View Full Version : New Mom having trouble making friends
02-28-2008, 05:07 PM
After getting pregnant and having my son I was dumped by most of my non mommy friends, what can I do to make new friends and actually have adults to talk to? Im also moving into a better neighborhood, since the neighbors here are really loud and not friendly at all. I'm also a young mother and I have lately felt shy after having my baby, What can I do? My Fiance tries to keep me out and busy but I still need someone to talk to.
02-28-2008, 05:24 PM
I wish to delete this post, thank you.
02-28-2008, 06:46 PM
is there anything to do with an 2 month old?
02-28-2008, 07:09 PM
OOH boy join the club. Same thing here. We are total outcast! and then the few you are left with conversations are left to almost nothing. Because it basically comes down to you have nothing in common. I don't know what to say as far as meeting other moms. I haven't been so lucky. When I had my son I was 24 so the moms I would meet that where stay at home moms like me. where older and wouldn't give me a chance ( I guess I was too young or something). The few that did started to treat me like if I was a baby also. SO seven years forward none of my friends have had kids, we are on our second. and needless to say I still don't have moms for play date. Good luck on your end! stay strong!
02-29-2008, 10:50 PM
I'm a mom with a 1 1/2 y o and a 2 1/2 y o. I make friends with everyone. It doesn't matter who or where. I say Hi and ask how they're doing. I ask about their kids and what they're kids are doing. In invite everyone to my house for playdates. My house is full of toys and I have a huge back yard. When moms come to my house we just talk about how things in our lives are going. Even if we don't have a lot in common or we see things very differently, we still can get along. I really love making friends with everyone. I truly love everyone. Try any of these things and see if you too can make a friend.
03-01-2008, 09:37 AM
thanks for the help.
03-01-2008, 08:03 PM
Haha, my single friends slowly stopped coming around as well. I'm only twenty yrs old and my husband is twenty three. We have a seven month old and that stops us from being able to go the bar until 4am haha. They don't really understand, especially because they're in their early twenties. I found people in my area who are my age and have kids my sons age on myspace. I found them through mutual friends and it's worked out ok, they actually live two blocks away! We don't hang out too often but it's nice to have someone to call who is your age and has a baby your baby's age.
03-02-2008, 05:23 AM
Hi, we were the first of our friends to get married, have kids etc, so we gradually lost any social network we had. I was extremely lonely and my husband worked long hours. I joined a local Playgroup, even when my daughter was tiny and too small to play - at least I got to talk to someone other than my baby for an hour or two! We were also very short on finances, so I checked out the local Neighbourhood Centres and churches for what groups they had - many have craft groups, writing groups, mum and baby groups, bookclubs... all sorts of things (and with churches many are happy to have you come along even if you don't belong to the church/are religious). Local libraries often have storytelling or music and nursery rhymes for mums and babies/toddlers, and they don't cost a fortune, and it's a good way to meet people - make eye contact and smile, and let it go from there! Even local parks can be a way to meet people - we found other 'regulars' there, most who are happy to talk while pushing a child on a swing, or watching a child play. I found that if I was willing to take the first step and smile and say something (even something like 'they sure like the swings, don't they?' or 'how old is your daughter?') most people would respond and be glad of a chat. I found a lot of lonely mums out there, feeling the same way I did. Some of them grew into friendships.
If you do have some money to spend on outings, then mum and baby exercise classes, mum and baby swimming classes, Gymboree etc can also be a good way to get out the house and have some fun with your littley and meet other mums.
We've recently moved, and with a new baby on the way I am finding myself alone again (number one is at school now). We'll be calling the local churches and neighbourhood centres again I think! Good luck!
03-02-2008, 06:32 PM
After getting pregnant and having my son I was dumped by most of my non mommy friends, what can I do to make new friends and actually have adults to talk to? Im also moving into a better neighborhood, since the neighbors here are really loud and not friendly at all. I'm also a young mother and I have lately felt shy after having my baby, What can I do? My Fiance tries to keep me out and busy but I still need someone to talk to.'
Yeah its hard to fit in make new friend in our schedules!!! i try to make it to play gfroups but it hard during the winter when everyone wants to stay inside and keep warm, chin up the weather is clearing up, i know that we will be out alot more on our street. dont worry it will happen for you soon too!!!
angela and anthony
04-11-2008, 06:44 PM
i am a young mom and i am trying to find young moms who can relate to me. i live in Alameda and i have a 7 month old son. i hate not really knowing any other young moms who have the same problem as me. why does every one look down on us? and also another problem i am having is finding a swimming class i can put my son in. if any one knows of one please let me know. if there is any one else in my place please let me know maybe we can get together and we wont be alone .
04-11-2008, 08:06 PM
I just joined a mommy and me gym class with my 8 month old but they start them a lot younger than that. It is just a group of moms doing tummy time, etc their kids. If you can find something like that, it has worked for me. I just became a stay at home mom and most of my friends don't have kids (and I'm in my 30's). Don't let it get you down. Just make sure you get out of the house and find things to do with your baby. I also met a mom at the park near my house when I took my kids to feed the ducks.
04-11-2008, 11:16 PM
We must have been lucky, b/c we still have the same friends. They didn't have a baby until last Nov., 4 years after we had our first. We have always went out together, with or without kids. But, since having kids, I have definitely made a few new "mommy" friends who have kids the same age as mine.
04-14-2008, 11:14 PM
I don't know what type of neighborhood you live in, but if you can, sit in the front yard w/ your baby. The weather is getting nice so you can have some play time on a blanket and say 'hi' to other mom's taking their kids out for walks. A few friendly greetings and you'll probably ease into a conversation. I just moved into a new neighborhood and I'm not exactly an extrovert, but I did meet a few moms by playing out front and walking my kids around.
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