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09-09-2008, 12:15 AM
Hey, I thought I would drop in today and see how the board's were doing, and how all of you were doing. I haven't really noticed any mean threads and/or comments, so I thought I would say hello.
How are all of you and your children doing? My family is going well...But I did have a question for you all. Tonight I was at my mom's and when I got back she started saything that I don't change Damen enough because he has a diaper rash (I do not like Parent's Choice wipes!) So, I told her to stop bitching at me, I am a grown woman...and then she just kept doing it. So I was like, "Okay mom, fine, whatever." And left, then she calls me to complain some more, soooo....I just hung up and shut off my phone.
--I don't really feel like bringing her around me or my boy if that is how she's going to act..I mean seriously, I'm the one that carried him for 9 months, and then spent 23 hours in labor, my name is on the birth certificate. I am sure I'm his mom..not her. Is this going overboard, or am I justified?
09-09-2008, 08:31 AM
hi jenn, good to see a post from you again. Personally I don't think you are going overboard. Negativity is never needed especially when it's coming from your mom. I am assuming from the tone of your post that you have tried to talk to her before about this stuff and that you are finally at the end of your rope. I would suggest that you send her either an email or a handwritten letter explaining once again how her attitude makes you feel, and what you want her to do etc and send it to her and then let it go. She will either change how she treats you so that she can be around her grandson or she won't and she'll miss out on a terrific munchkins growing up. Good luck hon. Keep us posted.
09-09-2008, 08:35 AM
Some moms just can't let their daughters go even if they do have their own children. I had a friend whose mother was the same way and unfortunately she had to live with her for a few months. I thought she was going to lose her mind. Being a mom of a new baby is stressful enough with added pressure. Maybe, I don't know, but does she even realize how she is treating you? You may just have to gently talk with her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that when she does/say ________it makes you feel_________. Just try not to get angry cause then she might think you are attacking her and she might get defensive.
A suggestion for the diaper rash that the nurses gave me in the NICU is to put Desitin on your little ones bottom every diaper change. This will help to prevent the rash to start with. Also, make sure the Desitin is 40% Zinc Oxide, this will help if the pooh/pee has a high acid content.
09-09-2008, 10:47 AM
Every baby gets a diaper rash once in a while. If the rash is really bad or has stuck around for a while, I can kind of see where your mom is coming from, though continuing to bother you about it isn't going to make it disappear so I don't really see her point. And you are not going overboard, no.
I learned through a lot of trial and error that certain diapers gave my kids rashes themselves. It wasn't just what my kids were putting in those diapers. DD needed the absorbancy stuff in the higher end diapers to pull the contents away from her skin so dhe didn't get the rash.. she wears Luvs. DS on the other hand is allergic to the absorbancy material (crazy, hu?) so I buy him the cheep old generic diapers to prevent his outbreaks.
I do use PC wipes and personally love them (the sensitive skin ones)... but I completely understand your dislike of a product :)
09-09-2008, 10:58 AM
First of, welcome back Jenn. Second, the boards had gotten a little nutty here there was a hateful thread posted on here which had to get deleted. Third, ahiyayai,grandma, that is only normal. My mom does it to me ALL the time, if I donít change her enough, if Iím feeding her the right food, ext. My mom lives with us so Iíve learned to deal with it. I see it as her being over protective of my child, I know you the mom but imagine its her babies baby is all I can say to explain their behavior. Now about the rashÖif your little one constantly has a rash maybe is your diaper brand. My baby kept getting rashes so we changed our luvs brand to pampers, it worked like a charm. Good to hear that you and the family are doing well.
09-09-2008, 11:15 AM
Hi Jenn, for the diaper rash, if you use diaperash ointment, keep a little washrag handy with your diaper supplies, use it to dry the tooshie off before you put the ointment on. Otherwise, you'll trap moisture (from the wipes) next to her skin. And lay that stuff on thick! As for your mom, you should talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel.
1st Time Mom - Again
09-09-2008, 11:28 AM
Jenn, you are absolutely justified. I would tell her that "bitchin'" isn't going to solve anything. And ask her to give you CONSTRUCTIVE advice such as you get here.
As for that, I agree with the other ladies here. You need to start with his diapers. My daughter was only able to use one brand of disposables and could not use cloth diapers at all. My son can use any type of high end diaper (Pampers, Huggies, Luvs) but nothing generic.
If that doesn't work: at the hospital where DS was born, they used Dr. Souder's triple cream which was a compounded diaper rash ointment made up of equal parts of petroleum jelly, lanolin, and zinc oxide. That stuff is miraculous. When my son even starts to show a little red I put a VERY thin layer of this on and it's gone by the next diaper change.
09-09-2008, 12:55 PM
His rash really isn't that bad, there is a bit of a red tint to it, but that is it. A lot of people bought me Parent's Choice wipes and I really think that is the problem, they aren't soft and don't seem to work very well. I usually use A&D ointment on him when he is looking kind of red..Thanks for the advice, guys.
09-09-2008, 01:07 PM
Glad to see a post Jenn!! How's it been going other than your overprotective mom?? :)
In my opinion, you did exactly right with your mom. My MIL, very rarely, goes over the line by making comments like that - "What are they doing to you Mama's" or "Look at that rash, mama isn't taking good care of you" and I instantly stand up and speak about it. Never hold it in, talk about it right away. Good for you! Darn straight, you are Mama and what you say with your child(ren) goes, period. No room for discussion.
If you are looking for a new diaper ointment, I can't speak highly enough of Dr. Smith's. My ped recommended it and it is awesome. One or two applications does away with even the worst diaper rash. Love it!! Kinda expensive, but it only takes a teeny bit (can hardly see it on) to work so well worth the initial investment. Can only buy it at Walgreens / CVS / pharmacies.
So happy to see a post from you Jenn!!!
09-09-2008, 02:55 PM
I'm glad to see your back!!!
I didn't like the Parents Choice brand either. I always bought Pampers Brand, I didn't like the way the Huggies brand smelled. lol.
When I would take my boys a bath after they were dried off and lotioned up, before I would put on their diapers I would put on a little bit of diaper rash cream. I used Desitin, it's the only one I've ever used. It definitely keep the rashes to a bare minimum. They've only had a rash about 2 or so times. Worked great for me.
09-09-2008, 05:39 PM
Parent's choice wipes gave my son more rashes than,I can remember!I went through 2/3 of the packs I got before I figured it out!I think it's that they are too strong..About your mom,I really think that most mom or MIL or even and in my case it's a grandmother, are like that..They think they know everything and Are perfect..ughhh I told my GM that she had a chance to raise her children and make mistakes(not implying that you made any mistakes) without anyone breathing down her throat about it and that she needed to give ME the opportunity to parent Logan the way I see fit!If I make a mistake or even a decision that she is not happy with she had to let ME learn from it!I hope it gets better for you..In my case I always wanted my mom and GM to be proud of me as a mother and when my GM puts me down or critizes me it makes me ten times worse then if it were anyone else!
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