my husband won't have sex with me

[meggymo]

It's been 2 months and I know it's not that long since I had my baby but I feel that I am ready to make love to my husband again. But he refuses. He just teases me all the time but never will do it. I asked him once or twice but he said he's got lots of things on his mind and he is afraid he will not perform well. He also said he has no time to do it and reasons that the baby might wake up. Am so embarassed to say but i caught him twice, doin his thing in the bathroom and looking at porn pics. He said am sexy and am hot but he would never touch me like the way he did before. I feel sad and feeling unpretty. Anyone who can tell me what's goin on or any advice..

[juliep80]

Trust me, you don't need 2 people to have sex. You can do perfectly fine by yourself. Take some time and enjoy yourself a little. And I would bet that if he caught you then he might rethink things a little.

[meggymo]

thanks Juliep80... i guess i just want things the way they are right away. I'm afraid he might want to do it with someone else and not me or maybe am not smoking hot in his eyes that he would rather look at porn pix. but anyway, i will try to get caught and see what happens..

[addies_mom22]

there are a number of things that could be going on here, my bf for instance, was the same way for a while because he'd just seen me go through so much pain, he didn't want to cause me more. There are also the men who, after seeing a gaping wet bright red hole (at least, i think, i only vaguely saw it in the birthing room mirror right after my daughter was born) get sewn up after a little human emerges from it can find the experience unsettling and have trouble reconciling that image with the relatively small and dark little space that they had been used to before. some guys can't get the image out of their head and they can never make love to their wives again. try talking to him about it.

[meggymo]

hi addies_mom22. i tried talking to him. he said that he is just stressed from working and thinking that he should be more responsible because its not just me and him. but i think there is more to that. i asked him if he is afraid of me because of what he saw in the delivery room but he said am not afraid of you nor what happened in the DR... i don't know what to think anymore..

[mum2mum]

Hope this ebook called 'Sex After Pregnancy' from http://www.mumsafari.com/for-mum-to-be will help.

It will help new parents to enjoy satisfying sex life just like they used to be! :)