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MaternalOne_
03-24-2009, 12:32 AM
My husband and I have been married 8 years and we have two daughters 6yrs and 21 mos. I am beginning to wonder if he is depressed. I am hesitant to talk to him because he is extremely moody and will become irate if I try. I am becoming very concerned with his appearance. He will wear the same clothing for days even after working outside and sweating. His clothing actually smells up the house. I have tried getting him to leave his clothing next to the washer so I can wash it but to no avail. I don't even want to be near him because the smell is so strong.

I am also concerned about him watching so much tv. He tells me that it is his way of relieving stress. He will watch tv from the time he wakes up in the afternoon(he works third shift) until he goes to work at night. He even eats his supper in front of the tv. When our girls are playing in the living room and making too much noise he yells because he can't hear his program. I always ask him what is more important our marriage, our kids or the tv and he completely ignores me because he is watching tv.

I have suggested couseling but he is not interested in going. He says he doesn't have a problem. Should I go myself? Does it help? Is anyone else in the same situation?

APEMBERTON
03-24-2009, 11:56 AM
I am sorry you are going through this!! I would definetly say something is wrong!! Not changing clothes & watching TV ALL the time..etc!! Something is up!! I don't know how to help you except to say I am sorry & I hope everything gets better!! Maybe you should take a break from him or move out for a few days until he gets it together!!

MaternalOne_
03-26-2009, 12:16 AM
Thank you. I really don't know what to do. At this time moving out is not an option for me. I think I am going to talk to my pastor at church for some guidance. Hopefully he can point me in the right direction.

Willbearsmom
04-21-2009, 08:07 PM
Oh I am so sorry. I have a friend who is in the same sort of situation...kindof. I worked for her husband and in a group of random people he would be the most out going person you could meet but the second his wife walked in he would shut down. It's like a Dr. Jeckle Mr. Hyde moment. It was obvious that he was depressed and that it was associated with home life. I don't know if that is the case with you but maybe trying to improve things at home could help. Try the LOVE DARE! You can pick it up at Walmart of under 10 bucks. I am currently doing it and seeing huge improvements of things that I didn't even know were wrong!