7 year old dilema

[LAFifty950]

I would like any kind of feedback on this issue...... I have a 7 year old son his mother and I were never married, never lived together, so the only thing my son has ever known is a 2 home life. For the first 5 years she had custody of him and a little over 2 years ago I (through courts) gained custody of him. Before I gained custody I had him every weekend and she had him all week. Now since i've recieved custody she has him every other weekend and every wednesday night. I have noticed that my son seems a bit emotional at time and some of the times I can sum up to him being competitive i.e. when he doesn't get a hit in baseball or doesn't swim the fastest. But there are other times he seems emotional like when it is the weekend when he is to go to her house and I forget to remind him that he will be staying with her over the weekend I usually get a phone call or text about how he is crying and is inconsolable. Is there something I should be doing other than making sure he is up to date with when he goes to his mothers house? In these calls she tends to bring up that she thinks he needs counselling because he is too emotional. Now he is an only child at my house but the oldest of 2 at his mothers house could this be a cause? Does anyone happen to know of any kind of things I should be looking for to let me know he might need to see a couselor? His school work is phenomenal he never brings home less than an "A" he even recieved recognition from the school superintendant. He has many friends at school and when we do weekend functions where other kids from school are there he interacts with them, runs, plays, does what kids do. He does come home some times and complain about a child or 2 but I figure this is normal is doesn't sound like bullying to me one child seems to have a catch phrase of "thats stupid" after everything my son says (he talks a lot very social). But at the same weekend events he is out playing with that same child so....... I don't know any help would be appreciated.

[aporthetalk]

That's a tough situation, I hope you and he are able to spend time with yourself together alone, in addition to getting him out with other kids. Both are important aspects of that family relationship especially where he doesn't have that everyday mom in his life. It may also be tough for him where he did at once have his mom around all of the time and now his younger siblings still have her. His relationship with his friends sounds normal, you will always have that one kid who is a little more "lively" than others. So long as it is not a violence issue, maybe you could talk to the other kids parents to see if there are any issues. I would say spend as much time with him to solidify your relationship with him, not to give him everything he wants, but to teach and support him. There is no substitue for spending time with your son. Good Luck!

[phoenixmom04]

Have you talked to your son about it? Maybe you or his mother could ask him during a calm time why he was so upset. I have a 7 year old son and he's very capable of articulating what is wrong with him if he's upset. Maybe you should ask your son directly what is bothering him and don't give any suggestions about what it might be, just see what he answers. It could be something you haven't even thought of that is the cause. Good luck!