01-01-2009, 01:40 AM
So my husband says I'm emotinally unstabel, because every year for christmas we have been in a fight for some odd reason and I'm getting sick of it, maybe I'am emotionally unstable who knows ladies how do i fix this its obviously new years eve so I'm typing prwetty badly because I'm depressed and I've drank a lot tongiht!!
01-03-2009, 09:14 AM
me and my SO do the same. we blame it on all the family members that are in your business at the time
01-06-2009, 11:45 AM
Christmas is a rough time of year in many homes. Theres so much pressure to make it so magical - financial issues can lead to fights. I can't remember the last time Januarys mortgage payment was on time! LOL :)
Even if magically you can afford your bills plus Christmas theres the other stuff - the family obligations, dinner here there and everywhere, stuffy relatives that require you and your children to act a certain way, control freaks, that Aunt who always manages to nicely INSULT you, time restraints, cooking, baking, buying, wrapping, decorating all in addition to taking care of your "wifley duties", the kids, the cleaning, daily cooking, laundry, add all this to a full time job and its no reason we are ALL emotionally unstable during the holidays - besides while you are being super woman, dealing with the crouds, getting up a 3 am to get a sale, working out the budget, travel plans, cooking, wrapping, etc HE is sitting on HIS BUTT watching FOOTBALL! I think we are entitled to be pissed off!
Then theres the "other" stuff. I come from a disfunctional family - no matter HOW old I get, Christmas is the ONE time I wish they were functional. I wish my mom and dad didn't have drug and alchohol issues, I wish my step-mother whom I LOVE didn't live in Georgia, I remember a time when all year might have sucked ( as a child) but it all faded away Christmas morning. For just 24 hours I had a GREAT family. Now that I'm 26, that is so gone! They don't even call me for Christmas because they are deep into their own depressions and way deep into the bottle by that point.
Somehow in the midst of all of this Christmas is STILL my favorite time of year ~ oh how far brainwashing reaches!
01-09-2009, 02:29 PM
How are things going Sept?? Having a baby pushes most relationships to the brink, and adding in the holidays seriously leads to disaster. You're not unstable just from that!!
Have things started calming down?? It took my DH and I about 9 months to find our way back to the same path after our DD was born. It was so worth all the fights because we came through it so much stronger and closer. We learned a lot about each other. You will get through this, hang in there!!
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