Boyfriend thinks he'll be a bad dad

[GEARsMom]

So, back story. I'm a single mom with an 18 month old. I'm 23 and in school full time. Yeah, kind of busy.

I met a wonderful man. But, he's a tad younger than me (3.5 years). And he has a temper.

Warning flags, I know.

He yells and can tend to be derisive when he's really ticked off. The thing is, he's never done this to me, but I've seen it done. And he's worried about what will happen when my son gets older and begins wrecking everything he touches (as babies are want to do).

He also gets angry because I simply don't. I don't understand getting upset over material items. For example, my son broke 350$ glasses that my boyfriend bought for me just two months ago. He was livid. And more so when I didn't get upset.

Is it bad, that I'm ok with this? My dad yelled at me like it was going out of style. Most of my friends have dads who are belittling and mean. I know that it's not okay, but I know that he'll grow up and I will always be there to help set things right.

So, first question: Am I wrong for still wanting to be with him?

Second question: Any advice for the (ex)boyfriend? (Yeah, he left me recently because he "knows" he'll be a bad father)

[ra11en]

Your first priority is to your child, and if your (ex)boyfriend has a temper that he can't control, even if it's "just" yelling, he has no business being a partner to you in raising him. You shouldn't be okay with those red flags at all, not with a young child involved. You being there to set things straight will NOT undo damage inflicted by your (ex)boyfriend in his fits of temper and yelling.

Considering the bf is willing to break things off with you on the grounds that he won't be a good parent...no you shouldn't be with him! Your responsibility is to your child, not your personal relationships. Sorry, but that's what it boils down to IMO.