babys first b-day party or not

[harrisjm]

hi i was wondering if i should have a party for my sons birthday this Tuesday or not? i was planing a small thing with about 10 people but now me and my husband dont see eye to eye, on some things. would it be wrong to to throw one? i have issues with having to have control of things, i am trying to work on it, and then something big comes up,(like sky first b-day) and i just go crazy, i no why i have to be in control of every thing, it come from my child hood and every thing that happened, so i no i will always be this way. but when i feel like iam losing control of things it seem to get worse, thats where were t right ow, he dose not want to have aparty and i do but i only want it to last for an hour and i dont want sky to have to open presents in front of every one, i want him to do that after the party, and no picture, i really hate it when people take pictures, i no iam weird, but i think thats ok, after all i had him, i should be able to say what i want right? mark my husband thinks i overboard, but he really dose not understand why iam so controlling, well thanks so much and if you can write back thanks!

[freckles]

Your baby only turns 1 once in his life. Of course you should celebrate anyway you and your hubby prefer. To make sure your hubby is included, sit and talk about the plans you have came up with. Ask him to add one idea and grant his idea. Let him be in charge of it, just one thing. It may be a start for you to begin to relax about lettiing your hubby have some control.

Speaking of 1 yr old parties, we just threw a huge one! But I have older kids that enjoyed it mostly. I am the better planner so I bought everything well in advance. We threw a pirate party. My husband said "Buy more eyepatches. We need bandanas."(used scraps of fabric and painted black stripes) So I did. All the kids looked cute with mustaches and all.