Ex Says No To Child's Activities W-ends

[oceanwalker]

Oh I need some help here. My ex and I have one child together, age 11. My son has activities on the weekends. My ex gets my son every other weekend and one afternoon/eve per week, per our divorce. Now, when my son is doing great and enjoying his activities, my ex will not allow him to participate for 3 hours on his (ex's) weekend. He is pulling him out of the activity, and that will prevent my son from being on the team, with his friends and doing what he loves best. Does he have this right?? I don't think so, kids have activities on their weekends, and now he is taking him out of his activity which will kick him off the team, I've already been told this. What should I do?

[JACKEMAMA]

Not really sure what you could do other than explain to your ex that this isn't fair for your son...How does your son feel about this? Had he expressed that he doesn't want to pulled out of the activities? Does your ex have a valid reason for pulling him out of these activities? Maybe you could try to talk to the coordinators of these activities and explain the situation...Not really sure what your son is doing - sports or what? But if your ex isn't cooperative after you explain that it's not fair for your son then that's when you should tell the coaches or whoever that there is nothing you can do (if you can't) and maybe you can work something out for your son that doesn't seem unfair for other teammates who do attend everything...? Good luck!

[bigdon]

Find a new ex husband

[MrsBurke]

How about telling him that he can spend the time with his son during the activity that might be a good idea.

[Lissy04]

Dear Oceanwalker, I'm also a divorced parent of two and know how hard it is. I have gone through the LEGAL procedures and want to share with you what my documents say. "Scheduled events: In the event that the children have a game, scout meeting, religious school, party or other extracurricular activity, then the parent with the children is required to assure the children's attendance, provide that the parents have agreed that the children will participate in these activities. The children's wishes should be taken into account before any scheduled event is missed." My advice to you is to take your ex back to court and try and get this into your agreement, if its not already there. Don't EVER deny your ex from seeing your son because it can come back and bite you in the butt. In the mean time talk to the coaches and explain the situation to them, if they still don't care then unfortunately your son will have to pay the consequences and trust me your son will realize who's fault it was!