Whats Wrong

[Mel89]

I'm a single teenage mom, working, and going to school. Me and my two year old son's father are not together but i'm the primary care giver. The only time i do not have my son with me is if i'm at work or in school. I know this may sound kind of strange, but my son doesnt cry when i drop him off at day care. But the times he sees his father he throws a fit and doesn't want to leave him. I'm very frustrated because his father does not see him every day, or every week for that matter but i do. It seems like my son likes his father better, or would rather be with him. I know this proabably sounds very me me me but i just feel so hurt when he crys for his dad but acts like it is no big deal when i leave. What am i doing wrong??

[cay8099]

Your not doing anything wrong. At a guess, I'd say he doesn't cry when you leave him because you have proven time and time again that you are coming back. You are dependable as the sunrise. You're always there, daddy is not. He loves both his parents and cries more for daddy because daddy is not there. Don't ask what your doing wrong, pat yourself on the back for getting it right. I bet he's awfully happy to see you when you pick him up though, isn't he? This happy to see you part is what matters.

[aglionz]

I completely agree. Children don't cry at daycare when they're being dropped off by the person they know will return! We went through this with our godson when we had custody of him. He never cried with us, but always cried when mommy dropped him off. The daycare teacher said it was because he wasn't always sure when he'd see her again, but he knew that we'd always be back.