Not potty trained at FOUR!!!

[cyco]

My 2 nephew's ages 4/5 were recently apprehended by the Ministry and placed in my husband and mine's care for several months (at lease)

One of the biggest concerns is the little guy may be ADD and HA, and that's he's not potty trained at four and a half.

We've only had them for three days so far, so I know it's a huge adjustment for them, they scared, miss their parents and trying to get used to a new place and routine.

Now with my children (who are all teens now) they were all potty trained by two. They were ready and told me so lol and were more then willing to become *big kids*

Now with Darrion he does NOT want to learn, does not want to try. He gets frusterated VERY easy and wants to give up very quickly. (not in only potty training but with everything)

Any advice would be appreciated :)

[wright1212]

First by HA do you mean high functioning autism? If by chance you do than the average age to learn to potty is 6 or 7. Second he has obviously went through a major life change coming into your home. According to Maslows Heirarchy of needs his basics need to be met first. SAFETY is first, then TRUST. Once you think he has developed a routine of other needs and is comfortable go back to potty. Learn what his interest are and really use them. Bargain, bribe, ect. Yeah its not right for a 2yo but he is older. Perhaps give a time. Set for like 45 sec and say try, do it a few times then try adding a prize like toy car or tiny pack of gummies. Also make sure to praise him in everything he is doing a good job at. DONT praise if he isnt doing good, but like if he uses manners, picks up something helps brother, throws something away PRAISE! That way he will know you are very sinsere in your praising. I really do hope this helps!

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