Divorce

[Izzybaby2008]

my husband of 6 yrs who lives in Az and no i live with my parents in texas and he told me that he didnt want to be with me and that he found someone else we have a nine month old daughter i'm crushed and then he goes i want a divorce and i'm scared that he would try to get custudy of Izzy hes been in jail and smoke pot do you think they give him custdy or favor me because i live with my parents and well i'm bipolar and i see my doc and take medicine i dont know what to do all i do is cry

[navy0317]

I am sorry to hear you are getting divorced, it is never easy. When I got divorce I thought it was the end of the world. I am now in court with my ex- for child support, since he doesn't pay any. He hasn't sen his son in 2 years and all of a sudden he wants vsitation. That IS a reality I have to face, and so do you. BUt the upside of the weekends when you won't have your daughter is, you get to do what you have postpone. catch on sleep, read a book, have a date with a girlfriend, go dancing. so many things to do. They won't take away your child, but if you are feeling depressed you should go see you psychologist. And let out some steam. Just remember things happen for a reason, and something that right now seem to be the end, you will see that things happen for a reason. He wasn't the right man for you, you never know the right one might be right around the corner. good luck,and take it day by day,

[Noel]

I am sorry you are going through this. I am not with my husband right now as well and am going to file for separation soon. He is in the Navy, was blowing all the money he made(he is in the Navy). I was pregnant on bedrest last year and getting ready for a C-Section(my first surgery),he was not supportive and quit buying food etc for the house. I have 3 daughters from a previous relationship, my youngest was crushed when he suddenly started acting like a jerk..anyways, he has threatened me, saying he was going to get custody etc. A judge will not take custody away from you if you are capable of caring for your child, even if you are bipolar, as long as you are on you meds and doing well. I lost custody of one of my daughters a few years ago, however I was messing up. I have severe recurrent depression and PTSD and was not on any meds. I am going to get back on my meds soon as I had my baby 3 months ago and with everything going on with my hubby(he is now sleeping on the ship). He hit my daughter last Oct. we moved into an abuse shelter and now I am living in our townhouse temporarily. He even has a girlfriend whom he swears he doesn't have(his ex girlfriend from long ago and I are friends and she saw his Myspace). All this make me feel like I married a child and like I have no control, however we do have come control. While we can't control what the men we choose do, we can do the right things for our kids. If you are not getting child support, I suggest you do so. Even if he isn't there for your child the extra money will help support him/her and you can get support even if you are still married. I would def file for divorce, or at least separation if you still have hope your husband may eventually change his mind about your marriage. My husband calls once a week to try and talk me into giving him another chance, I have to say no to him though as I gave him too many chances in the past. Just know this though, you show people how to treat you. If you let him go and do whatever he wants while you sit in wait..you are telling him you will put up with being treated badly, and you show others you do not respect yourself..and you should respect yourself. We as mothers and women deserve to be treated with love and respect, we all work very hard.

[rmschmitt49]

Izzy's mommy, I'm really sorry to say this hun, but you need counseling. For your daughter's sake, find some help. Check with your church to see if they have anything available. I've read lots of your posts...sounds like you were very young when you married and are very young now.
You need help dealing with your marriage, your child, and your parents and the living arrangements you have now. You sound very lonely also. This is a great forum to gain advice and vent to other parents, but it sounds like you are in need of professional guidance that others here are not qualified to give you.
Please find help.