View Full Version : Kissing cousins, what do I say?
04-21-2009, 04:50 PM
So I am at work and my wife just called to tell me that our 8-year old daughter who was having a sleepover at her cousin's house, left a hickey on my 8-year old nephew's neck. My wife is floored and doesn't know what to say. My in-laws spoke to the kids, but I don't know what was said. Now I am expected to say something to her when I get home, but I have no idea what to say. I suspect that this is, at heart, an innocent act that came about by some type of experimentation and that I shouldn't make them feel horrible about their natural curiosity and their own bodies. However, I certainly want to get across that this behavior should not continue. But what do I say? How do I avoid scarring my daughter? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...
04-21-2009, 07:06 PM
Your right about this being a natural thing for children of that age. The best way to go about this is to not make a big deal about it. Explain to her that there is plenty of time later for her to kiss in this way, and talk to any family members that regularly have hickeys of their own. This will pique curiousity. By the way if your pediatrition hasn't already had this conversation with you now is the time for the mother daughter talk about girl stuff and sex. If she doesn't learn it from her parents she will learn it from misinformed 8 year olds.
04-22-2009, 11:29 PM
well were they doing anything else or were they just trying to make marks on each other? like when you give a person an indian burn.
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