Godparents

[janamac42]

My husband and I need to write a will but we can't decide who the godparents should be. I think it should be my sister and brother-in-law. They're just a few years older than me and my husband and they have a boy who's almost 2 years old and my sister's 4 months pregnant, and me and my sister are really close. My husband doesn't want them to be the godparents because they live in Ohio and we live in Texas, so if something does happen to us, he doesn't want our son to have to leave his home and his school and everything. He thinks that his parents should be the godparents because they live in the same town that we do so our son wouldn't have to leave. I don't want them to be the godparents because they're older and I'm not sure how well they'd be able to take care of him since they can't even watch him 2 days in a row. Right now we're both pretty firm in our positions and I'm not sure what to do. We've talked to both my sister and brother-in-law and his parents, and they both said that they'd be happy to be the godparents and that they would be fine with whatever we decided. So I don't know what to do, any advice?

[Snail]

If his parents can't watch the kid for 2 days, it's hard to imagine them being able to take him on permanently. Of course they both said they'd be happy to take your son...they both love him.

How old *are* the grandparents? I'm assuming you're not planning on dying any time soon :)...which means they'll be even older if they have to take your son. And here's another thought...if they're that old, how would your son take it if he had to move a second time because one or both of THEM died?

It's a hard call. I can see how your husband would want to try to keep as many constants in your sons life if such a tragedy hit your family, but on the other hand, who would be able to physically care for him more easily?

Perhaps you can have a stipulation in the will that if you die before his parents reach a certain age, your son can stay in Texas, but if they hit X yrs, then he would go to your sister's.

Hopefully it's all moot & you'll both live to be 100.

[HoneybearMom]

I can understand where your husband is coming from, not wanting to uproot your child from the familar. But I would agree with you. Your sister has a 2 yr old and another on the way, with other kids to play with it would make the transition easier ((God willing it will not come to that). Yes Grandparents are in town but as you said they are older. It would be harder for them to keep up with a younger child for days at a time. I have a 2 1/2 yr old boy and even my mother in law finds it difficult to keep up with him for 2 days. The other thing is what if something happens to your husbands parents, then your child it in the same position and will be uprooted again. My opion, better to have your sister the godparents to avoid having to uproot your child more then once. And like I said eariler God willing your family will not find it self in that position until your child is old enough to be on their own. Just my opion. Good Luck!!!