View Full Version : Prayers for Brayden
10-14-2008, 05:51 PM
Hello, I am new to the message board but would love to chat. My husband and I have alot going on now. I delivered our 1st child at 25 weeks and 2 days. Our little guy only weighed 1lb and 14 oz. He is critical right now. It is very hard for us and we could use all the prayers we can get! I had a wonderful 25 weeks of pregancy- no sickness ever- just a little tired now and then. I was due on January 12th and on the night of October 6th, I started to have what I thought were contractions (1st child so wasnt sure.) I went to the hospital to see if they were contractions and the nurse 1st told me that she thought I had a UTI. Several minutes later, I began to bleed. I was transferred to another room- my delivery room! After ultrasound, they told me that my placenta appeared to have a small tear b/c of its shape and blood was getting in the placenta which was causing contractions. I was given a sterroid to help his lungs develop within 48 hours. I was also given another med. to postpone labor- needless to say, my water broke at 4:45am and baby was born! My husband and I were scared. We knew it was very early and I had only had the sterroid in me for 3 hours to help the development his lungs. Here we are 8 days later and we have been on an emotional rollercoaster! Our son is very critical and is being taken care of (NICU) 24 hours around the clock. He spent some time at our local hospital and then was transferred to receive around the clock care. He is on a ventilator, has a chest tube (down to 1) and just came through his 1st surgery yesterday. Each hour we face another hurdle to jump (from tubes, to bleeding, to unexpected surgeries.) The Dr.s have been great and they just tell us that he is a fighter and some things seems to stay stable but he is still critical. Each minute we pray for our guy to get stronger. There are so many things that could happen to our little guy since he is so little. Some hours are harder than others. It is very scary not knowing minute by minute what is coming our way. Right now we are trying to stay positive and continue to pray. Brayden needs your prayers!! Love, Mom
10-14-2008, 06:19 PM
You have all my well wishes and support. Hang in there, my heart goes out to you. Think positive, and hopefully the positive will come to you!
10-15-2008, 11:03 AM
I Am So Very Sorry!! Your Family Will Defintely Be In My Prayers!! Stay Positive B/c He Will Be Okay!!!
10-15-2008, 03:37 PM
My name is Brenda and I know what you are going through. I was 29 wks with twins b/g when I had to deliver. I had the best pregnancy but devleoped eclampsia and toximia. I went to Dr's office on Thursday for swelling was sent to hospital for observation and my BP was stroke/seizure level. I too got the steroid shots, and was lucky because I made it to Sat and then they took the babies by c-section.
My little girl was 2.4 lbs, by boy was 2 lbs. They were in NICU for 9 weeks. They lost 15% of their body weight which is normal for all babies, but for preemies it breaks your heart to see their little bodies so bony with all these wires and IV lines. You applaude when they start gaining weight, but you count grams, not ounces.
You have a long road ahead of you but don't worry. I saw 3 other babies that were born between weeks 25-27 in my NICU and they all did great. The nurses will become very good friends of yours. Don't feel bad if you break down in front of them and be sure to ask any question you have. There are no dumb questions.
Take one day at a time and talk to your baby as much as you can. He can hear you and knows your voice. It will comfort him. Some parents even record their voices for the nurses to play for the baby when they aren't there.
You will be on a emotional rollercoaster for several weeks and there will be times that you feel like Brayden's progress is going backwards, but that is normal. There will be good days, and days that aren't so good.
Please feel free to email me and I will also send you some pics of them in NICU and pics of them now. They are 6 months old and right on track.
Here is my email firstname.lastname@example.org
10-17-2008, 04:33 PM
We will keep you in our prayers.
I cant say that I know what you are going through, because I dont. My sister has twins boys born early and they spent about a month 1/2 in the NICU. All I can say is that she was very close with the nursing staff. They also made arrangements for her to stay at an in house hospital ward, which was converter to a mini hotel for guests family in critical care. This gave her the ability to go and visit, whenever she felt the need. It was reassuring to her to be so close. Check it out and see if your hospital offers this.
10-19-2008, 06:17 PM
Hi my wife and I know what you are going through and we are praying for you. Our baby boy was born 31 weeks early on the 14th at 4 lbs. 1once. My wife’s water broke on the 12th she was out of town at the time and we did not even know about it. She thought that it was her bladder just being full from the night before. On the morning of the 13th I rushed her to the hospital as her contractions were getting closer together. I personal have never been so scared in my life to think that my first child might not make it. However he is doing fine but not out of the woods yet, if there is anything I can tell you talk to the nurses they will be your eyes and ears when you are not there, ask questions whenever you can and take all the pictures that you can. I talk to him everyday that I see him, I tell him how my day was or the latest football and hockey scores are. Please let us know how he is doing
10-20-2008, 11:39 AM
Friends of mine went through this. She gave birth at 7 1/2 months. Their little boy is now 7. You and your family will be in my prayers.
10-23-2008, 10:43 PM
I had my son at 24 wk 4 days. He spent 3 months in NICU and now he's 20 months and doing great! He does have a few developmental delays, but that's what Early Intervention is for (I recommend it as soon as the baby gets home!) Also, he wears glasses due to scar tissue from his retinopathy surgery, but he's cute as a button and ornery as ever! Your family will be in my prayers, but hang in there, each day he is alive is a blessing and one step closer to uniting your family at home.
**Another suggestion, get to know your nurse supervisor and head of the NICU. He/she will serve as a welcome relief on days that you just don't think you can handle staying there any longer!
10-24-2008, 03:23 PM
Thank you for your prayers. Brayden is now 18 days old and has now reached 2lbs! I can't believe how exciting an ounce even a gram is to us right now. Brayden has had a lots of good days this week. He seems to be a real fighter! I will keep you updated! Thanks!
10-24-2008, 03:26 PM
You are also in my prayers! I know how hard it was for us those first few days. I remember waiting up at night at the hospital to be sure everything was still okay- a good saying that one of our Dr's said- was to just sit, hurry up, and wait- this is true. It is all a waiting game. Each day that goes by is one more day of growth. We have realized that some days go by slower than others. Hang in there!
10-29-2008, 12:19 AM
You won't be able to IMAGINE everything in this following poem, but trust me, in the future, you will. We framed this along with pictures of our son on his first birthday and dedicated it to the NICU.
Imagine.....your baby's birth weight being less than a bag of sugar or a 2 pound free weight or a 32 oz soft drink
Imagine…your granddaughter's tongue the same size as a tic-tac
Imagine...not hearing your child cry until he was a month old
Imagine…trying desperately to stay pregnant for as long as you can, even at risk to your own health
Imagine…giving birth only to be told that your baby has a 40% chance of survival and if she does survive, she will be blind, mentally and physically handicapped and never walk
Imagine…the smile on your face and the tears in your eyes when one year later, that same child RUNS past that same doctor
Imagine...having a hospital feel like home and your house feeling like a place you occasionally visit to sleep
Imagine…not seeing your daughter’s face until she was four weeks old because she was ventilated
Imagine…being able to fit your wedding ring on your child’s arm
Imagine…leaving the hospital empty handed
Imagine…planning your newborn’s funeral
Imagine…having the hospital call a week after the baby’s birth and asking if you’re having fun with your new baby…the new baby that you’ve never even held because he’s in the NICU struggling for life
Imagine…boxing up all of your baby things because it’s too painful to look at them in the nursery
Imagine…signing papers to allow for surgery on a baby who weighs less than a pound and a half
Imagine…the pain of parents all around you losing their babies, grief and guilt mixed with relief that it’s not you
Imagine…holding your baby when she’s two weeks old and realizing that the blanket she’s wrapped in weighs more than she does.
Imagine…feeling the pain of seeing pregnant women
Imagine…having to choose to stop breastfeeding the child you’ve already taken home in favor of his twin sister who is still in the NICU
Imagine…the fear of ever having another child
Imagine......Being afraid of, and afraid for, your child.
Imagine......Not even knowing who's lips, eyes, nose, or chin your child has because you can't see their face for all the tapes, tubes, and eye masks.
Imagine....Your husband knowing your nurses and the NICU routine better than you because he's been there for five days already before you ever even get to see your son.
Imagine...the looks on the faces of your friends and family when you try to talk about the future
Imagine...Being ecstatic when your baby hits 4 pounds, or 3, or 2...
Imagine…knowing your baby is born but the only sound you hear is the door closing as they take her away
Imagine... getting condolences instead of congratulations when your child is born.
Imagine... Not getting to hold your child until he/she is nearly a month old.
Imagine... hearing comment after comment on all the things people didn't think your baby would ever do.
Imagine... that some of the most peaceful times of your day are when you are sitting attached to a breast pump!
Imagine... how quickly the rough past fades away when your child first smiles at you.
Imagine…trying to produce breast milk that your baby desperately needs even though your body isn’t prepared to produce it
Imagine…knowing your baby literally inside and out because of x-rays, heart monitors, brain scans and blood tests
Imagine…dressing your baby for the first time in doll clothes
Imagine…knowing that no matter what happens, your life will never be the same
Imagine....being able to turn this life altering, tragic journey into something that can help many, many other people!
~Taken from the March of Dimes website
11-16-2008, 11:09 PM
My prayers are with Brayden, yourself, and your whole family! I know God will take care of you all through this stressful time! I am so happy to hear that he is becoming more and more stable!
12-22-2008, 09:11 PM
wow aglionz that poem totally hit me hard, thanks for that, I can't say that i know what your going through because i dont either but just know that i will be praying for your little boy for sure, I'm really sorry that you have to go through this hard time right now. my friend recently went into see what she was having and her baby had already passed away she was 18 weeks she had to deliver him knowing that he wasn't going to cry or open his eyes, I'm glad that this didn't happen to you!! just have faith in the savior and everything will be okay. Can i ask what religion you are by chance or is that not allowed on here??
01-31-2009, 07:18 AM
Iam sorry about that. But don't loose your hope. Your son is getting ready to come home. He'll be fine and i'll pray for you everyday. God is there watching you. Dont worry sister.
07-07-2009, 03:22 AM
You and your family are in my prayers. Keep talking to Brayden, He can hear you and it helps. I promise. It doesnt matter what it is about. I used to tell my baby about the weather being cold and described the snow to him. Told him about the rain and rainbows. Everything. Hang in there, there will be good days and bad ones.
11-24-2010, 02:25 PM
My twin girls were born at 28 weeks. One of them tragically passed away after 5 days, but the other made it through 3 long months in the NICU with no lasting problems (so far anyway!). I understand the ups and downs of having a baby in the NICU far too well. Just take it day by day and try to stay positive. Visit your son as often as you can. Hold and touch him as often as the nurses let you. You and your son will be in my thoughts!!
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