Naming my daugther after her Father

[mharris6]

I would like some advice from a complete unbiased source, since my family and firends cannot seem to give unbiased advice.

My husband is the most wonderful person and I know he will make an amazing Father. As it turns out he had a name picked out if we had a boy and I had one picked out if we had a girl, it just turned out that way. Now we are having a Girl:), he is so happy, but now he wants to name our baby after him. His name is Ashley, everyone in my family thinks its a great idea, I feel cheated. Am I being selfish, will he resent me if I dont name her after him, he wants his daughter to know that he is proud to have her as his first born.

[APEMBERTON]

Can you compromise & use Ashley as the middle name & you pick out the first name??? I don't think you are being selfish... if that was the deal then that was the deal!!! Do you like the name Ashley??? If you don't like it at all you are not being selfish...if you really do like it & you plan on having another baby one day then make a deal that the next one you get to name, regardless of the sex.

[BusyMommy3]

Here's my thinking... Yes, I'd maybe try to use Ashley as a middle name or maybe a form of it... However, I gave in on my daughters name... ( He hated my names and I didn't 'hate' his enough to say no) so that was meeting in the middle. I changed the spelling a bit (because it's tech after a friend of his), but honestly I still don't really LOVE her name. She's very girly and I really wish her name reflected that more. And now we're at the same crossroad again with this baby! I'm not naming every kid after a dead loved one!! ugh
Sooooo I'd say think long and hard!

[nursegina]

Before we were even married, my husband asked if we could name a son Eric, after his deceased father, if we ever had one. Of course, I said yes. We got pregnant shortly after we married and named our son Eric Marion (Marion is my father's name) It's not my favorite name, but now that he's four it's just him and I don't even think of his father. When I was pregnant with our second son, however, I was very controlling over the name. We agreed on Evan David, but I felt like I was cheated by not getting to name our first child.

[vbrown1376]

I named my daughter what my husband wanted to name her and I have regretted the fact that I did not stick to my guns I managed to weasel in the (first)name I wanted as the 2nd middle name. Don't cave you're the mom. You're carrying her. give him the middle name fine but only if you want to. Keep the name you want the name you been calling your beautiful daughter sub-consciously since she was conceived

[jordimatcham]

What about using your name, or a name that represent you by it's meaning for the middle name. How about combining names so that your child can be name after both of you? Afterall, you both think she's important. Ashlyn and Asher are some options. I wanted to name a child after him but he refused to take a Jr. even though I think he has a nice name. So we compromised with Kaydence (rhythm because he's a percussionist) and Aria ( melody because I'm a singer). so in a sense she is name after us.

[Zack_Jenn]

I would never give my child the same first name as a living family member. Ashley is a beautiful name, but I would use it as a middle name instead. You don't want to have to deal with answering the phone and someone asking to speak to Ashley and have to ask which one?