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04-05-2009, 12:56 PM
I need some advice, insight, better understanding of my husband. Our daughter is 17 months old and since the day she was born every now and than we would all just take a shower together. My husband and I used to do it all the time before the baby and when she was born we just continued. He used to love it because our daughter loves the water so much and they used to have so much fun. But for the past couple weekends, I've asked 'why don't we all shower together today?' and he says no. I've asked him what's up and all he said was it's weird now that she's older. Is she too old now? I still think of her as a baby. Does anyone else think she's past the point where we can all shower together?
04-06-2009, 11:15 AM
As soon as Dad feels uncomfortable with it she's too old. :) I know what you mean about her still being a baby to you, but its the same with my DH / DD. My DH won't walk about around naked with her around - he stopped, citing feeling uncomfortable with it, around 15 months. This was about the time she started saying "Naked" and "Tee-tee" (her name for privates area).
04-06-2009, 12:03 PM
Yeah this is normal for guys. Don't sweat it babyellie.
04-07-2009, 06:02 AM
Me and my hubby use to take baths together, something I would like to do also with our baby once he/she is born. He's not too sure about it but only because of a safety issue, he didn't mention anything about being uncomfortable with the idea, but maybe that will charge one the baby is old enough to mention body parts, like what ra11en said.
04-08-2009, 03:46 PM
Do you think that perhaps your husband thinks it's weird because he's afraid that seeing you in the shower may get him aroused...something he wouldn't be comfortable with in front of his little girl? I wouldn't worry about it...Let him keep his modesty in front of your daughter and enjoy a shower on occasion with just him alone or with just your daughter alone...
04-16-2009, 03:11 AM
My husband and I use to shower together all the time. However when it came to our children showering he has never felt comfortable being naked in front of our daughter. He saids that when he showers he wants to be able to relax and enjoy the water and the presents of our romance that having children in the shower with us takes from our time together. He also states that it wouldn't be so bad if he was showering with our son mainly because he has the same parts as our boy. however with a girl there is to much that can be accused now days. Most fathers i have talked with dont like there wife showering with there son for the same reasons they dont like showering with there daughters. Its all a comfort thing and i think you should take into mind how he feels. And keep in mind that if you showered with your husband before your children were born you should set aside time for just you and him. Its no different then setting time with your oldest child without the baby around. Men need attention just as much as children and so does the woman your with (which most guys dont think to consider.)
04-18-2009, 12:56 AM
Thanks for the advice! You're right we should go back to it being "our time" like it was pre-baby. Thanks!
04-19-2009, 10:52 PM
Natural is best, if it is not comfortable, don't do it, if it is, do it...
My daughter is 4.5 years old and I still shower naked with her, that being the most natural thing in the world for both of us. There are 2 strict rules that we follow of course, she is not allowed to touch my private parts and I don't touch hers.
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