
Thanks everyone! We are super excited!!
Congratulations to you too Vixen!!
I hope we get some more BFP soon! :)
08-03-2009, 09:49 PM
Am- That's soooo adorable! Already showing off the fact he will be a big brother. Haha
08-04-2009, 08:06 AM
Vixen-- CONGRATULATIONS! That is so exciting and I am sure everything will go great!
Now, where can I get some of this damn water that everyone seems to be drinking! :)
Ki-- sorry bout the hail damage. And I am hoping that everything works out well with the MIL when they move. Just try to always stay calm when talking with her and be the bigger person.
As for me, we got the internet all set up here at the house and have finally joined the technology age! Ha Ha! My mom goes to see a hand specialist this morning to see if her finger is reattaching or not. I was going to take Tiarnan to a petting zoo today but it's raining right now so we will have to wait and see what happens.
Chat with y'all later.
08-04-2009, 08:51 AM
Vixen~ Congratulations! Wow...BFP are popping up everywhere on here.
Amanda~ Are we the only only two from the original thread! UGH...I we need to get some luck/water our way soon!
08-04-2009, 10:31 AM
Vixen- Congrats!! :)
Ok so we have a few more guesses for Friday..I see no one chose Tuesday-which was smart because I still haven't started.lol.
Ruth- Man I love your confidence in my ovaries.lol.I just don't have that hope anymore, but I hope you are right!! :) Thanks!!
Tara- Yes, we are the only 2 left besides Tori-(if she is still trying.I know they chilled out about it, but she hasn't been on here in a while!) from the original thread! It is funny yesterday when I was x-ing off the net I was thinking OMG-it is August we are going to have to make a new thread again! In November it will be a year from when we first started the original TTC thread! By then Keri & Mum will have had their babies & a few others (Mandi....Mommymoss)!! That SUCKS A**!!! Me & SO had been trying for 9 months before we even started that thread! What is the deal?? No offense, but I want off this train(as I am sure you do!).lol. I want on the Due April 2010 thread.lol. Anywho I have my fingers crossed for you!! :) When will you test Friday or Thursday?? I REALLY hope you see a BFP!!
Ok so I agree with the people who said we need some of that water you fertile people are drinking!! Man you people are just BFP happy!! I am so jealous...maybe I should come swim in your pool or lake! lol. Oh & ya'll just mention this in passing......if we ever do get pregnant.....let me warn everyone...you will see the words Finally.. I am pregnant in big bold caps in red writing with all the smiley faces possible!!lol.
Anyways, so still no AF, but my guess is still tomorrow, so we will see!!
08-04-2009, 11:31 AM
Amanda~ Yeah Tori and her DH had decided to wait a little while until they could get a house I think. That is crazy...if we are on this thread for more than a year I am going to scream out loud!!! HAHA! I don't know when I will test.
So my cycles have been the following 36,31,35,31,36,27. So Friday is the 29. Which is when I want to test since we are supposed to go to a beer fesitval (When you wait until your later 20s to get preggo, those events are important...haha) on Sat. I think I Oed on July 25-26...so that will be 12-13 days after when I think I O'd. With such irreglar cycels I am not sure. If you look at the pattern I have this month would be like 35 days...haha...so I don't know what to do. Any suggestions. UGH...I wish this would just work for us. I am so feed up.
For those of you with BFP I don't want you to think in any way that I am not thrilled for you..because I am...I ranted a lot today...so thought I would make sure you knew that.
08-04-2009, 12:53 PM
Hello ladies! It has been a while since I have been able to get on here and actually write something...SO BUSY here lately...
I wanted to say Congratulations to Rou, Amboq, and Vixen!!! And I will definitely agree with others in wanting to know where you get your water, haha!
I hope everyone else is doing well!!!
Amanda - I am not saying a day, because I really don't think AF will show up for you this time around...or atleast I am hoping BIG time for you!
As for me...I am currently on CD 21, but there is no telling when AF will actually arrive...after having a really irregularly long 39 day cycle, I had a 30 day cycle last month...my DH and my sister both think that I am preggo...My sister doesn't even know that we are ttc...she said that I'm just giving off that vibe, so we will see...I'm not betting on it, but if I am preggo, she needs to go join the psychic network or something, haha.
Well good luck to everyone else, and I hope we all find some of that water soon!!!
08-04-2009, 01:00 PM
I am back, I was on the thread in December of last year and posted a lot, but with the months going by and no pregnancy made me take a break from the blog.
For those who don't remember me I live in Virginia, I am in my 30's and have been married for 4 years and have been ttc for over a year now actually a year and 4 months.
I got a BFP on July 7th and was over joyed....only to find out 5 weeks into the pregnancy that I misscarried on July 15th (Which was a horrible experience)
I just came back after all this time to see how everyone else is doing and try to get a little positive mojo back. It seems like there has been a lot of BFP's so hopefully some of that luck will rub off on the rest of us!!!
Amanda, I vote that you don't get your period and you are pregnant....it seems like just when you give up you just might get it!!!!! Otherwise pencil me in for Thursday!!!
I am CD21 and not really trying this month to get pregnant......not to mention I am not sure what will happen with my period and how delayed I might be because of the misscarriage.....I think that is the worst part just waiting for AF.....It should come between August 11-13th so we will see what happens. I wish all the luck to everyone and hope for sticky baby dust for everyone!!!
08-04-2009, 01:16 PM
Hey Aminor, when are you thinking about testing??? Believe it or not when I found out I was pregnant my sister kept telling me that she thought I was pregnant eventhough she didn't know we were ttc.......
BTW I am still trying the clomid since I have PCOS, and I do think it did help me get pregnant....just need to have the next one stick!!!!!
08-04-2009, 04:52 PM
I feel like I know you all. I've been reading these ttc message boards for a while now, but haven't posted anything yet. I'm 26 and have been actively ttc for 4 months, but have been off the pill for a year. My periods are very irregular, and I am on day 60 of my cycle with AF, and no bun in the oven. I'm going to the dr. tomorrow to find out what's going on, but I have a feeling they're going to give me something to get my period back and tell me to come back after it's been a year. Anyone else have irregular cycles/missed periods and get any good advice from their drs? I know 4 months is nothing compared with lots of you, but not knowing when or if I get AF is making ttc a lot harder.
By the way, for those of you using OPKs...check out early-pregnancy-tests.com. You can get a pack of 30 or so and 10 pregnancy tests for so cheap, and they really do work. They also deliver really fast. I've also ordered pre-seed from them which people swear by, but we've had no luck with that so far.
Congrats on all of the BFP's. It really comes in waves!
08-04-2009, 04:54 PM
I meant to say I'm on day 60 of my cycle with NO AF.
08-04-2009, 09:44 PM
Thanks for all the congrats!! I haven't forgot about praying for all of you :) Baby CEMENT to all!!
Taraken, I understand the frustration!! No worries about the vent!
Am-I am SO hoping you don't get AF!!
08-04-2009, 11:14 PM
Hey ladies...it's late and I'm tired. Just wanted to say I want some of that water as well and Amanda I'm praying for you lots! You deserve it!!! I hope all of us guessing when you will get AF is totally wrong!
I know this may sound crazy, but is it possible to O around CD 8 or so? I've been having cramps all day like I'm O or something. So it hit me...maybe just maybe I O really early and I'm missing it every time! So let me know what you guys think or actually know. I'm going to get busy just in case...lol. Sorry if TMI!
Hope everyone had a good Tuesday! Hope to write more tomorrow!
08-05-2009, 11:17 AM
Am- Thanks!! I really hope you are right & all that hoping helps.lol. I REALLY hope your sister is right!!! When will you test if AF doesn’t show up??
Tara-I agree with Ki….if you don’t plan on being super drunk then I might wait it out, but if you really want to know I say test Friday!
Mom- Glad you are back!!! First of all I am soooooo sorry about the miscarriage!!! You have such a great attitude though!!! I am also really glad the clomid worked!! I am really sending some good cement baby dust your way!!! Oh & I will pencil you in for Thursday!!! Lol. I hope you are right too!!!
Julie- Welcome!! Man 60 days… that is not cool! I hope the doctor appt. goes well & you can jump start AF! My cycles have been anywhere from 26-33 days! They just vary a little, but it is still frustrating!Let us know how the appt. goes!!!
Proud- Thanks… I hope we are all wrong too!! J Oh & yes I think it is totally possible to O that early. Before I used OPK’s I thought that might be our problem, but after using the OPK’s it turns out I O later than normal! I actually O (according to the OPK’s) somewhere between CD 15-19, so you never know!! My advice is to get busy lady! Lol
Ki- I am glad you didn’t miss your O dates!! You get busy too lady!!!!
Ok well I lost the bet so far! No AF today! I really thought I was going to be right. Lol. I now change my guess to Saturday…I’m sure that is against the rules, but oh well! We have a lot of Thursday& Friday guesses! Saturday will be CD33, so I will probably test Sunday morning if I haven’t started by then! However I am sure that will not be a problem! Well I need to get back to work!! J
08-05-2009, 01:49 PM
Well I had my appt today. She said since AF is so irregular (anywhere between 28-46 days and now 60) that I have anovulation and ovulate at random or not at all. She gave me the progesterone to get my period back, and took some blood, and I have to get an ultrasound, a test to see if any of my tubes are blocked, and a semen analysis for DH. If all the other tests come back normal then she will put me on clomid in a month. I'm not too excited about trying clomid, so I don't know if I will wait a little longer before taking that or not. Anyone else every try clomid?
08-05-2009, 02:01 PM
I started clomid about 4 months ago....after about a year of activly charting and ttc with no success. I was diagnosed with PCOS which means I ovulate irregularly.
I started off with 50mg dosage for two cycles with no success and then went to 100mg, in that first month I became pregnant but per my previous post I misscarried at 5 weeks. I am on clomid 100mg for this cycle so we will see what happens I am on CD22 so I have at least a week before I test for pregnancy (assuming AF doesn't show before then)
I was apprehensive about taking the clomid but really I have not seen any bad side effects which some people have reported. No headaches etc..... Overall I would say it was a positive experience.
I don't know that I would have gotten pregnant without it.
08-05-2009, 10:38 PM
Hey there ladies, I am back at work from my stay-cation. Not lots going on here. Saw my mom today when I dropped off Tiarnan and her fingertip is black! The thing is dead and she has to walk around with it for another week. She goes back to the hand specialist on Tuesday where they will see if it is surviving (it's soooooo not) and then on Wednesday they will most likely amputate it. I told her that when Tiarnan gets older and asks what happened she will have to tell him that he bit it off! Ha ha!
Juliebean-- welcome to the group and I hope you get things figured out with your period. 60 days is a long time!
Ki-- I am hoping that you don't have to go back on clomid (as I am sure you are too). I have heard that treatment is expensive. I think you will get your BFP before September though. :)
mom-- sorry to hear about the mc. That must be tough to handle but it is good to see you back to trying again. Keep up the positive attitude.
Apem-- So now that the day is closer to being over are you still the loser (or in this case possible winner :))? I still say Thursday and am keeping my fingers crossed that I lose!
Proud-- yes it is totally possible to O that early! My best friend said that she O'd early and in order to conceive they had to get busy pretty much right after AF was finished. Temping is what really worked for her to get the timing down right.
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