Discipline at home for issue at school?

[zachsmom]

I wanted to get some advice. My toddler is 3 1/2. He is adorable, but definately has a mind of his own. He is very independent and a confident child. I know in the long run these are good traits to have, but as a toddler they can also cause problems. He goes to preschool 3 days a week and is in class with a little boy who is his best buddy. They have been best buddies since they started walking and talking and have always played great together. For some reason this year at school my toddler is playing very rough and seems to be kind of bullying his friend. He is not that way with any of the other children. We have punished him and tried talking to him time and time again. The teachers at school never really mention it, but he generally tells on himself when he goes into timeout because of this. Do y'all normally discipline your children at home again after they were already punished at school for what they did? Also, ANY advice on how to handle this situation with his best friend would be greatly appreciated!!!

[MommaC]

We're not there yet, so I'm not sure...it will probably depend on what the offense is. When I was in school, if we got in trouble, we were definitely disciplined at home, too. I don't think that was necessarily wrong...but I'm not convinced it was right either. If the school discipline is ineffective, then you definitely should do something at home. If the school discipline is doing its job, then go ahead and discuss the issues at home but don't feel you necessarily have to "make him pay" all over again. Good luck to you!

[hoffette2269]

My 3 1/2 year old boy has been getting in trouble at school too. What we have been doing is not necessarily disciplining at home, but taking things away when he doesn't have a good day. Or if he gets a great review from the teacher (I always ask), then he'll get an extra cookie, or maybe extra time to stay up that night. It's been helping a little, he still has some trouble at school, but it's a lot better from the beginning of the school year. I remind him every day when I drop him off to have a good day and listen to the teacher, or else mommy will be upset. Thank gosh this is still working, cuz I know it won't forever! Good luck!

[bvas81]

maybe if you have time and patience you might want to ask his little buddy's mom if he could come over to your house for a playdate. Like that you can see it for yourself and you can discipline your son if he does bully him. Talk to him.

[eniese]

We've tried the disciplining at home for problems at school with our 3 year old, and it just made him act out more. What we do now is talk every day about his behavior, whether good or bad, and talk about how we want to treat our friends/toys/teacher/etc. when he's had a bad day. It has worked surprisingly well. Also, make sure you are consistent with disciplining him at home for the same things he's having trouble with at school. If you let a behavior slide at home, it's likely to appear at school.

[veronica4x4]

they may need some time away from each other and tell him thant he can't play with his friend because of the way he play's with him!

[auntmaggie77]

Yeah, 3 is really too young to get into the discpline at home for school trouble thing. when I saw this topic, I expected to see an 8 year old or something.