how long does it take?

[mandyjh]

this is a little long, but after only 3 months of ttc our 2 child we got a very faint positive line on the test on aug. 28 on aug. 29 i started spotting i thought the faint positve was a mistake and i was was not pregnant after all, i continued to spot, no full blown period, so i called my doctor, on sept. 12 i went into the doctor she ran a test and it was positive, but i was still spotting so she put me right into ultrasound, i was devestated to see nothing, no sac and no baby, she told me it could just be to eairly.
She took about 15 viles of blood for alot of tests including the hcg that should double every 48 hours if the pregnancy is viable, sence it was a friday i had to go to the hospital 48 hours later on sunday the 14th for another hcg test to see if it was doubling that night about 4 hours after the test i started bleeding more than spotting, i was sure i was miscarring , i cryed all night.
I went to the doctor the next day on mon. and she told me that my hcg level doubled, i was so confused because of the bleeding, after i told her she started to worry that maybe somthing changed just in that few hours so they did another hgc test and ordered to get tested right then, she found that i had underactive thyroid, and luteal phase defect, the reason i wasnt as far along as we thought, sence your period starts soon after ovulation with the defect, so it confuses the body and dosent make enough prgestrone to keep the uterus strong enough to hold the baby, she was hoping this was the reason for the bleeding, so she put me on progestrone supplements to stregnthan the uterus, but sence the baby needs your thyroid to help develop the brain early in gestation, my doctor warned me that if the underactive thyroid hadnt help the brain develop i would still miscarry the baby. the test they did that day went up, so she put me on the supplement and synthroid for my thyroid and we crossed our fingers.
I had to go in every 48 hours to check my hcg, after a week of sore brusied arms, my levels going up , but NOT doubling, worry, and tears, my hcg level went down, 2 days after my birthday, we lost the baby, when i got that call from my doctor i was devestated, i was to stop the progesterone and wait to miscarry its an awfull feeling knowing that your baby is dead in side of you.
Its been 2 weeks now and i still havent misscarried, i am so emotional and stressed, i didnt know it would take this long, my doctor is only giving me one more week and then i will have to get a D and C.
Another sad thing is we cant try for another baby till my thyroid is back in order or i will just have reacurent miscarriages. its so hard.
Has anyone went through asittuation like this how long did it take you to miscarry and how long does it take to get the thyroid back in order?


PLEASE HELP!!!

[Mamadecuatro]

With my last miscarriage it took two weeks from the time we confirmed I had lost the baby. How many weeks would you be, technically? I was almost 16 weeks, so I actually went into labor at home. It was awful. We were trying to conceive our fourth child, but only our second birthed (we have two adopted children).

I experienced a very similiar situation a few years ago. My oldest son just turned one and I kept getting faint positive tests, went for bloodwork, with the same cycles you described; hcg levels kept going up, but not up enough....I had a D&C with that one. Looking back at both experiences; losing the baby at home and having a D&C. I think I would choose the latter, except for the fact of harming your uterus. But I just COULD not actively go to the hospital and choose to take the baby out. Even though I knew he was not alive anymore. It was beyond me. I am so sorry. It is VERY hard knowing that life inside you is gone. Its hard emotionally, every day just waiting...miserable. And too, your hormones are still going, so you still have some feelings of pregnancy. Which is confusing, because you know you aren't really.

My friend waited four weeks after they confirmed the baby was dead. She was to be 12 weeks along, but the baby measured 9 weeks. So she waited and waited. Four weeks. It didnt happen. Finally, she went in for a D&C. About three months later she conceived again. She just had a healthy baby born in August.

I hope I helped a little bit. This is a very hard time. There is the miscarriage thread of support if you are interested in reading other peoples' experiences.
I am sorry for your loss.

[brittneeskidmore]

Oh, dear. I am so sorry to hear your story and to know that you're hurting so much. I have never been through a situation like yours, but I do have an underactive thyroid. In fact, mine doesn't work at all. I thought maybe knowing that others with thyroid problems are able to have a stable pregnancy would make you a little more optimistic. I have been on thyroid hormone for many years, but I know it takes at least three months to get it to the level it needs to be. I have had a stablized thyroid for awhile, and I am currently 27 weeks pregnant with my first baby.

Please don't get discouraged. I'm sure it is terribly hard to think about right now, but once you get that thyroid stablized and now that you know the issue with the progestrone, you can have a successful pregnancy. Let yourself heal from this experience emotionally and physically, and by the time you're ready, your thyroid should be, too!

[mandyjh]

hey guys thanks for the encouragement it was great, however i am sad to inform you that soon after i posted that, i was home alone with my 2 year old son when i got a horriable pain in my stomach my mother came rushing over and called 911 sence i was passing out i went to the hospital and found that my pregnancy was actually tubal my right tube burst and i was bleeding inturnaly i went into emergancy surgery and i am sad to inform you that not only did i loose my baby at 7 weeks but i lost my right tube, i am numb with pain right now and i dont know what to think or feel, I AM SO SCARED! i need some more encouragment. CAN I GET PREGNANT WITH ONLY ONE TUBE?

[APEMBERTON]

Bless Your Heart!!! I Am So Sorry For You!! I Was Reading Webmd For You & From What I Can Gather The Good News Is You Can Have Another Baby, But I Think It Lowers Your Chances!! Again I Am So Sorry & I Will Look Further Into It For You!!

[APEMBERTON]

Hey I Also Wanted To Let You Know That Your Tubes Take Turns On Releasing Eggs So You Might Have To Get Your Doctor To Help You W/ An Ultra Sound To Figure Out When Your Left Tube Releases An Egg!!! Your Doctor Will Be Alot More Help Than Me , But I Just Wanted To Let You Know So Have Some More Encouragement!! It Can Happen & It Will!!! Try To Stay Positive!!!

[mandyjh]

thank you so much for doing that research for me apemberton on webmd its so wonderful to know that there is people out there like you so loving and kind even for people you dont even know you are so sweet and you put a smile on my face, sadly i am still at a point were i feel guilty when i laugh or smile. will the pain ever go away? i lit a candle last night at 7 and let it burn for an hour in remeberance of our baby for pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. some people have been telling me that at least i wasnt very far alone i know they mean well but it stills hurts i loved my baby from the start and you cant just replace love. i had to go to my best freinds baby shower the saturday before i had the burst tube situation and now my other best friend has her baby shower on this saturday going and buying a gift for the baby yeasterday was tuff, but i love both of my friends very much and am so happy for them there is no way i could miss there showers but when i am there it hurts to smile.

[APEMBERTON]

I Am So Sorry!! You Have Every Reason To Be Upset, But Don't Let It Keep You Down!!! We Have Been Trying Since Feb. To Get Pregnant & Last Month I Had A Miscarriage!! I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant Yet So It Was Hard, But I Couldn't Imagine How You Feel!!! My Sister Announcced Last Week That She Is 7 Weeks Pregnant.. I Am Happy For Her, But It Is A Sad Reminder, Ya Know?? I Know It Hurts If You Are 1 Week Along Or 10 Weeks Along!!! People Just Do The Best They Can I Guess!!! Anywasy, On A Positive Note When You Are Ready You Can Get Preggo Again!!! Yay!!! Try To Keep Your Spirits Up & Do Something Fun Sat. Before & After The Shower To Keep Yourself Uplifted!!! Oh & Your Welcome By The Way...anytime!!! I Feel So Bad For You I Wish I Could Do More For You!!! You Can Personal Message Me Anytime!!

[Mamadecuatro]

I am so sorry about your ordeal. That is quite a bit to take in! I know this sounds weird, but I too, have had a tubal pregnancy. It was when I was 19. They rushed me into surgery as it was rupturing (they didnt know how close it was until they got in there) It was my right tube. I have been pregnant five times since then, with only my left tube, but have only carried two pregnancies to term. One thing, since that surgery, I can feel when I'm ovulating on my right side, because it is way more sore. And it's been 9 years. So i can tell every other month when I'm releasing eggs on the right side. It seems pretty consistent. With my last preg. that went full term, the doctor actually confirmed twice that I had ovulated and conceived from an egg released on my right ovary. i asked her how that was possible, since I didnt have a tube! She said sometimes they can travel back the other way down the left side or something. But anyhow, I found that really encouraging! I hope you can take time to heal physically and emotionally. It is very painful, in both ways. I am praying for you.

[mandyjh]

thanks for the encouragment mamadecuatro it helps me a lot, how ever it does worry me a bit to hear you had 3 miscarriages after your tubal, me and my husband has agreed to try agin once i am healed, but once we have another baby sadly we will be done, we have a 2 year old son already and i had a ruff pregancy with him i got gallstones and cholastasis of pregnancy, it was very tramatic, and now to go through this, we dont think my body will be able to handle 3 full term pregnancies, we will already be taking a risk to have another full term baby. sence i have a 90 percent chance of getting COP agin sence i already got it once. i am very sorry for all the loss you have had to endure, i wish you well and thank you so very much for your prayes, i need all the prayers i can get.

[Mamadecuatro]

It makes me realize how much of a miracle pregnancy and birthing a healthy baby really are! Be encouraged! I conceived my first son 4 months after my tubal. I had a great preg, and birthed (via csection after two days of labor!) a healthy 9lb 8oz baby! Whew! The tubal in one way was a blessing in disguise for me, because I had such terrible endometriosis, when they went in to remove the tube they also cleaned up as much of the endometriosis as they could. I really believe this enabled me to get pregnant so quickly afterward, since it (endom) was causing infertility for me.

I didnt really have three of the same type of miscarriages, and two of them I think were caused by the stress of my life situations. My husband and I were not trying to conceive when I got pregnant with two of the three, we were in a bad place in our marriage and our lives. I had a molar pregnancy when our oldest son was 1 yr and our youngest was 8 weeks old (we had just adopted him!). After that I was told to not get pregnant for two years. I didnt want to anyway, since I was separated from my husband. Three years later I had a very early miscarriage, like not even five weeks, I dont think I would have known, except for the positive pregnancy test and twodays later I began to bleed but it was like a bad period. Thank God for restoration! My marriage is great and our children our thriving! We thought we would have a baby, and we excited to find out we were pregnant in Feb of 2006. At almost 16 weeks the baby died and I went into labor to deliver him. Now that was devastating. I have NEVER experienced pain like that. My husband and I both were absolutely lost. And having to deal with our childrens' mourning. Oh, it was horrible. I conceived very shortly after that (by accident) with our youngest son. I think for me it was good that I didnt have time to plan it or over think it, because of the fear and hurt, I would have talked myself out of it. But, because it happened so fast, I had to embrace it and go on. He is now 18 months old!

I dont believe that miscarriages and tubal pregnancies are related. Unless you have a history of miscarriages to begin with. I have had 6 ob doctors and all of them said my health issues were not at all related, just random, and how lucky for me to experience them all! :( Especiallly for my age. If I can encourage someone else, at least something good can come of it!

[mandyjh]

mamadecuatro i am so sorry for everything you have gone through, just when you think things are bad for yourself you meet somone that has had it harder i could never ever imagine the pain of dilivering a 16 week baby at home that is awful i am happy that your life is going so much better for you now i hope it says that way best wishes.

[cay8099]

If I can conceive and carry full term on half a uterus, you can do it with one tube. A woman's body is an amazing thing. Just look at what we can do. We are phenomenal.

[emersonblue]

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss. However, on the bright side, you can still have a healthy and normal pregnancy with one tube left. Your chances are lower than if you had two tube obviously but you will still be perfectly able to conceive!