DanielsMom
03-25-2008, 09:25 PM
Ok...so here is mTy problem. My fiance's sister, mother and father all think I am absolutly crazy and overprotective. My son is just today one month old. My fiance's dad smokes in the house, and what makes it really bad is when he does it fills up not only our room but the baby's room also. When he was talked to about doing it when I was pregnant he said it was his house and that the smoking wouldn't hurt the baby. Now he still says the same thing, and he doesn't even try to make sure it doesn't get to the baby.
My fiance's mom when I was pregnant decided to TELL his 18yr old sister that she was going to babysit on the day of my fiance's birthday so we could go out. Thing is she never asked us if it was ok, and I had already asked someone else who I completly trust to watch him because I do not trust his sister AT ALL. Before I had the baby I had set some rules, one big one was that there would be no cursing around him...ever. And that everyone would wash their hands before touching him. Both his mom and his sister rolled their eyes and his mom basically told me that when I wasnt around they would do whatever they wanted and I had to deal with it. Also when I had told her I didnt trust his sister she told me that I HAVE to because she is his aunt and she should be able to babysit.
On top of all this his sister everytime she holds him or is in the same room she says things that really make me not trust her here are some things.
"I dont do poopy diapers"
"I dont talk to little boys, only little girls"
"I dont do anything when they cry I just walk away"
"I dont hold babies until they can hold their head up on their own"
Now really how am I supposed to trust someone like that?
And everytime his mom thinks we have done something wrong..like take him to the store with us she tells us that she is going to have a long talk with us about it.
So here is what I am asking...how do I deal with all of this? What do I say? I still havent told them that I had already asked someone else to babysit.
WHAT DO I DO? Its really causing a lot of problems!
My fiance's mom when I was pregnant decided to TELL his 18yr old sister that she was going to babysit on the day of my fiance's birthday so we could go out. Thing is she never asked us if it was ok, and I had already asked someone else who I completly trust to watch him because I do not trust his sister AT ALL. Before I had the baby I had set some rules, one big one was that there would be no cursing around him...ever. And that everyone would wash their hands before touching him. Both his mom and his sister rolled their eyes and his mom basically told me that when I wasnt around they would do whatever they wanted and I had to deal with it. Also when I had told her I didnt trust his sister she told me that I HAVE to because she is his aunt and she should be able to babysit.
On top of all this his sister everytime she holds him or is in the same room she says things that really make me not trust her here are some things.
"I dont do poopy diapers"
"I dont talk to little boys, only little girls"
"I dont do anything when they cry I just walk away"
"I dont hold babies until they can hold their head up on their own"
Now really how am I supposed to trust someone like that?
And everytime his mom thinks we have done something wrong..like take him to the store with us she tells us that she is going to have a long talk with us about it.
So here is what I am asking...how do I deal with all of this? What do I say? I still havent told them that I had already asked someone else to babysit.
WHAT DO I DO? Its really causing a lot of problems!