View Full Version : Oh boy! In-laws are SEXIST!
10-02-2008, 09:37 AM
My In-Laws are Boy makers! So now that I'm pregnant with a girl I get to here all the wonderful - "oh, I'm so glad I didn't have girls" "I never wanted girls" Girls are "this", girls are "that". I feel blessed to have whatever I would have been given, boy or girl. But frankly I LOVE the "girly-ness" of little girls. In my head I have visions of dress up and dollhouses, and it tickles me pink! How do I handle all the negativity, he has one female cousin (out of 6 cousins) and she gets to hear it all the time and I think that is why now that shes 20 we never see her at family functions. I don't want our daughter to feel this way. What would you do?
10-02-2008, 09:53 AM
Maybe explain exactly that to your in-laws.
Also you and your hubby should make sure that you remind your daughter every day that she is special because she is a girl in a sea of boys. Maybe one day she'll tell her grandpartents that too. :)
10-02-2008, 10:09 AM
I've found girls to be the easiest to raise. What a horrible thing to say about a new baby. They should be ecstatic they get to have a wonderful girl in their family.
10-02-2008, 02:06 PM
My MIL is the opposite. She thinks men are inferior, stupid, idiots, useless, etc. and loves to talk about this in front of my children, including my son. She also nicely sent my daughter home calling my son a "stupid boy" I know how hurtful this can be as a mother, just make sure your children know this is not true and that sexism is wrong. Make sure they know you love them for who they are and that unfortunatly there are foolish people in this world who believe awful things like this. I would possibly do what I have not done yet and ask them not to make those kinds of comments in front of your daughter because you do not want her feelings being hurt.
10-05-2008, 10:03 AM
I would say to them that they are being very rude. A lot of times just people knowing that they are being "rude" will make them stop.
10-08-2008, 11:18 AM
Apparently it's not just my in-laws complete strangers have started with their pitty faces at my answer that I am having a girl. I was stuck in line the other day between to strange women we'll call them, ***** 1 and ***** 2. ***** 1 asked me what I was having and when I was due? I should have said, "Mind your freaking business would ya?" but no she was nice and I enjoyed the moment of attention so I answered, Feb and a girl. Immediately ***** 2 says oh poor thing and starts complaining to me about her daughter and comparing her to her son. ***** 1 chimes in with the same issues, but added how little girls wrap their daddys around their fingers and its sickening to watch! All of this to ME a COMPLETE STRANGER! These people are the reason therapists stay in business. I would never complain about my daughter to a stranger ( hahaha except on here of course). ALL I kept thinking was those poor girls, YOU bitches are HORRIBLE mothers!!!!
I should have said it ... that would have been great!
10-10-2008, 10:10 PM
Remind them that if it weren't for girls than they wouldn't be alive and then tell them to shut the hell up...
I'm sorry don't really do that.
This post just made me mad....
People can be so ignorant, seriously.
10-10-2008, 11:24 PM
Brandie, we (all of us) are not strangers. None of would know each other if we passed on the street, but we are not strangers.
10-11-2008, 08:06 AM
my wife cay8099 and I have two boys and we talk about trying for a girl so day, there are so many differences between boys and girls and I think it would be just as enjoy able to raise a girl as it has been raising boys. and brandie ***** 1 has no idea what she is talking about because not just little girls are wraped around there dads finger. my first son is 5 and he is wraped around my finger he gets away with more with me and trys more with me, where as his mom means business. don't get me wrong I have to crack down on him sometimes and I don't allow him to do something she said no about, but I tend to say yes more and allow him to do more. I will most likely be the same way with our new son as well. also I have a niece and a nephew whom I spend a good bit of time with and I treat them the same. I think all children regardless of there sex should be treated the same. so tell your in-laws to shut the hell up and be glad that they have a chance to be a part of your baby girls life.
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