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[lisamama22001]

I have three beautiful children, but my youngest was born without his hand and is missing a part of his arm. It doesn't bother anyone in my family or my friends, but other mothers at my daughters school have made COMMITS about my son. I don't say anything I just pretend that I could not hear them but my children hear and they get upset about what people say. Any advice on how to explain to them about what to say when people are being rude? Please

[WilliamnJacksmom]

I would look them straight in the eye and say I can hear your comments and you are being really judgemental. Your rude comments are hurting my children and you are teaching your children to be intolerant to the many differences we all have. You should be ashamed of yourself for judging a BABY!!! Then I would turn around and walk away. In a perfect world that would be easy to do, well in a perfect world you wouldn't have to say anything because it wouldn't happen. Also know that your babies are beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks. Some people are just dumb like that thinking that they are perfect. Keep your head up high and don't let this get you down.

[winslowtribe]

I agree with WilliamnJacksmom I would say I can hear you and so can all these children you’re hurting my Childs feelings and teaching ignorance and walk away.

Why is it the nice people always coward away while some mean judgmental person feels so free to speak there minds. Teach your children to hold there heads up high and call out childish behavior from ignorant people.

Besides could you imagine what these people would do if someone said something about there child they wouldn't have it and neither should you.

Calling them on there rude behavior will only teach your kids to stick up for people no matter what. an important lesson.

You hold your head high and proud girl and go get'm TIGER!!!!!!!

keep us up to date were cheering you on!!!!!

[lisamama22001]

thanks it has been getting better. Now people come up to me and ask what happened. I tell them that we don't know that he was born special(all my children are very special), because the doctors don't know what caused it. It has been getting better, but I still have to deal with really rude people. thanks again

[JWills]

Why is it the nice people always coward away while some mean judgmental person feels so free to speak there minds.


How true.


"Ignorance, unfortunately, is the key to any type of prejudicial behavior - and parents are often the ones who teach their children these types of behaviors; just like prejudice amongst races, they just haven't chosen to thoughtfully "walk in another's shoes" before passing judgement. It makes me happy you can't understand the motivation of those who choose poorly; it shows the treasure you are in this world. Way to be!"


I think that WilliamnJacksmom gave some good advice. I cant think of anything to top it off. Good luck, like Winslowtribe said, we are cheering you on!

[kholden]

I am so sorry that you have to go through that. I agree with everyone- you should tell them how you feel. My situation in no way compares to yours. But I have a rather large 8 month old baby and I can't leave the house without someone commenting that he is fat. No matter where we go, someone has to say something. Why do people say that? Would they look at an adult and say "How Fat!!"?
I am glad that your issue is getting better and my heart goes out to you for having to deal with people's ignorance

[AmyKay]

React the same way you want your kids to react. It's in our nature to be defensive, but your kids may be better off to learn that self-worth is not in what others think of them, therefore their rude comments don't even deserve a second thought. Teach them to handle themselves with the utmost integrity and grace. In other words, to hold their heads high, and to always be polite. If people are truly rude, then being rude back will only make it worse. Your honest answers to folks' curiosity is best. Just be matter of fact. If people arent' directly talking to you, just ignore them. Your kid will be doing that for the rest of his life, sadly. But he'll be fine if you teach him that it's fine. You're a good mom in a difficult situation. Kudos to you!