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I'm 25 and my hubby is 26, and got married at 18 and 19. We always knew we wanted to wait a while to have a child, but we got married really young anyway and have just been enjoying each other's company for the last almost 8 years with our pets. :)
My sister (who is 26) just had twins (her first babies), and I've been feeling to "baby-crazy" lately. My husband and I have been talking about it more and more lately, but we are still going to wait a few more years I think.
So in the meantime, I've been buying tons of baby stuff. Am I just weird? I know a friend of mine used to do this, but she was actively trying to get pregnant at the time. Here's what I do: Everytime I get the urge to have a baby, I go shopping for baby stuff. Clothes, bottles, blankets, toys, and even a breast pump. Over the last few days, I've been searching online for cloth diapers.
Am I just totally weird here? I literally have four large tubs full of baby stuff out in my garage just waiting to be used. I have almost everything I could ever need for when I get pregnant and have our baby. I went to Walmart a few days ago and bought an inutero heart listening thingwith the headphones. The only things I don't plan on getting yet is the stroller, carseat, and crib- only because they are too big to store right now and I don't want to get one and then find a new, better one later.
It's definitely letting me work out my baby needs, and I won't have to spend a lot at once later on. But it seems weird to me that the first department I need to visit in every store is the baby dept, and I don't even plan on having one for a few more years! Worse yet, I'm on baby/parenting websites (like this one) ALL THE TIME!
01-20-2009, 12:00 PM
HAHA!! You sound just like me except we are TTC!! I got stuff before we ever started though!!! There is nothing wrong w/ you except you are clearly going to be a GREAT mother b/c you care so much now & you haven't even begun to conceive yet!!! I too am addicted to EVERYTHING baby..esp this web site!!! lol!!! :)
01-23-2009, 05:41 PM
I am glad to know I am not the only one! We were not even trying to get pregnant, until I found out that I was. Unfortunatley, I miscarried a few weeks later and it devistated us. Now we are back on track and decided that we definatly want a baby and are trying again. I think its like therapy to go out and buy baby things when I am feeling depressed or anxious about getting pregnant again. I feel crazy though when I am checking out and the sales person asks when my baby is due and I have to say "I am not pregnant yet". I even went so far as to lie to once because I didnt want to feel weird. I said I wasnt very far along. My friends think I am nuts and worry that I am obsessed with be pregnant. I just think it helps to know I am working towards the goal of having a baby. Wish me luck! I agree with #2 you are going to be a great mom!
01-26-2009, 10:54 AM
I don't think you are crazy. I bought some books and a few small items that were on a great sale before we started TTC. But two words of wisdom....don't get everything now...otherwise, when you have that maternal feeling when you are preggo, you will have nothing to research etc. (Now that we are trying, I find myself looking even more....but I am trying to refrain from buying as I know it will be fun later.) Also, sorry I work in finance so I can't refrain...but if you are buying with cash..buy buy buy....if you are using credit those great deals...won't be great in the long run as interest catches the prices up quick (Compounding interest). I know I am crazy...but I can't help but give people that advise (you might already know this).
01-26-2009, 02:36 PM
I agree that you will be a great mom if you are already this excited and arent even trying yet but i wouldn't buy certain things right now. Baby patterns and colors and sizes and styles change a couple of times a year. I bought so much cute stuff when i wasn't far along and then when i was almost due the new summer lines came out and the colors and patterns were so much cuter. I wish i would have waited. Also, im pretty sure that things like baby nipple and pacifiers can get old. Not the actual bottle of pacifier but the nipples depending on the material. And if you are buying boy and girl stuff you are obviously going to throw most of it out unless you have b/g twins. Sounds to me like you should just give in an start trying. Its probably going to take you a while anyways. If you are on birth control it takes about 3 months to get out of you system. My doctor said that the average time for a couple to concieve a child is about one year. Anyway i say go for it and start trying now. Its the best thing ever and you and your husband will have an even greater bond with just a little less sleep!! Oh yeah.. unless you are really all for it don't try the cloth diapers. I did and that experience alone was worse than labor pains. Splurge on diapers and help the environment some other way.
01-26-2009, 03:23 PM
Carebear I totally agree on the diaper thing!!!! Those cloth diapers are a pain in the a**!!!! BBKT don't go crazy buying things you will also have a baby shower and while pregnant you will want/need to buy things just because you cant resist. I had so much stuff we hardly used most of it. It does take awhile to get pregnant if you have been using birth control. It took my sister almost a year. You sound like you can't wait to be a mommy so I say talk it over with your hubby it is a life changing event but a great one and don't worry about not having enough money or space or things like that because you will never have enough but you'll make do. GOOD LUCK!!!!
01-26-2009, 09:34 PM
Hehe, I do that too!!! We're not going to TTC until the end of this year but researching and planning gives me something to do until then. Kinda lessens the baby-want! I haven't bought anything and am still scoping out prices to make a baby budget. However, if I see a good deal, hubby says I can go for it and it won't freak him out!! He dosn't quite 'get' why I am already preparing but that's fine! He thinks it's funny!
03-03-2009, 03:31 PM
I laugh because I'm the same way. My boyfriend jokes that our children (when we finally have them) will have more clothes, blankets, stuffed animals ect then we'll have space for. I've sewn the entire room set (sheets, blankets, organizers, diaperbags, burp rags, cloth diapers, curtians, clothes, ect.) and have it all stored the plastic tubs in my guest room.
One thing that I do now is to sew layettes, burial gowns, blankets, premiee cuddliers, clothes and diaperbags to donate to my local hospital. Everything's used by the hospital or given to parents who need it. I also sew diaperbags and stuff them full of baby items to donate to the planned parenthood groups and the woman's shelter. It allows me to get my "baby fix" while I'm helping someone else.
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