Don't want my boys to tattle, but...

[tamasco1]

Have 8 year old and 6 year old boys who ride to school with another family a couple of days a week. Apparently, their 9 year old is picking his nose and wiping it on my boys, and spitting on them when his mom's not looking so she's unaware. My kids came home today very upset, asking not to ride with them anymore. We live 20+ minutes from the school so the ride really helps us out, but obviously their well-being is more important. I also know they need to learn how to deal with bullies, but is this the time? I really don't know how to handle this. Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

[cay8099]

There is a big difference between tattling and telling an adult when something is wrong. Another kid wiping boogers on someone is gross. You should talk to this boys mother. If his behavior doesn't get better you may need alternate transportation. Tattling is when they do the MOM hes.....Mom now he's......MOM he won't...... I'd say it's better to show them you will stand up for them and fix the problem. Later in life they can follow your example and stick up for themselves.

[MommaC]

Yeah. If they've already done all the problem-solving they can, you should step in. Are they not complaining when he does this? I can't imagine that this mom really has no idea! (Unless she's driving a bus or talking on her cellphone.) I'd be on the phone with the other mom. And I'd let my kids know that I was trying to rectify the situation. If nothing changes, I'd go to Plan B for a ride to school. Good luck to you!

[tamasco1]

Thanks for the advice. In defense of the other mom, she has 4 boys of her own, plus she's a kindergarten teacher at the school. She's gotten very good at tuning out, I'm sure, especially all the non-specific "stop its". I'll be talking to her today.
Thanks again!

[veronica4x4]

don't let them sit near each other i'm a strongh beliver in seperation when it's needed. and talk to the mom ASAP!