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04-11-2008, 09:07 AM
I am looking for some insight as this is my 1st pregnancy and I am turning into an emotional mess. I am at 18 weeks and cry almost every night and every morning! I have never been so scared or uncertain about anything in my life! I honestly feel as though I am losing my mind. I think I am freaking out my boyfriend who has been so supportive from day 1. He told me this morning that he just doesn't know what to do anymore. Is this normal, should I call my doctor, maybe take a personal day? I need some advice please and thank you.
04-11-2008, 09:20 AM
This is completely normal! Don't worry, it may feel like you're going crazy but you're not. I went through the same thing when I was pregnant and my husband was freaked out too. What I did was this, when I was sane and not crying or hysterical or anything like that, I told him that we needed to talk. I told him that because of the pregnancy my hormones were all over the place and that I'm going to say and act different than I normally would and I'm going to cry over absolutely nothing and I'm sure there's gonna be times when I can't stand to be around you and you can't stand to be around me because of this, but try not to listen too carefully when I'm having a hysterical fit and crying because most of the time I don't mean what I say and you can just blame it on the hormones. And that really worked for us, of course it did make me mad later on when we would have a fight and he would say, you're just doing this because of your hormones, but for the most part after that he understood what I was going through and he wasn't freaked out nearly as much. So I would try and talk to your boyfriend and let him know that it is normal, you're not really going crazy.
04-11-2008, 09:39 AM
Thank you so much for you advice, I really appreciate it!
04-11-2008, 10:11 AM
This is definitely normal. My husband is NOT romantic in the least (he's kinda a tough guy) but when I was 3 months pregnant, he decided to surprise me. We went out for our anniversary and while we were gone, he had some friends of ours come in and light candles, start some soft music, and scatter some flower petals around everywhere. Well, I saw this and started crying (I am not a cryer at all by the way). I couldn't stop and my husband thought he had messed up. I tried to reassure him that I liked it but I couldn't stop crying long enough. It is funny to look back on that now but was not funny at the time. What is funny was my husband had almost every pregnancy symptom that I had! So he was crying at commercials about dads on tv while I was pregnant!
04-11-2008, 01:14 PM
I also agree the first is always the scariest. I remember feeling like I wasn't ready to be in charge of someones life (especially when I can't keep my fish alive)
I paniced a lot, and cried, I haven't even been around a lot of kids, so I was really in the dark. I still felt like a kid myself. But You have 9 months to get used to the idea and by the time those 9 nomth are up you can't wait to be a mom! Just keep the comunication open with your boyfriend. And if you really feel that bad there is nothing wrong with talking to your Doctor.
04-11-2008, 11:45 PM
Believe me that is competely normal! My whole first trimester I had crazy mood swings. I couldnt wait for them to be over. At night I would get so upset and cry my eyes out about the stupidest things and make a big deal about it and then in the morning I would feel stupid about it. Im serious, I would cry over the most off the wall things, if my husband layed in bed the oppisite way, not towards me holding me, I would get so upset and cry my eyes out thinking he didnt love me. Im telling you, I was crazy!! Thankfully it does get better and it doesnt last the whole time. Just let your guy know that its normal pregnancy mood swings that will eventually stop. Good luck!
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