Upstairs . Downstairs.

[lilmamaofthree]

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and have a scheduled c section November 17th .

But here's my biggest problem.
We live in a house with stairs. and the bathroom is all the way upstairs. I have to go every 20 minutes lol, and I have a 13 month old that just won't let me go without carrying her with me. If I leave her down in the playpen she screams at the top of her lungs and I feel so bad fro leaving her, so I just carry her with me. But it's major strain on me. How do I get her to learn to play quietly for 2 minutes until mommy gets back from the bathroom? And am I doing the right thing by carrying her with me every time?

[ra11en]

You really shouldn't be carrying her up stairs when you're so far along. She is just fine if you have to go up to potty every hour, its only for a few minutes. The best way to get her more okay with it is to tell her you have to potty and can't carry her with you - then go. Tell her you'll be right back. She'll still scream, but you know she's okay. Like Elmo says - when you got to go, you got to go!!! :)

The more you take her with you every time the longer she'll scream at you when you don't. Make sense? My 2yr DD hates it when I don't let her go into the bathroom with me. But sometimes I need just a freaking minute of solitude! So, I let her scream and pound on the door, its only a minute. :) There are few necessities in life - eating, sleeping, pottying - that are just basic needs that no one should go without or have to sacrafice for. In my opinion.

[cay8099]

Yes, I would just let her scream for the minute it takes to use the restroom. She'll eventually see that you come right back and learn to wait calmly until you do.

Is this your first c-section? If so then you may not realise that you won't be able to do the stairs for 6 weeks. I have stairs in my house and had to move in with my parents for a few weeks.

[MommaC]

I'd let her scream. You FEEL mean, but you're not ACTUALLY mean. ;) She'll live and learn. Your other option is to have her at least to the stairs herself. My daughter is 13 months, and I do not carry her up the stairs unless I absolutely HAVE to...and I'm not even pregnant! I think it's best to teach her to allow you to do a few things away from her, because there'll be more of that once your baby pops! Best of luck to you!

[craftyashley]

Let her scream. She'll get used to the new routine and realize you are only gone for a short while. Good luck!

[lou]

I had a c-section and did the satirs. we have a two story with the bathroom upstairs as well. you just have to go very very slow. and if you're like me one side will hurt worse than the other, so I went up the stairs useing only one leg to climb. I would let her scream for a few minutes too. after you have the section you won't be able to lift her anyway. for six weeks they say nothing over ten pounds. so basically you can only hold your baby and no lifting anything else. get her used to not being held now.

[1st Time Mom - Again]

Not only that but she needs to become a little more independent because after all she's going to need to wait if the baby has a poopy diaper, isn't she? Get her used to it now so she doesn't blame the baby for yet another change in her daily routine. There will be enough other changes once the baby arrives.