View Full Version : Ferberizing Does Not Mean CIO
Sasha at Parenting.com
04-14-2009, 06:07 PM
Babytalk sat down to talk with Dr. Ferber to find out what ferberizing is -- and isn't (http://www.parenting.com/article/Baby/Care/The-Truth-About-Ferberizing). You may be suprised that it's not the same thing as crying it out!
Do you do sleep training? What method did you use? How did it work?
04-21-2009, 09:34 AM
Nope..no sleep training. We co-sleep. I can't take advice from a male doc who has no maternal instinct. sorry ;o)
04-21-2009, 12:35 PM
Well, when my 1st daughter was 18 mths we did the CIO and it just turned into a scream-fest so she is now 29 months and sleeping in my bed. My 5 month old on the other hand does do well with CIO. Some nights she never cries. I let her cry 10 minutes then I go in her room and sooth her WITHOUT picking her up. Usually I only have to do this once.
05-29-2009, 03:00 PM
If Dr. Ferber is interested in a new case study...we are available...
DD is 7 months, and her sleeping is very erratic. She was *almost* sleeping thru the night at 5 months (bf baby) and could soothe herself back to sleep after a 5am feeding...but she has gone down hill since.
She now wakes up screaming at 1-2am, at which point I soothe her back to sleep and then she wakes up at 3-4am, and will not go back to bed without eating.
She can stay awake for hours in the middle of the night.
If i let her cio she screams for over an hour, until I go to her. During this hour of screaming she does "laps" around her crib..rolling over, and spinning round and round.
If I comfort her but do not pick her up she just stays awake (not crying) and looks around and around in the dark....no signs of being sleepy...
she has a tough time with naps too, so I don't think she's sleeping too much during the day.
And she has been teething, and even with baby tylonel she still acts like this
Since day 1 she has "fought" sleep....she gets those long blinks but fights like heck to keep her eyes open.
She is very active when awake and gets cranky after being awake for 2 hours during the day, she desparately needs the sleep, she just fights it!
Everyone always asks, "how is she sleeping"
and I always reply "we are working on it..."
05-29-2009, 04:38 PM
No sleep training. No crying it out. No co-sleeping. All we did was get our son accustomed to a schedule right at the very start.
He has been sleeping 10-12 hours a night, alone in his crib, in his own room, with no fighting or struggling, no middle of the night waking up or feeding, since he was six weeks old.
Just from having a consistent schedule/routine every night. Or does that count as "training?"
05-30-2009, 12:06 AM
Letting your loved one cry at all is 'crying it out', IMO. I don't think parenting ends at night and 'sleep training' never made sense to me. We just sleep wherever and whenever we are comfortable. Sometimes my babies sleep with me, sometimes in their own beds, sometimes on the couch or on the floor. Kids sleep when they are tired, not necessarily when it's convenient for me, but hey, that's part of parenting :)
Well, my daughter will cry most of the time when she's really tired, whether I hold her, rock her, or leave her alone. So I figure, save myself some stress and leave her alone. Plus, I think she cries longer if she's not left alone.
08-11-2009, 03:54 PM
This link contains the odd statement: "[bed sharing has been linked to a higher risk of sudden infant death syndrome]" with no reference to back it up. In fact, plenty of research has shown that bed-sharing LOWERS the risk of SIDS. Some links are here:
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