View Full Version : my baby wont lt me put her down!!!
04-01-2009, 06:30 PM
I am a new mom of a 3 month old girl. I am now a stay at home mom but I went back to work right after she was 6 weeks old, granted I went only part-time and she was at home with daddy. She never seemed to have separation anxiety until recently. I took her over to my sister in laws house and she is fine with me but as soon as danny tries to hold her or even talk to her she starts screaming!! She wont stop until I take her and hold her. Now at home I have noticed that I can never put her down unless she is dead aleep. If I even try to put her down when she is almost asleep she wakes right up and fusses what should I do??? I never get a break.
04-02-2009, 11:37 AM
I would just start off slowly. If you have a swing put her in the swing but bend down and talk to her while she is in the swing or show her a toy. You just have to show her that your not going any where. Until she realizes that she will be ok if shes not with you I would just put her down somewhere but stay with her talking to her. Once it looks like she is ok (laughing, smiling) walk away and do what you need to do but stay in her eye sight. I hope this helps you!
04-02-2009, 11:47 AM
Swing is a good idea if she likes it. Also I would try the floor. sit on the floor with her on your lap and play for a while. Then try and put her on the floor next to you, maybe propped up against you so she can still see your face. Then maybe she will lay on floor with you laying next to her...it'll be a multi-step process for sure!
My little one doesn't like to go to others either. It helps if i don't immediately hand her over once someone new enters to room or as soon as we get somewhere. But if I hold her, while she checks out this new person/people/place for a few min. Then when i do hand her over, i make sure she can still see me for a few more min. then she's generally ok.
04-02-2009, 09:26 PM
have youlooked into buyin a sling like a maya wrap or hotsling? These are relatively inexpensive and you can hold you baby AND get things done AND rest your poor arms. They're also super cute!
04-02-2009, 10:02 PM
Thank you all so much I will definatly try everything once. I hope she can do better so we can all have some fun.
05-01-2009, 01:41 AM
Like lismom said I would try a baby sling. On the positive side baby wearing is supposed to encourage security. A secure baby becomes a more confident, independant adult is the thinking.
I'm a babywearer!!!! All day most days - people tell me shes spoiled ... no shes loved! :) Besides it sounds like its become difficult for you so if you can't beat her join her right??!!
I heard playing peek-a-boo helps too. Aparently it teaches them that things go away and come back.
05-01-2009, 09:41 AM
brandie- what kinds of sling have you tried? I'm thinking about a moby wrap, but I've never tried one on....
also, there's no such thing as 'spoiling' a baby. :) they're only little once!
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