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hannahkuurt
03-08-2009, 08:49 PM
hi my name is Hannah Kurt. I am not a mom yet. I am on this website cause i am seeking some answers to some qwestions i have. I really want to get pregnant i love children. but my husband has a vasectomy from his previous marriage. He does not want kids, but i do. How do i convince my husband that me and him can have children? and what is another way i can get pregnant? We are on a limited pudget so it has to be a pretty cheap route to take. please help, i want to have a baby so bad.
cay8099
03-08-2009, 11:30 PM
You need to sit down with him and discuss both your and his reasons for feeling the way you do. Find out his reasons, and see if you can compromise. Vasectomies can be reversed. If that is out of the question; then maybe you can go to a sperm bank and pick out some...........sperm. Anywho, you need to talk this out; laying out both your side and his, and work through the problem together.
Bec caV
03-09-2009, 12:15 AM
Show him pictures of cute little baby girls and little one year old boys with baseball bats, he'll come around :p

Seriously though, like cay said, talk it over. He may come around. I was dead set against children until one day I realized I was ready for them. Though I often joked my husband's biological clock was ticking louder than mine :p

And unfortunately, all methods are expensive since your husband had a vasectomy. Adoption or reversing the vasectomy would be cheapest I imagine, though adoption is a hard road to go down. The agencies will pry into every part of your life and it takes awhile.
hannahkuurt
03-09-2009, 07:18 AM
I have tryed to sit down and discuss the issue with my husband. he just changes the subject. he wont talk about it. so what do i do?
hannahkuurt
03-09-2009, 07:22 AM
I have tryed to sit down and talk to my husband about having children. he will not talk about it.
cay8099
03-09-2009, 09:48 AM
Tell him that you need to talk to him, and explain to him that you are hurt by his not wanting a child. Tell him you need to know his reasons. This is about your future happiness. In order for you to either have a child or understand his feelings and move on he has to talk to you and explain his thoughts and feelings on the matter.
nc1966
03-21-2009, 02:37 PM
Hi,

I am a newbie. 43 yr old mom want to be. My DB feels the same way. For him, he feels he is too old and already has a grown child. He was like this with his late wife but cam around when she concieved. I am hoping for the same. We have had the baby discussion but we both end up upset and no closer. We have furbabies, but these are not the same.

Luck to all.