Racist Grandfather + My son = No Go

[BirminghamMa]

So my dad is a skinhead. Like hardcore. I was raised in the same environment and didnt know til much later (like 3 years ago when I was 17) that it was wrong. Well I am having a huge problem. I already have my father trying to teach my 5 month old son, Hunter, that "if it aint white it aint right". The problem is I want my dad to be in Hunters life but I can not stand the remarks. I fought extremely hard to break that lifestyle and still fight to this day with my first thoughts about people when I meet them. Is there a way I can keep them in his life and keep out the racism? I have asked my father to stop and he wont respect me or my husband.So we threatened him telling him if it didnt stop he wouldnt see Hunter for a long time. Well long story short I didnt let him see Hunter for 3 months and I went over there to see how he was doing yesterday morning and it started all over again....Help!?

[jenn_0629]

My dad is like that, but not to that extreme. I guess, if it were me, I would basically treat him like a child. If he says some racist crap, just grab Hunter, and walk out of the room. Don't say anything, just get up...and walk. If he comes to you, just say, "Can we act like adults now?"

That's just my opinion. Sorry about your situation...that must suck!

[KayLady]

That's tough. If you really want your dad in his life you could use it as a teaching tool. Like, see Hunter, it is not okay to behave that way. Also, we need to love people even when we disagree with them. And when your son gets older, he may even be able to work on Grandpa's heart and get him to see the error of his ways.
Of course, if you see your dad rubbing off on him, sometimes it's best to love people from a distance.