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02-27-2009, 10:33 AM
Hi, i just want to know what you think ? My best friend got married. Its almost been a year. I dont like him. She been bleeding almost everyday a few months .think 3-4 months. she said pms. She went to doc and he said not pms but some thing is bleeding inside. Doc told her to come back. She wont cause her man got mad about doc bill. i feel like he dont care about her. i told her she could run into more problems if she wont go. am i right ? he thinks paying her side of the bills she has to do. if she dont he will kick her out.i feel like thats not right. She has to pay for her own stuff on her own. Also she has a 6 year old boy. He has nothing to do with the boy cause he not really his kid. but he wants his own child. They both work but she has to take care of her son. She has to have place, picked up, clean, dinner on table, she cant be on phone when he is home and she cant come see me. i live an hour away. or he has to come with and he drops her off and leaves.She has to call him so often a day so he knows what she is doing.I just dont like it. When i was pregnant she could not talk to me even when i needed my friend im a 1st time mom. who got dis owned by my family and mom and it hurt that i did not have my best friend
02-27-2009, 11:59 AM
Why is it that any women fall for jerks like that! It's very obvious he doesn't care about her. Growing up my mom had all sorts of medical problems and if there is one thing I know its that bleeding like that is not a good sign and should be taken very seriously! I don't know how you would get her to the doctor's but it very well might be her life on the line. Maybe talk to her again and just focus on how important it is for her to take care of herself for her son's sake! Tell her how much you care about her. I know money is tight right now but if you maybe had enough to help her out, I think that would help ease stupid boyfriend's fears! Something could be seriously wrong with her and he is worried about money?? SERIOUSLY?? He might as well tatoo "I'm a jerk" on his forehead to warn everyone he comes incontact with! Maybe even be completely honest and tell her how much of a jerk he really is. Maybe she is only with him because she doesn't know how she could make it on her own with a kid. Is there a church you guys go to that could help?
02-27-2009, 04:38 PM
She did not have money for her phone. So its been over a week its been off. But i will try to talk to her about going to doc. I tryed to tell her not to get married to him. When they dated i saw the way he is. but she was so excited cause he 1st guy to give her a ring. its a big ring i know it not cheap. i told her 1 time to pawn it off. She wont give it up. She also got a nice big wedding that him and his family paid for. That was something very importent to her. My boyfriend and i both have tryed to talk to her she got the wedding of her dreams and a very nice ring that she has to show off. We live in hour from each other and we dont have a car. She has been on her own alot even when her son 1st born. She dont like to be alone. She cant keep a job. If ANYTHING makes her unhappy she stops working. Coworker or boss say anything bad she walkes out. She been kicked out for not paying rent many times. She dont spend her money right. She went to school for a month but got bored by now she would be a nurse. Thank you
02-27-2009, 06:38 PM
Unfortunately, reason and logic will have no effect on your friend. It's the sad but honest truth.
People like your friend will simply write everyone off.
My mother would constantly pester me about defending her against her abusive boyfriend when the situation came for it (I'm a guy). When it finally did, she turns on me and eats up every single lie he tells her like a homeless man in a buffet. [Keep in mind this guy tried to stab me and lied to the cops saying I was on drugs and I tried to stab him.] She starts telling my whole family I'm on cocaine and need to go to jail and rehab when all I did was restrain her boyfriend from hurting her as well as myself (Brazilian Jujitsu is very useful).
People like this are impossible to deal with. They will never listen to you. Don't take it personal, they won't listen to anyone but the owner of their penis. You are simply wasting your breath.
The only thing you can think to do is to scare her into doing her own research. Leave pamphlets in her house concerning her condition. You are correct in your assessment that internal bleeding is a serious issue that needs medical attention.
She needs to discover it on her own. You can help by leaving information lying around her dwelling area but it is up to her to do what's right for herself.
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