Moving a toddler- Need Advice!!

[sakrawi]

My husband has been offered a job in another state. As it stands, I am going to stay with my job here until the end of the year. However, our biggest challenge is how to handle transitioning our 3 year old. He is currently at a daycare in our area. If he stays with me, I would have to handle 'being a single mom' for 2 1/2 months. If he goes with my husband, my parents will be there to take care of him and they also own a daycare so the transition to another daycare will be fairly simple. This seems like the most plausible solution. My biggest concern, however, is how he is going to handle seeing me on weekends only for the next 2 1/2 months- and I am actually horribly hearbroken about it too. Anyone have any suggestions or input? Help!

[puddin_pops_mama]

This sounds like a tough situation, sakrawi. I think you are right in thinking that the easier daytime transition will be with your parents in their daycare. But how will he do at nights without you? Maybe you could make up a new routine that would happen every night that you're away, and something that's pretty similar on the weekends that you're there, too. Maybe you could read a book over video chat or sing a song together - something he really looks forward to that allows for some "mommy time" on a daily basis.

I have a 1 1/2 year-old, so I can't make the best guess as to a routine with a 3-year-old, but I'm guessing that some routine would help in your absence (for both of you).

[NaomiK]

You say if he goes with your husband, your parents will take care of him? Not your husband? That confuses me a little.

I would want my daughter to stay with me and transition to your parents daycare when you move there. I mean, if he stays with you, your a single parent. Sure, but its only 2 and a half months. You can do it, have some faith!

Alternately, your husband would be a single parent though. So this is really a decision no one can make but you and your family.

Wont the transition to the daycare be fairly simple either way as long as he is going to your parents daycare?

[juliep80]

That's a tough one!

Off the top of my head, I would consider having my son go back and forth every week or maybe even less. It would cause all kinds of problems with his schedule but it might be the best option for him getting to spend time with the both of you.