View Full Version : Pregnant again!
02-22-2009, 09:45 PM
My sons 1st birthday party was yesterday eventhough he doesnt really turn 1 until the 28th anyway its all getting to me and i dont have anybody to talk to because theres nobody i know who can relate.....im due again on march 26...im worried im stressed im confused and feel kind of sad for my first son just because i feel like im not going to be able to give him all the attention he needs. Peoples comments of sorrow towards me dont help at all...their comments on how am i going to do it diappers are expensive times are tough want to bring me to tears....i dont know exactly how i feel about this pregnancy and i feel bad for being happy and exited about my first pregnancy and for being so indifferent about this one...is there someone out there who can relate???
02-22-2009, 09:59 PM
Well, I have twins. And I do feel bad that they don't often get one on one time- but they play with each other and take some of the constant need to entertain them off me. Changing two diapers can be expensive, but I've found the generic Target brand work fine. And I've gotten used to changing two diapers, one right after the other.
The kids are so close together in age, I'm sure they will be the best of friends. Plus, I've heard that having another one when your first is still so young are less prone for the crazy toddler jealousy. So it really may be a blessing to have them so close together! Sorry you're feeling down.
02-23-2009, 10:32 AM
Hi ericam, my kids are not going to be as close in age as yours but my son turns one in a few weeks and will be 17 months when baby #2 is born. I understand your feelings, especially of worrying about not being able to continue all the one on one time with my son. I do think that while having 2 babies at once is probably more physically trying, I imagine whatever age my son was when I got pregnant again I would be having similar worries. If they were spaced further apart, you wouldn't be changing two sets of diapers, but you would probably be dealing with much more jealousy and sibling rivalry. Also, I think of the fact that my kids will be close enough in age (and certainly yours will too) that not only will they be able to grow up very close, but you can keep them entertained with the same things. You're already in baby mode and used to all that comes with a baby, especially no sleep. Its not like you will have to try to figure out how to get an infant to nap while you have an older child to pick up from school and drop off at different activities. Once #2 is out of the newborn stage you can try to synchronize their schedules somewhat. I'm sorry you're feeling so down right now, hopefully once the baby is here and you start figuring the best way to make things work for you, you will feel much better. I would also try to line up lots of help ahead of time. Good luck!
02-23-2009, 12:13 PM
Ok Listen to me. I already have a daughter first and then a son. My first day of morning sickness with baby no 3 was on my sons 1st birthday. I too felt sad. I felt sad for the same reason. I did not want to take attention away from him either and he was to little make a "middle" child.
Here is what happened. I cried for three days. I was still nursing. Time passed and I got used to the idea of having sons 20 months apart. My first son really enjoys his little brother and is real affectionate. He holds the baby and kisses him. They take baths together and share snacks. They are gonna ride rollercoasters together when they grow up. I picture them riding the school bus. They are the sweetest things.
There may be a silver lining at the end of your rainbow.....just hang in there.
02-23-2009, 12:41 PM
I'm not in the same position exactly but I do know how you feel. I have a 3 yr old a 1 yr old and I'm due with baby 3 on July 13th. My 1 year old was born exactly a week before my 3 yr old turned 2. Now I feel bad cuz I don't feel like she has had enough time with us and we are going to introduce a new a baby to the family when she is 1 1/2. It seems unfair but she can tell u "baby mama belly" she know's that their is a baby and everything, but I still worry about her reaction once the baby does get here.
02-28-2009, 03:28 AM
hi im new here but had to junp in. i have 4 children and between the oldest and youngest there is 4 years 3 months 10 days i know you can make it it will be hard but youll get the hand of it. i get stopped all the time and people ask me it there are all mine and i think no i take 4 5 and under to the store for the fun of it, i just love all the mommy i can i have this buy me that! them yelling climbing out of the cart picking on each other. then there are days that i love where we have movie days with popcorn and talking.
my 2 older boys both go to pre-school on the bus together and love it there are sad they will not be in the same class next year. but maybe well get to have the middle 2 boys in the same class. the 2 youngest sit next to eachother in the van and i look back and they are holding hands soooo cute!
youll have days when having close in age kids will drive you crazy but other day when you will look back and think that them being close was the best thing ever!! and they will be good friends my kids love eachother and i love to just sit back and watch them all play together.
sorry so long
my kids are colton 5 11-25-03
wyatt 4 11-23-04
conner 2 06-13-06
katherine 02-05-08 (on grandpas birthday!)
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