03-15-2008, 05:24 PM
We just went to a birthday party today. It was one of my 4yr old's friends from preschool. There was about 20 kids there, same amount as his preschool class. The kids ranged from age 2-7 and he knew most of them. He was ready to go, too, until it came time to get there. Then it was "I don't want to go to the party". He is good friends with the b-day boy. They pick each other for partners often and whatnot. But once the idea of going to this party with all these kids there became reality, he didn't want to go. He's fine when I drop him off at school. He has never been a cling to my leg and cry type of kid. But today at the party, he was awful about it. I brought my 2 yr old along, and b/c I didn't want my 4 yr old to feel abandoned or scared, I told him I would stay. But I almost think that was worse! He hung off me the entire time. His little brother was running around having a blast, but he wouldn't get more than 2 feet away from me. I asked him if he felt okay, and he said he was fine, he just wanted to go home, which we finally did. I don't know if I just should have left him there to begin with? He's always been this way, a little bit. The idea of going somewhere or doing something is daunting, but once he gets there, he has fun. Usually. This is the worst it's ever been. Is it going to get worse before it gets better? I need some advice on how to help him be more independent socially.