adopted son - bonding

[beachmom30]

I am having some trouble with my adopted son and I think he might have an attachment disorder. I am not sure if we bonded well when he was a baby, and now he has become very manipulative. I heard this was a result of bonding issues. Anyone with experience with this please respond.


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[SusanStiffelman]

It's never too late to develop a deep and secure bond with your child. One of the models I use and refer to in workshops is Gordon Neufeld's Six stages of attachment: Proximity, Sameness, Belonging/Loyalty, Significance, Love and Being Known. Each of these offers a variety of ways to fortify attachment with a child of any age; the bonds can be deepened and strengthened, even if they weren't at the beginning of his life.

[RLCOFFIN]

Please see my post under "trouble at school" - my daughter did not bond with anyone for years as a result of daily medication - Singulair. If he is taking anything, prescription or OTC, please refer to the sites and search. My daughter now is completely able to bond and show emotion (good emotion!). Good luck..