Help with fellow member

[marlalovesmaury]

Hi,

I didn't know how to reach Jessica, so I'm trying this help section. I know I am not the only one who is having trouble with a specific member (I will not state his handle here). This person is not giving helpful or insightful advice, which I believe is the purpose of this forum. The other members are clearly upset by this member, who frequently puts down their religions, beliefs, etc. and nay-says everything. He clogs up the boards with pages and pages of writing so ridiculous one can't tell what the original thread was! He turns the most benign threads...something I'm sure the other members on here don't appreciate. The rest of us are on here for advice, answers to questions, and friendly chatter. I know I am not the only one here, and I really would like the boards to get back to their original helpful and friendly nature. Please help Jessica, if something can be done!

[kelly23]

Gotta say, I agree.

[War_Eagle]

Hi,

I didn't know how to reach Jessica, so I'm trying this help section. I know I am not the only one who is having trouble with a specific member (I will not state his handle here). This person is not giving helpful or insightful advice, which I believe is the purpose of this forum. The other members are clearly upset by this member, who frequently puts down their religions, beliefs, etc. and nay-says everything. He clogs up the boards with pages and pages of writing so ridiculous one can't tell what the original thread was! He turns the most benign threads...something I'm sure the other members on here don't appreciate. The rest of us are on here for advice, answers to questions, and friendly chatter. I know I am not the only one here, and I really would like the boards to get back to their original helpful and friendly nature. Please help Jessica, if something can be done!


Wow. A third thread started just to mock and attack me. I wouldn't have thought Jessica would have allowed even one, but here, she's allowed you guys to have three of them. That's pretty generous, huh? I wonder how many threads Jessica would let me start to attack you.

By the way, I notice that you completely ignored the fact that several posters have come to my defense and have pointed out that it is you and Cay and charlie'smommy who have attacked me, not the other way around.

You also ignore the fact that there are a couple of people here who have followed me from one thread to another for no other reason than just to harrass me.

[Jessica at Parenting.com]

Hello.

War_Eagle, as I hope you have noticed, I remove threads attacking you. In fact, I remove threads attacking anyone.

Unfortunately, I don't (and can't) watch these forums 24/7. The best I can do is address any issues when I sit down at my desk in the morning. There is no way to stop anyone from starting a thread.

To anyone who reads this:

Parents of all types come here to discuss serious, often very personal issues. They're worried about their health, or their children, or their families.

This is a community, and all viewpoints are welcome. However, there are rules, which are not up for discussion. From our Terms of Service, which everyone must agree to before they are allowed to register:

No material shall be posted on or transmitted through the Community Areas which violates or infringes in any way upon the rights of others, which is unlawful, threatening, abusive, defamatory, invasive of privacy or publicity rights, vulgar, obscene, profane, indecent or otherwise objectionable, which encourages conduct that would constitute a criminal offense, gives rise to civil liability or otherwise violates any law.

No conduct shall be undertaken that, in the Company's judgment, restricts or inhibits any other user from using or enjoying the Community Areas.

My advice:

If you don't like someone's comments on the boards, do not reply, if you think it's only going to end up in an argument. This also includes posts that are in reply to yours. I know it's difficult to resist the urge to defend yourself, but my best advice is to stop throwing logs on the fire.

If you have no advice to offer, and you suspect that your post is only going to cause an argument, please don't indulge. Also, please try to be sensitive to moments when your "constructive criticism" is unwelcome.

When you are involved in a conversation, try writing as if you were talking to this person face-to-face. We love that people come here to discuss serious issues. But please recognize when you've reached an impasse, agree to disagree, and move on.

[War_Eagle]

Hello.

War_Eagle, as I hope you have noticed, I remove threads attacking you. In fact, I remove threads attacking anyone.

Oh yeah, you jumped on one of them after only eight pages.


If you have no advice to offer, and you suspect that your post is only going to cause an argument, please don't indulge. Also, please try to be sensitive to moments when your "constructive criticism" is unwelcome.

So let me get this straight, when somebody starts a thread (three, actually, thank you Jessica) to mock and attack me, that's OK, but I should defend myself?


But please recognize when you've reached an impasse, agree to disagree, and move on.

"Moving on" doesn't do any good when there are people here starting unprovoked threads just to attack me and there are two posters who are actually following me from thread to thread.