View Full Version : I want my SEXY BACK, after BF
12-22-2008, 03:02 PM
My DS#2 weened four months ago, and I still have no sex drive. I miss being my husbands porn star but I have been pregnant and bf'ing for three years. With two complicated c-section emergancies.
Although I love and desire him, perhaps I feel like I have nothing left for myself. I feel so depleated at the end of the day. Is it because of the pregnancy hormone in our bodies from breast feeding? perhaps because of my two c-sections..
any suggestions??? I miss the sexy woman I used to be in many ways.
12-22-2008, 03:12 PM
It's good that you want to be there for your husband in that way. Everyone is different and have different reactions. I can't answer out of experience because I raised my nephew and never gave birth to a child. I don't know if I've heard of the hormones being depleated by bf'ing. It MIGHT have something to do with the c-sections. are you feeling any repercussions from your last one? Any pain or discomfort?
12-22-2008, 04:15 PM
It could be any number of things- psychological effects from pregnancy including feeling less desirable to your partner or fear of pain to unadjusted hormone levels. I don't know the exact relationship, but I know that you can essentially get your fill of oxytocin (released during breastfeeding) and not "need" it from sexual intimacy. I don't know how long it takes after you're done breastfeeding to go back to normal. From my own personal experience, I become more desirable of sex the more often I'm doing it. It is almost like I don't realize what I'm missing while it is gone. Also, if you're tired and worn out at the end of the day, try spending time with your SO in the middle of the night or early in the morning- before the day has had a chance to wear at you.
12-22-2008, 04:38 PM
Thank you ladies, I have heard from friends that breast feed, that the hormone inbalance is what throws off your desires, I've been told to take evening primrose and many other herbs :) I will just give it time, my husband is so loving and understanding. I'm tired too... work from home full time, run two non-profits, and a healing practice and finishing my grad degree... lets get it on??? let me sleep.... thanks ladies!!
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