Time Management

[mommy2b87]

Is something that I have NEVER been good at. But now that my DD is 19 days old, and I am feeling much better, and able to get around for longer periods of time, I still can't seem to organize my household. Today I started to write a chore list, but it seems like it's just going to go on and on and on. My SO works, well, pretty much pt so i think it's fair that while I'm still healing and trying to get used to being with DD all day and night that he do some of the chores. I just don't know how I should divide them equally. We both have bad backs, so i'm thinking that we should switch off doing the floors, but right now, my back still hurts when i bend over to pick up DD. We only moved into our house about a month ago, and I'm still trying to find spots for things.
I know I need to manage my time better, and then I could get more cleaning done while he's at work, because I hate asking for help, but I really need advice on this one! Thanks!

[RImommy]

I think time management is always a struggle with a baby... especially one who is not even three weeks old. Just taking care of the basic needs of your daughter at this point must be pretty much constant, and if she sleeps like my son did you are probably exhausted. My best advice is to prioritize and cut yourself some slack. Don't expect to be able to have the entire house cleaned and organized everyday, it won't happen. The kitchen and laundry were my daily must get done chores, and beyond that I would pick something to get done each day during naps. I think your SO should definitely be helping you out. From my husband and talking to friends of mine, I think alot of times guys just don't realize how much needs to get done. I've tried waiting for my husband to do something that obviously needs to get done and I just get frustrated. I usually just ask him something like after dinner "do you want to clean up the kitchen or give the baby his bottle and bath". This leaves the option of me doing both out of the picture. Good luck... things will get more organized as your daughter gets into a routine.

[mommy2b87]

Thanks! That's great advice about asking which he'd rather do.. I know that'll work for us because he's usually up for balancing the work around the house...usually 75/25 me, but i think that'll seem less like i'm bossing him around. Thanks again!

[wright1212]

I am still trying to figure out a NEW way to do things with my 6yo, 4yo and soon to be baby. I work way more than full time and dh is a very full time student so BUSY is us. I swear by (but have a hard time sticking to) flylady.com
I have created my control journal and have my bills under control now. We are still developing a cleaning routine that works for us. It really breaks everything down into small tasks without feeling the need to have a total spot free house...babysteps baby steps. Plus your still adapting to what feels like never sleeping..just do little bits at a time and be proud.