Back to back babies

[New Mommy 808]

Hey!

I figure if anyone knows it would be moms with twins+. I am expecting my 2nd son 1 month after my 1st turns 1. So I will still have 2 babies. Not a baby and a toddler, two babies. Any advice on strollers, cars, weening my son from nursing, anything and everything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

[mommy of 4 kids]

well how old is your first born? i would just keep nursing cause i know what happens if your first born see you nursing his brother/sister he will go stright for your brest and want to brest feed again. along with the car-seat thing. Is he still in a rear-facing car-seat? strollers buy a double stroller and one light weight stroller for your first born son. if you plan on using pacifiers buy alot of them your son will probably get the idea that he's a baby as well so he will regress. if he's in a crib keep him it and buy a new crib for your youngest baby don't rush anything potty training, weaning, switching from a crib to a big-boy bed, etc. it will probably all back fire on you i know it did with my 2nd oldest who is 5 now and my now 3 year old when he was baby my dughter regessed badly

[craftyashley]

Actually, doctors discourage breast feeding while pregnant. It is too hard on your body to supply all the needed nutrients for the breast and the growing baby. Certainly get a double stroller. With only two, most cars- even sedans will accommodate two car seats. However, small compacts have a hard time fitting the double stroller into the trunk. (like the Mazda 3 I had for a few months before I decided I needed more trunk space)
Start getting prepared for the fact that you don't really have two babies- they are going to be in totally different developmental stages and/or schedules.
The good news is that your first born will probably be too young to have too serious a case of jealousy.

[Mellerby]

To New Mommy 808,
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? I am expecting my first in February. I am 42 but will be 43 when the baby comes. I am thinking about back to back because of my age but would like to hear from other moms who started having children in their 40s. I was praying for twins but it looks like it's just one, I'm 13 weeks.

[Mom012108]

Hello Moms of multiples,
I may be having twins or even triplets in the future because of fertility treatments...how do you balance it all (especially with a toddler in tow) and what advice do you have for someone who could be having multiples in the future? Thank you!

[craftyashley]

Hello Moms of multiples,
I may be having twins or even triplets in the future because of fertility treatments...how do you balance it all (especially with a toddler in tow) and what advice do you have for someone who could be having multiples in the future? Thank you!

This forum is so slow these days! To answer your question- you just do! You adapt, and become super organized. That's the only way I can get through the day, planning and organization. I do get completely overwhelmed some days, but I have a feeling moms of any number of children feel the same way once and a while. Multiples are totally manageable. You just get used to doing everything twice, or three times, whichever may be the case! Good luck! And let us know what you get!

[renee99184]

My sons are exactly 1 year apart..same birthday...so I know what you mean by having 2 babies. I have found that it is actually quite easy. My new son has adapted to my older son's feeding and sleeping schedules. Big shocker! Also, I was told that my older son might be jealous of the younger one, on the contrary. He is very loving and affectionate towards his little bro. I find that if I feed the younger one first this allows for me to feed the older one and spend a little one on one time with him while in the highchair. I have noticed however, that my older one seems to be crying for things more than he did before the new one came along. I think he has noticed that if little brother cries he gets to eat or be held. Well anyway, good luck to you and congratulations!