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03-23-2009, 11:06 PM
Ok i've been dating this girl for going on three years and my child is due in August. I'm 18 and she's 20 but up until this point i've gotten along extremely well with her family and still do with everyone but her mother. She constantly badgers me and thinks she's the next Dane Cook making wise cracks about my girlfriend being pregnant. She acts like i don't belong in any part of this baby's life, i swear. She's told me several times that she'll be the first one to hold my child, not me, nor even my girlfriend. She's also told my girlfriend that she doesn't want the child at my house unless she's there (which she really means she doesn't want it at my house at all) and she's also told us both that we don't belong together and we should end it even though we do really well. Of course we have our couple's arguments but we still really care about each other very much. She doesn't want me to have anything to do with my baby's life and she thinks it's funny as hell when you try to tell her to step off or that she's being annoying or aggrivating. What can i even say to the woman? This is my child and i'll be a part of it's life if it kills me...
03-24-2009, 06:31 PM
This is my child and i'll be a part of it's life if it kills me...
Tell her exactly this, and eventually she may come to realize you aren't going away!
04-17-2009, 02:33 PM
Ugh, stupid mother in laws. (i know you aren't married, but same idea)
The question is, how does your girlfriend feel about this? Is she as against her mother as you are?
If she is on her mother's side, then you're going to have some serious problems.
However, if she's entirely on your side, then the two of you together should be able to tell her mother to back off and stick it where the sun don't shine, know what I mean? You are both adults, this is your child not hers, and as long as you and your girlfriend are on the same page, that's all that matters.
Even if it comes down to removing her completely from the picture, if she cares anything at all about her grandchild, she'll realize her mistakes and agree to quit being a pain for the sake of being involved. (being INVOLVED, not IN CHARGE)
04-17-2009, 04:07 PM
04-19-2009, 11:31 PM
Agree with Shqiptar, this must be talked over. No matter how much we now-a-days think that mothers-in-laws and their likes shouldn't matter, they still do.
Relationship management is just like project management, get all the problems out early if you want to have any chance of succeeding. Trust me, I'm a project manager :)
Have a serious talk with your girlfriend, the aim of that discussion to get a discussion with your girlfriends family arranged. If your girlfriend doesn't agree, manage expectations, both yours and your girlfriend, your family and your girlfriends family, chance of long term success is unfortunately not that high...
Open communication is the key to success
Father of Idea, the good idea
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